1.) Introduce yourself (if you're new)
2.) Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc)
3.) Rants/ Raves
4.) GTKY: Tell me about your hometown. Do you still live where you grew up? Did you move a lot as a kid? Are you from a small town, suburb,city? Do you miss or are you glad you're gone?
Re: ****TTCAL Check-in Week of October 17****
Not new, but there's a lot of new names around here so I'll re-intro: Stephanie, complete miscarriage at 17+4 due to placental hemorrhage.
I'm between TWW and WTO- got a temp drop and BFN at 11DPO and now just waiting for AF to show up.
Negative Nelly over here this week. Not only is my EDD on Wednesday, but now there are 5 staff members at my school who are pregnant- all whom got married after me (been married for 3 years) and one who is on her second kid. I know that sounds petty, but I feel like it's just not fair that things are so easy breezy for them and it's hard to be happy for them.
I grew up in a big, middle-to-upper class town in New England and I can say that I'm glad I don't live there anymore. I moved three towns away and that made all the difference. The sense of entitlement in my hometown annoys the hell out of me when I visit my parents. The soccer moms in their big SUVs and yoga clothes who think that no one else exists but them is mind boggling to me. It's crazy that just 15 minutes away is like a different world.
Mimi, had an ectopic/PUL/MC on 8/27
in limbo waiting for first cycle since miscarriage
Oh boy, I'm so tired. I've been working 7 days a week but I guess we got to work hard now so that we can establish the business more and work less later, hopefully, someday. DH has been sick for like 2 weeks, and had tennis elbow which means I've been picking up the slack by carrying more things and doing more heavy lifting.
@szwill86 sorry about your EDD coming up Wednesday. And having to deal with that situation at work
@szwill86 said, there seem to be lots of new names. I had a CP last September and a MC in January.
I have been on a Bump/TTCAL hiatus. I just needed a break since I was benched for a few weeks due to a cyst on my ovary from all the stims. They put me on birth control to help reduce the cyst (oh the irony) and I have a few days left before I wait for AF and am hopefully back at it.
Not a ton today. I took a hiatus/break/self-preservation week last week and it was the best thing I've done for myself in a long time. DH and I both took the entire week off to do whatever we wanted and it was amazing. After I got benched I knew I needed to take care of myself in all ways possible. I didn't accept the job that was going to be more stress (they were only offering one week of vacation, I literally wanted to laugh in their faces).
I do still live in my home town, which is a suburb of Metro Detroit. I was gone for 5 years when I went away for college but ended up moving back. Generally, I don't mind being back but since TTC/TTCAL, it's hard just because I run into so many people. Sometimes I think it would be nice to be in a city where I am a complete stranger. DH isn't from here (he's from Savannah) and so he gets to enjoy his anonymity. My parents still live in the same house I grew up in, I think they've been there 29 years now.
@szwill86 Sorry about your impending EDD. Hugs.
@Aera11 Good for you for taking the time you needed. I'm glad it helped!
BFP: 10.3.16 | CP: 10.11.16
BFP: 12.14.16 | CP: 12.14.16
BFP: 1.23.17 | EDD 10.6.17 -- DS born 10.7.17
BFP: 9.9.18 | EDD 5.23.19 -- DD born 5.24.19
BFP: 9.1.21 | MC 10.1.21
@mimoca oof, 7 days a week is hard. And with DH not feeling well on top of it? I'm sorry
1) I'm Julia. I had a twin miscarriage at 18w3d in 5/15. And am now going on month 14 w/o a BFP. Meeting with an RE on 11/7
2) TWW, 2-3dpo
3)I went on a women's retreat with 17 ladies from my church and during one of the sessions we were asked to share a currently struggle we were going through so the group could pray for us. I shared about our infertility and felt such a wave of relief. Like a giant weight was lifted and now I know We have a huge group of people praying for us (my mom also put us on the prayer list at her church).
4)I grew up in a VERY small (150 people) unorganized territory, not even considered a town, in northern Maine. My parents have lived in the same house since they were married 33 years ago, but I left as soon as I graduated from high school and the closest I came to moving back was Portland, ME which is 4 hours away. I now live in southern NH and have bought a house here so we'll be here for a while! Look at all the New Englanders.....go Pats!!!!
Another rave....this was my Sunday:
Curled up in a chair, reading with a pit bull that really wanted to cuddle. Disregard my high school basketball blanket and the weird look on my face, lol
Married 7/13
TTC #1 since 10/13
BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
IUI #1 2/25/16
2.) WTO first cycle after mc.
3.) Have my HSG blue dye test scheduled for Friday and I am a little nervous about it. Has anyone had that done? Its sched for what should probably be the beginning of my FW so Im hoping Im not too sore/crampy to HIO after. Feeling frustrated bec I went for bloodwork requested by my RE last week and just called this morning for the results and the blood place only tested my HCG levels...grrr. I wanted to get the results of everything that I could before I Oed this cycle so I had some answers before ttgp again. Now I have to wait a whole other cycle and I am wondering if I should even go through with the HSG test this Friday. Just feeling frustrated about the whole thing I feel like Im spnning my wheels getting all these tests done and paying all these copays for probably no answers anyway. <End rant.>
4.) I live about 15 minutes from my hometown in WNY. I loved where I grew up its a cute little small town. It really was the perfect place to grow up and I would love to move back there but housing prices have soared and it might be out of our price range now.
@mimoca - Im sorry you have been so tired - how is the new restaurant coming along?
@aera11 - Welcome back! Im glad the cyst is under control ( being on bc smack in the middle of all of this must just stink). Glad you feel good about your decision re the job too.
@laberge12 _ glad you are feeling okay. I felt surprisingly okay after my second mc too I don't know if its bec I was more prepared for all of it or what but it was definitely a lot easier the second time around. Glad it seems to be the same for you.
2. TWW, 6-7 DPO-ish
3. R/R: nothing major, glad I was able to make it home last night from Tacoma for hours in the driving rain. I-5 makes you hydroplane a lot! Have to go back Thurs night after work for another job, hopefully the weather cooperates.
4. GTKY: Love this one! I'm from a small town in upstate NY (not quite as small as @SoonToBeMommaHowe) and we extremely close-knit. My 20 year reunion we had about 90% show up from all over the country (about 35 people), it's beautiful and a great place to raise a family. However, NY is a taxing nightmare and the economy isn't so hot up there, so no plans to move back soon. My dad now lives right behind my old high school which is funny. I haven't lived there since I was 22 (grad school in SoCal, then Atlanta for 8 years, now in OR for the past 3).
@TScalei I went to college in WNY (Hobart/William Smith), such a different topography from where I'm from in the Adirondacks! Funny how people think NY is all one big city!
@SoonToBeMommaHowe that pic looks like heaven incarnate
CP 1/25/16 4.5 weeks, developed Graves' disease
@Aera11 I think you made the right call based on (lack of) vacation time. DH only gets like 8 days/year (separate sick time which he never uses) and it's such a pain/limitation (especially when I have 24 days PTO). The right thing will come along.
@SoonToBeMommaHowe You and your pup look so cute! We can't wait to get a puppy (or dog) but likely won't be moved into our place (with the requisite yard) in December.
1.) Introduce yourself (if you're new) - New this month - artemis618, miscarried first pregnancy at 11w5d on 10/1
My central CA hometown had a population of about 75k when I left it for SoCal for undergrad in the mid-90s (I think it's up to about 120k now). Relatively it was the larger town among smaller agricultural towns. The middle of California is a lot like the middle of the country. I've pretty much only lived there and in Los Angeles/Santa Monica (save for 4 months in Virginia as part of a masters program), and was pretty much growing up to leave my hometown (never thought for a minute that I'd stay/return).
Married 6/18/16 (Me 42, DH 44), TTC #2
***TW***
As of 12/2016: AMH 1.42, FSH 6.1, AFC ~10
Self-benched Nov-Dec 2016 for
IVF #1 Jan-Feb 2017 (OCP, testosterone primed antagonist w/HGH - ER 2/2/17 - 12R, 7M ICSI'd, 3F, 0B)
IVF #2 Mar-Apr 2017 (testosterone primed agonist/luteal lupron w/HGH - ER 4/8/17 - 10R, 8M, 8F, 5B, 1 PGS normal)
IVF #3 May-Jun 2017 (testosterone primed agonist/luteal lupron w/HGH - ER 6/4/17 - 14R, 5F, 3B, 0 normal)
**New RE**
IVF #4 Sept 2017 (natural start microdose lupron flare w/HGH - ER 9/28/17 - 33R, 18F, 10B, 4 PGS normals!)
FET #1 (medicated) of one PGS normal 4AA XX 11/2/17 - Beta #1 11/11/17 (153), Beta #2 11/13/17 (324), mc at 5w1d on 11/19/17
IVF #5 Dec 2017 - Insemination of 9 frozen eggs from 2012 (8F, 1B, 0 normal)
Jan 2018 - Natural cycle ERA (normal/receptive) & stimming for
IVF #6 Jan-Feb 2018 (natural start microdose lupron flare w/HGH - ER 2/3/18 - 17R, 6M, 4F, 0 blasts)
IVF #7 Feb 2018 (natural start microdose lupron flare w/HGH - ER 2/26/18 - 19R, 9M, 9F, 4B, 2 PGS normals)
FET #2 Apr 2018 (natural cycle w/o trigger, w/P4 support) of one PGS normal 4AA- XX 4/5/18 - Beta #1 4/14/18 (67), Beta #2 4/16/18 (231)
Rainbow baby girl born 12/16/2018 (via c-section, induced at 39 weeks)
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TFAS!
FET #3 Dec 2019 (natural cycle w/o trigger, w/P4 support) of one PGS normal 3BB XY 12/16/19 - Beta #1 12/24/19 (139), Beta #2 12/27/19 (482)
We were scheduled to have our basement floor installed this morning. It was through Home Depot, and it's been paid for for over a month now and has been nothing but missteps and mistakes so far. So not sure why I thought it would go well.
Apparently, the technician showed up, told my dad (who was there waiting for them so my husband only had to take a half day from work) that the floor was unlevel (from the previous owners water-proofing, the basement is now about 5/8" higher around the perimeter than the center of the floor) and he had to talk to his boss. And then left.
By the time my husband got home, my dad had called them to see what was up and they basically said we had to pay an outside contractor to level the floor since all they do is installation (which my dad said could be a few thousand dollars) or we pick a carpet or roll vinyl instead of the groutable vinyl tile we wanted (and paid for- it's sitting in my basement in the boxes). We purposely did not choose carpet because it's a basement and our washing machine is down there and we didn't want to risk moisture issues. And roll vinyl is so so so so UGLY (read: I will never choose this lol) and I really want the tile we picked.
I'm super pissed because the Home Depot measurer they sent out should have caught this issue previously. But again, this is Home Depot. This has been paid for for over a month, and we've now been two months in our house without use of our basement. This ruined our plans to have a housewarming party in a few weeks. I'm just really upset and disappointed I won't get what I want. AGAIN. I took this news really hard this morning (after just getting that BFN) and I threw a little half hour pity party and cried my eyes out here at work.
I'm just so very tired of trying to stay positive and working hard and just never getting what I want. It hit me out of nowhere today, and I just hate the futility of trying and being disappointed every month. After I got the negative test I was like 'Oh well, just be excited about the floor and all the home projects we have planned!'
Ha. Life can be so cruel.
I'm from a mostly suburban area in Delaware about an hour from Philadelphia. I lived in the same town all my life, and went to the same two schools (Catholic school grades k-8, then high school). I went to college in Philly. I like the area, but for the most part it's a bit boring. Not a lot to do unless you go to Philly or farther south to Baltimore or DC. And I live in the northern most county in DE (yes, we only have 3 cuz we're that small), which has become extremely populated in the past 20 years. Delaware has very lenient business laws so we are home to a lot of corporate offices of big companies. But for the most part it's a lot of 'six degrees of separation' stuff because everyone knows everyone.
Benched. RE appointment 11/15.
Even though Windpocalypse 2016 was way less exciting than predicted, H and I still used it as an excuse to stay inside all Saturday and do nothing. It was glorious. Sunday was errands, a little bit of cooking (lamb stew... Yum!), and more doing nothing. Good weekend all around!
I grew up in a small town in rural-ish Pennsylvania. It was very small, very close-minded, very conservative, and very intolerant of anyone or anything "different". I hated it there, and left as soon as I could for college and never looked back. No way would I ever want to move back there - H had the opportunity to apply for a job there, but I vetoed it. I went to college in upstate NY (in a pretty and small town southeast of Syracuse). Then lived in New England and NYC for a while. Now I'm in a city in the Pacific Northwest and love it. I'm more of a city girl than I ever thought I'd be as a kid.
Married 7/13
TTC #1 since 10/13
BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
IUI #1 2/25/16
1 - I'm Laura. MMC in March at 13 weeks that required 2 D&Cs - 1st one punctured my uterus. Fun times.
2 - TWW starts now. Used Clearblue Advanced OPKs this cycle and double checked with amazon cheapie and they seem to match up so ovulated over the weekend sometime. Had good timing so now I just wait.
3 - I'm approaching the time I got pregnant last year and its brining up all kind of emotions, mostly sad ones.
4 - I grew up in large Bay Area city. Left to go to school in Los Angeles, then grad school in Upstate NY ( @RiverSong15 - maybe same as your college? ) then more grad school in Central CA. We ended up staying in Central Valley (Sac-town) for 10 years but moved back to our home town 4 years ago when we were both jobless. We now live just 2 blocks from my in-laws and 20 minutes from my parents. Its fun living in the neighborhood my husband did growing up. But the Bay Area is so insanely expensive - we couldn't do it without our family being here. The area we live is close to downtown but pretty suburban - I miss being closer to city stuff like we were in Sacramento, but my husband and I are lucky (and rare!) that both of us commute less than a mile to work.
~~ married 8.11.07
~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
~~ BFP4 10.27.16 MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
Hello - I am about to enter year 4 of TTC #1. Five losses. Currently working with an RE who specializes in RPL.
10 dpIUI. Beta is Thursday.
Testing on 10/20/16. My very first EDD is 10/21/13. My last BFP came on 10/24 last year. So this week is rife with emotional landmines.
This is our third and last IUI before making some really tough decisions about how or if we move forward in our effort to have a child.
And it's not like our life outside of TTC has been easy lately.... I could whine all day long, but instead I have become a fucking professional at finding the silver lining when shit goes wrong, because it just. keeps. going. wrong.
I grew up in a small town/city in NW Georgia. They make carpet there and that is about it. I moved there when I was 18 mos. old and left for college when I was 18 years old and have never looked back. My parents moved away from there in 2003, so nothing to go back for anymore. Went to school with mostly the same kids from K-12. I was definitely over it.
Went to college in Atlanta, but didn't enjoy it much once I graduated, so I headed for the coast and have been in SE Georgia for 15 years.
Just had my 20th HS reunion last weekend, and I never even seriously entertained the thought of going back for it.
Me: 40, DH: 35 / Married: 2009; TTC #1: 2013
2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies —> 5 miscarriages
TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016
2016: 3 medicated TI cycles —> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN
Donor Egg IVF Transfer: May 1, 2017
May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714
EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL!
E. L. A. born 12/7/2017
~~ married 8.11.07
~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
~~ BFP4 10.27.16 MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
@SoonToBeMommaHowe What an adorable photo! My pups have helped me through so many bad days - so glad yours has given you comfort.
BFP: 10.3.16 | CP: 10.11.16
BFP: 12.14.16 | CP: 12.14.16
BFP: 1.23.17 | EDD 10.6.17 -- DS born 10.7.17
BFP: 9.9.18 | EDD 5.23.19 -- DD born 5.24.19
BFP: 9.1.21 | MC 10.1.21
3.) R/R DH and I went to the Cubs game last night. It sucked because they lost, but it was awesome to be there.
I'm still awaiting the results of my 2nd MRI after weird results on my first that have nothing to do with my headaches. This nurse I'm dealing with just sucks!!!!!! She called me to tell me the results were in, but couldn't tell me what they were and that the Dr had to look at them, but couldnt say when the Dr would call. So now I'm sitting here freaking out about it. I'm trying to remember that the Dr said my bloodwork is good and it's likely nothing, but it's so hard!!! This worse than anything I've ever gone through TTC-related.
UPDATE- MRI came back normal! Thank god!! Thanks for listening to me vent.
4.) I actually lived in the Chicago suburbs when I was young and then moved to a small town in northern Wisconsin when I was 8. I lived there through high school, went to college and grad school in Midwest cities and landed in Chicago. I would NEVER move back to my hometown. There is so little opportunity for work and very few people that I know actually stayed.
@Aera11 I'm glad you took a break. It can be so helpful to turn off the TTC brain from time to time.
@fivetimesnoluck Thinking of you this week and sending all the good vibes into the world to get you a BFP!
@ladipale Yay for ovulation!!
@SoonToBeMommaHowe I was in the exact same pose yesterday with my puppy. Puppy snuggles are the best!!!
@E2theB Your flooring issues sound like a nightmare! I'm so sorry!
@szwill86 I'm so sorry about pregnant coworkers. I have the same situation and it just sucks. And I've only been married 14 months, yet 2 ladies who got married after me are both pregnant. It's sucks!
And thank you for admitting you will be peeing on sticks early
~~ married 8.11.07
~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
~~ BFP4 10.27.16 MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
Status: Benched, Yah, jk waiting until after January.
Rave: Been arting again and it's literally the only thing that dulls the pain. I have a feeling I will be making a lot of art for the next few months. Here's the newest one.
GTKY: Boring hometown in CT....and then moved to the town next to it, even more boring. But, as I get older I am starting to like boring.
@szwill86 sorry about the EDD. I hope you can make it through with your sanity. My best friend just announced her pregnancy and we would have had the same EDD month. It's going to be difficult watching her go through it without me.
@SoonToBeMommaHowe Glad you were able to find a place to share your struggles. Sometimes it takes the right people to help you find a little peace.
@TScalei Good luck with the dye test. Hope you get some positive news.
@flipflopped I hear that about everyone getting pg and not wanting it that bad. It just doesn't seem fair. I can only hope that I will have that much more love to give because I want it so bad.
@artemis618 It's sad about thinking where you would have been if things hadn't ended. I can't even open up my ff because I know it will say something that will remind me of how far along I would have been.
@chloe97 glad to hear the MRI was clear!
I grew up in suburb outside of Detroit. Moved away for college then returned to Detroit area and moved to next city over from my childhood home. Then moved to OH to live with my husband which is where I'm at now. I liked my hometown and miss friends. It really like where I'm at now
I moved 5 times between birth and 18 when I finally moved out. I always looked forward to moving and loved making new friends. I finally put down roots about 8 years ago in a town I lived in from ages 6-10 not too far from our old house. No sentiment, just a coincidence. This town is about 15 miles from another town we lived in from ages 13 - 18. My favorite place is Baton Rouge where I lived when I moved out at 18 until I was about 25. I like where I live now and don't have any chance of getting back to BR anytime soon. So I'm enjoying as much as I can while we're here.
ETA Where are my manners?! Hello everyone! I've been lurking for a few weeks and see what a nice place this is to be. I'm looking forward to supporting and contributing while I'm on this leg of the journey.
-- DS 3.8.14
-- MC 9.22.16 at 8 wks
~~ married 8.11.07
~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
~~ BFP4 10.27.16 MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
I'm sqfibemom, currently experiencing loss #3 and have three other children.
Benched until betas drop and AF returns.
Just that I'm miscarrying. I hate being in limbo too, so much miserable waiting.
i live in the same province but not the same city. Didn't move at all as a kid. Parents built my house 5 years before I was born and we lived there forever. They moved right before DD1 was born. I miss it and I'm glad I'm gone. There was a lot of bullahit I don't miss but it'll always be home.
Formerly ChoicesMom
"Squishy" 2007
"Lyric" EDD Nov/4/11 - c/p Feb/11
"Fishy" 2012
"Bean" 2014
"Lux" EDD Apr/21/17 - c/p Aug/16
"Kokonah" EDD May/24/17 - m/c Oct/16
1 surprise - 1 Noonie - 1 preemie - 3 gone but not forgotten - One more on the way!!
Grab bag of mental health disorders
Pancolitis
I'm not new but have been MIA for a few months now. I apologize for just dropping off the map but I just needed to take an emotional break and not concentrate so much on TTC. I admit I've been dirty lurking and silently cheering and grieving for all of you! I have thought about retiring numerous times but never had the courage until today I guess.
For those of you who don't know me DH and I have been TTC #1 since Aug. 2015. I had a BO in Feb. 2016 and am now at the end of my 7th cycle TTCAL.
TWW but likely returning to WTO in a day or so.
I've had some serious OB issues and just saw my old doctor yesterday. He ordered a CD3 FSH test and and HSG. I'm just really nervous about the whole process.
I have always lived either in or near my hometown my entire life. I know...it sounds really lame and boring but I'm happy here. I wish that I would have had more chances to move around when I was younger but right now I just want to stay settled and hopefully have a family.
Im mobile bumping right now but hope to get the chance to come back later to tag folks!
@fivetimesnoluck Hoping for the best for you. Fx
@MooFish2364 Sorry to hear of your health issues. Good luck with all the upcoming tests.
@TScalei good luck this week with the test!
@chloe97 Yay for the good MRI results. Where in WI did you live? I have lived in the northern part of WI most of my life.
@justsuzie the bowl looks amazing, I am also curious if it was painted, etched, ect.
@Breesy14 and @sqfibemom I'm sorry for your losses.
@MooFish2364 welcome back!
AFM
1. Not new but will give short intro. 2 losses in 2016. Started TTC journey December of 2015. Last loss had 2 D&C for retained tissue and they found a fibroid during last one, so that was removed as well.
2. WTO, CD 9. Hoping for the best this cycle.
3. High school football season is coming to an end so I am excited about getting my DH back. He has been very busy coaching and spends a lot of his spare time watching film. His team shared the conference Champs title this year, so he is gearing up for playoffs this Friday.
4. I grew up mostly in 2 places. A small city in North central WI and a very small town in northern WI. We moved a lot before I was 6, probably 6 or so different cities, mostly in WI. I moved to La Crosse for college and then moved to central WI and am still currently living there.
Edited because words.
Me 31, DH 30
BFP #2: 5/25/16, MC 6/23/16 (8 weeks), D&C 6/24/16, 2nd D&C for retained tissue and fibroid removal 9/1/16
BFP #3: 12/24/16 EDD 09/04/2017
@justsuzie that is absolutely beautiful, esp. the carving.
CP 1/25/16 4.5 weeks, developed Graves' disease