I'm closing down my daycare at the end of March, and I'm SO EXCITED. I've counted the days. 53 working days left. I know I should be sad and heartbroken that I won't see these children again, but I will be dancing at 5:00pm that day. I'm over having my house and toys wrecked (oh the stories I have of kids just trashing furniture/blinds/walls, wrecking my kids stuff, parents being so disrespectful of my space/time/policies). It's been 7 years, and Im grateful for all the wonderful families I've had, but I'm so done.
I think I prostituted myself last night. Context: I have no sex drive (same happened my last pregnancy). Last night I was so desperate for ice cream, that I offered DH sex one night next week in exchange for him going to the store to get ice cream. I felt no shame or remorse until I woke up today and realized I have 48 hours to come down with an epic, week-long cold that will repulse him enough to leave me be. Sorry DH... I love you!
Omg this sounds like me and my DH. I have zero sex drive, but I totally whored myself out night before last in exchange for him going out to get me a snickers bar. Yes, a snickers bar.
Oh @halfthetree I feel your pain!!!!! I have now separated our toys and books. All old and destroyed toys stay downstairs with the daycare kids, and all of my kids new toys and book stay upstairs. I have one little girl that literally has to break apart a toy or rip a book as soon as she sees it's new. I have had a talk with both parents about it and I get the classic "we've tried everything!" Response.
I used to work in Construction for 10 years and still wore make up and did my hair. Not everyday, cause I'm someone that can go either way. But I guess I never have thought about who does and who doesn't.
@LMMama. I totally agree! We have amazing parents that love to spend time with our kids and practically beg to so DH and I can enjoy time alone or go out with our friends! I don't feel bad at all! Now that we've moved away it doesn't happen as often. I do feel a little bad hiring a babysitter vs using family but part of that is I hate spending so much money on child care plus the night out. I get ready every morning before I take my kids anywhere. I also do chores while they are playing so sometimes I can just relax or workout at nap time or bedtime instead of cleaning. We spend a lot of time together and I love my kids but I'm still a person with needs too!
You ladies out there with no sex drive I'm right there with you. Zero desire. But I hadn't thought of whoring myself out to get hubs to do something I want. Might have to give that whirl!
FFFC: I'm close to my mom, but I cannot fathom wanting to have her in the delivery room with me. Or even in a waiting room. I'd rather be in there alone (other than my OB and nurses, obviously) than have anyone other than DH. Last time I didn't even tell her than we had gone to the hospital until after DS was born.
FFFC: I'm close to my mom, but I cannot fathom wanting to have her in the delivery room with me. Or even in a waiting room. I'd rather be in there alone (other than my OB and nurses, obviously) than have anyone other than DH. Last time I didn't even tell her than we had gone to the hospital until after DS was born.
Ditto. My cousin's wife invited her mom and her MIL into the delivery room! I love my MIL and she's a wonderful lady, but just no. She wound up delivering early and her MIL wasn't there.
FFFC: I'm close to my mom, but I cannot fathom wanting to have her in the delivery room with me. Or even in a waiting room. I'd rather be in there alone (other than my OB and nurses, obviously) than have anyone other than DH. Last time I didn't even tell her than we had gone to the hospital until after DS was born.
I'm super close to my mom as well but she can also drive me nuts. She was there to entertain me in early labor but I kicked her out when my contractions got painful.
FFFC: I'm close to my mom, but I cannot fathom wanting to have her in the delivery room with me. Or even in a waiting room. I'd rather be in there alone (other than my OB and nurses, obviously) than have anyone other than DH. Last time I didn't even tell her than we had gone to the hospital until after DS was born.
I had no intention of even telling parents we were going to the hospital until well into labor with DS, except I was unexpectedly induced at 37 weeks, straight from my dr appointment, and none of our hospital stuff was in the car. I had to call my mom to bring the hospital bag, and she refused to leave. Then MIL and my ex's brother and his fiancee and his sister showed up and wouldn't leave. Like @JessyKV I kicked them out once contractions started getting bad, and they all crazily hung out in the waiting room ALL NIGHT. This time will be easier because if we have to make the "we're going into labor" phone call, it will be to say 'hey we need you to take DS' and she won't be able to come to the hospital.
@michaela0704 I'm having a mommy makeover too, grew up saying there is no way I'd ever get plastic surgery now I laugh at my young naïve self! During my my first pregnancy I developed diastasis recti and it's pretty severe, it also caused a umbilical hernia (which got way out of hand after my last birth and I had no choice but to have it repaired right away) .. anyways my grandma belly has got to go! Along with my deflated bf boobs!
@michaela0704 I really want a tummy tuck or liposuction. I lost over 30 lbs before getting pregnant and still have 50 to go after. I know I will have some loose skin. I figure if I can lose 90lbs I have earned it.
My confession: I have decided since I can't see either my legs or nether regions, because of my belly, they don't exist and don't need to be shaved. I really should get on it. Poor hubby.
Me: 34 DH: 35 Married: July 2009 BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013 Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016 3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3 First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
DH came down with the flu the day DD was born. I didn't think he was going to be able to in the delivery room. I was almost in tears at the thought of my mom being in the delivery room instead, and had about decided to do it alone when the doctor told me he could be in there as long as he was wearing a mask, and was scrubbed down. I was so relieved.
I love my mom, but could never have her in there with me either!
@keniialise almost my same situation... severe diastasis recti, umbilical hernia, excessive twin skin, saggy boobs from breastfeeding...
I'm not 100% sure about the breast lift yet but tummy tuck and abdominal wall reconstruction for sure!! I've contemplated the idea of lift and augmentation but read up on risks of implants and the thought that they only last anywhere from a few months to 10 - 15 years would mean I would continually have to have breast surgery for the rest of my life and have MRI's every 2 years... I'm just not sure I want to commit to the long term cost of upkeep.
Take it from someone who has gone against instinct. If you feel now that you don't want anyone but SO at the hospital during labor and delivery, don't. My husband was insistent that we allow his parents, sister, and best friend be there. No one but H was there while I pushed. But they were there during labor and immediately after delivery. It was awful. I felt so invaded on, and I was not ready to have my baby passed around right away. Emotionally, the hormone drop really affected me too. I was extremely tearful and emotional. And it was agony trying to put on a happy face while I was really tired and struggling.
@keniialise almost my same situation... severe diastasis recti, umbilical hernia, excessive twin skin, saggy boobs from breastfeeding...
I'm not 100% sure about the breast lift yet but tummy tuck and abdominal wall reconstruction for sure!! I've contemplated the idea of lift and augmentation but read up on risks of implants and the thought that they only last anywhere from a few months to 10 - 15 years would mean I would continually have to have breast surgery for the rest of my life and have MRI's every 2 years... I'm just not sure I want to commit to the long term cost of upkeep.
I'm the only one in my family that was blessed with breasts, both my mom and my sister were flat and both had them done. My mom got hers in her 30's she's turning 60 and still has the same ones without complications. Her only complaint is she wishes she went bigger, and then she gets scared at mammograms due to having to sign the paper that says if they pop them it's not their fault. My sister has had hers for 20 years too, hers are literally the definition of perfect boobs she even went through three pregnancies and breastfeeding and they stayed perfect. I tell her I hate her often The only difference is I would definitely have to have a lift as well, and they have no experience with that since they were flat and my only source of information comes from the show botched!
Add me to the I want a boob job when I'm done having kids camp. I had pretty small but perky boobs before kids. After nursing two (soon to be three) kids the go down to a flat ugly A cup and it's depressing!! I don't want them huge at all but when I'm pregnant and nursing I get a C cup and I love it. I want to be confident in my skin and I feel like it's a gift to myself for nursing for so many years.
@keniialise that's interesting that their's have lasted so long! I'm not 100% sure I'll even need an augmentation for size but I was thinking I might for shape? I'm a D-cup non pregnant or breastfeeding so I think a lift should be enough but the gallery pics on surgeons' sites always look better when women have lift and augmentation vs. lift only... no idea what I'll do yet...
Add me to the I want a boob job when I'm done having kids camp. I had pretty small but perky boobs before kids. After nursing two (soon to be three) kids the go down to a flat ugly A cup and it's depressing!! I don't want them huge at all but when I'm pregnant and nursing I get a C cup and I love it. I want to be confident in my skin and I feel like it's a gift to myself for nursing for so many years.
Doooo it! You will not regret it. Best decision I ever made!
I'm so glad I'm not the only one with zero sex drive. I feel bad for DH because physical intimacy is a big part of his "love language", but, ughhh, NOPE. I'm not interested, but on top of that, I worry about my belly positioning most of the time during sex and get too distracted to enjoy myself.
Also, I thought most women experience more pleasurable sex when pregnant due to increased blood flow?! When is THAT supposed to kick in?
I've also been team plastic surgery for a long time. I have wanted a breast reduction for years, but have been waiting to have kids first. I also am slightly obsessed with Brazilian Butt Lifts and follow tons of BBL surgeons on Instagram. Sucking out my gut fat and giving me a banging booty? Sign me up!
@mtnmommy ugh it should be a joint decision with mom having more of say based on what she and her body is going through. I hope you get some much needed space this labor and delivery. I hear you on the hormones too! I cried for three weeks post partum for no reason other than hormones fluctuating.
Im team whatever family wants to be in tbe room they can. Birth center doesnt really have restrictions. But you are not allowed to make any medical suggestions, mention an epidural, or at any time tell me to push. I have a midwife for that. You are also are not allowed to mention after the fact if I did or did not poop. Your job is to get me a cold compress and tell me Im a rock star super woman.
@LMMama teach me your ways! I don't want to be a mommy martyr. I've gotten a little better... I used to feel guilty for putting even one ounce of attention towards anything else while DD was awake, but now I can do chores and things like that and let her play independently for awhile. I know being a mommy martyr isn't healthy, for anyone. The thought of feeling put together every day sounds heavenly.
I'm sort of surprised at the amount of women on here who want to have plastic surgery. I mean, it's your life so you do what you want to, but geez. I too get the flat A cup after breastfeeding and the jiggly belly but I'm married, I'll be in my late 30's will two kids, and I guess IDGAF at this point. At least, not enough to spend thousands on elective surgery.
MC Sept 2010 BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012 TTC again since July 2014 First IUI 9/26/16: BFP! EDD 6/19/2017 It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
This is probably a really stupid question and maybe too personal, but can the man still be on top when you're pregnant? Now that we are all even further along (19 weeks here) is it safe?
@kdanjou what does being married have to do with feeling great. I'm married but I have no plans on letting myself go for myself, not just for my husband. Married =\= mind/body/self do not matter!!
I'm not into the plastic surgery thing, mostly because of cost and extra medical procedures, but I think it's kind of cool that the women on here who are considering it are so open and unapologetic about it. I had a friend who desperately tried to cover up that she had a nose job done while they were fixing her septum and I never understood why it was so horrible to want to fix something that made you self conscious your entire life.
I'm a petite 5"2 and was wearing 36F or G bras prior to pregnancy, 38G now. My boobs are heavy. My back hurts. My clothes don't fit right. My insurance and others might see it as elective, but I see it as giving me a different quality of life. Sure if I ever get my beloved BBL it would be purely elective, but I know I would feel more sexy and confident in my body. Is that such a bad thing?
Same goes for others experiencing any type of breast or body issue, if it improves your quality of life, physically and/or emotionally, I say go for it!
I'm sort of surprised at the amount of women on here who want to have plastic surgery. I mean, it's your life so you do what you want to, but geez. I too get the flat A cup after breastfeeding and the jiggly belly but I'm married, I'll be in my late 30's will two kids, and I guess IDGAF at this point. At least, not enough to spend thousands on elective surgery.
You do you, I'll do me. I will gladly get a tummy tuck and breast lift if it makes ME happy. I'm happily married, but that has zero to do with my self image and how I feel.
Late to the party but I'm totally team surgery. I told DH I'm getting a lift at the very least when we're done with kids and BFing. I wanna do it for myself, because after giving life to 2 (or more) children I feel like I deserve to do something for me dammit!
If I could afford it, I'd get a tummy tuck and liposuction on my hips and thighs after this baby. I've always been self conscious about the cellulite on my hips and thighs. And my tummy looked not bad until I had kids. I guess live and let live. But my thinking is that I love the water and the beach. And I plan to spend a lot of time at playing in the pool and on beaches with my kids. I'd like to not feel so self conscious about my body so all my focus can be enjoying my kids. Not that all my focus is on how I look. But I guess I'm saying that I'm not opposed to having work done if it makes me feel good.
@swanbrooner My Mom was an OR nurse for decades. One of her specialties was reconstructive surgery. She always said her HAPPIEST patients were breast reduction patients. They swore it helped not just with the physical relief, but all with self-image.
She said they would tell her they wished they'd done it sooner!
I'm sort of surprised at the amount of women on here who want to have plastic surgery. I mean, it's your life so you do what you want to, but geez. I too get the flat A cup after breastfeeding and the jiggly belly but I'm married, I'll be in my late 30's will two kids, and I guess IDGAF at this point. At least, not enough to spend thousands on elective surgery.
I don't think age or marriage status has anything to do with it for me. If you are happy with your body then I think that's great! I'll only be 30 with 3 kids and happily married but non of that matters to me in terms of my body image. Yes, I'm proud of birthing and nursing my kids and I am proud of what my body has done even if that means flat boobs and stretch marks. I think if you want to feel sexy or confident at any age, 30, 50, 70 then go for it. If that means working out or plastic surgery then you do you. To me getting a boob job which would make me feel confident in clothes and swim suits and also maybe feel sexier to my husband (not that he cares or is pushing me too at all) seems worth it. I have a lot of life left to live after kids and there is more to me than just being a mom.
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I know I should be sad and heartbroken that I won't see these children again, but I will be dancing at 5:00pm that day. I'm over having my house and toys wrecked (oh the stories I have of kids just trashing furniture/blinds/walls, wrecking my kids stuff, parents being so disrespectful of my space/time/policies). It's been 7 years, and Im grateful for all the wonderful families I've had, but I'm so done.
Edit: spelling
I used to work in Construction for 10 years and still wore make up and did my hair. Not everyday, cause I'm someone that can go either way. But I guess I never have thought about who does and who doesn't.
Last time I didn't even tell her than we had gone to the hospital until after DS was born.
My confession: I have decided since I can't see either my legs or nether regions, because of my belly, they don't exist and don't need to be shaved. I really should get on it. Poor hubby.
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married: July 2009
BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013
Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016
3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3
First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
Edit: because i didn't mean to say cray
I love my mom, but could never have her in there with me either!
I'm not 100% sure about the breast lift yet but tummy tuck and abdominal wall reconstruction for sure!! I've contemplated the idea of lift and augmentation but read up on risks of implants and the thought that they only last anywhere from a few months to 10 - 15 years would mean I would continually have to have breast surgery for the rest of my life and have MRI's every 2 years... I'm just not sure I want to commit to the long term cost of upkeep.
Edit: phone posted early
Also, I thought most women experience more pleasurable sex when pregnant due to increased blood flow?! When is THAT supposed to kick in?
I've also been team plastic surgery for a long time. I have wanted a breast reduction for years, but have been waiting to have kids first. I also am slightly obsessed with Brazilian Butt Lifts and follow tons of BBL surgeons on Instagram. Sucking out my gut fat and giving me a banging booty? Sign me up!
BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012
TTC again since July 2014
First IUI 9/26/16: BFP!
EDD 6/19/2017
It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
team surgery!!!
Same goes for others experiencing any type of breast or body issue, if it improves your quality of life, physically and/or emotionally, I say go for it!
BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012
TTC again since July 2014
First IUI 9/26/16: BFP!
EDD 6/19/2017
It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
She said they would tell her they wished they'd done it sooner!
I don't think age or marriage status has anything to do with it for me. If you are happy with your body then I think that's great! I'll only be 30 with 3 kids and happily married but non of that matters to me in terms of my body image. Yes, I'm proud of birthing and nursing my kids and I am proud of what my body has done even if that means flat boobs and stretch marks. I think if you want to feel sexy or confident at any age, 30, 50, 70 then go for it. If that means working out or plastic surgery then you do you. To me getting a boob job which would make me feel confident in clothes and swim suits and also maybe feel sexier to my husband (not that he cares or is pushing me too at all) seems worth it. I have a lot of life left to live after kids and there is more to me than just being a mom.