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mel2k10

Did you cope? Before you started trying again? What helped you best to cope & move on?

Thx.

Amanda1443994

I had a D&C Dec 2nd for a mmc at 9w3d. My doctor told us we can try again after my first cycle, so hopefully sometime in January and we're both very anxious. This was our first pregnancy and we're 28 years old. What's helping me cope is my faith and trust in God. Sometimes I get angry and jealous but I just keep telling myself there was a reason..there's always a reason whether I like it or not. It also makes me feel better knowing we can try again soon. I feel like the only way I can move on from it is to be pregnant again. I'll never get over the loss, but each day is getting incrementally better to cope. Time helps. I'm so sorry you're going through this.  

Uhlease13

Sorry for your loss. Everybody copes differently and chooses when to start ttc again very differently as well. After my first mmc at 11 weeks, we benched ourselves for 6 months because we moved and I got a new job, but if that hadn't happened, we probably would have tried again immediately. I think for me, being/staying pregnant and hopefully having a rainbow baby will be the only way (at this point) to help me move forward. I can re evaluate at a later point depending on what happens. 

I wish I had a better answer as to what has helped me cope and "move on" but I can't really think of anything right now honestly. DH has helped be very supportive, and I think just focusing on our relationship has helped us not wallow in the what could have been.

Oh, I thought of something! After I found out we were having a second mmc, I focused on pampering myself for a couple weeks. I got my nails done, and I got a tattoo, things I had been putting off. It actually helped in the short term. And I love my tatto! It's somewhat symbolizes my losses.  


Well, that was a longer post than I thought it was going to be. OP, I hope you are able to find some joy in the things around you, loss sucks and I'm sorry you're going through this.