I will be hosting a baby shower for my sister-in-law, and I have a question about invitation wording etiquette. Here's some background info. My SIL doesn't want to have the shower at my home, as I live 45 min away from her and the majority of the invitees, but she also doesn't want to have the shower at her home, either, as her place is pretty tiny for the 15-20 people she is inviting. So she has her heart set on having the shower at a local restaurant. Which I am fine with--less cooking for me! But it is my understanding that, as the hostess, I would traditionally by responsible for paying the bill--the entire bill--and I just can't afford to do that. This past weekend our families got together and decided that it would be okay to break with etiquette and have everyone pay for their own dinners. How do I word this on the invitations? Most people already know they will be fending for themselves, and are totally okay with that, but there are non-family members on the invite list that I need to politely pass this info on to.