Monday BitchFest week of 1/30

SaphireSweetie88

SaphireSweetie88

Started this because I really need to let out my bitch for the week.....

***TW***
I have a friend I've known for a long time who recently pissed me the F*** off. She knows the emotional roller coaster I went through when DH & I were TTC. About 3 months ago she told me she was pregnant & I was excited for her. She called me a couple weeks later saying she MC. Then a month ago she told me she was pregnant again and was worried because it was so soon after her MC. I told her to relax and take it easy and follow what directions her OB gave her. A week ago she called me crying saying she MC again. I was feeling really bad for her & cried for her when she told me. Then 2 days ago I got a message I'm assuming she meant to send to someone else & I found out she lied about it all both times!!! I sent her a message back saying WTF?? Why would you think that was okay? That's inconsiderate, rude & offensive. I haven't spoken to her sense. She doesn't understand why I am mad & not replying back or returning calls. 



Sorry I had to get this out. Poor DH has listened to me go on about it more than he should have to.

Twinkiedoll

@SaphireSweetie88 What in the actual f*ck?!!   Your friend sounds like a sociopath!  I'm so sorry you had to go through that.  But at least now you know: Cut that girl loose! 

ginger1228

@SaphireSweetie88 - whaaaat?! Who does that?

LuLiLaEv

@SaphireSweetie88 WTF?! It's bad enough to pretend you're pregnant, but what a slap in the face to anyone who has actually suffered a miscarriage to lie about that. I agree with PP, she sounds psycho! 

alcrimmins

@SaphireSweetie88 WTF?! I'm actually at a loss for words. Karma will come back and bite her. 

munchkinsmama

@SaphireSweetie88 you should definantly cut her out, that is so crazy and offensive. 

kat0607

@SaphireSweetie88 WTF is wrong with people, why would someone WANT to even make up a story like that?? She sounds like a psychopath, I feel sorry for her if she has to use something like that to get other people's attention. She certainly doesn't deserve any of yours!!!

tuxielove93

@SaphireSweetie88 What the h*ll?? I would never put up with that. How horrible and inconsiderate of her. Who would lie about something like that twice? She's got issues, I would completely cut her out. Hope she gets help cause she needs it. 

lvcpatt84

@SaphireSweetie88 Whoa. I'd cut the reins on that friendship. She is clearly disturbed. Bye Felicia.

Any STM+ already experiencing hip pain? I'm already getting so uncomfortable in bed, because sleeping in my side and putting pressure on my hip joints hurts so much! I didn't experience hip pain like this with my first until I was well into the second trimester, or almost in my 3rd! Stupid relaxin. We've got 25 more weeks do to the job of widening these hips- slow down!

AdaByron

lvcpatt84 said:

@SaphireSweetie88 Whoa. I'd cut the reins on that friendship. She is clearly disturbed. Bye Felicia.

Any STM+ already experiencing hip pain? I'm already getting so uncomfortable in bed, because sleeping in my side and putting pressure on my hip joints hurts so much! I didn't experience hip pain like this with my first until I was well into the second trimester, or almost in my 3rd! Stupid relaxin. We've got 25 more weeks do to the job of widening these hips- slow down!

Yes, I've been waking up in pain if I lay on one side for too long. I'm ready to bust out the pregnancy pillow to see if that helps, but it mostly happens when I'm laying down in DS's bed trying to get him to sleep.

squirttheturtle

@SaphireSweetie88 that is lower than low!  Why would someone do that?  There is a special place in h*ll for people like that.  

LoveLee85

Omg my Monday bitch is.....gas!! I'm so bloated and gassy. I'm 17 weeks and just feel like someone pumped me full of air. And the pain. It's the kind I feel travel down and it freaking hurts the ENTIRE way. And it's so gross. Ugh.

PurplePoppy424

@SaphireSweetie88 That girl has mental problems. That's insane! 

irishrose54

AdaByron said:

lvcpatt84 said:

@SaphireSweetie88 Whoa. I'd cut the reins on that friendship. She is clearly disturbed. Bye Felicia.

Any STM+ already experiencing hip pain? I'm already getting so uncomfortable in bed, because sleeping in my side and putting pressure on my hip joints hurts so much! I didn't experience hip pain like this with my first until I was well into the second trimester, or almost in my 3rd! Stupid relaxin. We've got 25 more weeks do to the job of widening these hips- slow down!

Yes, I've been waking up in pain if I lay on one side for too long. I'm ready to bust out the pregnancy pillow to see if that helps, but it mostly happens when I'm laying down in DS's bed trying to get him to sleep.

I just bought a memory foam cover for my side of the bed bc the hip pain is no joke. It doesn't last long but when I wake up I have to start moving right away and the pain stops. The memory foam seems to be helping though bc instead of it happening every night it's just every few nights now. 

lph4248

@AdaByron @irishrose54
I second the memory foam. I've had one on my bed for awhile and have had no problems getting comfortable (YET) since getting pregnant.

longhairdntcare

@saphiresweetie88 OMG WHAT?! who does that?! I would definitely cut her out. Sounds like someone who just wanted attention to me. What did her message (the one that made it clear she was lying) say??

MrsLa3

@SaphireSweetie88 I wouldn't talk to her either, that's low. I would cut her from lyfe. Foreva.

Dcwtada

@SaphireSweetie88 that's not mean that's creep AF. I'd run and be thankful to cut your losses before shit got even weirder. 

SaphireSweetie88

@Twinkiedoll @lvcpatt84 @kerils @munchkinsmama @MrsLa3 - Yeah I know I should cut her loose. Just sucks because it's throwing away a 15 year frienship.

@ginger1228 - Apparently she does & I guess she doesn't see anything wrong with it. Heck she texted DH this morning asking him what my problem is.

@LuLiLaEv - Yeah & she's the one friend (other than TB members and DH) that I cried to / leaned on during the hard TTC times.

@alcrimmins - Yes karma can be a bitch.

@kat0607 @Dcwtada -  Thanks

@SquirttheTurtle - I guess she found it fun / funny.

@Rae1 - The text said "she feels blessed cuz they tried "so hard" lmao. it not hard 2 get preg. u have sex 1 time ur prob preg. I told her I got preg and lost it twice 2 prove it. guess they weren't f**ng right. ha"
    -NOTE: I edited the bold word - she spelled it out.

SaphireSweetie88

@LoveLee85 - I had gas like crazy for a week or so. Plain crackers seemed to help me.

cssme13

@SaphireSweetie88 Oh hell no! I would have come unglued on her. She wouldn't have to question what my problem was because she'd definitely know. You're a much better person than I am for not wanting to throw 15 years down the drain. Seriously she didn't just do it for attention she did it to prove a point to you? What kind of catty bitchiness is that? Ugh I am so sorry!

SaphireSweetie88

@cssme13 - Yeah a point that is obviously not the case for a lot of women. It took DH and I more than one time before we got pregnant.

notachanski

@SaphireSweetie88 - I cannot get over the text you quoted.  15 years of friendship or not, she is no friend now.  What an awful awful thing to say.   I can't even process it. 

SaphireSweetie88

@notachanski - Yeah I know. I think her message hurt more than it might have if it were from another friend because of how long we've been friends and that she knows everything I went through while TTC.

PurplePoppy424

@SaphireSweetie88 I know it's hard to end a 15 year friendship, but it doesn't sound like she was ever actually a friend to begin with. A real friend would never have done that to you. She sounds like a heartless jerk. 

longhairdntcare

@saphiresweetie88 OMG. That is seriously terrible. I can't even imagine a friend saying that. I am so sorry you are dealing with this

postywiththemosty

@SaphireSweetie88 Yeah I stand by what I said in the other thread.  She is evil.  That text... I have no words.  

SaphireSweetie88

@PurplePoppy424 @Rae1 @maybeitsmadeline - Thanks

ginger1228

Woooow @SaphireSweetie88! That text is awful! I don't know how she's clueless as to why you're upset with her. She should be mortified and ashamed. 

LoveLee85

Can I ask this girls age?? That seems like a very immature thing to say. 

alcrimmins

My BF is dd needs f'ing nap. Mama has stuff to do while you sleep little girl!!!! So go the F to sleep! Thanks!

SaphireSweetie88

@ginger1228 - I'm not sure why she's clueless either but I am assuming maybe because she thinks its funny
(at least her text makes me think she finds it funny)

SaphireSweetie88

LoveLee85 said:

Can I ask this girls age?? That seems like a very immature thing to say. 

@LoveLee85 - She's 29

manillabar

@SaphireSweetie88 Wow. That is NOT a friend. I'm sorry you had to find that out this way but honestly at least now you know who she really is and you can cut her out of your life. She does not deserve your time 

LoveLee85

SaphireSweetie88 said:

LoveLee85 said:

Can I ask this girls age?? That seems like a very immature thing to say. 

@LoveLee85 - She's 29

My jaw just hit the floor. Speechless. I would block her number and never look back! 

Xath

@SaphireSweetie88 That's a pretty crappy text, but it was also pretty difficult to decipher.  It may be that it's time to end the friendship, but I'd never advise that over something that happens in text.  There's just too much room for misinterpretation of tone and intent.  If she's been your best friend for 15 years I think it's worth the effort to talk things out and explain how that text made you feel.  If she's also dickish in person, cut her off.  But don't throw away 15 years over a single line that's really difficult to read.  

I'm not saying you have to talk to her immediately either.  Take your time, cool down.  But you owe yourself a firmer resolution to this one way or the other.  

SaphireSweetie88

Thanks ladies!

tuxielove93

@SaphireSweetie88 Wow. How incredibly insensitive and b*tchy. Also, not to make light of anything, but her comment about "have sex one time and your preg." made me laugh. I happened to conceive naturally, but it took a heck of a lot more than sex one time. My DH and I have had sex more times than I care to count and only twice has it resulted in pregnancy. Silly, silly person. Stupid comment. And such a ridiculous way to act, especially around a friend who confided in you while having a really difficult time trying to conceive. Just, yikes. I really hope Xath is right and that it somehow got misconstrued but I would have lost it on this woman after I found that comment. I really hope you find a way to come to peace with this, no matter how it turns out. 

abjm0325

@SaphireSweetie88 That is straight up crazy behavior! So sorry you are having to deal with that. 

cssme13

My BF is an entire class of 3rd graders. I am at an all Native American school on the reservation. During my art class while the kids were working on a Van Gogh project, one little girl comes up and asks if I voted for Trump. My response was "it doesn't really matter if I voted for him or not he's our president. You need to go back to your seat and work on what you're supposed to be working on" Then she asks "well yeah but did you vote for him?" Told her that it was my business not hers and that she should focus on her work. Well she goes back to her table and I overhear her conversation with the rest of her table where a little boy comments "Yeah she's white so she probably voted for him, she's a racist." Uhhhhh what?! I cannot believe that the rest of the kids agreed. I seriously would like to know what they are being taught at home. And maybe it's just hormones but I seriously cried after their class left because I've been so frustrated with that class/teacher in general since I started and this was just too much.