TWW Monday 10/31

adirat

lboalboh said:

baileygomez said:

@adirat: You can be whatever you want to be. Your choice.

"Oh awesome! I choose to be pregnant."

@adirat A few weeks ago, my therapist told me to "choose to be pregnant" and stop worrying about charting, temping, CM, CP and all of that "nonsense." It will all just happen magically. Maybe this is a new trend... 

(Also, quote function wouldn't work today. Sorry.)

Yeah, I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say "not wanting it enough" isn't the issue! I'm laughing but that is appalling and I'm sorry your therapist fed you that bullshit. 

@wabash15 You get me. Ditto everything you said. And now like @saralee797 I'm going to peace out before the next crazy thing happens. 

mrsegan13

*Lurking from Benched*
@lboalboh, time for a new therapist? I think your therapist should be supportive of your TTC choices. It is a very common misconception that "stress" causes women to not be able to get pregnant and that "charting is stressful." I'm sorry your health professional is falling into this line of thinking because it's really outdated. 

eggplantface

@AtlasJae It's incredibly insulting to dismiss someone's feelings, especially a woman's, as "raging hormones." I already deal with eye rolls and dismissals in my male-dominated profession whenever I show the slightest emotion. I don't need it here. My anger and everyone else's is legitimate because of what you and OP said. Hormones have nothing to do with it. 

NYTino24

Ugh, what is wrong with people? You don't think that someone who is new would think about what they say before they say it. This is a sisterhood and despite some people trying to bust in, I don't really see them lasting around here with attitudes like that. There's strength in numbers, ladies. 

PS I've said it before and I'll say it again, I think it is down right rude to jump right into the TWW posts and hang out, killing time for a few days until you can test. Maybe it's an UO, but if people gave that common courtesy, we could avoid a lot of unnecessary drama.

jess0211

Just had a chance to sit down and catch up.
@SaphireSweetie88 I totally do that with my cats too!!!
@beachbunnyxo123 I wish I could have dressed up for work! So fun!
@BertieMeetsGertie those muffins sound DELICIOUS!
@rainbowturtles I am sorry you burned yourself and are feeling crabby. I am right there with ya. Hugs!
@Nelbetron pretty sure my DH would also say my Type A habits. High-five for type A girls
@swimsister sorry about the BFN
@AtlasJae sorry about the BFN

Month/Cycle: 1/1

CD/DPO: 35/15

Timing: -5,-4, 0, +1

Testing: Today (2nd time) BFN.

R/R: Rant: **Possible TW** (hope I did this right!)

So DH and I have officially only been trying for a month, however we wanted kids sooner but had to put it off for a variety of reasons (one very scary health reason) so I guess there is some frustration from that. Anyway, today I mentioned to a good friend my confusion about my cycle and she laugh and said when her husband and she decided to start trying they got pregnant that month. I know I haven't been trying long but my heart sank a little. The first thing I thought of was you ladies and wanted to immediately vent. Of course I was at work so it had to wait.  Just seemed a bit inconsiderate of her to me.  But I am grumpy and crabby so maybe I'm overly sensitive today. I am willing to admit everything is irritating me today (hence my wine and cookies for dinner!).

**END TW**

CS/Q: Nada. Still worried about this spotting, but waiting it out.

GTKY: What is a unique or quirky habit you have? Haha, I am sure DH could name a million. I have to park on the same floor in the parking garage at work. I hate belly buttons and feet. They both freak me out!

SaphireSweetie88

@NYTino24

I don't mind people jumping into the TWW threads as long as their respectful and continue to participate elsewhere on the board. I am assuming you're referring to the ones that aren't / don't? I agree with you about this being a sisterhood though! 

slaven

Lurking from Benched/TTA

 

 

dinosaur

Month/Cycle: 6/6

CD/DPO: 23/8

Timing: -5, -3, -2, -1, +1

Testing: Wednesday 

R/R: Rant - My annoying co-worker is back from her vacation  
Rave - Halloween!!!!

CS/Q: None

GTKY: What is a unique or quirky habit you have? I can't think of anything right now  

flashley-2

Off to WTO in the am ! Best of luck to all of you ladies ❤️

CrystalPDX

@FLAshley sorry to hear! Enjoy one of the spooky cocktails from the thread last weekend. Hugs!

flashley-2

@CrystalPDX I settled for a rum and Diet Pepsi. Thanks girl !

dinosaur

@beachbunnyxo123- I also turn down the radio!!

@rainbowturtles- Sorry to hear about your hand

SaphireSweetie88

@FLAshley  - Sorry to hear you're moving to WTO. Hugs

AtlasJae

Good morning beautiful ladies. Just want to apologize for my insensitive comments yesterday. I really do feel bad about all of it. If I could I would had write each of you a letter to apologize. I'm an idiot and take full responsibility for my actions. Just because I don't find my comments offensive doesn't mean someone else won't. I honestly thought what I wrote was funny but all I did was end up offending a few people and for that I am truly sorry. Please forgive me for my insensitive comments. Lesson learned and it wont happen again.

[Deleted User]

Meg920 said:

I'm sending hugs to everyone I offended. I'm sincerely sorry and I won't be posting anything of that nature again. As noted multiple other times, I was sorry. You can QFP me or whatever you want to do to prove the point. I obviously already got the point and if you truly thing it's going to help others, then fine. 

Thank you for accepting my apologies and moving on. I'm not here to upset anyone and I'm truly regretful to those of you that I hurt. 

So I didn't want to continue to egg on the drama, but I thought it was fair to everyone on here to see that this apology was in no way sincere.  @Meg920 went off to her BMB and called us hostile again - and said a bunch of other really ugly stuff.  I removed my love tit from her apology.  
 https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/89397386/#Comment_89397386

doula-mama

@antoto Wow - I'm glad you shared that... It's kinda sad how people will act on an anonymous forum. At least we know... 

adirat

@antoto
Ugh.

Well, I am hostile to horrible people in defense of my friends. 

Like Beyonce, I ain't sorry. 

ChefRamsay

antoto said:

Meg920 said:

I'm sending hugs to everyone I offended. I'm sincerely sorry and I won't be posting anything of that nature again. As noted multiple other times, I was sorry. You can QFP me or whatever you want to do to prove the point. I obviously already got the point and if you truly thing it's going to help others, then fine. 

Thank you for accepting my apologies and moving on. I'm not here to upset anyone and I'm truly regretful to those of you that I hurt. 

So I didn't want to continue to egg on the drama, but I thought it was fair to everyone on here to see that this apology was in no way sincere.  @Meg920 went off to her BMB and called us hostile again - and said a bunch of other really ugly stuff.  I removed my love tit from her apology.  
 https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/89397386/#Comment_89397386

I'm always surprised how people think their comments on a different board are private  

To the bolded ; you can do that?! 

Basherbaby

@ChefRamsay Just click on love it again and it will remove it!

WitandWhimsy

Ugh okay I know I have been absent from TTGP for a while but I'm coming out of the woodwork because @Meg920 pissed me off.

@meg920 GTFO with that shit. Your comment on your BMB was incredibly rude. You act like a lot of chose to have fertility issues, but we don't. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. 

Nobody here was hostile towards you for mentioning posting your BFP was inappropriate. Sometimes showing a little bit of sensitivity is just common sense. How much sensitivity do you think we get outside of the bump? Not a lot. Otherwise we wouldn't have people mentioning a fucking therapist told them to "just stop thinking about it and it will happen!!!11"

Just remember these aren't private forums and everything is public. 

SaphireSweetie88

antoto said:

Meg920 said:

I'm sending hugs to everyone I offended. I'm sincerely sorry and I won't be posting anything of that nature again. As noted multiple other times, I was sorry. You can QFP me or whatever you want to do to prove the point. I obviously already got the point and if you truly thing it's going to help others, then fine. 

Thank you for accepting my apologies and moving on. I'm not here to upset anyone and I'm truly regretful to those of you that I hurt. 

So I didn't want to continue to egg on the drama, but I thought it was fair to everyone on here to see that this apology was in no way sincere.  @Meg920 went off to her BMB and called us hostile again - and said a bunch of other really ugly stuff.  I removed my love tit from her apology.  
 https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/comment/89397386/#Comment_89397386

@Meg920

I call bullshit on your apology. If you were sincerely sorry you would have apologised and moved on and either left this board or become a productive member of it. Instead you thought you could pretend to be sorry and then bash us on another board. GTFO and don't come back.