Why My Pregnant Self is Crying : 11/15

kjd291

Whats got the tears flowing this week, ladies?

RunBooRun

Yesterday, it was work. I had a very stressful day and burst into tears when I got home and told DH about it. Don't think it's necessarily pregnancy related though, I would I have cried pre-pregnancy too.

kjd291

I decided to play my guitar and sing some songs last night to relax, and I started bawling while i played. I feel so hormonal. 

Happyhiker

I'm at a conference listening to professional presentations. Someone told a story about the impact of an education program on a little girl. Totally lost it. 

Gators&BoSox

I got my Christmas card from St. Jude in the mail. I cry every time. I can't imagine having to go through a situation like that and I feel for those families.

jrde50eb12

We watched a show on ID about a kid napped baby. Lots of crying. DH had to go around checking windows to make sure they all lock securely so that come march we don't have to worry. And by we I mean just me. 

MrsFlemingo

Non-pregnancy related: we found out that my husband didn't get the new job that would change everything for us; new city, new house, huge pay bump, benefits, etc. We pretty much have been waiting 5 months and put the rest of our lives on hold, and we found out yesterday on our 2nd wedding anniversary. The real reason I cried? Knowing my husband had a long list of people who he would keep updated on his progress and that he had to tell them all "Got the call today and it wasn't a good one." and all I wanted was for him to get his moment to tell them "Oh yeah, about that job, I got it and all that waiting wasn't for nothing." Ah well, we are just trying to be positive, so ordering pizza and watching a movie softened the blow a little bit.

mecoats

@MrsFlemingo  Sorry to hear about the job  

Gators&BoSox

@MrsFlemingo sorry to hear hang in there

kjd291

@MrsFlemingo so so sorry that it didn't work out as you hoped hugs! And prayers that now that the waiting is done and life can stop being on hold you can make new plans and/or get excited about what's in store for your family in your current city and situation.  

dubcompanion

@MrsFlemingo I'm sorry the job didn't work out. I'm not one to use "everything happens for a reason," but I will say that one closed door means another one opens. And I hope the new door that opens will open sooner rather than later. Hugs!

ccook1211

My pregnant self is crying this week because I feel like my independence is slowly disappearing. I went to the store yesterday and a few minutes after getting there I had to leave because I couldn't walk with out pain and feeling like my legs were going to give out. I know this is all worth it when I see my 4 little babies, but this pregnancy is really taking its toll on my body like I never imagined. Needless to say I had a cry fest last night while my husband rubbed my back because I can't do anything on my own anymore and everything hurts!

Burrberrymum

@ccook1211 I can't even imagine with 4, but thinking positive thoughts for you and a few more months that's all, you got this! 

Gators&BoSox

@ccook1211 I'm still in awe of you! I'm just carrying one; I can only imagine how it could be to carry 4! I know it's so frustrating to not be able to do what you mentally feel fully capable of. Different situation but last pregnancy I had a constant bleeding issue and wasn't able to do the walking, lifting, or anything else I felt fully capable of. it would get me down. Just know that you are such a rock star and hero to all of us because of your amazing journey!! Hang in there mama 

julievdm12

@MrsFlemingo sorry to hear about the job disappointment. I truly believe what @dubcompanion said is true. One door closes and another opens. 

@ccook1211 hugs to you Mama! You are doing an amazing thing! 

jmacd22

I usually eat really healthy except on the weekends. This week DH was sick and didn't meal prep and I feel like complete crap for eating out the last few days. So I was basically crying for eating so bad. 

Burrberrymum

Because it's the weekend and I have to wait until Monday to hear back from DD's doctor with lab results. She has blood (no infections) , bilirubin,  protein, and very high ketones in her urine.. waiting on more answers and I couldn't even make it through my shift without crying. I got a voicemail from the nurse at her doctors office just checking in to see how she's feeling and reminded me they still have no further results but told me to use my mom instincts and head to the ER should I feel like something wasn't right this weekend. I bawled. So nice of her to check in but man it just made me feel like there was something really wrong and they just don't have the answers to give me yet. Partly me being hormonal, jumping to conclusions and partly valid crying because I'm a worried mom. 

kjd291

@Burrberrymum aw, mama! That's so hard! Prayers for you and DD over the weekend! Keep us updated!

serenity13

@Burrberrymum I'm so sorry! I'm sending positive thoughts & prayers that everything is ok & hope you will get some reassurance from the test results Monday! Hang in there!❤️

Gators&BoSox

@Burrberrymum will be thinking of you and your DD! Hoping for great new on Monday

serenity13

I cried last night because one of our close friends (DH's best friend since elem school) found out earlier in the week that his wife has been cheating on him with another friend we all know. (who's also married with kids) It's such a sad situation with their families feeling torn apart now... He came over last night & DH took him out for dinner/drinks to just be there for him. 
After DH came home I could tell he was emotional & processing thoughts like "what if this ever happened to us" etc... it brought up a lot of memories of my dad cheating on my mom over the years and DH knows I would never jeopardize our lives like that & cheat on him, but I could tell his thoughts still started to go there as he talked to me about it. He's always had a very firm stand on loyalty and the things he said last night were reassuring of that, but still...nobody ever would've expected his friend's wife to be capable of that...just so sad for everyone involved. I'll never understand how people can cheat on their spouses & families.

kjd291

@serenity13 Ugh! Lady, That's so tough. I'm sorry for the whole messy situation!  Its so sad that people get caught up in lust and selfishness forgetting how many they can hurt in something like this.  Its so hard to see it go on around you and not ask those "what if's" but I'm glad you and your DH can talk about it.   And good for him for being there for his buddy.  Prayers that this mess doesn't keep you stuck in a bad place mentally! 

ShaunaT25

My fiancé left me for another woman on Thursday. With no warning.  No signs.  We just bought a new house and a new car....  Bunch of new furniture.  And then he just left. In the middle of the day. And I've never been so lost or confused or hurt in my entire life. 

Gators&BoSox

@ShaunaT25 I am so so sorry. I wish I had something more constructive or comforting to say but I am at a loss.  I pray that whatever you need comes your way. 

EALasagna45

Oh my gosh ladies all of this stuff is super heavy. </3 

@Burrberrymum I'm sorry to hear about your DD. I'm hoping you receieve some better news and answers on Monday! I hope this weekend is uneventful for your family. 

@serenity13 That's so sad and such an unfortunate situation for both families. Things like that always pull at my heartstrings because like you, I know the pain after watching my parents do the same and watching our family dynamic change forever. 

@ShaunaT25 I am so incredibly sorry. I wish I had some eloquent words that could make you feel better. I can't imagine how you're feeling right now. Do you have any family or friends you can stay with? 

serenity13

@ShaunaT25 I'm so sad that happened to you, especially out of the blue and after you both invested so much into your future together! Just awful Sending so many hugs and prayers your way...we're all here to support you anyway we can & I hope you can find strength in yourself to take things one day at a time now & continue to push forward...❤️

lilies5/28/06

@ShaunaT25 So sorry that you have tovbe going through this. There isn't anything I can say to help. My T&P are with you.
@Burrberrymum Prayers that your daugther feels better soon and that you get good results/news soon.
@ccook1211It is very hard  and frustrating to lose your independence hang in there the results will be worth it in the end. You are amazing carrying 4 LO's.
@serenity13 Sorry to hear about your friends and the after effects that will come along for the families involved. it is a very sad situation.
@MrsFlemingo sorry about your husband's job situation. Like the above posters mentioned above when one door closes the other one opens.


Why I'm crying this  weekis because of my oldest son and work
I work in oncology which I can normally handle well but since the extra hormones I have been crying alot with work realted stuff. Thsi week  cried for one of my pt's.

My oldest son is in 8th grade and will be graduating this year (so that in itself has me emotional all the time as he is no longer a baby) he is doing great and all his teachers raved about him in his teacher conference this week. Today he is taking a HS placement test to get into different HS's and he's been prepping for awhile because he really wants this and has been stressed so I've been crying about this as well.

jmacd22

@ShaunaT25 I am so sorry to hear that. I wasn't in the exact situation but I have been through a divorce and it ended up being the best decision for me. It was tough going through it but after it was all over, the days of crying turned into great days. I'm now with someone 1000 times better. T&P to you in this time. 

Burrberrymum

@ShaunaT25 I'm so sorry you're going through such a tough situation, thoughts and prayers for better days ahead. 

Spartanrd4

My college football team had a tough loss today by 1 point and I just got super emotional about it because our season this year has been a disaster after having awesome seasons the past like 6 seasons. I just love my team so much and I'm pregnant/hormonal and it just made me a little teary today to see them lose like this....and I never cry over sports ever. 

julievdm12

@Burrberrymum @serenity13 @ShaunaT25
thinking of and praying for each of you ladies and what you're having to go through! 

dubcompanion

@Burrberrymum I hope your daughter feels better soon and that you get your results ASAP tomorrow. Keep us posted. 

@serenity13 It's upsetting to see any of our friends so hurt, and it's definitely understandable that it impacts your DH to such an extent. Even though it's a tough situation to handle, he's lucky to have a great wife like you, which will in turn enable him to be a strong support system for his friend.

@ShaunaT25 I'm at a loss of words and so sorry you're going through this. I hope you've got nearby friends and family you can turn to. Sending you T&P. 

Spartanrd4

Looking back I feel so silly about getting so upset about a football game when other people are dealing with so much right now! I am so sorry for everything you guys are going through @Burrberrymum @serenity13 @ShaunaT25

dubcompanion

@Spartanrd4 ::hugs:: It's not a pain Olympics, and I'm sure others would agree!

Last night, I cried because DH and I argued over my moodiness. I feel bad about being so down lately, but I'd change it if I could. I've promised to try to breathe before I react to something I'm frustrated over something he's done/didn't do. It's seriously all so trivial but it all adds up in my mind to him not being responsible/accountable/thoughtful enough as a soon-to-be dad. One day, I hope to laugh over what I've gotten upset over - though secretly I also feel some of my concerns are valid.

kap1988

I cried last night because of Pam and Jim's wedding episode. I cried today because of an article about a family who fostered a little boy from the time he was 6 months, had to give him back to his mother when he was 2, and then a month later she relinquished her rights and they got to adopt I was ugly crying at my desk at work.

Spartanrd4

It's okay @dubcompanion it's hard to not beat ourselves up about things....but hormones are no joke! Today DH on his day off painted the whole nursery (I just told him to tape all the trim) and instead of being appreciative of his helpfulness.... I initially was annoyed that he did it without me. I just want to make sure everything looks good and if I'm not there to supervise, I feel out of control. Is that weird? Later I calmed down and thanked him for his hard work! We are only human after all I keep telling myself

kjd291

Aww dubs @dubcompanion
It's SO hard. DH and I fought all the time about my hormones last pregnancy--which just made me more upset! 
Vicous cycle.  Poor dudes just don't get it. This time around has been better, but I'm not sure if that's because I know what to expect, or he's just complaining about me less.... probably a bit of both.  Hope he can be more understanding of the ups and downs you're going through!! 

dubcompanion

@Spartanrd4 We're pregnant humans, to boot Tonight I was annoyed when I got home and found the plate of cat food on our living room table. I wasn't appreciative that DH had fed the cats before he left for work, so that they'd be comatose when I got home - bellies full and not all whiny and begging at my feet. No, I went straight to being annoyed that the cat plate was dirty AND it was somewhere that the cats should not be associating with food. DH is only human too... and I  have to remind myself of that even more so! (He'd fed them on the floor but had placed the nearly empty plate on the table with the intent to clean and forgot. I'm trying to not imagine my cats on our nice table, pigging out.....) Grrrrr

ETA - thanks for the kind words @kjd291! We've texted a bit back and forth tonight, and I think we're both a bit affected by the stress of holidays and the sudden super cold weather. We're both going to work on being more patient with each other. Ah, first time parenthood. Glad to hear things gets overall smoother with subsequent pregnancies! I try to remember it's not so bad, or the human race wouldn't have more than 1 child with the same partner!  

kjd291

@dubcompanion NP!  Glad you can be open and communicative about it all together!  Definitely a learning/growing process for you both individually and in a relationship. Parenthood is no easy task, nor is the process of becoming one!  Yes he's human, cut him slack, but don't forget to cut yourself some too!!! 

mecoats

I cried this morning over the 5 children who died in the bus accident in Chattanooga.  I can't imagine being a parent to any of those children.  

Gators&BoSox

me too @mecoats ...I gave DS an extra big hug this morning