Intro (loss mentioned) and question/all opinions welcome

KayPee1016

Hi all, 

I have been a lurker for awhile now. Hubby and I have been TTC for 18 months now. I don't ovulate so we tried Clomid. Worked first try, but ended up being ectopic ( so they think, rising beta but nothing on u/s). HSG showed clear tubes after. Ended up doing 4 more rounds of Clomid a few months later finally responded at 150 and did the trigger shot. Guess what? Pregnant again.. guess what? ectopic again (another so they thought). After this 2nd ectopic we were told our only chance at conceiving would be through IVF because they think there must be some underlying issue with my tubes that can't be tested. 

We have no been taking a "break" from pursuing things, because lets be honest we don't have 20k+ lying around. I am really looking for opinions on my situation though. Part of me understands now that this could be our only option, but part of me has that inkling like they never knew for sure if either were truly ectopic, what if they weren't and I can somehow ovulate and get pregnant naturally? Am I crazy for feeling this way? So many people have been saying once they stopped trying it happened, like could it happen to me too? I have been taking a natural supplement (Ovasitol) and have gotten my period back regularly since October for the first time in 2 years. Is it just wishful thinking me thinking I could be one of the "lucky" ones? 

Clearly I am rambling, but I guess I just wanted to say hi and hear any opinions you lovely people may have about my situation! It sucks we are all on this journey, but at least we have support to lean on

rainbowwishes5

I guess it could always happen naturally. Gl to you and welcome!

funkykey

@Knottie99108316 - I'm so sorry for your struggle and for your losses.
While I too have heard stories about couples who get lucky - there are some on our boards, even - I don't think that will be DH & I. The stories are anecdotal, and I think rare. For every story like that I hear, there are many many couples who who have tried their best to conceive, failed, and had to make peace with being childless. People just don't tell those stories as much as the hopeful ones.

You might be one of the lucky ones - that could for sure happen - and I really hope it does.

Are you in a position to get a second medical opinion? Maybe that will give you some other options? I'd see another doctor before I made any big decisions.

Good luck to you!

JuliaGoolia719

Hi Knottie99108316  and welcome to the board.  Sorry that you find yourself here, but there's a ton of support and information to be had!

As far as the possibility of getting pregnant when you "quit thinking about it" etc, sure it can totally happen.  Although, I swear if one more person in my life tells me that I will drop kick them into next week. 

I'd recommend a 2nd opinion if it's an option.  The worst part of this whole process for me was the not knowing what exactly was wrong, once we had a diagnosis and a plan it was easier to accept and move forward.  Until we had a diagnosis I kept thinking "maybe this month" every month, and it was stressing me out. 

dadezbombz

Hey @knottie99108316 - I am so sorry you find yourself here like the rest of us. I have heard of this happening before (natural) because my niece had 7 failed IVF cycles, before becoming pregnant on her own- she had PCOS and Endo. Best of luck to you, but you aren't crazy!

KayPee1016

thank you!

KayPee1016

I definitely think a second opinion would help, because the hardest part is not having a why. Thanks for all the well wishes