@CarsonsMommy I didn't even know binding breasts was a thing until you mentioned it. I know that doulas "bind you" to align your hips etc which sounds nice because I have wide hips as is... i hope it just all goes back in place on its own because between caring for a baby breast feeding and personal hygiene I don't see myself have the luxary of helpers binding my butt and boobs to be honest.... It would be nice though I guess ...
@CarsonsMommy I didn't even know binding breasts was a thing until you mentioned it. I know that doulas "bind you" to align your hips etc which sounds nice because I have wide hips as is... i hope it just all goes back in place on its own because between caring for a baby breast feeding and personal hygiene I don't see myself have the luxary of helpers binding my butt and boobs to be honest.... It would be nice though I guess ...
I am imagining hips being bound and this in mind would create huge problems with hygiene for me. We were made for this, love. And we put ourselves back together just fine. And yeah, I guess it is an old tradition or something, when they weaned, they went cold turkey, and as you can imagine, that would hurt. But here is a good tip ladies. If you wean very slowly, your breast tissue will have a chance to adjust slowly therefore lessening the risk of droopy floppy pancake boob affect.
How can you not know you're pregnant for 9-10 months, and one day magically give birth?
I've seen the "I didn't know I was pregnant" show, and it is crazy! Many had symptoms but attribute it to something else, like a poor diet. The really strange thing is when someone is super thin and never gains any weight. I knew I was pregnant even before taking the test, but that's just me.
I can understand not knowing for the first 5-6 months (I've seen it in patients and they are legitimately shocked), but the whole 9 months? That takes a special level of denial. You CANNOT deny those movements are something weird and different, regardless of your size.
Besides feeling generally off in the beginning, I have no real symptoms right now. If I just brushed it off I could definitely go longer without thinking I'm pregnant, especially with an anterior placenta.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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How can you not know you're pregnant for 9-10 months, and one day magically give birth?
I have always wondered this. In my last couple months with DS he would stretch and it felt like his feet were going to come up through my throat. How that could be confused for anything but a baby is beyond me.
That happened to a friend of a friend. She was overweight, had very irregular cycles, and an anterior placenta. She thought she was just having stomach issues.
Re: not knowing for the whole 9 months. It always baffled me. It baffles me even more now. I didn't even realize I was pregnant because of "symptoms". I realized I needed to take a test because my stomach just straight up felt weird. I would have gone to a doctor regardless with how terrible I felt, and the fact that they just let all of that go for 9 months?? I can't fathom it. I know it happens, but I just can't wrap my head around it. If I didn't have a period for 6 weeks, I call the doctor. And I've dealt with irregular periods. I kind of feel like maybe it's denial.
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I'm getting really overwhelmed with researching car seats and strollers, etc. I usually tend to go "cheap" with things but I don't necessarily want to do that with baby stuff, because safety is the top priority. What is the *average* price range for a good quality stroller and car seat travel system? Or is it cheaper to get the car seat and stroller separately? I really like the Britax B-Agile travel system, but it's $469 and my mom said that seems too expensive. I thought it seemed on the higher side but still reasonable, since it's a car seat AND stroller. Thoughts?
I'm getting really overwhelmed with researching car seats and strollers, etc. I usually tend to go "cheap" with things but I don't necessarily want to do that with baby stuff, because safety is the top priority. What is the *average* price range for a good quality stroller and car seat travel system? Or is it cheaper to get the car seat and stroller separately? I really like the Britax B-Agile travel system, but it's $469 and my mom said that seems too expensive. I thought it seemed on the higher side but still reasonable, since it's a car seat AND stroller. Thoughts?
Personally, I do think an infant car seat and stroller system are a waste of money because the baby is out of the infant car seat within 6 mo or so. I am going with my old city mini, a grace infant car seat adapter, a graco infant car seat, and two bases -I'll continue to use my city mini well after the infant car seat but the bases, adapter, and car seat will be around $230?
@kat0607 when it comes to car seats they all undergo the same safety testing and it is a pass/fail model so any seat you buy in stores will be safe. Things that drive the price up are brand names, bells and whistles like padding, cup holders, install methods etc. When you are looking at strollers take into consideration how and where you will be using it. If you live somewhere that gets snow you will want bigger wheels that can better navigate snowy slushy conditions. Also look at the size of the storage basket below, will it hold you diaper bag, purse and anything else you might have with you.
@kat0607 I was able to get an infant car seat 40%off because they were discontinuing the print. I would keep an eye out at buy buy baby and babies r us, sometimes you can do the same with strollers and pack n plays that have been taken out of the box. My mom bought her pack n play for super cheap because the box was opened. We personally hardly ever used our jogger stroller that came with DS car seat, he was in the infant car seat frame stroller because it was so light and then in a light weight umbrella that had a recline around 9 months. But it really depends on your life style and what stroller you will use most.
@satsumasandlemons@abmommy15@munchkinsmama thank you all for the advice! About the infant car seat...is there one between infant and convertible and will I need to hook it onto the stroller like the infant seat? I was under the impression that an infant seat would last a little longer than 6 months. I also didn't think he/she would sit in the front part of the stroller until they were over a year old. Am I stupid? I guess my "FTM" is really showing now...I know absolutely nothing.
So just something to think about for FTM who are looking at strollers, since it didn't even cross my mind and I'm regretting it now -- I spent a lot of money on a travel system, barely used it, is not compatible to transition into a double stroller, and now have to buy an expensive double stroller that fits an infant bucket.
I obviously wasn't thinking about another child while pregnant with my first but I wish I would've thought about the future and bought a stroller that could transition to a double.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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@kat0607 How much time you get in the infant car seat depends on the baby. We switched my son at around 9 months because he was getting too tall for the infant seat (although he was well within the weight limits). At that point we went to convertible (there's nothing in between) rear-facing and the next step will be the same seat forward-facing.
We used adapters to snap our car seat into the stroller for a few months. They can go straight into the stroller seat pretty early (I don't remember exactly when) as long as you keep it reclined. He was heavy so we stopped carting him around in the car seat and just used the stroller directly around 4 months.
I think @dancegurl1118 's idea about considering something that can eventually convert to a double is a good idea. I didn't do that and now have to decide if I want to invest in one or make do with what we've got. If I could just do a conversion to double it would be a much simpler (and more economical) decision.
@kat0607 Britax does a free ride event once a year where you can get either the B-Safe car seat or the lower second seat for the B-Ready for super cheap or free when you buy the stroller with it. I don't know when it will be this year but you might contact the Britax website to ask- could be a great deal.
FWIW, I love the B-Safe and I have the adapter for the Bob stroller. Definitely sticking with Britax this time around.
@satsumasandlemons@abmommy15@munchkinsmama thank you all for the advice! About the infant car seat...is there one between infant and convertible and will I need to hook it onto the stroller like the infant seat? I was under the impression that an infant seat would last a little longer than 6 months. I also didn't think he/she would sit in the front part of the stroller until they were over a year old. Am I stupid? I guess my "FTM" is really showing now...I know absolutely nothing.
My DS stayed in the infant seat until nearly a year. But at some point we got a convertible for H's car and just left the infant seat in my car because he was too heavy to carry him around in it, but we just didn't want to buy two convertible car seats all at once.
We stopped using the infant seat in the stroller way before that. Like by 2-3 months. It will just depend on your situation. When it's cold outside it'll be easier to keep them warm with the infant seat, but in general it's more convenient to use the stroller without it.
We had DS in the infant seat until he reached the limits, which was close to a year. We did not take it in and out of the car much after 9 months, because it was too heavy to carry. The exception was for the stroller. I would take it out and click it right to the stroller until we switched to the convertible. I got a compatible car seat and stroller, but not a "travel system." I did this because I wanted the most lightweight stroller I could get that would work with the car seat. I didn't want to buy another stroller when I didn't need the infant seat anymore. I didn't need a jogging stroller, nor did we "off road" with the stroller much, so I didn't need shocks in the stroller. Some people do need that. You should consider what would be a big "need" for your lifestyle. Separate items may allow you to get a more customized combination. I also agree with @dancegurl1118 about considering whether you may have more kids, and how close they will be. For example, some ladies on here have or will have 3 under 3, and are realizing they really need the diono to fit three across.
@kat0607 I agree with others. We bought the City Mini (got a really good deal on cyber monday) and will just use adapters for our infant seat until the LO can sit in the regular seat.
We also got the Chicco Keyfit infant seat (also a really good deal at target) and my sister had an extra base for DH's car. I have three sisters who all have children, and they all swear by the Chicco brand seats (Keyfit and then Nexfit for convertible). They have great reviews and are super easy to install (which is good for FTMs)
I'm getting really overwhelmed with researching car seats and strollers, etc. I usually tend to go "cheap" with things but I don't necessarily want to do that with baby stuff, because safety is the top priority. What is the *average* price range for a good quality stroller and car seat travel system? Or is it cheaper to get the car seat and stroller separately? I really like the Britax B-Agile travel system, but it's $469 and my mom said that seems too expensive. I thought it seemed on the higher side but still reasonable, since it's a car seat AND stroller. Thoughts?
I REALLY like the graco jogger travel system. They do not grow out of the infant seat quite as quickly with those. My son had a baby trend carseat and outgrew that due to shoulder length then fit right into a graco seat until a year old. So I disagree with PP saying they will only be in it for 6 month. Every carseat is very different. For instance, chicco, baby trend and maxi cosi tend to run smaller, and in that order.
Ladies who've dealt with lightning crotch: did sex make it worse? Was it painful to have sex? Don't want to get DH's hopes up if I'm not going to be able to finish!
TTC #1: 4/16 BFP #1: 5/16 MMC at 8 weeks: 6/16 BFP #2: 10/16 Sweet baby boy arrived 7/7/17!
@satsumasandlemons@abmommy15@munchkinsmama thank you all for the advice! About the infant car seat...is there one between infant and convertible and will I need to hook it onto the stroller like the infant seat? I was under the impression that an infant seat would last a little longer than 6 months. I also didn't think he/she would sit in the front part of the stroller until they were over a year old. Am I stupid? I guess my "FTM" is really showing now...I know absolutely nothing.
Agree with @CarsonsMommy I have a graco and baby trend infant car seat. My Graco was much more comfortable for my boys and they were in it till 10 months. DD is super small (5th-10th percentile) so I loved the baby trend for her because it was much smaller, she also stayed in it till 10months. The baby trend is more comfortable for me to carry and also took up less space in the car. Strollers are always hard, even as a third time mom I'm still not sure what I will need when #4 comes along.
I just got a full britax b-ready stroller with second seat and infant seat adapter for $225!!! It's a few years old but in awesome condition. I AM SO HAPPY!
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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my baby was born a giant and continued in the 99%ile across weight, height, and head so by 6 months, it was really hard to take her (in the carseat) in and out of the car - we kept that one infant carseat in his car and I just got a convertible for my car. So, transition started happening then. so, that's something to consider.
@dancegurl1118 I'm jealous of your B Ready!! I had the same reaction as you - "we knew we'd have more than one kid...how did I not think about a double stroller?!" I just didn't even know that the products existed, though, to turn a single to a double.
I asked a long time ago about what urban mamas do for public transportation. We bit the bullet and bought a GB Pockit stroller last week for taking DS to daycare. It's AWESOME. 10 lbs and folds up so tiny. We are going to skip the double stroller for now - I will be using the Pockit for DS and a baby carrier for the newborn when this baby arrives. We will then re-evaluate later whether we need a double stroller.
If you travel a lot or have to lift the stroller a lot, I highly highly recommend the Pockit. My sciatica vanished within a week!!
@virginiaunicorn11 I think the level of age gap really plays into it. When DD1 was born, we got a double stroller because they were only 17 months apart, and we would have really used it. By the time DS2 was born, DS1 was almost 3 and could walk a lot more. We got a lot more use out of the single stroller and carrier option then.
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I didn't even know binding breasts was a thing until you mentioned it. I know that doulas "bind you" to align your hips etc which sounds nice because I have wide hips as is... i hope it just all goes back in place on its own because between caring for a baby breast feeding and personal hygiene I don't see myself have the luxary of helpers binding my butt and boobs to be honest.... It would be nice though I guess ...
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
BFP #1: 5/16
MMC at 8 weeks: 6/16
BFP #2: 10/16
Sweet baby boy arrived 7/7/17!
How can you not know you're pregnant for 9-10 months, and one day magically give birth?
Besides feeling generally off in the beginning, I have no real symptoms right now. If I just brushed it off I could definitely go longer without thinking I'm pregnant, especially with an anterior placenta.
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
Friends since 2008
Started dating: July 1st, 2013
Engaged: July 1st, 2014
Married: July 1st, 2016
R born: July 8th, 2017
N born: June 30th, 2019
Baby #3 Due: July 7th, 2022
(maybe I only ovulate in October XD)
When you are looking at strollers take into consideration how and where you will be using it. If you live somewhere that gets snow you will want bigger wheels that can better navigate snowy slushy conditions. Also look at the size of the storage basket below, will it hold you diaper bag, purse and anything else you might have with you.
I obviously wasn't thinking about another child while pregnant with my first but I wish I would've thought about the future and bought a stroller that could transition to a double.
We used adapters to snap our car seat into the stroller for a few months. They can go straight into the stroller seat pretty early (I don't remember exactly when) as long as you keep it reclined. He was heavy so we stopped carting him around in the car seat and just used the stroller directly around 4 months.
I think @dancegurl1118 's idea about considering something that can eventually convert to a double is a good idea. I didn't do that and now have to decide if I want to invest in one or make do with what we've got. If I could just do a conversion to double it would be a much simpler (and more economical) decision.
FWIW, I love the B-Safe and I have the adapter for the Bob stroller. Definitely sticking with Britax this time around.
We stopped using the infant seat in the stroller way before that. Like by 2-3 months. It will just depend on your situation. When it's cold outside it'll be easier to keep them warm with the infant seat, but in general it's more convenient to use the stroller without it.
We also got the Chicco Keyfit infant seat (also a really good deal at target) and my sister had an extra base for DH's car. I have three sisters who all have children, and they all swear by the Chicco brand seats (Keyfit and then Nexfit for convertible). They have great reviews and are super easy to install (which is good for FTMs)
BFP #1: 5/16
MMC at 8 weeks: 6/16
BFP #2: 10/16
Sweet baby boy arrived 7/7/17!
I asked a long time ago about what urban mamas do for public transportation. We bit the bullet and bought a GB Pockit stroller last week for taking DS to daycare. It's AWESOME. 10 lbs and folds up so tiny. We are going to skip the double stroller for now - I will be using the Pockit for DS and a baby carrier for the newborn when this baby arrives. We will then re-evaluate later whether we need a double stroller.
If you travel a lot or have to lift the stroller a lot, I highly highly recommend the Pockit. My sciatica vanished within a week!!
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015