That's what I figured. It's really hard to find newborn sized booties too--it seems like they're all 3+ months sized (also, I've heard a lot of people throw the same shade at booties saying the baby will just kick them off but I don't really get how when they're the kind that wrap around the ankle)
@canavara It is true that baby socks magically disappear. With DD1, I hardly used them because before you know it, one's missing. I would invest in footie PJs over baby socks.
DD1: EDD 12/21/11 - Born 11/24/11 at 36w1d DD2: EDD 1/16/17 - Born 1/12/17 at 39w3d
I just finished detagging allllll his clothes to be washed. On the last outfit, I noticed the inside tag said to turn the onesie inside out. Is this something you did with your baby's clothes? I unzipped/unbuttoned everything assuming that was enough. Do I really have to go back and flip all his clothing inside out?
@TinaBelcher Do you already know if there are LCs through the hospital in your area? Or if there is a LLL or other similar source for breastfeeding support? Knowing the LCs at the hospital were available by phone and appointment made a huge difference for me. I ended up going in to see them four or five times in the first few weeks to find out why my supply dropped and DS was struggling so much. I just knew that something was wrong but not what. I think knowing what resources are available might take some of the anxiety away once you're in the thick of it. I'm right there with you on feeding multiples. DS was really hard in the beginning and I'm finding the idea of two to be a little daunting and overwhelming. But, I believe that we can make it work. And that if it doesn't work out that's okay too.
@canavara my daughter had a set of trumpette socks. They come with 6 pairs and were the only thing that fit. So I'm going to say 6 pairs? I dressed her mostly in footie outfits because socks on a newborn are stupid.
My MIL put together a jungle themed vine thing for our shower with hanging socks so I have about 40 pairs ahhh! I was told a good tip though.... to put them together in a lingerie bag or mesh bag in the wash so that they all stay together. Whatever works!
My MIL put together a jungle themed vine thing for our shower with hanging socks so I have about 40 pairs ahhh! I was told a good tip though.... to put them together in a lingerie bag or mesh bag in the wash so that they all stay together. Whatever works!
Yes!! this is what we do to keep little socks together
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My MIL put together a jungle themed vine thing for our shower with hanging socks so I have about 40 pairs ahhh! I was told a good tip though.... to put them together in a lingerie bag or mesh bag in the wash so that they all stay together. Whatever works!
Yes! Lingerie bag for the win! This is the only way we keep as many socks together as we do. Still can't stop the toddler from take them off and hiding them randomly throughout the house, but the ones that go into the wash come out of the wash together.
Ok I'm going through about to do my registry completion discount here in a bit. I'm wondering should I get a second car seat base for my husband's car? Also, since I'll be getting a discount, should I get lots of those nip pads?
@aishmc yes to the car-seat base if he'll be doing a lot of driving with the baby. Those NB bases are bitches to put in and out. It gets easier with actual carseats, but those travel bases suck. We bought two and it was great!
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Calling all c-section moms! I got word today that if Henry looks like the giant we think he is then I'll be having a c-section on 12/29. My H will be going back to work on 1/16. Now, I'm freaking the eff out about how I'll manage 2 kids, especially getting Owen to and from school, just 2 1/2 weeks after major surgery. Anyone have any info about how their recovery was at that point? Will I likely still be on heavy meds and unable to drive? Will I be able to lift an infant car seat? My mom will inconveniently be on a cruise the very week that H goes back to work, and I can't think of any other support people that would be available when I need it that week. My MIL can come help me around the house but she has mild cerebral palsy and cannot care for a newborn on her own (she can't carry them because she uses a walker) and I don't feel comfortable with her driving Owen to school. I'm afraid I won't be able to make it work.
@adorebella I don't think you will be able to carry the infant careseat very well at that point. However, you should be able to drive your son to school. Would your MIL be able to watch LO while you run him to school? Or maybe you could just put the careseat in the car and then just carry your LO out and in. You could also discuss this with your dr.
@adorebella, can another mom at school help you out? I have to take my oldest to preschool too and will likely have another mom help me, either by watching LO in the car while I take my son inside, or have one of them take my son in for me once we get there. Like pp said you could always leave the infant seat in the car and just carry baby to the car.
@aishmc eh to nipple pads. My boobs hated them so I ended up using washable cloth ones. You can always buy a few boxes and return them later though. Also, lansinoh nipple pad boxes fit breast milk storage bags PERFECTLY. Life hack.
@adorebella oh my! Goodness I feel for you. Lifting the car seat seems way too heavy. I don't know where you live, but I know where I am, it would be too cold to remove a baby from the car seat in the winter. I second having another mom help. Or, maybe a babysitter. Does he go to school everyday?
So STM+ mamas. The closer I get to giving birth the more I feel like I don't want other people people to hold my baby. Like the thought of it makes me anxious. Not becuase I think they would drop him or anything, but just because he's literally always been with me so the thought of him being with anyone else just doesn't make any sense. Rationally I know that's not good and I really do want him to feel comfortable being with other people. Plus, I know my family is so excited to meet him and I really do want to see them hold him. If you had similar feelings - How did you snap out of this?
@ceclarlinetlo I didn't snap out of it. I got a lot of crap for it too. Your baby has been a part of your body for 9 months. It's terrifying to imagine that detachment. There is nothing wrong with you. It's healthy and makes tons of sense from an evolutionary perspective. I physically could not leave my baby. Part of it can be chalked up to post partum anxiety...I guess. I let other people hold her, but I stayed in the room. Do what makes you comfortable. I got bullied into leaving my 2 week old for 30 minutes while I picked up my husband from the train, and felt like I left an arm or a leg back at my house. It was a mistake. I won't leave my newborn this time until I'm ready. You've been through a LOT to get this baby. Do what feels right
Edit: I didn't leave her for more than an hour until she was 15 months old, and I had to go for a d&c
@ceclarlinetlo within the first month I didn't leave my baby's side and was always in the same house as him--a lot of times I was sleeping and my parents were watching and would wake me when he was hungry. (My hubby didn't have any leave time with our first) While it's perfectly normal and your hormones play a lot into this feeling it's also good to a) get sleep while you can and b) when you feel comfortable enough leave your baby with a trusted person and go on a mini-date night. It's good for both you and your SO (or friends). We went to Bonefish grill. I had my favorite cocktail and favorite meal. My husband and I talked about the last month, our lives and were able to reconnect as a couple. Even though it was short and sweet it was much needed and revitalizing.
@ceclarlinetlo I think it's pretty normal to feel that way. Like others have said, this little being has been with you for 9 months! I actually feel less willing to let people hold this new baby than my first. I think part of it is knowing he might be our last baby and I just want to soak everything up!
Theres no right time for when when you should leave baby for the first time, it's completely different for everyone. You'll know what feels right for you.
It is hard to leave a newborn, or even let another person hold or care for them.
I'm a working mom, so I had to leave him after about 16 weeks to go back to work. (I actually got longer than I would have because I had medical problems and wasn't released to go back to work.) I left him with my mother though, so I was completely comfortable with it. He didn't go to daycare until he was almost 2 years old.
Daycare is what gives me the most anxiety with babies. I'm not sure how long I'll be able to keep this one out, but I'm hoping at least 8 months, if not longer.
@ceclarlinetlo it was actually funny looking back on it but I was totally comfortable handing my baby to ladies from our church but family members holding her gave me crazy anxiety and I never wanted to hand her over but DH was the opposite, he was okay handing her to his family but didn't want anyone else even hardly looking at her. It faded as she got older, to a degree, I still have people who when they go to pick her up (nieces and nephews mostly because omg you're a child and you're gonna drop her!) And I clench.
@ceclarlinetlo I was the same as you and PP last time and I'm already starting to get the feelings back this time. I also got pressured into leaving my daughter at 2 weeks old to go out to dinner for my b-day (she was born 11/11 and my b-day is 11/21). I was miserable the whole time and we left because I started crying while eating my entree. It took about a year for me to be comfortable leaving her. I like to think it's normal biological protectiveness over them when they're at their most vulnerable.
So STM+ mamas. The closer I get to giving birth the more I feel like I don't want other people people to hold my baby. Like the thought of it makes me anxious. Not becuase I think they would drop him or anything, but just because he's literally always been with me so the thought of him being with anyone else just doesn't make any sense. Rationally I know that's not good and I really do want him to feel comfortable being with other people. Plus, I know my family is so excited to meet him and I really do want to see them hold him. If you had similar feelings - How did you snap out of this?
Totally normal. And I was WAY more nervous about letting DH's family hold her than my own. He has some very rambunctious (and super immature) younger teenage cousins and when DD was 4 weeks old we had to go to a 4th of July party with them - I wouldn't let them anywhere near her. Thankfully DH agreed with me so no one gave me a hard time about it, but I definitely got some side eye for it. But my personal opinion is that it's YOUR baby and if any germs get spread (which was another concern with his family for me; his mom's side is always sick and they never think what they have is contagious), you're the one who has to deal with the sick kid. Go with your gut and if you're not comfortable with something, don't let it happen. It might not make you popular, but for a recovering mom, I think peace of mind is so much more important than pleasing other people.
So STM+ mamas. The closer I get to giving birth the more I feel like I don't want other people people to hold my baby. Like the thought of it makes me anxious. Not becuase I think they would drop him or anything, but just because he's literally always been with me so the thought of him being with anyone else just doesn't make any sense. Rationally I know that's not good and I really do want him to feel comfortable being with other people. Plus, I know my family is so excited to meet him and I really do want to see them hold him. If you had similar feelings - How did you snap out of this?
Totally normal. And I was WAY more nervous about letting DH's family hold her than my own. He has some very rambunctious (and super immature) younger teenage cousins and when DD was 4 weeks old we had to go to a 4th of July party with them - I wouldn't let them anywhere near her. Thankfully DH agreed with me so no one gave me a hard time about it, but I definitely got some side eye for it. But my personal opinion is that it's YOUR baby and if any germs get spread (which was another concern with his family for me; his mom's side is always sick and they never think what they have is contagious), you're the one who has to deal with the sick kid. Go with your gut and if you're not comfortable with something, don't let it happen. It might not make you popular, but for a recovering mom, I think peace of mind is so much more important than pleasing other people.
to the bolded: wtf is up with people like this? My mom's friend's family is like this. They are sick often but NEVER contagious. Except that you get the same thing they had, but noooo they didn't give it to you because they aren't contagious. It kills me.
Also, @ceclarlinetlo I feel so much of this. I don't know how I'm going to be passing my baby off to other people. It's already giving me a lot of anxiety.
So STM+ mamas. The closer I get to giving birth the more I feel like I don't want other people people to hold my baby. Like the thought of it makes me anxious. Not becuase I think they would drop him or anything, but just because he's literally always been with me so the thought of him being with anyone else just doesn't make any sense. Rationally I know that's not good and I really do want him to feel comfortable being with other people. Plus, I know my family is so excited to meet him and I really do want to see them hold him. If you had similar feelings - How did you snap out of this?
Totally normal. And I was WAY more nervous about letting DH's family hold her than my own. He has some very rambunctious (and super immature) younger teenage cousins and when DD was 4 weeks old we had to go to a 4th of July party with them - I wouldn't let them anywhere near her. Thankfully DH agreed with me so no one gave me a hard time about it, but I definitely got some side eye for it. But my personal opinion is that it's YOUR baby and if any germs get spread (which was another concern with his family for me; his mom's side is always sick and they never think what they have is contagious), you're the one who has to deal with the sick kid. Go with your gut and if you're not comfortable with something, don't let it happen. It might not make you popular, but for a recovering mom, I think peace of mind is so much more important than pleasing other people.
to the bolded: wtf is up with people like this? My mom's friend's family is like this. They are sick often but NEVER contagious. Except that you get the same thing they had, but noooo they didn't give it to you because they aren't contagious. It kills me.
Also, @ceclarlinetlo I feel so much of this. I don't know how I'm going to be passing my baby off to other people. It's already giving me a lot of anxiety.
It's always "allergies." I told DH that from now on if someone has "allergies" they're not going near DD. I kid you not, every single time she's around these people she gets sick within a week.
After two weeks, I don't know that you will need the medication. After my c-section I switched to Tylenol about a week and a half later because the other medication kept making me fall asleep. I would advise against lifiting the baby in the carseat. If you can manage, I would take the infant to the car and insert the infant into the carseat while it is in the vehicle.
I had a premie sized kid the first time, and we only had about 4 footed pj's for him to wear. And yes, we did laundry every day until he grew into some newborn sized outfits.
@ThePax89 I would think that at least 1 per day, so at least 7 is good. I have sleepers and nightgown and 1 piece outfits that I plan on alternating between.
@ThePax89 I think I have like 10. I still haven't gone through them but A spit up so much we went through a few a day, and she was in NB for about 6 weeks.
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DS born 9/4/12
MMC July 2015
MMC January 2016
DS2: 11/5/14
BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
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PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
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BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏
Edit: I didn't leave her for more than an hour until she was 15 months old, and I had to go for a d&c
Theres no right time for when when you should leave baby for the first time, it's completely different for everyone. You'll know what feels right for you.
I'm a working mom, so I had to leave him after about 16 weeks to go back to work. (I actually got longer than I would have because I had medical problems and wasn't released to go back to work.) I left him with my mother though, so I was completely comfortable with it. He didn't go to daycare until he was almost 2 years old.
Daycare is what gives me the most anxiety with babies. I'm not sure how long I'll be able to keep this one out, but I'm hoping at least 8 months, if not longer.
Also, @ceclarlinetlo I feel so much of this. I don't know how I'm going to be passing my baby off to other people. It's already giving me a lot of anxiety.