Yikes. I avoided the board "Trouble trying to conceive" precisely for this reason. But this board is not "trouble trying to get pregnant." It's "trying to get pregnant". So where should people go who are trying to get pregnant who may not necessarily have as many obstacles to overcome go? My point is, I'm wondering if it exists or if it would be possible to create one.
Babies on the brain? It's not a very active board.
I really think the hostility is unwarranted here. But I've received your message loud and clear. I can't imagine the struggle you all have to endure, and I still wish you the best of luck in having babies.
@sopranoali This board is for ANYONE trying to get pregnant, whether they're having trouble or not. But common decency suggests you should be aware of the your audience and what might offend or hurt people. A little lurking would have told you that mentioning Shettles (or any kind of gender swaying) would hit a nerve here.
<blockquote class="Quote"> <div class="QuoteAuthor"><a href="/profile/sopranoali">sopranoali</a> said:</div> <div class="QuoteText">Yikes. I avoided the board "Trouble trying to conceive" precisely for this reason. But this board is not "trouble trying to get pregnant." It's "trying to get pregnant". So where should people go who are trying to get pregnant who may not necessarily have as many obstacles to overcome go? My point is, I'm wondering if it exists or if it would be possible to create one.
Babies on the brain? It's not a very active board.
I really think the hostility is unwarranted here. But I've received your message loud and clear. I can't imagine the struggle you all have to endure, and I still wish you the best of luck in having babies. </div> </blockquote>
QFP
And you know you are such a special snowflake immune to suffering any of these "obstacles" how exactly? Cos I could have saved myself a year and a half of trying and jumped right through all this grief if I had your crystal ball. Hand it over.
@sopranoali This board is for ANYONE trying to get pregnant, whether they're having trouble or not. But common decency suggests you should be aware of the your audience and what might offend or hurt people. A little lurking would have told you that mentioning Shettles (or any kind of gender swaying) would hit a nerve here.
READ. THE. ROOM. It's not all about you, precious.
Formerly ahrains Me:
42 | DH: 45 TTC since Dec. 2014 BFP #1 Oct. 2015 | MC Nov. 2015 Sept. 2016: FSH, AMH, E2, TSH, etc. all normal. | Oct. 2016: HSG all clear! |
Nov. 2016: Hysteroscopy & H's SA both great results Dec. 2016 - Follistim + TI BFP #2 12/25/16 | Natural MC 2/13/17 | False BFP leads to D&C 4/20/17 | Emergency D&C + hysteroscopy 5/16/17 The road probably ends here
Yikes. I avoided the board "Trouble trying to conceive" precisely for this reason. But this board is not "trouble trying to get pregnant." It's "trying to get pregnant". So where should people go who are trying to get pregnant who may not necessarily have as many obstacles to overcome go? My point is, I'm wondering if it exists or if it would be possible to create one.
Babies on the brain? It's not a very active board.
I really think the hostility is unwarranted here. But I've received your message loud and clear. I can't imagine the struggle you all have to endure, and I still wish you the best of luck in having babies.
Hahahahahahahahahahahahah.....that is really funny...I am just dying laughing over here. Thank GOD you have no obstacles, you are right, you don't belong here with all of us and our obstacles. Hilarious.....
TTC #1 - December 2015 Me:31 H:31 DX: MFI - 1% Morph 12/16 -IVF #1 - Antagonist Protocol w/ Lupron trigger ER - 11 retrieved- 9 mature - 7 fertilized - 3 sent for PGS on day 5 - No normals (1 XXX Embryo - may use in future) 3/17 - IVF #2 - Antagonist Protocol w/ HCG trigger ER- 13 retrieved - 11 mature - 8 fertilized - 2 sent for PGS on day 5 -2 Normal FET #1 - 5/16/17 - BFP! - Beta #1 5/25 - 156 - Beta #2 5/30 - 2562 - Beta #3 6/1 - 5191!
I'm no special snowflake. I'm a control freak to be sure and nothing showed me a little humility more than that rapid onset pre-eclampsia and my midwife trying to help me process that this c-section may be too late and my baby could be growing up without a mom. My husband not even having his scrubs on and wasn't even in the room yet for the c-section. I'm sure I'll get an earful of how this trauma and the fact that they actually had to use paddles to resuscitate me really isn't that big of a deal and I should be happy because I got a baby out of it. Of course I am, but pregnancy is not a walk in the park for "people like me". Mic drop at me all you want but it just causes major eye roll and reflection. When my 2014 BMB told me in our facebook group that the bump had crashed and burned in a major way because everyone was offended at everything, I tried not to believe them, but you're making it hard.
@Zoey1019 "Hahahahahahahahahahahahah.....that is really funny...I am just dying laughing over here. Thank GOD you have no obstacles, you are right, you don't belong here with all of us and our obstacles. Hilarious.....
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"Don't have as many obstacles" does not mean no obstacles.
@sopranoali my oldest daughter was born via c-section, not breathing. Luckily they resuscitated her and she's perfectly healthy. I get that your birth was traumatic and I'm sorry. But that doesn't give you the right to ignore or dismiss other women's struggles.
@sopranoali my oldest daughter was born via c-section, not breathing. Luckily they resuscitated her and she's perfectly healthy. I get that your birth was traumatic and I'm sorry. But that doesn't give you the right to ignore or dismiss other women's struggles.
I am glad your daughter is okay. I am not ignoring or dismissing anyone's struggles. But I am feeling dismissed simply for mentioning that I am TTC. I have tried to politely ask where I should go such that I am at a board where I can discuss things that I'd like to discuss. That's what a message board is for. If I can't discuss things I'd like to discuss, clearly I'm at the wrong board. I've heard replies from fuck you gifs to "this IS a board for everyone TTC!". So....
<blockquote class="Quote"> <div class="QuoteAuthor"><a href="/profile/sopranoali">sopranoali</a> said:</div> <div class="QuoteText">I'm no special snowflake. I'm a control freak to be sure and nothing showed me a little humility more than that rapid onset pre-eclampsia and my midwife trying to help me process that this c-section may be too late and my baby could be growing up without a mom. My husband not even having his scrubs on and wasn't even in the room yet for the c-section. I'm sure I'll get an earful of how this trauma and the fact that they actually had to use paddles to resuscitate me really isn't that big of a deal and I should be happy because I got a baby out of it. Of course I am, but pregnancy is not a walk in the park for "people like me". Mic drop at me all you want but it just causes major eye roll and reflection. When my 2014 BMB told me in our facebook group that the bump had crashed and burned in a major way because everyone was offended at everything, I tried not to believe them, but you're making it hard. </div> </blockquote> <img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/p5/wazgt45fjyoq.gif" alt=""> Uhm. I'm sorry? We. are making it hard. for You. I assure you, nothing here has crashed or burned. But yes, you will get flamed for posting that kind of crap here because we are a community that is fiercely protective of its members. We don't know you from Eve. So to go throwing a traumatic L&D story in everyone's faces like it gives you a pass to be a bitch is tacky as hell.
32 years old (both H and I) Dating 7/2008 Married 7/2014 H Type I Diabetic TTC 1/2016
12/2016
mental break from TTC-NTNP
1/10/2017 initial appt with RE (all BW results WNL) 1/17/2017
SA DX Virtual Azoo (3 sperm 0%morph 0%motility) 1/18/2017
STP tubes clear 2/1/2017 initial appt with Urologist
2/15/2017 DX H Robertsonian Translocation H is on clomid and Theralogix Supplements 6/26/17 repeat SA: 47 sperm 0% morph 13% motility 7/26/17 IVF Consult, repeat SA (4 sperm) 8/21/17 Starting IVF cycle with Donor Sperm backup 9/1/17 ER ICSI PGS: only 2 donor embryos made it to freeze 9/13/17 Started cycle for IUI with donor and clomid 9/27/17 IUI canceled for overstim October Plan IUI with donor and low dose clomid
@ahrains [ETA There it is! lol]<img alt="" src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/fp/n7cwcpvd12s4.gif">
FTR, nobody's goal here is to drive anyone away. unless they are individuals who are incapable of acting in a manner that is intelligent, curious, and supportive of everyone else here who has already taken the time to read up, learn the culture, jump in and start putting down roots. <img alt="" src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/wg/gggysawnrgds.gif">
<img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/mc/07fypbozhi3m.gif" alt=""> @ahrains @Kiki75 @hqinmd @Zoey1019 @Neikoda @JuneRoseRuby @NYTino24 And to all the OTHER newbies who posted on this thread... ♡ Welcome!
<blockquote class="Quote"> <div class="QuoteAuthor"><a href="/profile/sopranoali">sopranoali</a> said:</div> <div class="QuoteText"><blockquote class="Quote"> <div class="QuoteAuthor"><a href="/profile/hqinmd">hqinmd</a> said:</div> <div class="QuoteText">* snipped* </div> </blockquote> I am glad your daughter is okay. I am not ignoring or dismissing anyone's struggles.<b> But I am feeling dismissed simply for mentioning that I am TTC. </b>I have tried to politely ask where I should go such that I am at a board where I can discuss things that I'd like to discuss. That's what a message board is for.<b> If I can't discuss things I'd like to discuss, [i.e. Shettles] clearly I'm at the wrong board</b>. I've heard replies from fuck you gifs to "this IS a board for everyone TTC!". So....</div> </blockquote> No. You were NOT dismissed bc you said you were TTC, Princess. You were dismissed because what @kiki75 said. You have a few choices here. Admit your misstep, apologize etc. or not. Or go. Choose your own adventure.
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
Re: Newbie Intro Week of 10/24
Babies on the brain? It's not a very active board.
I really think the hostility is unwarranted here. But I've received your message loud and clear. I can't imagine the struggle you all have to endure, and I still wish you the best of luck in having babies.
<div class="QuoteAuthor"><a href="/profile/sopranoali">sopranoali</a> said:</div>
<div class="QuoteText">Yikes. I avoided the board "Trouble trying to conceive" precisely for this reason. But this board is not "trouble trying to get pregnant." It's "trying to get pregnant". So where should people go who are trying to get pregnant who may not necessarily have as many obstacles to overcome go? My point is, I'm wondering if it exists or if it would be possible to create one.
Babies on the brain? It's not a very active board.
I really think the hostility is unwarranted here. But I've received your message loud and clear. I can't imagine the struggle you all have to endure, and I still wish you the best of luck in having babies. </div>
</blockquote>
QFP
And you know you are such a special snowflake immune to suffering any of these "obstacles" how exactly? Cos I could have saved myself a year and a half of trying and jumped right through all this grief if I had your crystal ball. Hand it over.
Me: 42 | DH: 45
TTC since Dec. 2014
BFP #1 Oct. 2015 | MC Nov. 2015
Sept. 2016: FSH, AMH, E2, TSH, etc. all normal. | Oct. 2016: HSG all clear! | Nov. 2016: Hysteroscopy & H's SA both great results
Dec. 2016 - Follistim + TI
BFP #2 12/25/16 | Natural MC 2/13/17 | False BFP leads to D&C 4/20/17 | Emergency D&C + hysteroscopy 5/16/17
Me:31 H:31
DX: MFI - 1% Morph
12/16 -IVF #1 - Antagonist Protocol w/ Lupron trigger
ER - 11 retrieved- 9 mature - 7 fertilized - 3 sent for PGS on day 5 - No normals (1 XXX Embryo - may use in future)
3/17 - IVF #2 - Antagonist Protocol w/ HCG trigger
ER- 13 retrieved - 11 mature - 8 fertilized - 2 sent for PGS on day 5 -2 Normal
FET #1 - 5/16/17 - BFP! - Beta #1 5/25 - 156 - Beta #2 5/30 - 2562 - Beta #3 6/1 - 5191!
"Don't have as many obstacles" does not mean no obstacles.
<div class="QuoteAuthor"><a href="/profile/sopranoali">sopranoali</a> said:</div>
<div class="QuoteText">I'm no special snowflake. I'm a control freak to be sure and nothing showed me a little humility more than that rapid onset pre-eclampsia and my midwife trying to help me process that this c-section may be too late and my baby could be growing up without a mom. My husband not even having his scrubs on and wasn't even in the room yet for the c-section. I'm sure I'll get an earful of how this trauma and the fact that they actually had to use paddles to resuscitate me really isn't that big of a deal and I should be happy because I got a baby out of it. Of course I am, but pregnancy is not a walk in the park for "people like me". Mic drop at me all you want but it just causes major eye roll and reflection. When my 2014 BMB told me in our facebook group that the bump had crashed and burned in a major way because everyone was offended at everything, I tried not to believe them, but you're making it hard.
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<img src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/p5/wazgt45fjyoq.gif" alt="">
Uhm. I'm sorry? We. are making it hard. for You. I assure you, nothing here has crashed or burned. But yes, you will get flamed for posting that kind of crap here because we are a community that is fiercely protective of its members. We don't know you from Eve. So to go throwing a traumatic L&D story in everyone's faces like it gives you a pass to be a bitch is tacky as hell.
Me: 42 | DH: 45
TTC since Dec. 2014
BFP #1 Oct. 2015 | MC Nov. 2015
Sept. 2016: FSH, AMH, E2, TSH, etc. all normal. | Oct. 2016: HSG all clear! | Nov. 2016: Hysteroscopy & H's SA both great results
Dec. 2016 - Follistim + TI
BFP #2 12/25/16 | Natural MC 2/13/17 | False BFP leads to D&C 4/20/17 | Emergency D&C + hysteroscopy 5/16/17
Dating 7/2008
Married 7/2014
H Type I Diabetic
TTC 1/2016
1/10/2017 initial appt with RE (all BW results WNL)
1/17/2017 SA DX Virtual Azoo (3 sperm 0%morph 0%motility)
1/18/2017 STP tubes clear
2/1/2017 initial appt with Urologist
2/15/2017 DX H Robertsonian Translocation
H is on clomid and Theralogix Supplements
6/26/17 repeat SA: 47 sperm 0% morph 13% motility
7/26/17 IVF Consult, repeat SA (4 sperm)
8/21/17 Starting IVF cycle with Donor Sperm backup
9/1/17 ER ICSI PGS: only 2 donor embryos made it to freeze
9/13/17 Started cycle for IUI with donor and clomid
9/27/17 IUI canceled for overstim
October Plan IUI with donor and low dose clomid
Me: 42 | DH: 45
TTC since Dec. 2014
BFP #1 Oct. 2015 | MC Nov. 2015
Sept. 2016: FSH, AMH, E2, TSH, etc. all normal. | Oct. 2016: HSG all clear! | Nov. 2016: Hysteroscopy & H's SA both great results
Dec. 2016 - Follistim + TI
BFP #2 12/25/16 | Natural MC 2/13/17 | False BFP leads to D&C 4/20/17 | Emergency D&C + hysteroscopy 5/16/17
FTR, nobody's goal here is to drive anyone away. unless they are individuals who are incapable of acting in a manner that is intelligent, curious, and supportive of everyone else here who has already taken the time to read up, learn the culture, jump in and start putting down roots.
<img alt="" src="https://us.v-cdn.net/5020794/uploads/editor/wg/gggysawnrgds.gif">
@ahrains @Kiki75 @hqinmd @Zoey1019 @Neikoda @JuneRoseRuby @NYTino24
And to all the OTHER newbies who posted on this thread... ♡ Welcome!
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
<div class="QuoteAuthor"><a href="/profile/sopranoali">sopranoali</a> said:</div>
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I am glad your daughter is okay. I am not ignoring or dismissing anyone's struggles.<b> But I am feeling dismissed simply for mentioning that I am TTC. </b>I have tried to politely ask where I should go such that I am at a board where I can discuss things that I'd like to discuss. That's what a message board is for.<b> If I can't discuss things I'd like to discuss, [i.e. Shettles] clearly I'm at the wrong board</b>. I've heard replies from fuck you gifs to "this IS a board for everyone TTC!". So....</div>
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No. You were NOT dismissed bc you said you were TTC, Princess. You were dismissed because what @kiki75 said. You have a few choices here. Admit your misstep, apologize etc. or not. Or go. Choose your own adventure.
PS ladies -
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility