My husbands grandma called me a terrible mother the other night because we didn't pack him food. She was joking but who jokes like that? And now his cousin and aunt are mad at me for posting something on Facebook not even directed to her. That's side of the family has always given me reasons to dislike them more and more when I see them. My pregnancy hormones have got the best of me lately...
DH hands down. We created a sleep arrangement in response to DD's reflux episodes that caused night wakings. She would wake up at night and then for the day at 5am. Both DH and I were sleep deprived so we decided one person was on "night watch" (Game of Thrones Style) and could then sleep past 5am when she got up for the day. the other would sleep at night and get up with her at 5. Well DD hasn't had issues in a couple of months and wakes up around 6:30-7, but DH wants to keep alternating days to "sleep in". Absurd, but whatever. Well on my "morning shift" days, I pack the kids daycare bags, get lunch prepared for DH and me and get the kids dressed. On DH's days, he does nothing of use. He plays with the kids and then after I get myself ready I still need to get everyone else ready while he worries about himself. Well today was my breaking point. Per usual he was playing with DD. I got ready and asked him to get her ready while I got DS up and dressed because I had to leave. Then I told him to make their bags and help me put them in the car. He flipped out that I was using his time to get ready. Huh???? I get up early on my "sleep in" days because I have obligations. He is lazy and sleeps in late, but then expects everything else to be taken care of.
Woke up to an email from MIL about who to invite to the baby shower. She wants to invite like 10 extra people that "played a big told in DH's life." DH was like ummm none of those people played a big role in my life. Also, none of them were even invited to the wedding so I told her it would be weird to invite them to a baby shower if they weren't invited to the wedding. I'm already irritated that her and my mom insist they have to invite their 4-5 closest friends to everything!! Friends that they never see anymore because they live out of state!! Ahhh!!!
@alm52386 that would be weird if they aren't women who attended your wedding. Although, my MIL did invite a couple of work friends to DS baby shower...it was weird but it also didn't really concern me as I could go (hospital bed rest). I probably would have pushed back more had I been attending...
I'm the only occupational therapist at my workplace. There are new billing codes for evaluations that I'm trying to sift through and HR/billing is basically looking at me to figure it out...It's stressing me to the max! What if I justify the wrong evaluation complexity level? There are so many confusing components it's making my head spin. So I guess my twatwaffle is work... @Mother0fDragons how are you managing?!
OMG, I won't lie, I feel like a giant TW today! I JUST realized that the damn "ticker change" thing was for specific weeks based on due dates. What the crap, I'm such a moron!
Aside from me, I'm pretty cheesed off at DH's family. We had a family crisis last week (his mother fell down the stairs and sustained a serious brain bleed, was life lined to our state's major trauma center for surgery, etc...is now finally on the mend)....and during ALL OF THIS, his brother is wanting to give me crap about politics and all the "whiney liberals who lost the election" and how wonderful Trump was. Honestly...In. The. Waiting. Room. I nearly killed him...I'm still cheesed.
I directly said that I want a co ed shower and was shot down. I have 2 really good girlfriends. The rest of my friends are all mutual couple friends and my one guy best friend. I would really like something small, low key, that my DF and I can both be at with all of our friends. And the response from my MIL was basically "showers are supposed to be a surprise and you don't get to pick what happens." And I know I'm a jerk for complaining about someone throwing me a party but oh well.
DH hands down. We created a sleep arrangement in response to DD's reflux episodes that caused night wakings. She would wake up at night and then for the day at 5am. Both DH and I were sleep deprived so we decided one person was on "night watch" (Game of Thrones Style) and could then sleep past 5am when she got up for the day. the other would sleep at night and get up with her at 5. Well DD hasn't had issues in a couple of months and wakes up around 6:30-7, but DH wants to keep alternating days to "sleep in". Absurd, but whatever. Well on my "morning shift" days, I pack the kids daycare bags, get lunch prepared for DH and me and get the kids dressed. On DH's days, he does nothing of use. He plays with the kids and then after I get myself ready I still need to get everyone else ready while he worries about himself. Well today was my breaking point. Per usual he was playing with DD. I got ready and asked him to get her ready while I got DS up and dressed because I had to leave. Then I told him to make their bags and help me put them in the car. He flipped out that I was using his time to get ready. Huh???? I get up early on my "sleep in" days because I have obligations. He is lazy and sleeps in late, but then expects everything else to be taken care of.
I would be pissed! I so feel your pain with all this!! we take turns putting our son to sleep. On nights my husband does, I do the dishes, clean up all the toys, organize the living room and take out the dog. When the tables are turned, my husband does not move from the couch and wonders why I'm all huffy when I finish putting my son down and now need to do all the other nonsense tht he should have done! One day I lost it and made him a list and told him it needs to be done every night I put our son down. He hasn't made that mistake again lol
My MIL. She found out DH and I have been having issues in our marriage. Our issues have to do with struggling to communicate in a way that is sensitive to the other's feelings. It has nothing to do with housework etc. My MIL went on a rant to DH telling him that when he was little that her FIL worked and that was his only responsibility. He was never home and participated in his hobbies on the weekend and that was fine because he had those hobbies prior to getting married and having children. I guess she had no life prior to starting a family?She did all the cleaning, cooking, child rearing, bookkeeping, and felt blessed to be able to do so because her husband worked hard all week. Apparently she thinks I sit around and eat bon bons all day because my husband actually wants to be a part of his child's life and knows how to unload the dishwasher.
She always tries to fill his head with this patriarchal bullshit. I thought that she and I had been getting along and developed a close relationship. I've clearly been misled. She seems to have pretty strong opinions about me. This rant she went on was completely unsolicited, according to DH.
@LMMama Exact same thing happened to me - though my hosts were totally on board the parents were not. We got so stressed about it that we just caved and will have a traditional shower.
Babies r Us. I drove half an hour with dd this morning to get an umbrella stroller for an upcoming trip, and it turns out the store is actually just a toys r us with like one aisle of baby stuff. Why does it show up as babies r us on the website?! Then i finally found one umbrella stroller option, and there was no floor model opened to try out. I took it to customer service to get the zip ties holding one of them shut cut so I could test it, and the guy was so annoying about it. I was going to make a registry while I was in there, but NOPE, that is not going to happen. Just because you put a few boxes of diapers in the back of the store, that does not make it a baby store. And I am not chancing their website claiming something is a babies r us when it really isn't again.
The artists I commissioned to do a painting. It's been such a painful and expensive process. I give up. Instead of looking like me and hubby it looks like Husband and the Mistress. Like who is that? And why have I paid so much money for it?
@doodleoodle that is so bad... I'm somewhat surprised he even told you considering what was said. What is the desired outcome he is trying to acheive by telling you? It almost feels like he is trying to get you upset. One thought though, I wouldn't take it too personally to a certain extent or even a reflection on how you thought you were developing your relationship with her... at the end of the day, if something were to happen where you 2 weren't together, she would obviously be on team DH/her son (more than likely at least). I know I would call my son out for doing dumb stuff in a relationship, being honest with him, but at the end of the day I would always side with him as he is my son. Also, you heard him repeat what she said but did he happen to share EXACTLY what we shared/confided in his mother to elicit such a response from her? He could have been venting...
Carsons and Macy's for not taking my gosh darn coupons!!!!! There is always the fine print. Actually with Macy's, they couldn't even figure out why the computer wouldn't accept it and still wouldn't over ride it.
@LMMama I know, right? We caved with the parents because we decided we need to pick our battles especially since after LO is born we will probably have so many more important battles to stand our ground on. We will be inviting all our friends to come back to our house for a coed party (no gifts, just celebrating) that night. Most have to travel so they'll most likely be staying with us anyway.
My husband, who just missed the appointment for his vasectomy consultation because they had called to reschedule it for 3 hours earlier and he didn't check his messages. And then told me that I need to call and reschedule because "it's the least you can do".
@lmc929 I know! I was so annoyed. He doesn't like doctors to begin with, so even though we've decided this is what is best for us, I think he's getting anxious about it.
The combo cough/fibroid pain I have. Coughing constantly already sucks but when it hurts to tighten my abdomen on top of it. I just want to sleep the rest of the week.
To the quality reviewer who made me basically shit my pants today thinking that I royally screwed up an accounting, had me call the fiduciary tell them they needed to move monies to a federally funded institution and resubmit all docs. Only to have her supervisor tell me I did it correctly initially and that she has no clue how to do her job. Her supervisor then told me to challenge the errors she called on me and have them rescinded. Asshole.
Donald Trump always and forever. Kidding. Kind of. Specifically though for the federal hiring freeze.
My beloved electric pressure cooker would not pressurize tonight, leaving me scavenging the fridge for a dinner alternative. I hope that little twatwaffle isn't done for!
@FSUNole31 8th grade. Most of my kids are pretty good, so this was a little shocking to read today...especially since the first part was pretty good! Ha!
Re: Twatwaffle Tuesday!
DH: 29
DS: 18 months 4/2/2015
Baby #2 EDD: 6/1/2017
@Mother0fDragons how are you managing?!
DH: 29
DS: 18 months 4/2/2015
Baby #2 EDD: 6/1/2017
Aside from me, I'm pretty cheesed off at DH's family. We had a family crisis last week (his mother fell down the stairs and sustained a serious brain bleed, was life lined to our state's major trauma center for surgery, etc...is now finally on the mend)....and during ALL OF THIS, his brother is wanting to give me crap about politics and all the "whiney liberals who lost the election" and how wonderful Trump was. Honestly...In. The. Waiting. Room. I nearly killed him...I'm still cheesed.
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
She always tries to fill his head with this patriarchal bullshit. I thought that she and I had been getting along and developed a close relationship. I've clearly been misled. She seems to have pretty strong opinions about me. This rant she went on was completely unsolicited, according to DH.
Due June 25 2017
Me: 29 DH: 35
Married: 9/29/12
DS #1: 3/8/15Me: 29 DH: 35
Married: 9/29/12
DS #1: 3/8/15Me: 29 DH: 35
Married: 9/29/12
DS #1: 3/8/15We will be inviting all our friends to come back to our house for a coed party (no gifts, just celebrating) that night. Most have to travel so they'll most likely be staying with us anyway.
Me: 29 DH: 35
Married: 9/29/12
DS #1: 3/8/15Donald Trump always and forever. Kidding. Kind of. Specifically though for the federal hiring freeze.
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017