I plan on BFing and won't have a problem whipping out my boob in Target should the need arise, but I'm not a fan of all of the unnecessary BFing selfies on social media.
My ex SIL does this constantly and some of the pictures barely show her baby.
I think it's weird when parents shower with their young children. Maybe it's just me, but I'm a very private person, especially when it comes to nudity. There's just something that bothers me about the whole thing.
I think it's weird when parents shower with their young children. Maybe it's just me, but I'm a very private person, especially when it comes to nudity. There's just something that bothers me about the whole thing.
I used to think it was weird too, until we had a walk in shower and a toddler and there wasn't much I could do to stop it if I wanted to get a shower in. He kinda just hangs in there and does his own thing, which may be why it's not as weird as I was thinking it would be. I'd much rather shower alone, though.
@Wearmi1 THANK YOU!! I thought I was the only one. I cannot stand Star wars.
I also have to agree with @huskermom14 on the pics. If someone is in a bikini it doesn't bother me, but I'm not a fan of the posed bare bump pics.
Finally @swanbrooner I also couldn't agree more. If someone is BFing in public covered or not, more power to them, but my fb feed is full of preeching BFing articles, selfies, and videos and I get tired of seeing it. Just feed your baby and move on...
My UO.. I hate showers..baby, bridal, all of them. Watching people open gifts could not be any more boring to me. The same goes for my own...I felt incredibly uncomfortable at my own bridal shower.. I consider myself a fairly outgoing person, but the whole thing bothers me. We moved recently and have zero family or friends nearby, so I'm thinking I will be able to avoid the awkwardness at a baby shower.
I think it's weird when parents shower with their young children. Maybe it's just me, but I'm a very private person, especially when it comes to nudity. There's just something that bothers me about the whole thing.
Meh. I shower with my youngest (age 2). I'm also not very timid about nudity.
My hubby is a Star Wars nerd. I just can't. I had a mythology class in college and we had to watch the first Star Wars and write a paper on heros and herioines as well as antagonists and protagonists in it. I would rather have listened to nails on a chalkboard than watch that movie.
I know ladies love them, but parking spots for "expecting mothers only" (eg Babies R Us) should instead be for mothers with infants/toddlers/kids with special needs. I am more than capable of waddling across a parking lot and into a store at 9 months pregnant without kids in tow. Mothers with babies and young children (pregnant or not) will benefit more from closer parking. Boy was my son cooperative in the womb when I had to go in and out of stores. Fast forward 2 years to a flailing toddler hooked under one arm, a screaming infant in the bucket seat hooked under the other arm and bags falling out of my hands. I was dying walking those extra 10 spaces while some barely showing bump hops out of her car and waltzes into the store. Some pregnant woman glared at me for taking one of those posts a couple of weeks ago. First of all lady... I'm pregnant. Second... How about you cart around two toddlers while running errands and tell me which is causing you more issues. The toddlers or your bump.
I don't like hugs. Especially when you are with a big group of people and everyone insists on hugging when you leave. I always attempt to coordinate a group hug instead.
@MKTLTX I also hate showers. I was dreading my baby shower for my DD and could not wait for it to be over. I thought I would be in the clear as this is my second but my fiancé has made it clear that his family is def going to throw me one. Like, if someone has made it very clear they don't want to have a shower, why would you insist on having one for them still?
@Elyse1384 that's annoying she glared at you. Trust me I would be parking their now too because sometimes wrangling a 2 and 4 year old in a busy parking lot alone while pregnant is just a nightmare. When they were a bit younger I always parked by a cart corral to load them in right away and transfer to one of the two seater carts once in the store.
Married 12/17/2011 K born 8/31/12 C born 1/11/14 BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015 BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
I love that so many people on this thread make me feel like my opinions might not be completely bizarre.
@swanbroonerAgreed! I've been seeing a lot of the artsy "tree of life" ones lately and I find those especially odd
@BellaO21 "we" are definitely not pregnant. Thankfully my husband is on the same page with this and has actually corrected people that say "I hear you guys are pregnant!"
My UO - I don't like it when people (mostly friends and family) call me mama/momma. I don't know if I think that's something that should only be used by kids or if it's because I don't feel like a mom yet (FTM, first pregnancy), but it makes me cringe every time.
I think it's weird when parents shower with their young children. Maybe it's just me, but I'm a very private person, especially when it comes to nudity. There's just something that bothers me about the whole thing.
I 100% understand your views on the subject in fact before kids I said the same thing. I grew up such a prude, I was raised in a strict Christian family and pretty much seeing skin was a no no. As I grew up I realized the more it made me insecure with my own body. So once I had kids I decided I wanted my children to be comfortable in their own skin, and for them to not feel shameful about their body parts like I was. Showering and changing in front of them became something normal for us and not something to feel like it was shameful. I have these friends that have children really close in age, a boy and girl and the dad refuses to let them take a bath together because "it's wrong" .. I feel like that is adults sexualizing something that is innocent. I know those are two different topics, but both bring up body awareness which I think is important to bring up when they are younger hopefully to ward off the curiosity once they get older. (I hope that made sense, either way to each their own.. everyone parents different but that's my outlook on it anyways)
I think it's weird when parents shower with their young children. Maybe it's just me, but I'm a very private person, especially when it comes to nudity. There's just something that bothers me about the whole thing.
I 100% understand your views on the subject in fact before kids I said the same thing. I grew up such a prude, I was raised in a strict Christian family and pretty much seeing skin was a no no. As I grew up I realized the more it made me insecure with my own body. So once I had kids I decided I wanted my children to be comfortable in their own skin, and for them to not feel shameful about their body parts like I was. Showering and changing in front of them became something normal for us and not something to feel like it was shameful. I have these friends that have children really close in age, a boy and girl and the dad refuses to let them take a bath together because "it's wrong" .. I feel like that is adults sexualizing something that is innocent. I know those are two different topics, but both bring up body awareness which I think is important to bring up when they are younger hopefully to ward off the curiosity once they get older. (I hope that made sense, either way to each their own.. everyone parents different but that's my outlook on it anyways)
I totally agree with you. If my friend or my friend's husband said that outloud, it would creep me out, thinking "WHAT in the world are you thinking about?!" My cousins and I are all around the same age, both sexes... and we all got baths at the same time at my grandparents house and on vacations! I never thought, and still don't, anything of it!
@MrsW524 totally agree. I have one person who says "hey mama" to me and its so awkward and cringeworthy. Even if it wasn't my first pregnancy I would find it strange. Only my cats can call me mama right now!
@kassyfry - Husband and I actually talked about what level of nudity and at what age is acceptable, as admittedly I walk around the house naked all the time. Growing up, I pretty much saw my mom naked all the time. In a way, it made me think about my body, esp as woman, being natural and not at all shameful. (She wasn't just walking around the house nekkid all the time, it more was like, I'm in her room while she is changing or she is running to the laundry room after a shower) My dad, not really at all, but I do remember being very young and showering with him. I think there comes a time when a child doesn't want to see their opposite sexed parent in the nude, and as an adult I would be shocked to see my dad, but really have no problem seeing my mom au naturale. I think bathing with your children is natural, and saves time. However, when it comes down to it, you need to do what is right for you and your family.
I think it's weird when parents shower with their young children. Maybe it's just me, but I'm a very private person, especially when it comes to nudity. There's just something that bothers me about the whole thing.
I 100% understand your views on the subject in fact before kids I said the same thing. I grew up such a prude, I was raised in a strict Christian family and pretty much seeing skin was a no no. As I grew up I realized the more it made me insecure with my own body. So once I had kids I decided I wanted my children to be comfortable in their own skin, and for them to not feel shameful about their body parts like I was. Showering and changing in front of them became something normal for us and not something to feel like it was shameful. I have these friends that have children really close in age, a boy and girl and the dad refuses to let them take a bath together because "it's wrong" .. I feel like that is adults sexualizing something that is innocent. I know those are two different topics, but both bring up body awareness which I think is important to bring up when they are younger hopefully to ward off the curiosity once they get older. (I hope that made sense, either way to each their own.. everyone parents different but that's my outlook on it anyways)
I totally agree with the bolded. It's only wrong if there is a sexual component.
I am not super comfortable with nudity, but I was fine with it when my kids were little and oblivious but now that they are old enough to stare and make comments and ask questions, I just don't care for that. However, that is totally my thing and I am sure that if I was more open about it, the questions would end fairly quickly because it would be normal for them to see that. I don't act weird if they happen to catch me in some state of undress and I don't act weird about them being naked at all either. I don't see any problem with parents being open with nudity, but for me it's just an admittedly prudish thing I haven't been able to let go.
Me: 36; DH: 38 DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17! **TW** MMC & D&C Aug 2016
I also have to agree with @huskermom14 on the pics. If someone is in a bikini it doesn't bother me, but I'm not a fan of the posed bare bump pics.
I do not get what there is to be bothered by, particularly if you are not bothered by bikini pics. Can you guys help me understand what is exactly is bothersome about it?
Me: 36; DH: 38 DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17! **TW** MMC & D&C Aug 2016
@merrylea, my experience growing up was exactly yours and it also helped me have a healthy body imagine in a sense, as in nudity is natural and not shameful.
I shower with my toddler but I am selfish and prefer my me time where I can burn my skin with the hottest water I can stand.
I don't mind bare belly photos. We talk about what comes out of our butts and vaginas but a belly pic is too much? Now, that side boob nude in July was excessive.
Mud pie is fugly. I hope my daughter never wants a pair of those ruffle pants.
@JAGinMI I meant just seeing pregnant bellies in bikinis didn't bother me at the beach or pool.. but the belly maternity pics do. I have no good reason for it..I'm not a huge fan of maternity photos in general and I guess the flowing dress open with belly out are the ones that come to mind and they are just too much for my taste. Nothing against pregnant bellies...just the particular types of photos I'm thinking of. My best example would be looking at the belly photo dresses on pink blush. Seems over the top to me, but to each their own.
Well APPARENTLY, my UO #1 is that I LOVE STAR WARS. IT IS AWESOME.
UO #2: I don't understand why anyone likes Lularoe. I googled it to try and figure out what the deal was, and I find the clothes ugly. Then I stumbled across a Reddit post by a man whose wife is spending thousands of dollars on LLR, and now it actually scares me. O.O Tons of women admitting they were peer pressured into buying stuff and getting obsessed over patterns. It sounds like a giant cult. Do not want.
UO #3: I hate Curious George. I always have, even when I was a kid. This is more of a UO with my toddler since I'm guessing adults don't have that strong of feelings on it, but man. I think my lifelong dislike of monkeys can be traced back to how annoying George is. Just stop doing stuff you're not supposed to!! And then at the end, he's rewarded for making bad decisions? Gah!!
Me: 35 | DH: 46 MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks) DD: Born 8/22/14 Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17 And my other love: writing
Well APPARENTLY, my UO #1 is that I LOVE STAR WARS. IT IS AWESOME.
UO #2: I don't understand why anyone likes Lularoe. I googled it to try and figure out what the deal was, and I find the clothes ugly. Then I stumbled across a Reddit post by a man whose wife is spending thousands of dollars on LLR, and now it actually scares me. O.O Tons of women admitting they were peer pressured into buying stuff and getting obsessed over patterns. It sounds like a giant cult. Do not want.
UO #3: I hate Curious George. I always have, even when I was a kid. This is more of a UO with my toddler since I'm guessing adults don't have that strong of feelings on it, but man. I think my lifelong dislike of monkeys can be traced back to how annoying George is. Just stop doing stuff you're not supposed to!! And then at the end, he's rewarded for making bad decisions? Gah!!
Star Wars is the best! My earliest memories are watching Star Wars with my dad. My 16 month old DD has seen a few of the movies and loves her Chewbacca Build a bear
My UO is I cannot stand when someone's comment about un-medicated birth is "I'm not trying to be a hero" or anything along those lines. The implication is that that is why those who choose it are doing it. I think it's sad that someone's perspective could be so extremely limited that they would think that was the reason women choose to do it. There are so many other reasons for preferring an un-medicated birth and I am sorry those people cannot see outside of their own preferences enough to understand that.
Me: 36; DH: 38 DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17! **TW** MMC & D&C Aug 2016
I showered all the time with my DD when she was younger. It is totally my preference to shower alone because I like really hot showers and my alone time in there, but she was usually pushy about it. And it is a time save. Now that she's 4 she's always good to watch a show or something while I'm in there and I think actually prefers her own separate bath time as well. I totally don't see anything wrong with it though. This new baby is a boy and I think I would still be find having him shower with me when he's little as well (though again if I can get in there by myself I'm all for that.)
I guess I should clarify a little on my showering with kids thing. I'm not really against the nudity thing as my son sees me post shower all the time. He sits in the bathroom and plays while I shower and then I throw him in the bath while I get dressed and ready. I guess I just look at my time showering as a more private and personal thing than most people. For reference, I won't even shower with my husband (sorry if that's TMI). As I said before, I'm a really private and personal person and I think that's why it bothers me. Looking at everyone's responses, if it works for you all, great. I think I'm just not comfortable with the idea of doing it myself.
I guess I should clarify a little on my showering with kids thing. I'm not really against the nudity thing as my son sees me post shower all the time. He sits in the bathroom and plays while I shower and then I throw him in the bath while I get dressed and ready. I guess I just look at my time showering as a more private and personal thing than most people. For reference, I won't even shower with my husband (sorry if that's TMI). As I said before, I'm a really private and personal person and I think that's why it bothers me. Looking at everyone's responses, if it works for you all, great. I think I'm just not comfortable with the idea of doing it myself.
This is how I feel about pooping, but the rest is fair game
Me: 35 | DH: 46 MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks) DD: Born 8/22/14 Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17 And my other love: writing
My unpopular opinion is I love all showers or similar events. Bridal shower, brunch after the wedding, baby shower, sprinkle, reveal party... Count me in for all of it! Even if its a second marriage or second baby. I also love bachelorettes, birthday parties, engagement parties, house warmings, retirement parties... all the happy occassions! Ill be there with champagne and a party dress. I will also try to glitter all the things.
@sls and @DewyK WHHHHHATTTT?! Yall don't like LLR??? Y'all, I just spent about $300 this morning on new leggings and shirts. The clothes are SO comfortable!
I will admit, I use to be a LLR hater - and then my friend got me to try on a pair of leggings. After that, I was instantly hooked. It took me a while to get into the patterns... I only bought solids for a while, but now I will pair a cute pattern with a solid top or the other way around. I love ALL the LLR things!
Re: UO Thursday 1/5
My ex SIL does this constantly and some of the pictures barely show her baby.
I hate when people say "We are pregnant" last time I checked my DH isn't going to be pushing a 7-10lb baby out of his vag.
I also have to agree with @huskermom14 on the pics. If someone is in a bikini it doesn't bother me, but I'm not a fan of the posed bare bump pics.
Finally @swanbrooner I also couldn't agree more. If someone is BFing in public covered or not, more power to them, but my fb feed is full of preeching BFing articles, selfies, and videos and I get tired of seeing it. Just feed your baby and move on...
My UO.. I hate showers..baby, bridal, all of them. Watching people open gifts could not be any more boring to me. The same goes for my own...I felt incredibly uncomfortable at my own bridal shower.. I consider myself a fairly outgoing person, but the whole thing bothers me. We moved recently and have zero family or friends nearby, so I'm thinking I will be able to avoid the awkwardness at a baby shower.
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
@MKRLTX I hate showers too. I like baby showers more than wedding showers, but would love to skip them all if I had a choice.
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
@swanbroonerAgreed! I've been seeing a lot of the artsy "tree of life" ones lately and I find those especially odd
@BellaO21 "we" are definitely not pregnant. Thankfully my husband is on the same page with this and has actually corrected people that say "I hear you guys are pregnant!"
My UO - I don't like it when people (mostly friends and family) call me mama/momma. I don't know if I think that's something that should only be used by kids or if it's because I don't feel like a mom yet (FTM, first pregnancy), but it makes me cringe every time.
I am not super comfortable with nudity, but I was fine with it when my kids were little and oblivious but now that they are old enough to stare and make comments and ask questions, I just don't care for that. However, that is totally my thing and I am sure that if I was more open about it, the questions would end fairly quickly because it would be normal for them to see that. I don't act weird if they happen to catch me in some state of undress and I don't act weird about them being naked at all either. I don't see any problem with parents being open with nudity, but for me it's just an admittedly prudish thing I haven't been able to let go.
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
I shower with my toddler but I am selfish and prefer my me time where I can burn my skin with the hottest water I can stand.
I don't mind bare belly photos. We talk about what comes out of our butts and vaginas but a belly pic is too much? Now, that side boob nude in July was excessive.
Mud pie is fugly. I hope my daughter never wants a pair of those ruffle pants.
I came back to work today after a week off and found several York peppermint patties. This reminded me that I HATE chocolate and mint together.
DD #1 born 4/1/2012
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Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
UO #2: I don't understand why anyone likes Lularoe. I googled it to try and figure out what the deal was, and I find the clothes ugly. Then I stumbled across a Reddit post by a man whose wife is spending thousands of dollars on LLR, and now it actually scares me. O.O Tons of women admitting they were peer pressured into buying stuff and getting obsessed over patterns. It sounds like a giant cult. Do not want.
UO #3: I hate Curious George. I always have, even when I was a kid. This is more of a UO with my toddler since I'm guessing adults don't have that strong of feelings on it, but man. I think my lifelong dislike of monkeys can be traced back to how annoying George is. Just stop doing stuff you're not supposed to!! And then at the end, he's rewarded for making bad decisions? Gah!!
MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks)
DD: Born 8/22/14
Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17
And my other love: writing
My UO is I cannot stand when someone's comment about un-medicated birth is "I'm not trying to be a hero" or anything along those lines. The implication is that that is why those who choose it are doing it. I think it's sad that someone's perspective could be so extremely limited that they would think that was the reason women choose to do it. There are so many other reasons for preferring an un-medicated birth and I am sorry those people cannot see outside of their own preferences enough to understand that.
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
@Mother0fDragons - No thank you on the ruffle pants, but one of Eva's cutest swimsuits is Mud Pie. I generally find most of their clothes ugly though.
This is how I feel about pooping, but the rest is fair game
MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks)
DD: Born 8/22/14
Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17
And my other love: writing
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
I will admit, I use to be a LLR hater - and then my friend got me to try on a pair of leggings. After that, I was instantly hooked. It took me a while to get into the patterns... I only bought solids for a while, but now I will pair a cute pattern with a solid top or the other way around. I love ALL the LLR things!