Monday B fest day after Christmas edition

disneybaby84

Ladies vent it all out! 

vino831

Oh man this is bound to be a good one! 

Please note I do feel a little ungrateful but....

Inlaws got DS a HUGE HEAVY metal tricycle rated for a 3 year old. He's 15 mo. So he can't ride it and can't push it. Oh did I mention it HUGE and we have to figure out how to get it back home - and let's top it off with the fact we live on a country road IN THE COUNTY. Where is he going to ride this thing exactly whenever he can?!?! (After storing it for 2 years?!)

Why why why why why is it not a thing in this family to ASK what to buy grandkids for Birthdays/Holidays. There are SO many things he would benefit from.

Grumble grumble.....

datalover13

@vino831 There's a reason we keep/distribute an amazon wishlist for our kids. And us for that matter. It helps out tremendously! DS still got a few things not on there, but they weren't obnoxious like that. That sounds horrible.

korpisar

Missing pieces/pieces not working on gifts from santa! Then I hear "mommy why did santa give me a toy that doesn't work?"

serenity13

We did a secret santa gift exchange at work last week. The person I had has worked with me 3 days since now & hasn't said anything to me and I did an awesome job wrapping it and got exactly what he asked for on his suggestion list...you'd think he'd say a simple thank you but i guess that's expecting too much ugh....guess if I ever draw his name again in the future I know not to spend any extra time on the presentation & putting effort into his gift. 

jrde50eb12

DH asked his parents for monopoly and risk board games for Christmas to play with our unborn son.... why not buy him a car now too. How about rent him a tux for prom. I know it's a sweet idea to think of doing things with him in the future, but there's stuff we're going to need a lot sooner than monopoly and risk like maybe, I don't know, BABY STUFF!? I'm excited that DH is getting excited but this really bothered me yesterday while he was unwrapping the presents and telling everyone about it. 

disneybaby84

My MIL "talked" to her unborn grandson by speaking in a high pitched loud voice to my stomach " Helloooo grandson. Your granny loves you so much" . Same woman said I looked like a beach ball, so I didn't let her touch my stomach the whole time she was here. She was mad. Best payback for insulting me.  Then, she goes in the kitchen to get something from the fridge, stands there and yells at me, " Your cat is throwing up" . She stands behind me, watches me get down on with my big belly to clean up after the cat, so she could then access the fridge.  Then 10 minutes later has the audacity to say, " I'd love to come after the baby to help." WHAT HELP? Announce to me when the baby has a poopy diaper? Annouce to me the baby spit up? No thanks!

samm1225

I came dangerously close to telling my 2 grandmothers that I am not a magic lamp. They are repeat offenders with the unwanted touching. Not even just touching, weird rubbing. Luckily most of my family is like me and doesn't like to be touched so they wait to be invited when she's actually moving. 

direwolfmini

We got together with my in-laws today, and my MIL was trying to sneak in to touch my belly. Like I wouldn't notice when she eventually got her hands on me???

I let her (not a battle I had the energy to fight today), and then she was so excited to feel the kicks... except neither baby was kicking.  She totally imagined it.

motherofdragons-2

***LONG***
My only grievance from the holidays is that my inlaws came over Christmas Day to visit, and they have this dog....she bites my 18 mo son, nips and snaps at him, follows him around and acts like she is on the verge of freaking out on him constantly. We can't figure out why, the other 4 kids do not receive the same treatment. The dog is so spoiled and a huge brat, she sees me and jumps DIRECTLY on my stomach. The inlaws of course are totally blind and see no flaws with her, when it comes to the dog, it is always someone else's fault. So we were all visiting and the dog snapped at my kid agin while he was in FILs lap. My husband reached over instinctively and smacked her on the haunch, didn't make a sound or make her yelp, just his first reaction to try and get the dog to stop biting our freaking kid!!! The dog is a solid 45 lbs, not at all hurt by the smack. FIL immediately got silent and so angry, DH pointed out the dogs attempt and he denied it, so DH took DS from FIL. MIL steps in and says "we don't hit your kids so don't hit our dog" and FIL takes off outside with the dog. MIL is just sitting on the couch with this horribly haughty and uncharacteristically bitchy look on her face. Dead silent as though waiting for DH to apologize. So it all turned into a big kerfuffle with everyone blaming DH and making him look like that bad guy, and FIL didn't even say goodbye to anyone and sent one of the kids to tell MIL he wanted to go. They're usually such nice people, just so blind when it comes to their stupid dog. DH even finally apologized and FIL just told him to piss off. So a tiny incident over a dog became huge deal and i hate that!! I always assumed a human grandchild would be more important than a dog but not everyone thinks like me, so it mostly made me sad to see people that usually get along swimmingly arguing and being spiteful over an animal. Other than that, my life is blessedly irritant-free haha. 

samm1225

@silverbulletband nope, no way would that dog be back in MY house with MY child. If it was a one time deal, ok maybe something happened. This sounds ongoing and for me personally would be unacceptable.

motherofdragons-2

samm1225 said:

@silverbulletband nope, no way would that dog be back in MY house with MY child. If it was a one time deal, ok maybe something happened. This sounds ongoing and for me itpersonally would be unacceptable.

Thank you! I personally am uncomfortable with the dog around too and have been trying to figure out a way to smooth the situation over without being rude but Im afraid it may come to that, haha. DH shares the same view but no matter what we say, the inlaws can't accept it. They love her so much, and we all see her as part of the family, but family members can still make mistakes! 

wintersong

korpisar said:

Missing pieces/pieces not working on gifts from santa! Then I hear "mommy why did santa give me a toy that doesn't work?"

I totally learned this year to assemble EVERY Santa gift before the morning, for that reason!

wintersong

samm1225 said:

@silverbulletband nope, no way would that dog be back in MY house with MY child. If it was a one time deal, ok maybe something happened. This sounds ongoing and for me personally would be unacceptable.

This. Exactly. 

vino831

Seriously I'm always soooo mind blown by the touching of the belly stories. Most people know me and vm know better than to even ask unless it's my nieces. 


@direwolfmini - seriously SNEAK a touch?! 

@jrde50eb12 #manlogic

@silverbulletband I mean my first repose it totally agree with everyone - no way no how would that dog be around my child (which is true)  BUT really I totally get how the EVEN MORE frustrating part is how ignorant and unreasonable they are being over this situation! Thank goodness you and your husband are on the same page. A Looney bin would be required if he agreed with them.

korpisar

longliveregina said:

korpisar said:

Missing pieces/pieces not working on gifts from santa! Then I hear "mommy why did santa give me a toy that doesn't work?"

I totally learned this year to assemble EVERY Santa gift before the morning, for that reason!

Lol we try to - this year it was a silly reindeer candy dispenser that "poops" out jelly beans. Opened the package and it didn't work. it was small but annoying. My SIL set up a toddler rollercoaster from santa for her 2 yr old and the ladder to get on was missing. She didn't realize it until it was already built and took up her whole living rm. 

MrsFlemingo

My MIL offered to host a Boxing Day pot luck for her large family, which she has done before, usually it ends up at her place every other year, but this year she started a Facebook message thread to make sure people could list what they'd bring..and she made a point of saying how it was a lot for her to have 5 dozen buns for the pulled turkey she was making (including kids and adults, it would be close to 50 people) so that she'd like some people to bring buns and a munchie OR dessert. And leading up to this pot luck she kept mentioning how she is going to have Sooo many people in her house and how she didn't want to do a dinner the day before because she had to prepare for Boxing Day....it's a POTLUCK DINNER and you and your husband are both Type A clean freaks! Her house is always spotless! Yet she has a 'poor me' mentality and wants assistance and our sympathy. She also said outright that someone else could run the Yankee Gift Swap....like putting numbers in a hat was too much for her to take on.... in the end, it was totally fine, but her griping about it leading up to the day was eye-roll worthy.

She is also hosting my baby shower in January and, again, 'poor me, I have sooo many friends, family and guests coming that I have to host in my home!' 

EnglishTeacherMama

@silverbulletband I can't stand people who don't train their dogs and act offended when people around them have to discipline the dog on their behalf! I am totally a dog person but I know that babies and children matter more. I'm so sorry you had to (and have to) deal with that.  

@disneybaby84 That's my Bfest too... I spent two days of holidays dodging people who coming up to rub my belly, and never while the baby was awake and actually moving. ASK, people. At least let me pretend to have some control of my personal space. 

Gators&BoSox

my whole family was really cool about asking to feel and if i'd let them know when the baby was kicking. then, when at the gas station to head home, the young girl behind the counter reached out and copped a feel! LOL for some odd reason it actually didn't bother me. I think because for whatever reason this sweet young stranger was so excited and genuinely happy for me. I actually left smiling haha

Ivorytower2

As usual DD got millions of pink outfits even though I repeatedly tell people that I hate pink. It looks like our living room threw up pepto bismo. -also the in-laws with a series of creepy animal stuffed Christmas decorations that we can "use to decorate year after year!" Yikes.

Aside from that great success, though it was so hard not to partake in all the delicious holidays cocktails! 

kiyamurph

Long vent:

I'm in Dallas and have been since Saturday. We've been visiting my BIL and his girlfriend who have a 5 week old baby. My MIL is also here. This woman has zero filter and doesn't think about the words that come out of her mouth. I'll just list the annoying shit that she's done during this short time that we've been here:

1. My husband asked her what she wanted for Christmas a few weeks ago and she told him that she wanted a necklace that has multiple birthstones that represents each of her grandkids. We thought, ok great, let's google it and find where you can buy one and we're good to go. So we order said necklace, but in our last minute rush to pack we forgot her gift. Oops. No big deal, we'll just ship it to her when we get back home. So on Christmas Day we're over my BIL gf's apartment and opening gifts and MIL opens her gift from my BIL. Lo and behold he got her the exact same gift that we did. Why is that you ask? That would be because this woman told both of her sons to get her the same thing. Wtf? Who does that?


2. My BIL's girlfriend also got her a little mug that's "from" their daughter and it said "to my grandmother, from Zoe" and instead of appreciating this little gift from her 5 week old granddaughter, she scoffs, "ugh, I'm not grandmother, I'm Nana. No one calls me grandmother." BIL's gf was not happy about her ungratefulness. And as a side note, my MIL only wanted to be called Nana after she learned that that's what my mom Iikes to be called. My mom has been Nana for the last 18 years when my bother's oldest daughter was born. When I originally asked MIL what she wants to be called when my son was born, she said granny. Then she later learned my mom was Nana, liked that name better, and insisted that that's what she wants to be called too. I mean what the hell? To save my little guy from being confused, my mom decided that since her other 3 grandkids call her Nana, my son can call her Grandmother. My mom took the high road and decided not to be petty about the whole thing, but it was still annoying as hell. Like, get your own name lady!

3. Yesterday, my MIL wanted my son to come to her, but anyone with common sense knows that you don't force a toddler to come to you, they come to you when they're good and damn well ready. The harder you force it, the more they won't come to you. So of course, when she asks my son to come to her, he tells her no and turns away from her. She pouts like a child and says, "well forget you then!" and swipes at him. I was pissed because who talks to a toddler like that? My husband immediately steps in and tells her that she absolutely cannot talk to him like that. He said that she should never expect Oliver to go to her if she's going to treat him that way. 

4. My BIL's gf, who's super nice, told me while we were getting mani pedis about how on the first day that my MIL was here, in an effort to be nice and hospitable, she cooked a big breakfast for everyone. Instead of my MIL being grateful and just saying thank you to this woman who just had a baby and slaved away in the kitchen to cook a meal for her lazy ass, my MIL instead says, "ugh, are you trying to get me fat?! I don't eat all of this for breakfast!" My BIL said that he has some cereal she can eat, so she opts for a bowl of cereal instead of eating the meal that the gf went to great lengths to make. My husband was PISSED when he heard about that. He doesn't tolerate his mom's bullshit for anyone and he said he would've told her she could starve next time. The woman is just flat out rude.

5. After manis and pedis, the gf took me and my MIL to this chicken and waffles restaurant (yum!!!!) and of course being the pregnant cow that I am, I ate all of my chicken and waffles, plus a small side of mac and cheese and collard greens. I was hungry darn it and I'm not apologizing for shoving my face. When we get back to the gf's apartment where my husband and BIL were, she very loudly tells my husband and everyone else, "boy, this girl can eat!" Thanks bitch. Thanks a lot for making the pregnant girl who already feels huge and uncomfortable even more uncomfortable. I could've slapped her. 

There was more ridiculousness from this visit, but don't want to make this post any longer. All I have to say is thank god she lives 2000 miles away. There's no way in hell I could tolerate her on a regular basis if she were close. 

ngcsugirl1112

We went to my parents Friday night and stayed through yesterday morning...then we went to DH's grandma's house for lunch.  To start....MIL was sick and I already wasn't feeling well so I had to get her to stay away.  His family can't cook, so lunch was less than stellar...I barely ate anything.  MIL constantly asks if we have a high chair and we keep telling her we don't need one yet because we don't want to store it for 6-9 months.  His parents were watching a 7 month old (she belonged to a guy who works with DH's dad) and I watched FIL give her Mountain Dew...seriously??  Then I had to listen to MIL talk about how she gave DH and SIL cereal before they were 2 months old.  The baby needed to eat and had no baby food, so when FIL called her dad, he said she liked sweet potatoes and bananas. MIL insisted that FIL needed to get her carrots and/or peas because "you can't feed them only what they like all the time" and then proceeded to call the baby's mother dumb.  To top it off, I'm pretty sure MIL is hard of hearing so she has no inside voice...she yells every word she says.  Needless to say, it was a mentally exhausting day...I took a 2.5 hour nap when we got home.  Luckily no one tried to touch my belly since I made it clear I wasn't feeling well either.  Next time I'll see her is at my baby shower in a couple of weeks. 

Is it bad I'm wary of them watching our child??  Would you be??  I already know I have to lay down some ground rules for her...she doesn't work and will be at our house all.the.time...okay rant over...for now :P 

vino831

@kiyamurph HOLYYYYYCRAP! I'm almost stunned to speachlessness. Proof that selfishness is part of a personality - not something that people grow out of.

All I can say is THANK GOODNESS your husband has no patience for that crap!

vino831

@ngcsugirl1112 mountain dew? You have got to be kidding? That's UNREAL. Why?!?!?!

Laying ground rules is an understatement but hell it doesn't sound like either of them would listen anyway. I would absolutely be wary of leaving my child with them. Perhaps just cautious. 

serenity13

Wow...both of your MIL's sound dreadful! I'm so sorry you have to deal with them! At least you don't have to see yours often @kiyamurph and I'm glad your husband feels the same way as you do! @ngcusugirl1112 I also wouldn't feel comfortable leaving my child with them at all.

mrsyimster

silverbulletband said:

samm1225 said:

@silverbulletband nope, no way would that dog be back in MY house with MY child. If it was a one time deal, ok maybe something happened. This sounds ongoing and for me itpersonally would be unacceptable.

Thank you! I personally am uncomfortable with the dog around too and have been trying to figure out a way to smooth the situation over without being rude but Im afraid it may come to that, haha. DH shares the same view but no matter what we say, the inlaws can't accept it. They love her so much, and we all see her as part of the family, but family members can still make mistakes! 

That is not ok for them to "turn a blind eye" ur son can get seriously injured and that's forever.... I stand by u

mrsyimster

His sister hosted Christmas this year. We are Asian so all the normal "non traditional xmas food" sure ok....normally I host and we have normal food.

eveyone knows im prego (including extended family)

it was a potluck but we didn't bring anything...

literally I couldn't eat any of the dishes..... except for the "semi warm egg rolls". nothing... cold seafood... cold pasta..... cold intestines mix.............. I was Starving.......

im 182lbs + now and his aunt wanted to take a pix of me as my "called Id" on her phone and she would not leave me along.......... go away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

And then some neighbors decided 12:30am xmas eve/xmas day is the perfect time to shoot fireworks for 30 mins straight... I was so close to driving to whomevers house and give them a cuss out.....

hubby and I skipped xmas this year... cus well finance and babies and medical bill... tax and my pay check on disability is so small.... not sure if or when I can go back to work after the girls get here....and how terrible our finance will be there. (Dang now I'm stressed)
but I still kinda got him something small
i don't really need him to get me anything... bc he has done sooooo much for me the last few months but...
i didn't receive a single xmas present from anyone....
not even my best friend... who apparently doesn't really ask or like me talking about me pregnancy I think..... I mean she listens when I talk but never proactively ask.... meh. Vs some of my other friends who text or call once a week. I get she is an introvert and I am so not... guess I'm just grump I got no presents this year period...

wintersong

@kiyamurph - Wow, I am just so sorry on all accounts. Its great to se your husband has broken out of a cycle of that kind of behavior!

@ngcsugirl1112 - Ground rules are acceptable and normal. I laid them with my mom who watches my son every day, lol. I have no problem kindly and directly saying things like, "hey can you stop bringing multigrain bars because of he knows we have them he won't eat anything else" or "please no more than 1 hour tv per day." When I leave my son with my in laws I am way less strict but try to identify areas that are really important to me. Like no violent shoes on the TV when he's in the room, no spank8my or swatting, etc. But other things are not as important in the long run because they watch him maybe once every four months; example: of they fed him cookies all night I'd shrug it off and roll my eyes later with my husband. If I found out later that my explicit instructions (which after all only include the big stuff) were deliberately ignored, I'd just not let them keep him. If pressed I'd say something simple like, "It really was just not appropriate when x, y, z." 

wintersong

@mrsyimster - Did you have a shower? Maybe you can make yourself feel better by imagining your shower gifts as early Christmas presents! 

I'm so sorry about dinner. That just sucks. 

kiyamurph

@ngcsugirl1112 You're right to be wary about your inlaws. I sure as hell would be. Giving Mountain Dew to a 2 month old?! Just no. The older generation has a totally different way of feeding and I find that it's also that generation that doesn't agree with breastfeeding. This poor girl in a Facebook breastfeeding group said that her aunt refers to her breasts as "that nasty ole titty." If they were to watch your kid I'd for sure be present. 

kiyamurph

@mrsyimster I'd be bummed with no presents too. I'm so sorry. 

mrsyimster

@longliveregina we had a shower right after thanksgiving got a ton of stuff for the babies! It was niceeeeee hehehehe

@kiyamurph yahhhhhhhhhh it's ok.... small sacrifices. I was more hormonal yesterday when I typed it haha

mecoats

I was really trying to stay positive about my in-laws this holiday season and then stuff happened.  So on Christmas we went up to my in-laws house, and my SIL and her son were there (they live there now).  Anyway, I have a small problem with her parenting in that she doesn't discipline her child.  Like we have to accommodate everything we do because he's there.  Fine, whatever suits your fancy.  
My first b-fest is that her son got a hold of HER cup of water that should have been out of his reach, and he spills the entire glass.  GUESS who was on their hands and knees cleaning the water up?!  ME!  That wasn't the biggest issue it was that she didn't correct her son to say no.  So I'm on my hands and knees cleaning water up off the floor and she's laughing and playing with her son.  Later in the evening they (SIL and MIL) both have the nerve to say - "Wait until LO comes!"  As in she'll be as misbehaved as he is.  Um....No.  Wanna know why?!  Because she will be disciplined.  I can't take these people....It's constantly...Wait until LO arrives.  Look....I know that it's not going to be perfect, but I know I'm also not going to let her rule my roost.  It's like a constant thing they say to me and it really gets under my skin.  I don't bash her parenting, because apparently it works for her.  2nd B-fest: Said nephew: he's a biter.  He almost bit me....and I told him if he bites me I'm biting him back (ok maybe not, but I will be aggressive in telling him no).  The rest of the family LETS HIM BITE THEM!   As I've said her parenting style works for her, but would absolutely not work for me.  

Sorry for the long post....It all blew up last night when they said "Wait until LO comes!" again to me.  Ugh.

DrillSergeantCat

My MIL is weird, but you guys are making me appreciate her. 

disneybaby84

@DrillSergeantCat wanna trade?

DrillSergeantCat

disneybaby84 said:

@DrillSergeantCat wanna trade?

For Christmas my MIL paid for 7 weeks of our son's daycare. When we went to open the card, she started yelling, "Don't expect this next year!" I go to pick him up yesterday and I mention it to the director and she started telling me about MIL's visit to the center and how they brought LO out and she covered her face and said, "NO! Don't let him see me! He might tell!" He was 9 months old at the time. She's just so weird.

direwolfmini

@mrsyimster I'm sorry about the potluck. That sounds awful. And I know where you're coming from regarding finances. The logistics of bringing home two, and staying afloat financially is super stressful! I can't imagine how prolonged bed rest would make things so much more worrisome!

I know that its easier said than done, but try your best not to stress about the money! From what I gather from friends and family, pretty much no one goes into parenthood 100% prepared financially, especially for twins. Believe me, I get it. My husband is out of work right now, and we are operating at a deficit because my job doesn't pay well (but has great insurance and other benefits). I have found that trying to get control over small things: cancelling cable, shopping grocery deals, and cancelling frivolous subscriptions has given me a little bit more peace of mind. 

It can be hard to do, but look on the bright side: you are so so so close to 30 weeks and your Dr had told you to expect to deliver between 28-30 right? That's HUGE!

@ngcsugirl1112 I would DEFINITELY be wary of your in laws. I'm sorry that you're in that position. You don't even know how much I identify with you right now. I really hope that she is receptive to the ground rules that you lay for her. I really liked @longliveregina 's suggestion of picking your battles with them. It seems like you would go nuts otherwise. 

My MIL is also very set in her ways, she is from Poland and they do things a bit differently there. Old wives tales are GOSPEL to her, and she can't understand why someone wouldn't follow them. My husband and her have a pretty messed up codependent relationship because he is disabled and she has always taken care of him. He's 35 now and she feels like it is still appropriate to do EVERYTHING for him. When we were staying with her a few years back she thought it was appropriate to come into our room during the night because she thought he was crying... NOPE! We were having sex.... Awkward.

When I try to set boundaries she ignores them, or pretends like she doesn't understand English (seriously...). She will answer my questions asked in English in Polish to my husband... She has a part time job, so I know she'll be at my house ALL THE TIME once the babies are here. Like, she would sleep on my front lawn if I don't let her in. I've been married for 6 years, and have dealt with her by separating myself from her and not engaging her in debate/argument because she is ALWAYS RIGHT.

When we moved into our house last year my husband thanked her for all the help that she has given (she helped with some painting), but let her know that we needed space and that we are building our own lives. He asked that she not drop by uninvited and give us some space. SHE FREAKED OUT and threw a fit about how we're super ungrateful and she didn't want to come by anyway...

I am at my wits end worrying about how things are going to be with now that there are kids involved. She has two grandkids in Poland that she sees once every two years, so she missed out on all of the baby milestones with them. I KNOW she's going to want to be super involved with my LOs. All I know is that I WILL fight to the death if she is trying to go against me regarding my babies. I'm nervous that me or my mom will get in a fist fight with her

Ugh, I guess my response to others' bfest turned into my own.

Bok Bagok

@direwolfmini my MIL is from Hungary and I can relate to your post very well. It's really hard to explain her personality and also because of the language barrier it makes it even harder for me to even read her at all. When we first got married she was very pushy and intrusive in our lives, I guess that's just part of their culture? It's very very old school, she's more like a judgmental grandmother from the "old country".

This Christmas when she asked me the middle name of the baby (boy) and I told her, Morgan (my maiden name and also now my middle name because I didn't have one previously) she made a disgusted, confused face, walked away from me right over to her daughter and proceeded to speak Hungarian to her. Obviously talking negatively about the middle name. She does rude stuff like that all the time and it really gets me down. I always bite my tongue to keep the peace. How can she think we would ever have a close relationship or that I would want her in MY families life when she acts that way?! 

Happyhiker

Wow, you guys are making me so grateful for my MIL! She said she bought $10 worth of onsies from the consignment store at $1 a piece and thought we'd be all set for clothes. (To be fair, she raised 8 kids in a very expensive area on a single salary, so that probably seems like a bounty to her!) She means well and won't know if we use the clothes or get more as she lives a couple thousand miles away. DH has healthy boundaries that she respects because 8 kids...there's always someone else to fuss over! 

datalover13

Another post making me thankful for my MIL. She's definitely not perfect, but she's nothing like you guys are describing. Yikes x1000000.

direwolfmini

@Bok Bagok OH MY GOSH, yes. The pushy intrusiveness... I feel like she hides behind that, though. Like, because that's how she was raised she doesn't have to respect our wishes to stop being so pushy and intrusive!!!

I have a really hard time when my MIL switches from English to Polish. I understand that it is much easier for her, but she knows that I don't fully understand what she's saying and it is pretty clear when she's talking sh*t. She only really does this when she's mad at me, too. 

This is why I haven't told anyone the names. We've picked 1 name that translates to Polish well and another that doesn't really. I know that she's going to be upset about it. She was angry when her daughter picked a Russian name for her daughter. My concern here is that she's going to call my boys whatever she wants if she doesn't like the names... 

For what its worth, I know a couple of guys named Morgan, and I love it as a middle name for a boy. Especially knowing that its your maiden name!