One thing to consider for the birth announcement board is how quickly admin will pin it. I think it was December I was lurking in, but they had a ridiculously difficult time.
One thing to consider for the birth announcement board is how quickly admin will pin it. I think it was December I was lurking in, but they had a ridiculously difficult time.
But who cares if it's pinned? I can't imagine I'll drop out of the top few once the babies start coming. And then we can avoid the 8 posts begging the admin to pay attention. Am I alone here? Because I honestly don't care that much and will shut up about it now.
Not after reading that accidental home birth story.
If you'll excuse me, I need to go throw salt over my left shoulder and turn in a circle three times and spit...
(I feel the need to clarify, that is fucking bad ass, I'm just now terrified of the same thing happening to me. I will now be the woman who shows up at LDR because I have to poop and I'm worried it might be labour)
Omg guys. I am 7 hours into a 12 hour trip right now. Plus stopping every two hours to walk around. Only 4 hours and 45 minutes left to go. I'm gonna bust up in the hotel room like
@imalwaysme79 As someone who jumped back into the board in November after a three-ish month hiatus, life happens? People move, they lose internet, family dies, etc.
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Surprise BFP/MC February 2011 BFP May 16th 2016
EDD January 25 2017 DD born January 30 2017 Surprise BFP/MC April 2017
@imalwaysme79 As someone who jumped back into the board in November after a three-ish month hiatus, life happens? People move, they lose internet, family dies, etc.
You weren't one of those I was talking about...I recognize you It was more the people that have either never posted or posted less than a handful of times. Of course it's possible that these people changed their username which is why they're not recognizable.
So one of the engineers that i sit beside at work, his wife had a baby 4 weeks ago. He had 2 weeks paternity leave & this is now his 2nd week back at work. We were chatting earlier & he said that his wife makes him get up along with her and stay awake in the living room with him during the motn feed (shes breastfeeding) & has taken the stance that if she is up & awake with the baby then he also has to be up & awake with the baby. am i the only one who thinks this is a bit on the mean side given that he has to go to work all day & isnt actually involved in the actual feeding oftge baby?
@janefelicity I BFed and in the very beginning he would wake up with me to help me figure out BFing or to change her diaper but ... yeah once he went back to work he did not get up. It really didn't make sense for him to get up and change her diaper when I could do it and didn't have to work. However, I can attest to the loneliness and frustration of having to be the one who wakes up every time. I used to wish my husband would wake up even though I logically knew it didn't make sense.
So one of the engineers that i sit beside at work, his wife had a baby 4 weeks ago. He had 2 weeks paternity leave & this is now his 2nd week back at work. We were chatting earlier & he said that his wife makes him get up along with her and stay awake in the living room with him during the motn feed (shes breastfeeding) & has taken the stance that if she is up & awake with the baby then he also has to be up & awake with the baby. am i the only one who thinks this is a bit on the mean side given that he has to go to work all day & isnt actually involved in the actual feeding oftge baby?
I mean, on a certain level I get where she's coming from because guys often don't get the amount of work that goes into keeping a baby fed/happy/alive, especially in the newborn stage. But you know, that doesn't mean it's a good idea. It'll only breed resentment later on. Maybe she could ask him for help when he's home? Things that make life easier for her? Because having him stay up MOTN is kinda pointless...
So one of the engineers that i sit beside at work, his wife had a baby 4 weeks ago. He had 2 weeks paternity leave & this is now his 2nd week back at work. We were chatting earlier & he said that his wife makes him get up along with her and stay awake in the living room with him during the motn feed (shes breastfeeding) & has taken the stance that if she is up & awake with the baby then he also has to be up & awake with the baby. am i the only one who thinks this is a bit on the mean side given that he has to go to work all day & isnt actually involved in the actual feeding oftge baby?
I think that's completely unfair of her to ask of him. I mean, maybe she can have him change the diaper and then pass the baby off so he can go back to sleep? I am of the thinking though that if you're home on maternity leave you can deal with the sleeplessness while DH goes to work. Of course, there are nights when the baby cries all night and you need help, but not when you are just up feeding.
@Janefelicity part of me wonders if she's actually asking for help with something specific, or really having a tough time emotionally or something like that and he may not quite realize yet. If she's really asking him to just watch out of spite, yes, that's mean, but I wonder if there's more to the story. These things aren't always rational.
He is literally hanging together at the minute & i feel bad for him but obviously i have never been in the position before so wasnt sure what other peoples take on it would be. I get wanting to include your husband but it kind of seems a bit pointless and mean to expect him to sit up for a few hours every night when he has to put in a full day at work the next day.
Eta - he said hes asked if she needs help with something or if he can do anything but its literally she wants him up cause shes up.
Hoping for the best possible outcome for that march mama. I can't even imagine the stress they're going through. Praying her baby will as healthy as can be! ❤️
ETA: @kswiger06 I think she's 24 weeks, almost 25. How scary.
************* First BFP: 12/16/13 EDD: 08/23/14 Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
There's two Feb 2017 ladies on my German BMB who had their kids 1-2 weeks ago. I still can't think of our babies being outside babies. And now March is starting, too? All my thoughts to that mama....
@Janefelicity I had a rough time with my second and my husband stayed up with me. He would change her diaper so I didn't have to physically get out of bed everytime. He also kept me awake and would talk to me when I was having a bad moment and if she didn't go back down right way he would sometimes take her in the other room so I could get a break. She had GERD and some other issues and he figured if he was tired at work it was better than me being too exhausted and overwhelmed at home with the baby. There may be more going on that he's not telling you or doesn't fully get.
Not making it to the hospital is one of my big fears. Our new house is an hour from our hospital. People keep saying that it'll be fine since I'm a FTM an hour isn't too long but I feel like it's one of those things you never know... Plus what if I'm home and DH is at work and his parents aren't available for some reason.
I hope the March baby and mom are doing OK!
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
Re: both parents up for MOTN feedings...I'd maybe only ask H to do this if I were emotionally or physically struggling. I hope that mom isn't requiring his attendance out of spite, and then napping during the day while H struggles through work.
Awe you guys I am a big bag of cries right now. There's a Facebook page telling the story of that family from the March BMB, and I haven't finished it yet but have become very weepy. I sure hope everything turns out well for their family.
Awe you guys I am a big bag of cries right now. There's a Facebook page telling the story of that family from the March BMB, and I haven't finished it yet but have become very weepy. I sure hope everything turns out well for their family.
So many December babies have come early! And this March mama, I can't even imagine!
Today marks 1 year that Kirsten went to heaven. I remember my husband calling me at work to tell me and all I could think was "this can't be real". She was so sweet, bubbly, always wanted to help, and she had started running track and wanted to go into criminal justice like my husband. We miss her every day and I hope my baby girl, named after her, will grow up with the sweet grace that she always had.
@Janefelicity my H will wake up to change the baby and hand him to me to nurse just like he did with the first one. I mean maybe she's struggling to nurse and still needs emotional support or she's scared she's going to fall asleep and drop her baby. Her baby is tiny and she's probably alone all day and up all night give her some slack
Awe you guys I am a big bag of cries right now. There's a Facebook page telling the story of that family from the March BMB, and I haven't finished it yet but have become very weepy. I sure hope everything turns out well for their family.
I should not have started reading this at work.
All of this. Plus reading the at home delivery story... Feeling so thankful to be as far along as I am w/o complications.
I agree with PPs on both people being up MOTN to feed the baby. When DH goes back to work I fully expect to be the one waking up and getting the baby at night but if I'm really struggling I'm sure DH would rather be sleepy at work than to have me suffer all alone at night. I hope there aren't many people so cruel as to play the I'm awake so you have to be too card.
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
Re: Weekly Randoms (11/28)
2. Re: the birth announcement board - I don't think we need it stickied and I think we should AT LEAST wait until the new year to create it.
If you'll excuse me, I need to go throw salt over my left shoulder and turn in a circle three times and spit...
(I feel the need to clarify, that is fucking bad ass, I'm just now terrified of the same thing happening to me. I will now be the woman who shows up at LDR because I have to poop and I'm worried it might be labour)
BFP May 16th 2016
DD born January 30 2017
Surprise BFP/MC April 2017
Me: 37 - H: 39
TTC#1: 01/2016
BFP: 06/18/2016 - EDD: 02/20/2017 - Born: 01/27/2017
am i the only one who thinks this is a bit on the mean side given that he has to go to work all day & isnt actually involved in the actual feeding oftge baby?
Eta - he said hes asked if she needs help with something or if he can do anything but its literally she wants him up cause shes up.
ETA: @kswiger06 I think she's 24 weeks, almost 25. How scary.
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
I hope the March baby and mom are doing OK!
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
It looked like she'd been in the hospital for about a week or so I think? @Xstatic3333
So many December babies have come early! And this March mama, I can't even imagine!
Today marks 1 year that Kirsten went to heaven. I remember my husband calling me at work to tell me and all I could think was "this can't be real". She was so sweet, bubbly, always wanted to help, and she had started running track and wanted to go into criminal justice like my husband. We miss her every day and I hope my baby girl, named after her, will grow up with the sweet grace that she always had.
Married: 9/2013
Love my LEO!!
TTC #1: 9/2015
BFP: 2/1/16 MC 2/8/16 @ 5wks
BFP: 5/22/16 RAINBOW BABY
EDD: 1/30/2017 *IT'S A GIRL!!!!*
Kirsten Grace 1/20/17
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)