Worried about my baby

delgadoj18

This will be baby #2 for me. I swear i still remember the surprise and joy in my heart when i found out was pregnant with this baby. I love being a mother! But unfortunately my husband didnt see it it that way... he was furious when he found out.. long story short, some things happend and lots of hurtful things were said about me & even "why does she worry about a baby that doesn't even exist" & "hope she f****** leaves, shes so annoying when she's pregnant," coming from a man i had loved since i was 15 this was shocking... idk what many people say i may just be 6weeks along, but i know this baby is alive and he is already my son/daughter as much as my 1st born is. I cant begin to explain the chain of events that unfolded over the course of yesterday to the point i just was stressed frustrated mad sad and constantly crying like crazy... my question is will my baby be okay? Despite all ive gone through yesterday, im scared my stress may have hurt my child..

sugarpixxie2

If your baby is a healthy sticky baby it will be fine.  If something bad should happen , please know that it was going to happen anyway and it's not your fault.   But please try to distance yourself from this situation because constant stress will not be good for your baby.   Surely your husband knows how babies are made and knows he is halfway responsible for this.   If you all have been together for this long and this is not a pattern of behavior for him he should come around when he gets over the shock. It sounds like be reacted very badly and he should see that and be making up for it soon.  If he continues this behavior however I would be very concerned. 

msashley2010-2

I completely agree with @sugarpixxie2. If something happens to the baby it is most definitely not your fault. I would be very upset about the way your husband acted. He said some extremely hurtful things I think are unacceptable. I certainly hope that he gets over it because he is just as responsible for creating this new life as you are. He may very well come around after some time passes but until then, I definitely wouldn't spend an abundance of time around him if he is going to be so negative. If his behavior continues, then I would consider having a serious talk with him about your relationship or evenseeking counseling because that kind of behavior is not OK at all. 

delgadoj18

Yes ladies i completely agree! This situation had escalated wayy too much... at the moment it seems that it will be just my first born, baby, & I from now on.  I have to do whats best for my baby and if his father doesn't want him or to be in the picture i wish him the best of luck but i will stay srrong and rise above this situation for my kids! Thanks for ur responses ladies!

mercury94

I'm so sorry about this terrible situation. I went through something similar with my ex, though we fortunately didn't have any kids together.

I hope that your situation is different than mine was and that your husband will come around, but if he doesn't, you don't need the stress. If I were you, I would take some time and distance myself from him. 

SuperKristy85

I completely agree with what has already been said as well. I just wanted to comment and say that I'm really sorry you're going through this and I hope it all works out best for you and your kids. 

delgadoj18

I really wish that were the case. I'm seeing a side of him i haven't seen in years. My gut feeling had told me something was up for a while, but blindly trusted him. Honeslty, i feel like he's always missed the single life.. we have 2 kids with this little one on the way and he's completey cut me off, blocked my calls/texts, blocked me on social media. He wants no communication with me, which is fine. I'm just worried about kiddos... like a PP mentioned, we both made this baby. This situation really saddens me, more so for my kids, cuz now it seems like he wants nothing to do with them...

sugarrush

@delgadoj18 I don't know how all the stuff works, but if he's cut you off I hope you show him you mean business and get to that courthouse and start getting child support.  

Sprite2012

I'm so sorry you're going through this.  Everyone has given the advice I would give too.  But I'll reiterate, call a lawyer and get the ball rolling.  Take the upper hand while he's busy blocking you via technology.