WTF Wednesday 10/5/16

MrsMaryK2016

kvruns

My wtf was my H yesterday. I sent him a text saying let's walk the dog tonight. He responded that was fine if we had time because he needs to change the oil in my car. Then he said "I would have done it yesterday but someone didn't get home until 9:00".  Ummm I was home at 6:30 that night, you never once mentioned wanting to change the oil and wanting me home early, nor did you ever mention it after I did get home. And he only brought it up yesterday when I asked about walking the dog. I can't read your mind dude, use your words!

rspalding001

WTF sleep. I cant sleep. It really sucks. I pee all the time and now I have this cough and stuffy nose that makes it impossible. Baby boy is moving a lot which is nice but also adds to the sleep issue. There is also my DD who has been waking up at least twice a night because her star light turns off after 45 mins and when she wakes up she wants us to turn it back on. Sigh.... I miss sleep.

jmama1611

Wtf to the bastard that broke into my car last night. Am fuming and feel so violated.

camcbeth

Again I have a WTF about my MIL. Who said don't go into labor the 20th-26th this month because they will be visiting their other grandchild for her birthday. But that any other time they are good to go. The reason is that as soon as I go into labor my MIL wants to jump on a flight and get here. It bothers me because my mom wants to do the same thing (jump on a flight) and I want my mom. However, we only have enough room for one guest, not both. It's been stressing me since we announced the pregnancy because I knew this would happen and I don't want to have to tell one of our parents, "You need to stay at a hotel nearby." Oh and my MIL tells me last month that she gets dibs to come visit our first child for her birthday next March. The reason for calling dibs is because my mom, who is a teacher, came out for a visit on her spring break last March and it landed on our first's birthday. WTF, why is she calling dibs? I though our moms got along. Why does it seem to be a competition? Thankfully my husband told her we are not allowing that. 

rspalding001

@camcbeth we had something similar happen with my MIL. She told us how they were going to fly up when I went into labor as long as it was before my EDD assuming my mom would be around anytime after my EDD. I had to tell her that regardless of when I went into labor my mom would be there. I told her she was still more than welcome to visit at the same time but not to be surprised if my Mom was also there even if it was before my due date. I let her know that during labor the only one I wanted in the room with me would be my husband however so she would just be waiting at home with my mom and my DD for us to tell them when it was all over and OK to visit. Apparently this offended her and now she isn't visiting until Christmas when we are "all settled " according to her. Whatever Fine. She took it the complete wrong way but I don't have the energy to try and convince her otherwise at this point. MILs are such drama I swear. 

In my opinion it's your labor and you have every right to demand your Mom be present for it over her if that's what you want. 

kristah2

Nightmare MIL's all over the place. Mine was here a couple weeks ago for my shower. She booked her flights without consulting first and had horrible timing for DH with his work schedule. She was helping my mom out with the shower for the month prior. I hated all her ideas so mom was trying to sway her to things that I wanted. The whole time she was here she complained about my mom and her shower plans. The day of the shower at my moms she was miserable and so cranky to everyone. We got home she went upstairs and ranted to DH loud enough for me to hear every word about how horrible it was and how she decided to not give my mom a dime toward it and how I was getting such horrible advice etc. 
I cried all night to DH. 
Not to mention she bought down stuff her son (not my DH) ) has worn and demanded I put it on the baby with photos. 
She was out with my step mom and asked her to ask my dad to come build the nursery furniture while we were at the shower. All because she was mad we didn't have it done before she got here. Even after we made it clear we wanted to do it ourselves (keep in mind we had been living in this house 3 weeks and had to build and unpack EVERYTHING so it's not like we were just being lazy). 
She also was really upset at all my parenting philosophies and basically said I was going to be a bad mother. And then mentioned it in even more detail to DH who has been trying to spare my feelings. 
It waa torture. I told her I didn't want her here in November and she kept saying "well don't be surprised if I book a ticket"... bitch I will be surprised, we told you, you are not welcome! 

I haven't spoken to her since she left. She's coming in February and I'm already dreading it because she's taking her 6yr old son. She's going to want to spend a lot of time here with the baby and DH can't get any time off work so I'm the one stuck home with her. Think any one would notice if I happened to go away that weekend??

kvruns

rspalding001 said:

Apparently this offended her and now she isn't visiting until Christmas when we are "all settled " according to her. Whatever Fine. She took it the complete wrong way but I don't have the energy to try and convince her otherwise at this point. MILs are such drama I swear. 

In my opinion it's your labor and you have every right to demand your Mom be present for it over her if that's what you want. 

I wish mine weren't visiting until December, nothing against them at all but just it seems weird (and expensive) to go for a last minute trip across the country whenever this baby decides to come vs pre-booking a trip for the first week of Dec when you are guaranteed he will be here. I think my H wants his dad here at the beginning because my local parents will get to come to the hospital so he thinks his should be able to also. I said that's fine but since we don't know when that will be it is a bit difficult and just seems silly

anne11716

Oh these MILs!! I totally get it ladies. Mine has told my husband how she feels left out so far. From what? I'm on bed rest and nothing is happening. When we were visiting (they live out of state) this summer my friends threw me a shower and she kept saying how she is going to come when I'm in labor and she wants to be in the Room. Ummmmm no way. I had to make it very clear that no that was
not happening and that my mom won't even be in the room. We set up a sharing picture folder when we were there and have sent her pictures of the nursery and my growing belly. She has offered a million times to help while I'm on bed rest but honestly jay would just stress me out! I don't need anyone else staying at my house now. The original plan was she would stay a MONTH when the baby arrived (I literally cried) and once I put a stop to that I think she got it.  So now they are coming over Christmas, staying at our house but whatever for 5 days. My thing is that the always need to be entertained. There has to be a huge breakfast every morning with snacks before every meal. It's nuts! At least a by then hopefully we will be in some sort of routine. 

mrsmoose5

WTF TODDLER! WHY WON'T YOU SLEEP???? Seriously, for the past week he has been waking up at 4 a.m. and only taking 30 minute naps. He wakes up hysterical and is a WRECK all day long. He' s only sleeping 9-10 hours TOTAL each day, which also means I'm not sleeping or getting any breaks and I'm about to lose my F-ing mind! I seriously feel like the worst mom ever because I've been so grumpy and snappy, but I'm seriously hanging by a thread and I have no help/relief. DH works late every night and doesn't get home until well after we're both asleep, so he's no help, and all he can say is "sorry," "hang in there," etc. while he leaves his dirty dishes in the sink and laundry all over the floor for me to clean up. I want to just smack him across the face. Ugh!

rspalding001

@mrsmoose5 Ughhhh husbands can be the worst. Any time I complain about how I'm feeling or how hard it is to take care of DD while I'm this pregnant he makes some kind of smart comment like, "Well isn't this everything you always wanted?"... really? He says this because we are a bit older, this will be our second and I'm 38. When we got married we started trying to have kids right away because we knew we wanted two. But that still doesn't mean I don't have a right to be uncomfortable and talk about it. I mean it really is everything I have always wanted but that doesn't mean having kids and being pregnant is all sunshine and rainbows. He just acts like because we have kids now I shouldn't complain about anything and it makes me want to smack him sometimes.

jmama1611

@mrsmoose5 - dads don't seem to fully get the whole toddler sleep thing! Naptime is needed for toddler AND mom! Some days especially for mom.

mrsmoose5

jmama1611 @rspalding001 Thank you for getting it! It has been such a hard week, and as much as I love my DH, he is just the opposite of helpful sometimes. Seriously, this weekend he spent an hour or two watching DS by himself and then spent the rest of the day complaining about how tired he was and how bad his back hurt ... I almost lost it on him!

camcbeth

@rspalding001 @kvruns @kristah2 @anne11716 I'm sorry you're all having MIL issues too, although it makes me feel better that we are all in the same boat. I want to vent all the time about her. She is a VERY smart lady, and boy can she play games where she acts so passive and clueless. I did say she didn't have to come next month because they bought a new house and must be super busy unpacking... Didn't work. Damn. 

leighry

Wtf to all the people at the diabetes clinic who are supposed to be helping me control my sugars so I don't have a 12lb child. Told me to start night time insulin Monday after my appointment. Never called the script in. I called from 830am Tuesday to 230pm when someone finally called me back and said they were ordering it. Order got to the pharmacy too late for them to get it from another pharmacy because they don't have that kind. It was finally ready 230 Wednesday. Saw MFM today for US. Baby looks good and isn't "huge" yet. Under 5lbs. Dr wanted me to increase my night time dose to get my fasting sugars lower. I have called the clinic 3 times since my appt at 1040 in the morning. No return call. Really??? If I was this shitty at my job I would be fired. It's so frustrating. I was really hoping for a vbac since my section was so awful and its really annoying no one else seems to give a crap. 

therealvday

WTF at my inability to NOT eat at least multiple sugary items a day.