Team Green!

sarahufl

BostonBaby1 said:

We will definitely be Team Green. We were with DS and it was the greatest surprise!

Tip for those that want to be Green: ALWAYS remind the u/s tech you're not finding out the sex at the start of each and every scan. Even if the same person has scanned you each time. And remind the doctors/nurses too. 

What is funny is that I did this. And there was always this one woman who would slip and use male pronouns. So we were completely convinced we were having a boy. You could not wipe the shock off my face when my husband shouted "it's a girl!!" in the delivery room.

BigBadWolf12

sarahufl said:

BostonBaby1 said:

We will definitely be Team Green. We were with DS and it was the greatest surprise!

Tip for those that want to be Green: ALWAYS remind the u/s tech you're not finding out the sex at the start of each and every scan. Even if the same person has scanned you each time. And remind the doctors/nurses too. 

What is funny is that I did this. And there was always this one woman who would slip and use male pronouns. So we were completely convinced we were having a boy. You could not wipe the shock off my face when my husband shouted "it's a girl!!" in the delivery room.

My friend was team green having her baby and she said her doctor just flat out told her "I'm going to use male pronouns, but it means nothing about baby's sex because it's easier for the medical staff to communicate about heartrate, blood type, etc." because obviously the mom is a "she"/"her" so they just do the opposite one for the baby regardless of actual sex unless of course the parents want to know and it's a girl.

BecauseLove

We are going to attempt doing Team Green publicly but personally will know the gender. I would just prefer not to get a slew of gender specific clothing or items. 

kelseyrayay

Y'all are much more patient than me. kudos to y'all. 

homemakermama

Me and DH have been team green for all 3 of our other kiddos and there is no way I'd want to know with this one. It is such a reward at the end of labor. There really isn't anything like it. 

As as for our family and friends it should just be expected for us now, but I'm sure we will get the slew of comments about how there is no way they could wait and family asking for us to just go find out. A lot of my husbands family thought we lied the whole pregnancy (with all three of them), and actually knew when we really didn't. If I'd known then there would be no way I could keep it a secret haha. 

Also so be prepared when strangers ask about your pregnancy and want to know the sex. I had some crazy people who just *knew* what I was having by the shape or how high/low baby was, and wouldn't take we will see in expected month, they baited they where never wrong... I don't know why people like to do this just a heads up. 

BostonBaby1

^^wss. Everyone *knows* what you're having and some people will get actually angry that you don't know or they can't know. I had someone stick their tongue out at me. A grown woman.

But it it is absolutely the best thing to make the end of pregnancy/delivery exciting.

*typo

Lindsey1128

I would absolutely LOVE to be Team Green, but I'm afraid my husband will be disappointed if he doesn't get another girl, so he may need time to cope if it isn't. We already have two names picked out, so that isn't an issue. I'm still trying to get him on board. My grandma is all for it and hoping he comes around! I have one daughter and one son, and am going to be thrilled regardless of gender! 

earthtomom

We found out with my DD and will be team green this time. We are both so excited for the extra anticipation of birth day!!

mrsvp614

@lindsey1128 That's actually another reason why we're waiting. I think DH wants a girl, but the day of birth, we know we'll be thrilled either way when we meet our baby. We think it would be hard to be disappointed in the sex when we actually see the baby. 

MyNamesTaken

MrsVP614 said:

@lindsey1128 That's actually another reason why we're waiting. I think DH wants a girl, but the day of birth, we know we'll be thrilled either way when we meet our baby. We think it would be hard to be disappointed in the sex when we actually see the baby. 

I agree! I couldn't imagine being disappointed about the sex of your baby when you get to hold him/her for the first time! It might be easier to dwell on it if you have months to think about it. 

Lindsey1128

I am going to use this point in my argument for staying green! I know he will be happy either way. He's just a very complicated man. And they say WE are the complicated ones. 

sarahufl

MyNamesTaken said:

MrsVP614 said:

@lindsey1128 That's actually another reason why we're waiting. I think DH wants a girl, but the day of birth, we know we'll be thrilled either way when we meet our baby. We think it would be hard to be disappointed in the sex when we actually see the baby. 

I agree! I couldn't imagine being disappointed about the sex of your baby when you get to hold him/her for the first time! It might be easier to dwell on it if you have months to think about it. 

This is also why I didn't want to find out with DD. I have always wanted a daughter, and after losing a pregnancy, I didn't want to potentially feel let-down by a healthy pregnancy. I knew that if I waited till delivery, I wouldn't care what I had and would just be so happy to have a baby that it wouldn't matter. Turns out I got my girl anyway

labby18

i am highly considering being team green! but i have like 4 nephews and 1 niece so if we knew the gender we could could get a bunch of gender specific hand me downs. I'm on the fence. 

homemakermama

You could still get all the hand me downs, after baby is born

eta @lahearn18

labby18

@homemakermama im a military family so we will be moving 2months after due date so it would just be easier before hand to know

SarahS2017

This is #4 for us and we've found out with all the others, but decided to let it be a surprise this time.  

h0connell

When I first found out I was pregnant I agreed not to find out the sex but now that we found out it's twins I don't think I can handle that big of a surprise! Lol

ChristineVW

We are still debating if we will find out, but if we do find out, we still aren't telling anybody else. It's fun to have a surprise, plus I don't want a bunch of super gendered stuff. I'm thinking it might be wiser to just not find out at all, because I can't keep a secret to save my life.

harleyquinn0621

DH and I are still discussing it... I really really want to be on team green.. but on the otherside, I know myself and it will kill me not to know, so it's hard

margareth-2

I love this idea.  I've always wanted to do this, though I know it'll be difficult at times to wait the whole 9 months (6-7 remaining months).  I love the beautiful element of surprise, focusing on gratitude, and saving money on gender neutral baby clothes!  Plus I've never been a big fan of the pink for a girl, blue for a boy convention.  I was thinking of telling people the two names we've decided on, though.  That's probably not customary, but whatever!  Part of the reason is a bit selfish but important to me: "claiming" a girl's name we both feel strongly about so my sisters in law don't choose it in the future!  :-0

MadisonInspires

We're discussing it now, my guy was so against it at first when I mentioned it as a joke. Funny enough, we're working on buying a house right now and the financial guy made him think about it. He said that there's very few surprises left in life that are really worth it. He has 5 (or 6? I think?) kids and was team green for all of them. He said that being the first ones to know just at that very moment was so rewarding and worth it. It may be one of your last big life surprises. So we're talking about it now, and maybe even leaning that way. I know me not knowing is going to kill me though.
Plus I had this awesome gender reveal idea planned out and now I might not get to use it. Lol!

cchenal07

Team Green. With my first I wanted to know and my husband didn't. I won and they told us we were having a girl. To our surprise we had a boy! Luckily the nursery was white and green. However it was a mad rush to buy clothes that weren't pink. My husband still makes fun of me for making us find out. So this time we agreed to plan the surprise!

BookitBoo

I'm trying to get DH on board. We found out with both DS and DD and I think we should wait to find out. He is not interested in waiting at all

ke0009

So if it were 100% up to me – I would be TEAM GREEN until the moment that kid comes out and the doctor shouts “IT’S A…” note – I am a FTM and I watch a lot of TV so perhaps the doctor doesn’t actually shout that… but you get my drift! My husband, however, would like to know right now. Since I am AMA, I get genetic tests at 10 weeks that can tell you what you are having – and my hubs wants to know right there and then. I am trying to get him to wait a bit – my sell is, “look – the doctor knows. So at any time we can say TELL US. We don’t have to know at 10 weeks…” but he is undeterred. He has two kids from his first marriage (a boy and a girl) so he doesn’t have a preference as to what it is, he just wants to know. I am trying to stall him a bit – and am hoping I can. I just feel like this is really the only thing in life that is actually a SURPRISE… and it’s going to be one or the other… so why not just wait??

ke0009

@bostonbaby1 – that is VERY true.  When my husband had his first (1996) he and his ex didn’t find out until birth.  When they had their second (1999), they didn’t want to know either.  They told the doctor, who said she would add the note to the file (which had worked with the first one) So when his ex was 7 months they had an ultrasound and the u/s tech says “Ok, here’s the spine, here’s the heart, there’s the penis…”  they were SHOCKED and he was like “oh, sorry… anyways, here’s the lungs….”  Haha!  

GracefulStar

I was team green with my first two. There was a delayed announcement with my first lol I was waiting for "it's a..." but I got a pause. I think the doctor assumed we knew already. With the second it was announced. After two boys my husband really wants to know this one, but I'm on the fence. I'm more not into that they could be wrong lol if I know I want to know 100 percent. I get asked all the time when I'm having a girl, I'd love a girl but more than that want a healthy baby. Ahh I dunno!

Carebella

It was pretty easy for me to be team green last time. But I'm starting to find myself much more tempted to find out this time. I am starting to feel like those that know get more time to bond with the baby before it arrives. And that it'd be easier helping DS prepare if we knew. 

Anyone else having this struggle? Or how are STM+s approaching being team green with their first LO?

mcdoug211

@Lindsey1128 this is a very tiny reason I don't want to find out. This is our last planned baby and I really want a boy(2 stepdaughters and we have a girl) I feel like if it is a girl when I have her and see her I won't care!  

Luckily i I think he is finally on board because his mom thought it would be exciting!

mrsvp614

@Carebella that's been the hardest part for me, after our friends' feedback to us going green, was that they liked being able to bond with the baby and call her by name before she was here. That has been in the back of my mind, but I also like being able to imagine both scenarios, what a boy would be like and what a girl would be like. I think as I get bigger and feel baby move, I'll feel more connected as well.

Becky012016

@carebella; I'll preface this by saying I never wanted to be team green last time. I ended up having 2 anatomy scans because at the first we couldn't get good pictures of the heart and spine. The chord was also stratgeically placed between DS's legs so we couldn't see what's we were having. We had a 2 week wait between scans and i felt really detached because I didn't know if LO was a boy or a girl. For me, knowing the sex help and with bonding and honestly it's a surprise whenever you find out. 

mrsvp614

So, I received my genetic screening results last night. A huge relief to find out LO has very low risk of chromosomal abnormalities, since I have genetic disorders in my family. 

The bad news? All I have to do is click on a link in my email to find out baby's sex! I can't read the full report, since it includes the sex. This is a true test of will power, but I'm staying strong. 

kelseyrayay

MrsVP614 said:

So, I received my genetic screening results last night. A huge relief to find out LO has very low risk of chromosomal abnormalities, since I have genetic disorders in my family. 

The bad news? All I have to do is click on a link in my email to find out baby's sex! I can't read the full report, since it includes the sex. This is a true test of will power, but I'm staying strong. 

You have more will power than me. I'd be clicking the crap out of that button lol

margareth-2

I asked this in another thread, but I'm curious: when are you telling people?  I've only told *a few* close friends/family members, and I'm 12w4d.  When do you think is a good time to tell everyone else?  I've noticed that if you haven't been pregnant, months make a lot more sense than weeks, so I would like to say "I'm x number of months" -- 3 1/2? 4? Well I'll look forward to hearing what you all did in the past and/or are doing! 

Becky012016

@margareth We told ILs at 14 weeks since it was the beginning of second tri and said they could tell whoever, whenever. It took about 2.5 seconds for the town to find out. We told close friends around the same time whenever we saw them in person. We made a low key FB announcement at 25 weeks (after viability). It's really a personal choice for when to tell though. 

margareth-2

@Becky012016 Thanks!  Maybe I'll wait until after my Week 16 appointment, since that's the next time I'm going into the doctor and it's in about 3-4 weeks.  I'm comfortable just having a few people know... But sometimes it feels weird not to talk about, since it's the biggest thing on my mind!

sarahufl

margareth said:

@Becky012016 Thanks!  Maybe I'll wait until after my Week 16 appointment, since that's the next time I'm going into the doctor and it's in about 3-4 weeks.  I'm comfortable just having a few people know... But sometimes it feels weird not to talk about, since it's the biggest thing on my mind!

Don't tell until you are ready. We told a few very, very close friends right away but waited till about 18 weeks to tell our parents. I didn't let them share the news till I was about 22 weeks. Not a word at work till about 22 weeks either (even though I am positive there was gossip!). 

We never shared on social media till she was born. Basically, if we weren't related or I didn't see you in 9 months, you may have not known I was pregnant. I was very, very anxious last time and feel much better this go-round, so it is likely I will be more liberal with telling. But I still don't plan to share on social media. Ever.

margareth-2

@sarahufl Thanks for this info as well!  I'll ask my parents not to tell people.  Since I'm PGAL I'm especially sensitive, though I only had one miscarriage and it was early.  I'm not on social media (FB dropout) so that shouldn't be a problem.  ;-)

towntowns

Is anyone having a hard time staying strong for Team Green? I keep going back and forth and almost changing my mind!! I have always wanted it to be a surprise and luckily have a good friend who was Team Green for all four encouraging me.  Anybody else struggling or decided to switch and know? 

Carebella

@towntowns yup, struggling. It would be nice to tell DS if he is getting a brother or sister. And what we have might make a difference in if I decide to suffer through another pregnancy. So knowing might help with that. But I still really want the surprise come September so... still team green for now. 

mrsvp614

@towntowns I'm the same way! But I keep telling myself, once I know, I can't un-know, if that makes sense. I think deep down we all WANT to know, but it's weighing that want with the big reveal at the end. 
But do what you want! Team Green is definitely not for everyone.

I'm struggling with dealing with others. My MIL and her sister are driving us nuts over not knowing. I invited MIL to 20 week US, and she's trying to convince us that she could find out, but we're standing strong in saying that if we don't get to know, no one gets to, and the point is that it's a surprise for everyone.