Babies on the Brain
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Hello Ladies!
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Hoping I can sit with you?
I'm obviously out of my mind, because I'm jumping over here from the October 2016 Moms board.
As mentioned, I'm an 016 mom already thinking about another... but wait, there's more! I have a beautiful 5-year-old DD, a 16-month-old DS, my 2 month old LO, and a 9-year-old SS that we have full custody of. So that's a total of four babes already. Although some would say that is clearly plenty of children for one family, I can not help but want to try for ONE more because I would REALLY like one last chance at attempting to give DD a sister.
I got the Nexplanon implant in my arm last month, so there will be no baby magic for three years at the minimum, and I don't think my dear, sweet, loving partner is on board for another afterwards. But I have this relentless yearning to try One. More. Time. I haven't actually discussed this with him, and I know now probably isn't the best time to bring it up anyway (even for "future reference") considering we have a two-month-old and the stress of the holidays approaching. I'm nervous that when I DO finally talk to him about it that he'll say no, and that will break my heart into a million pieces.
It may sound selfish, but I NEED to try one more time for a girl, just to say I did everything I could. Even if we got another boy, which would still be great, I would have done my best. And then I could happily call myself "done". I can't do that right now, and the idea of being done is so depressing to me at this point.
I could just be completely neurotic due Post Partum hormones and adjusting to my new birth control- but I really don't see my mind changing on this matter.
I have goals I'd like to reach first, like get back into good shape before even attempting it (having two kids back to back is rough on the ol' body), at the very least have my little boys out of diapers, and I really need to finish getting my degree first as well. What I'm most nervous about is getting H to agree. I feel like I have to keep these feelings bottled up until "the right time", and who knows if that even exists?
You've earned a gold star if you read all of these ramblings! Sorry to show up out of nowhere and post a Dear Diary novel, best wishes to all you gals and thank you in advance for your time
I'm obviously out of my mind, because I'm jumping over here from the October 2016 Moms board.
As mentioned, I'm an 016 mom already thinking about another... but wait, there's more! I have a beautiful 5-year-old DD, a 16-month-old DS, my 2 month old LO, and a 9-year-old SS that we have full custody of. So that's a total of four babes already. Although some would say that is clearly plenty of children for one family, I can not help but want to try for ONE more because I would REALLY like one last chance at attempting to give DD a sister.
I got the Nexplanon implant in my arm last month, so there will be no baby magic for three years at the minimum, and I don't think my dear, sweet, loving partner is on board for another afterwards. But I have this relentless yearning to try One. More. Time. I haven't actually discussed this with him, and I know now probably isn't the best time to bring it up anyway (even for "future reference") considering we have a two-month-old and the stress of the holidays approaching. I'm nervous that when I DO finally talk to him about it that he'll say no, and that will break my heart into a million pieces.
It may sound selfish, but I NEED to try one more time for a girl, just to say I did everything I could. Even if we got another boy, which would still be great, I would have done my best. And then I could happily call myself "done". I can't do that right now, and the idea of being done is so depressing to me at this point.
I could just be completely neurotic due Post Partum hormones and adjusting to my new birth control- but I really don't see my mind changing on this matter.
I have goals I'd like to reach first, like get back into good shape before even attempting it (having two kids back to back is rough on the ol' body), at the very least have my little boys out of diapers, and I really need to finish getting my degree first as well. What I'm most nervous about is getting H to agree. I feel like I have to keep these feelings bottled up until "the right time", and who knows if that even exists?
You've earned a gold star if you read all of these ramblings! Sorry to show up out of nowhere and post a Dear Diary novel, best wishes to all you gals and thank you in advance for your time
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George (3)
I'm pleased to announce that I casually mentioned 'maybe wanting another baby later' a few days ago, and although he seemed a bit unresponsive at first, last night he said 'if we have a other baby, I can tell you before an ultrasound that it will be another boy. I only make boys.' Therefore, I saw an opportunity to take control of the situation by challenging him and saying 'Nope, it'll be a girl!', now he feels compelled to prove me wrong, which gives me exactly what I want- one more shot
Progress!
i don't have a plan for how many kids I want I just always knew I wanted more than one and I said I didn't want to do 3 because of the middle child thing (personal feelings. No offense to anyone) so if I had 3 it means I'm going for 4. I just can't see myself stopping at two. Maybe I'll feel different when I have baby #2. But I just don't think so. I love nothing more than being a mom. Never realized just how much I would love it, but always knew I wanted multiple kids.
@AllyTheKid @glitzandglitter Fx for your little ladies
DS2 due 12/12/18