Babies on my Brain, but Not my Husband.

QO15

My husband and I have been married for 2 years and we dated for many years prior to that.  We talked about kids while dating and engaged, and agreed that after getting married, we'd stop using birth control.   It's been two year and we have not gotten pregnant.  I mentioned my frustrations to my husband and was shocked when it admitted that he didn't really want to pursue having children anymore.   I am heartbroken and sad.  I feel like I'll regret not having children (or at least trying). I also wonder if I'll eventually resent my husband for his decision.  I love my husband, but I can't stop thinking about babies and motherhood.  

I'm left with a very tough decision; do I stay with my husband or possible get divorced and eventually move on?   Does anyone here have experience with his in a previous relationship/marriage or maybe a friend/family member that's been through this?    This is a huge bomb and I haven't told anyone in my personal life because the subject is touchy.   I just need some type of insight.  

Thanks 

glitzandglitter

That is a tough spot to be in. Have you tried sitting down with him and asking why he's changed his mind and told him how important this is to you? I think that would be where I'd start. If his mind is made up and he is definitely never wanting children I think my next step would be to see a therapist to help me work out my feelings and figure out how to move forward and whether it included him or not. 
FX he comes back around.

Sarcasm101

QO15 said:

My husband and I have been married for 2 years and we dated for many years prior to that.  We talked about kids while dating and engaged, and agreed that after getting married, we'd stop using birth control.   It's been two year and we have not gotten pregnant.  I mentioned my frustrations to my husband and was shocked when it admitted that he didn't really want to pursue having children anymore.   I am heartbroken and sad.  I feel like I'll regret not having children (or at least trying). I also wonder if I'll eventually resent my husband for his decision.  I love my husband, but I can't stop thinking about babies and motherhood.  

I'm left with a very tough decision; do I stay with my husband or possible get divorced and eventually move on?   Does anyone here have experience with his in a previous relationship/marriage or maybe a friend/family member that's been through this?    This is a huge bomb and I haven't told anyone in my personal life because the subject is touchy.   I just need some type of insight.  

Thanks 

Is he open to therapy? If he is not, then I would suggest you go to talk through all of this. This is a huge decisions and it would help to have an impartial sounding board. 

Did you ask him what changed for him?

mothernorth

glitzandglitter said:

That is a tough spot to be in. Have you tried sitting down with him and asking why he's changed his mind and told him how important this is to you? I think that would be where I'd start. If his mind is made up and he is definitely never wanting children I think my next step would be to see a therapist to help me work out my feelings and figure out how to move forward and whether it included him or not. 
FX he comes back around.

This. Good luck, I hope you two are able to reach an agreement that works for both of you.