UO Thursday 1/26

lap018

i wasn't sure if anyone's had signed up for this and didn't see it last Thursday so I started it! Hope I'm not stepping on anyone's toes! 

Lets hear those unpopular opinions ladies!!

lap018

My UO is that I cannot stand to be without socks on, I don't understand people who don't wear socks all the time? Don't you get cold? 

Becky012016

@lap018; I hate socks because they make me too warm! Lol

My UO is that I think the USA should have universal health care like the rest of the first world countries. 

JNR6510

My UO is that it is creepy to bring your family / parents in the room with you and your SO while having the transvaginal US done. My sister in law did this for her first ultrasound, and her family took pictures and plastered them on Facebook.

I'm sorry but a 29 year old woman who is married doesn't need mommy and daddy in the room to hold her hand while they stick the US dildo up her hooha! So disgusting and awkward. The only person besides the US tech / doctors in the room will be my husband. Nobody else needs to see that. They can look at US pics afterward.

lap018

@JNR6510 so much yes, I can barely tolerate husband being in there! I mean your going to 3rd base with a woman you don't know, do you really want an audience? I have a friend who is always saying if your H can't make it I'll come, and I'm always just like uhhhhh NO?

mrs_tacos

JNR6510 said:

My UO is that it is creepy to bring your family / parents in the room with you and your SO while having the transvaginal US done. My sister in law did this for her first ultrasound, and her family took pictures and plastered them on Facebook.

I'm sorry but a 29 year old woman who is married doesn't need mommy and daddy in the room to hold her hand while they stick the US dildo up her hooha! So disgusting and awkward. The only person besides the US tech / doctors in the room will be my husband. Nobody else needs to see that. They can look at US pics afterward.

Maybe this is unpopular in and of itself, but if DH couldn't go with me, I would absolutely take my parents with me to my ultrasound. My dads first career was as a PA, so I talk to him about a lot of medical stuff anyway, and since I came out of my mom it doesn't really bother me too much if knows all about the baby coming out of me. But I draw the line at parents, and only if DH couldn't come or somehow wasn't in the picture. Siblings in the room would make me uncomfortable. 

lap018

@amandarene112 I see where you're coming from, my dad is a NICU nurse and my mother is a nurse in the Cath lab, but I still wouldn't be comfortable with them being there for the trans vaginal ultrasound. The belly ultrasound sure lol but of course it's personal preference everyone is different in what they're comfortable with

mightymcqueen

@lap018 I'm with you on barely wanting your husband there for the first ultrasound! I told mine "It's going to be awkward. You're going to stay above my waist at all times, and we're going to talk about the nice ultrasound pictures and NOT what the woman is doing to me in order to get them." 

My UO is that my husband and I don't want him to be in the delivery room when I give birth. He can handle baby screams, but the sounds of adults screaming/in pain reminds him of the time that a woman burnt herself alive in front of his house, so he *really* doesn't want to hear me in pain and I don't want to risk triggering him. 

Cats*in*space

I  GMOs!  

BigBadWolf12

In the country I'm in they don't even give you a sheet to drape over your legs...you're literally letting it all hang out... definitely no one non-H in with me! (but I don't have anyone here who would even be a consideration since we live overseas from our families)

MyNamesTaken

@Becky012016 I don't get how that's an UO! We love us some universal health care up here. I really don't understand the arguments against it. 

UO - Maybe this is my Canadianness showing through, but what's up with wearing shoes in the house? I always thought that was just something they did on TV but apparently that's a thing? Doesn't it make your house so dirty all the time? 

lap018

@mightymcqueen that sounds terrible! Bless his heart! That is a special situation, normally I wouldn't advocate for a dad to miss his child's birth even though it can be a lot for them (kind of want to eye roll at that statement, we are the ones giving birth geez!) but in this situation I can see why he'd want to remove himself from a scenario that he might associate negatively to. I'm sorry he had to go through that! 

@jmn1985 hahaha I don't know why but that really made me laugh 

lap018

@BigBadWolf12 no sheet??? Nothing?? Ahhhh! I would be soooooo uncomfortable! 

@MyNamesTaken we wear our shoes in the house from the door to the closet to put them away but no the floor isn't like physically dirty but anytime someone wears shoes inside yes it gets your floors suuupppeeerrr germy! We have tried to have our family take their shoes off when visiting especially when DS was crawling but they never listened. 

MyNamesTaken

@lap018 If someone wore their shoes in my house I'd be pissed! Of course with new people we always play the "oh don't worry about your shoes" "oh no worries I'll just slip them off" game, but nobody ACTUALLY wears their shoes inside.

BigBadWolf12

@lap018 no sheet... and that's at both a fertility clinic and at a regular ob/gyn office where I had TV U/S at each place....neither place had a sheet and I just had to hop up in the stirrups! thankfully I don't care about that stuff anymore lol

mightymcqueen

@MyNamesTaken We're also a "no shoes indoors" household, so I totally get where you're coming from. I'd love to have an outside shoe cubby like my in-Laws do, but we're in an apartment complex so I have to make do and allow them to physically enter the house 

@lap018 He was tentatively interested in being in the room to "be supportive", but we had a really honest discussion about it and decided it wasn't worth the risk to his mental health or my comfort. He grew up in a culture where family isn't allowed in the delivery room and I never felt comfortable with the thought of having my loved ones see "all of me", so neither of us really feel like we're missing out on much. He may not be there for the birth, but he'll be there for the rest of the child's life, which is the most important part imo

JNR6510

@amandarene112 See that I totally understand. You definitely want some kind of support. It just weirded me out that her parents, brother, and sister in law were all there in the room for that. And that pictures of the family gathered around her while the US tech had the wand inserted were posted on FB. (No nudity, just obvious what was where in the pic).

@mightymcqueen My DH also doesn't want to be in the room during delivery. He doesn't handle that sort of situation well.

wellhithen

My UO is I really wish I could move time back and be in the good old days where I just lived on a farm with my little family and we worked all day to sustain ourselves. I feel like we create all this extra nonsense since we have all this extra time.  I'm not saying I don't appreciate dish washers and washers and dryers but I do wish for a farm.

labby18

@JNR6510
I would normally agree with you 100%. After 3 consecutive losses and my husband is currently on a training deployment across the country with the US Navy my mother is coming to town and will be with me for my 8wk US. She will be up by my head not down by my vag. She works in the medical field and I would rather have her with me than be in there alone should the worst appear or rather not appear on the screen. 

msashley2010-2

I live in central FL and I guess a new fashion are these crop top things that look a whole lot like bralettes. I see tweens wearing them all the time and it totally makes me cringe. My daughter keeps on asking me why they forgot to put a shirt on. 

wannabeamongoose

@lap018 @MyNamesTaken I hate when people wear their shoes inside. My parents think it's rude to ask guests to take off their and they get offended when others ask then to take if their shoes so I'm sure it makes them mad that I ask it too.

I guess my UO is I have no problem with someone other than DH being with me for and ultrasound. I've never had someone else there, but if my mom or bff wanted to be there with me I wouldn't think it was weird at all. I also had both my parents there for my first delivery so I'm probably way outside the norm in the privacy realm.

mrs_tacos

@JNR6510 Oh yeah, totally. My brother would NEVER be in there, let alone my sister-in-law. Nope nope nope. I'm close with my brother, but that's just too much.

Sprite2012

My UO... I've already picked what dates I think I want to schedule my csection, based on work and maternity leave timing. And I don't care how that sounds to anyone.