Just a thought, why don't they do Recurrent Loss Panel blood work at your first preconception visit before you even try to get pregnant? It just seems like if they can discover you need some baby aspirin each day before you lose 2 babies, that could be easily discovered before you even try to have a baby. Why do you have to wait until 2 or 3 miscarriages before they try to discover issues when they could just as easily try to figure it out beforehand? Just a thought I had today while they were doing my RLP blood work. Hopefully I will hear back soon on the outcome.
Re: Why don't they do RLP blood work before you start to get pregnant?
All this to say, I totally get where you are coming from. RPL sucks - and I too have felt like "why did I have to go through this twice before testing?" It really sucks that most of the time, losses are caused by unpredictable chromosomal abnormalities.
CP #1- due April 2017 lost 5.5 weeks
cp #2- due May 2017 lost at 4.5 weeks
iUI #1- BFN
IUI #2-BFN
IVF#1- transfer 2- BFP! Due October 2017 c/p#3 lost at 3.5 weeks
I do think that OB-Gyn community diminishes the effect that repeat musicarriages have on a woman's mental health and well-being. I can't believe the number of times that Drs have said "you can try again" when Ive told them about my MC. This has literally rocked my entire being to its core, it's not just a small medical problem that happens to many women. It's my life and it's my future and it affects how I feel about myself as a woman.
Many of us are suffering from depression and have a finished quality of life because of our multiple MCs. I'm sure my loss of work productivity, work medical leave, multiple D&Cs, and therapy appts offset the cost of RPL blood work. I know that RPL testing is no guarantee of not suffering another MC, but it just sucks that so many women have to blindly go back into the fight not having any idea what they are dealing with!
@rainbowwishes5 In 2012, the ASRM revised their guidelines on RPL testing. If you have no history of prior successful births and have had two losses, they found that the risks of another loss were about the same among women who had 2 losses versus 3 losses. They recommended that women who lost two "clinical" pregnancies should be tested and that there was no need to wait for a 3rd loss. By clinical pregnancy, they mean you were far enough along that something could have been seen on an ultrasound (5.5+ weeks or so). If you want testing, you could advocate for yourself if your doctor isn't up to date on the revised guidelines.
@heatherwilson321 I hope your testing goes well and that you get the all clear to move forward.
ETA: @chloe97 posted while I was responding. You're right that many doctors don't consider mental health, and whether testing could help a patients mental well-being. Also, I hate hate hate the phrase "You can try again". I wanted those babies, not just any baby, thank you very much. Give me time to grieve.
When I was waiting to MC a second time, my doctor strongly discouraged me from a D&C because it was "over treatment". She did say she'd do it if I felt I needed it for my mental health, but it made me feel like I was being risky and "weak" if I chose that path. So I didn't. I will say, I ended up having mixed feelings about my RPL testing. I was happy that everything was mostly normal, but I felt devastated that there was nothing to "fix". I wasn't prepared for that reaction. It's a complicated mix and I wish doctors did a better job helping their patients. My OB did not ever offer to refer me to a counselor. My wonderful PCP was the one asking about my mental health after my MCs and gave me a referral. I wish all doctors were as awesome as her.
I wish that there was something more that could be done to possibly prevent mc like doing some basic bloodwork before ttc. And more that could be done to treat the mental health affects of mc. I suffered a deep depression after my first mc and in hindsight I probably should have been in counseling and possibly even medicated for a short time. I feel like there is so much out there re PPD but nothing re PPD/ depression after mc - which carries a double whammy bec you are obviously depressed after your loss too.
My OB's office treated mc as something that just happens and after both mcs never followed up to see how I was doing both mentally or physically. Suffering a mc is so lonely and isolating as it is that I feel when you get little or no support from your drs office it makes it even more scary.
I can see that in a lot of cases there is very little they can do to prevent mc but I wish how the healthcare system treated mc through insurance coverage and how people are treated through out it all could be revamped.
The nurse that handled scheduling all my HCG blood work was the most sympathetic person I interacted with. That being said, I do feel like they were making sure my physical well-being was adressed with the follow up appts and blood work, but I agree that the mental aspect is overlooked too frequently.
My doctor's office had scheduled me for a 20 week ultrasound at a secondary facility, and I never even set foot in that facility's door. Yet they were kind enough to send a sympathy card and I had technically never even been their patient.
I also found it a little unsettling that the first ultrasound I was going to have was at 20 weeks and my first OB exam was scheduled at 11 weeks. That seemed like a long time to me, especially for first time moms. I never had a pre-conception appointment, but I imagine it's similar to the counseling appointment I had where they pretty much told me what not to do, took our families' medical histories, and then determined I needed glucose testing eventually based on my BMI and family history.
and @chloe97 amen to the mental health conversation here. I'm very sorry to hear you are suffering. I know. I'm a wreck. After my first mc my OB didn't even do an exam. She was mildly apologetic and sent me on my way. So glad I'm seeing my RE because my nurse is awesome (RE himself could use a little class on patient interaction but I don't deal with him really so it's not as important to me).
CP #1- due April 2017 lost 5.5 weeks
cp #2- due May 2017 lost at 4.5 weeks
iUI #1- BFN
IUI #2-BFN
IVF#1- transfer 2- BFP! Due October 2017 c/p#3 lost at 3.5 weeks