When will you feel comfortable?

n0soup4u

I have seen some ladies express some interest in possibly starting a Facebook group soon. I, myself, find it much easier to connect and participate via FB. 

I would like to see how we would like to handle this. Start a poll? 

I know some ladies will be ready sooner rather then later but I think we need to hash out these details. 

Elyse1384

Just my opinion/preference, but I prefer a FB group closer to due dates.  I know some prefer earlier which is fine, but I still feel like we're only halfway and I imagine we might see the group change a bit more through the second tri.  That's just me though.  Maybe a poll?  

lovesclimbing

Never. I specifically join forums like these to talk to other people anonymously in the same circumstance as me and to discuss things I wouldn't be comfortable discussing with my in real life friends. Even though my Facebook is pretty locked down, I still don't want (sorry) strangers on the internet knowing my real name and what I look like. And as far as I'm aware, secret groups (which I believe most of the discussions on FB groups have centered around) require anyone who wants to join to be friends with a member of the group. So I would have to friend someone I don't know from Adam and allow them access to my profile in order to join. No thanks. 

n0soup4u

@Elyse1384 my first bmb started in the third tri but that was due to the exodus. If that wouldn't have happened I think the group would have still started at the same time. 

@lovesclimbing I respect your opinion and feelings on the fact. Have you given a fb a chance? You don't have to be friends per day with any of the ladies. Some of my best friends are from my DD bmb. I feel 100% more comfortable in talking about real, hard topics to those ladies. Just a thought. 

Stankonia2014

I think maybe closer to third tri. I know my last BMB was around 20 weeks, I believe. We still had a few crazies to weed out, I'm pretty sure two people fought on day 1 over crib bumpers.

JAGinMI

I'm in agreement with @Elyse1384 as far as timing. I think a poll would be a good idea, too.

LMMama

I would say closer to our due dates as well. 

LOTON01

I personally feel like facebook keeps out the crazies and lurkers. I also personally really like that it is more private than these boards. 

mrt

I will probably never be joining a Facebook group. I like being mostly anonymous here, and I keep my Facebook on major lockdown because I'm a teacher.  I'll miss you all if/when you go.

HgPa

I would be comfortable with late 2nd or early 3rd tri. This is my first time on the Knot/Bump, so take me with a grain of salt.

I am mobile only and this interface is so buggy on my phone, it would be nice to switch to something more functional.

Also, I am in other secret FB groups and I feel comfortable with my privacy settings, so that doesn't feel like a big deal to me. However, I totally get other people's reticence after hearing the horror stories.

Edit: weird formatting

michaela0704

I've never jumped on the fb group wagon but I've been fairly active with this BMB compared to mostly lurking last time around... I'd be open to it but I think a lot later on, I wouldn't join until late third tri probably... if I did do it.

awoodruff27

I'm on the third tri band wagon. My page is pretty locked down, so that doesn't bother me. But I don't know if id join today.

silliegirlie143

Another vote for 3rd tri here

For those concerned: you can friend then immediately unfriend the admin of the secret FB group. This will allow you to participate in the FB group and not allow access to your real life.

hopeful808

I think closer to 3rd tri for Facebook. The advantage of the secret group IMHO is that you do not need to be friends with all of the group members to be in the group. So they still can't see what's available to your friends. Then you can friend people as you feel comfortable. My last BMB had a Facebook and after the littles arrived it was so much easier to keep up with since I was mostly mobile on my phone. 

anitamargarita_82

I would be ok with a FB group with a select few of you right now... there seems to be a certain amount of posters in our BMB that we see for like a week then they disappear or reappear a month or two later and those are the ones I wouldn't want to be a part of a group with.  But I'm not in any hurry to move to FB. 

krex-2

I find it much easier to stay connected via FB, so I would join that, but probably not now.  I would join closer to expecting mom's due date though!

cmread

I would definitely prefer a FB group.  I just find FB so much easier than posting here.  I'm part of lots of secret groups, and I feel comfortable with that level of privacy.  

ETA: I would join now, but I could see waiting until 3rd trimester, too.

danij0

3rd tri seems like a good time to me. 

c1tym0m22

I'm also in the "let's wait" group - and do appreciate the anonymity that this forum provides, so happy to stay here for a while longer!

mkrel

This is my first BMB, and while I think Facebook would be much easier for me to keep up with being mostly mobile, I also think maybe towards third trimester would be best. I was actually looking at the due date spread sheet a couple of weeks ago and noticed that a ton of the names on there don't seem to be around anymore. So would someone be in charge of making sure it is only people who are active at least on a somewhat regular basis?

michaela0704

@MKRLTX I'm with you... I think it will depend on the process for how people are added/managed for joining... if its a free-for-all I'd be a little reluctant to join, ever.

ladylolly89

In my last BMB, the group was created during 3rd tri (which I am for, btw).
 However the admins of the group sent invites from Facebook to our email addresses and a lot of them didn't go through (mine included). At the time, it didn't really bother me, but now I wish I had let them know to try to resend it! I miss that group of ladies and wish I had been able to keep up with them better. 

meg2704

I'm on the fence. I will probably be willing to join later, it still seems so early since I'm not even half way yet! I have a late due date. 

merrylea

Ehhhhh... i'm fine either way.  Just no crazies or catfish.  Bump mobile does blow, but as others said, it's nice to keep weeding people out.  Also if i'm not on the site as much, i'll miss all the fun llama threads.  

delujm0

Possibly never, possibly later on...definitely only for a very small group of Regs who I know are not insane.  But using TB doesn't really bother me, and I don't go on FB often, so I'm not committed to a FB group at all really.

Xath

The alternative to creating a secret group off the bat is to create a "closed" group, let the membership join, and then change the group to a "secret" group.  That saves anyone from having to friend anyone else to join.  

I'm ambivalent on a FB group in general, but would prefer to wait a bit longer.  I found there was a large exodus of regulars on my last BMBs once the FB groups ramped up.  Things really slowed down on TB.  

lmc929

I personally dont need another excuse to spend time on FB but I am with the third trimester votes.

ellie111227

I haven't participated in a bmb before, but I definitely wouldn't be comfortable yet. My vote is third trimester at least.

midwestmommy90

This is my first time on a BMB, so I don't really know what to expect. I think I agree with the 3rd trimester comments though. I recently have gotten weird messages from people not on our BMB asking me for "potty" shots to compare... and idk that creeped me out a little. Lol 

merrylea

@TGmomtobe90 What the what?!?!

mirdamae03

Stankonia2014 said:

I think maybe closer to third tri. I know my last BMB was around 20 weeks, I believe. We still had a few crazies to weed out, I'm pretty sure two people fought on day 1 over crib bumpers.

Come at me, bro

mrt

I (logically) know nobody would be able to see my page, I guess it's also just using my real name. My name is not a common name, and I'm probably actually the only person with my first last name combination.

midwestmommy90

@merrylea I wish I was kidding. Idk why someone would even ask that, so I just ignored them.... 

Xath

TGmomtobe90 said:

This is my first time on a BMB, so I don't really know what to expect. I think I agree with the 3rd trimester comments though. I recently have gotten weird messages from people not on our BMB asking me for "potty" shots to compare... and idk that creeped me out a little. Lol 

Yeah...I'm not an overuser of the "report" feature, but you can absolutely report creepy AF private messages.  

WorkingOnMyNightCheese

I think I'll feel more comfortable in third trimester, but have no problem with people making one before that. I'll just join when I feel ready. 

FSUNole31

We went to fb in third tri for my Jan14 group and it has worked out well.  I would be fine waiting till 3rd tri/closer to due dates too.

brooklynmama718

I don't do Facebook, but have fun!!

MrsLa3

My last BMB had a secret group in 3rd tri before FB. There were certain requirements. We moved to FB after we all had babies. 

awillis13

My last bmb started a Facebook group around 5 months (it was during the summer and we were December).  The fb group was fairly inactive until babies started coming, and then it blew up because it was so much easier to use mobile (there was no bump community mobile app in 2011 if I remember, so you had to be at a computer or on the full website on your phone which is a giant PIA).

alm52386

I'm pretty laid back and don't really care! Whenever it gets started I'll probably join. 

LOTON01

If enough people wan tit you can always start a group and people can join when they are comfortable.