WTF Wednesday 01.04.17

mothernorth

mothernorth

WTF attorney... why have you NEVER returned a single phone call, e-mail, or letter from us? We have court TOMORROW you asshole, so you better be ready to do your job and do it well.

ball4768

@AllyTheKid That's terrible, I'm sorry. But good luck tomorrow! Is your hearing in Tulsa again or did they move the case to Pott county?

jek2016

WTF man who wants to be my daughter's father: you say you don't think the time I'm giving you (unlimited hours--within reason--three times a week) is enough, and yet you cancel last Friday, you reschedule this Monday, and when you come last night you only stay for an hour because you want to make it to your nephew's basketball game. Maybe I'm wrong, I don't have nieces or nephews, but if you don't think you're getting enough time with your daughter as it is then you don't leave her to go to your nephew's 30 minute ball game. You also don't cancel your visit because it's raining and you didn't have to come to town that day for work.

mothernorth

@ball4768 Fate has smiled upon us! So, the attorney called me back finally earlier! He said the charges against FI have been dismissed, and we get to take SS home tomorrow, all we have to do is show up for court, and take him home Hooraaaaay!!! It's still in Tulsa, the primary case is against his bio-mom who lives in Tulsa Co. so that's where everything had to be handled.

@jek2016 Sounds like a pretty crappy job of being a "father". He's going to do what he's going to do, so if it isn't in your custody agreement that you must accomodate him, I certainly wouldn't go out of my way to personally. You can't make him be a better dad, but you can be the best possible mom!

ball4768

@AllyTheKid Yay!!!! 

jek2016

@AllyTheKid That's so great about your SS! 

We don't have a formal custody agreement at the moment. If we can keep it between us I'd prefer that, especially because at this point he isn't on the birth certificate and that seems to be in my best interest in order to be holding "all the cards". I shouldn't really complain, because I'd rather him not be around that often. So for now I record all his cancellations and shortened vistas just in case he decides he does want a more formal arrangement via a court.

rosdoss

Life has kicked me ass the last few weeks so I haven't been able to log on... but @AllyTheKid I'm so pumped to hear that this mess is FINALLY resolving... so glad that SS is coming home and your family can begin moving forward!!! 


@jek2016 that is such a bummer that you have to deal with that. I can only imagine how frustrating it is! But it sure sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and you're making the best decisions with what he's giving you to work with. I hope that he can make a conscious decision to be a better and more active father in your daughter's life. Or if not, just get lost and make things easier for EVERYONE.


My WTF is H and I both have been sick over the past couple of weeks... I know he's stressed out and not feeling well but his 'tude is frustrating. WTF man, I don't feel well either and I sure am tired too, but I do my best to not take that out on everyone around me. It's just the little things like being shitty with the dogs or little passive aggressive comments. Or barely spending time with LO when he's not at work. If you get to go to sleep at 8:00 PM and wake up at 7:00 AM because you're not feeling well I feel like you have no room to whine haha... some of us still have a 24/7 job regardless of how we feel! I really don't complain about taking care of LO- I love her and I enjoy it regardless of how stressful it is. But when I'm like hey, wanna give her a bath with me? and he's been watching football and playing games on his phone all day and says he's trying to get something to eat and have a smoke instead it's like, geez... must be nice to have an option! I'd like to eat and maybe wash the spit up off me but LO's needs must be met first.

I know that his day to day is stressful too, in different ways than mine... I just wish he'd be able to appreciate where I'm coming from a bit more sometimes. I'm sure there are plenty of you that can relate!!

Ladybug2821

@rosdoss I'm right there with you!  H has his moments where he's great with LO but he hasn't put her ahead of himself as much as I think he should. Last night he was home during our bedtime routine (he's usually working) and he just messes it all up. He gets irritated when I turn off the lights so it's dark for her and it's like he forgets there's a baby here because he is so loud and has the TV up way too high. It's so frustrating. I've been sick, not him, for the past week and guess who has been able to take naps...him, not me. Wtf does he need a nap?? I'm the one that gets ups with her and does the majority of things. It just baffles me how they don't get it. This was probably more of a BF lol.