Gender reveal paper

jennas312

Hi everyone,
I went to the doctor last week and they had my cell free dna chromosonal test paperwork back. Doc said everything looked good and the paper has the sex of the baby on it. 
We asked her to place in envelope.
Thing is....she placed the paper with all of my information  on it in the  envelope. I guess we should have been more specific and felt dumb going back in and asking.
Has anyone taken the entire paper to the  bakery? I'm thinking of letting a coworker look at it and write it down on a piece of paper. Our reveal is xmas eve with family.
Anyone have anything similar happen?

Wino0920

The co-worker is a good idea! If not, I would just explain to the baker what happened. I'm sure they won't care. How fun! I love reveals!! I think they are such a great idea. If we weren't team green, I'd be doing one!

arrowmama

I'd probably have a co-worker read the paperwork. Who knows if someone at the bakery will get it right! But how exciting!!!

delujm0

Props to you for waiting to find out the sex WITH the people you are revealing to...I find it pretty tacky when the parents-to-be already know the sex and are just doing a big "event" to share the news.  The whole fun of it is being able to see the parents' faces when they find out.  That might be an UO, but whatever. 

jennas312

Yes, the whole thing is we want a surprise too. My husband trusts 2 people with the secret lol

JessyKV

delujm0 said:

Props to you for waiting to find out the sex WITH the people you are revealing to...I find it pretty tacky when the parents-to-be already know the sex and are just doing a big "event" to share the news.  The whole fun of it is being able to see the parents' faces when they find out.  That might be an UO, but whatever. 

I thought that with my first and we did a reveal and found out at the same time as everyone else and it was not a great experience for me.  My aunt yelled out the sex before we could see the cake.  It also took some time for me to process.  So I totally get finding out before and doing a reveal just for loved ones.  It's a really emotional time!  

delujm0

@JessyKV I understand that point, but if you already know, what's the point of throwing a party to announce it to other people?  I can see doing a big announcement to family if, say, they are all together for Christmas dinner anyway or whatever, but to plan and throw a separate event just to tell them a piece of news seems excessive to me.  Like when I get a new job I don't throw myself a congratulatory barbecue and invite everyone I know so that I can announce to them what it is.  I feel weird throwing parties in honor of myself just in general, so a sex reveal party would never be for me.  I do like it when people posts videos of themselves (or their other kids) finding out what the sex is on social media though.  I think those are cute.

 

I'm also pretty low key about the whole pregnancy thing though, so that's just my personality.  I'm not even planning to announce to my coworkers other than my boss.  They'll figure it out when I start getting fat, and i'll tell them it's a girl if they ask.  We have Glide app (it's for video/pics/text group messages) chat rooms with each of our families for the purpose of sending pics and videos of DD to them because they live far away and don't see her much...so when we got the news with this one we just sent an ultrasound pic of her to the chat group and told them it was another girl.  Easier and cheaper than planning a party definitely.  With DD we called our parents and siblings and trusted them to spread the news.  We told just friends as it came up in normal conversation.  I think I did announce the pregnancy and sex on FB last time, but not until I was well past 6 months in, weeks and weeks after everyone who was most important to us already knew.

ellie111227

delujm0 said:

@JessyKV I understand that point, but if you already know, what's the point of throwing a party to announce it to other people?  I can see doing a big announcement to family if, say, they are all together for Christmas dinner anyway or whatever, but to plan and throw a separate event just to tell them a piece of news seems excessive to me.  Like when I get a new job I don't throw myself a congratulatory barbecue and invite everyone I know so that I can announce to them what it is.  I feel weird throwing parties in honor of myself just in general, so a sex reveal party would never be for me.  I do like it when people posts videos of themselves (or their other kids) finding out what the sex is on social media though.  I think those are cute.

 

I'm also pretty low key about the whole pregnancy thing though, so that's just my personality.  I'm not even planning to announce to my coworkers other than my boss.  They'll figure it out when I start getting fat, and i'll tell them it's a girl if they ask.  We have Glide app (it's for video/pics/text group messages) chat rooms with each of our families for the purpose of sending pics and videos of DD to them because they live far away and don't see her much...so when we got the news with this one we just sent an ultrasound pic of her to the chat group and told them it was another girl.  Easier and cheaper than planning a party definitely.  With DD we called our parents and siblings and trusted them to spread the news.  We told just friends as it came up in normal conversation.  I think I did announce the pregnancy and sex on FB last time, but not until I was well past 6 months in, weeks and weeks after everyone who was most important to us already knew.

I agree with this so much. I totally side-eye people who seem to have gender reveal parties just to get lots of attention. It always seems weird and juvenile to me, and you articulated why better than I could have. Like, you know must know that no one else cares as much as you do about the sex of your baby, right? You're just having a party so they have to make a huge deal out if it? Seeing the parents' reaction to finding out can be fun, but unless you are doing that, it reads as really tacky and self-aggrandizing to me.

mamaelle27

It might depend on your situation. My family was so over the moon excited for our baby that they would have been crazy happy to have a reveal party, even if hubby and I already knew the sex. Some people really just love celebrating babies as much as they can, and there's nothing wrong with that. And some people just love throwing a good party, who doesn't love a party?!

JessyKV

@delujm0      I totally get it not being your thing.  We did a party with our first because it was the first grandkid and our parents were all so crazy excited.   It wasn't as much a look at me party as a coming together to celebrate the baby and also find out the sex together.  A fun experience that everyone enjoyed.  I didn't invite a ton of people just close family. I had a BBQ at my house.  I'm just saying looking back it was hard for me to process that info on front of everyone.  So if I did it again I would have found out first then did the reveal for my family that was all dying to know .   We have a crazy supportive family and are all super close when it comes to this stuff.  Some people might find that annoying but I kind of love it.  Also my family loves any excuse to throw a BBQ and hang out so why not have some fun? 

This is our third kiddo so we are finding out before and then letting our kids open a present on Christmas when we are at our parents so they all find out together.  Mostly so everyone can enjoy DD's expression when she finds out.  It just seems like a sweet memory I want to share with our parents.  

I think gender reveal parties get a bad rep.  And I get why.  But I think some family members and close friends truly care and think it's fun! My BIL and SIL found out together at a special dinner then we all came over after for dessert and the gave us balloons to pop to find out and it was so much fun.  I guess I just love sharing experiences like that with my family.  It didn't bother me that they already knew.  They enjoyed watching our faces when we found out to.  I don't see anything wrong with that! 

meg2704

I never thought I would do a gender reveal party, but this may be our only kid so we are going to do the cheesy stuff. It will be just immediate family and just a few appetizers and a cake. My husband's family will come to town and this will be their first grandchild. 

Its cheesy as hell and I'm excited. I definitely won't decorate the whole house or do a photo shoot but it will be small and fun. 

bornmommy

@JessyKV - I love how you are telling your kids.  We've been going back and forth about finding out the sex of this baby and part of wanting to know just DH and I first is so we can surprise our kids in a special way.  

jennas312

@ellie111227 so I'm juvenile for wanting to find out the sex of our baby on Christmas eve with my family? That's a bit harsh.  We are excited and so is our whole family.
 Sorry you don't have that.

ellie111227

@jennas312. Lol no, I said it seems juvenile when it is a huge thing to get attention and when the parents already know the gender beforehand anyway. I think if you are finding out with everyone else and it is a time your family is getting together anyway for a celebration and they are excited about it, that is pretty different from what I see a lot of people doing (including my own family members, which is maybe why I am annoyed by it). I do judge a lot of gender reveal parties, but your way actually wouldn't read that way to me. And even if it did, it is obviously your thing with your family, so who cares what I think?

 I totally side-eye people who seem to have gender reveal parties just to get lots of attention. It always seems weird and juvenile to me, and you articulated why better than I could have. Like, you know must know that no one else cares as much as you do about the sex of your baby, right? You're just having a party so they have to make a huge deal out if it? Seeing the parents' reaction to finding out can be fun, but unless you are doing that, it reads as really tacky and self-aggrandizing to me.

JAGinMI

I'm also in a close family that is as excited to find out the sex as we are. I agree with @jessykv that I get why the reveal parties get a bad rap because I've seen some silliness with how all-out some people go with it BUT I know that for us it's not an attention thing, it's a family excitement thing. We've found out with our close family both times and we will do it again because it was so much fun to share that excitement with everyone!

delujm0

I'm still with @ellie111227 it is a cute thing to do in two scenarios: 1) when the parents-to-be are finding out WITH the guests, and 2) when the parents-to-be know but are only revealing to their existing children (and sharing video of that reveal or whatever).  When the parents already know the sex but then put together an entire large event to reveal and "celebrate" it, it's just tacky and weird to me.  Unless the parents already know and are just revealing at a separately existing event to relatives bc they just all happen to be together in person (like Christmas dinner or whatever).  Separate events to celebrate the sex of the baby are just bizarre in my opinion.  

doodleoodle

With DD I didn't want a gender reveal party, but it seemed important to my MIL and she wanted to host the party so I let her. You've got to choose your battles wisely with your in laws, amiright? Plus, free cake. I ended up being glad we did it. She put a lot of thought into it and we ended up with some really nice things for the nursery such as, a framed photo of DD's ultrasound where people had signed their name on the border in pink or blue according to their guess of boy or girl. 

jennas312

Sorry @ellie111227, one of my pregnancy symptoms is taking offense to a lot more than ever before. Lol