Missing my old self

mamatowildones

Maybe it's all hormonal, and hopefully only 3 weeks from relief. But I have not felt like myself in weeks. I'm short tempered, not as excited for baby(yes it's number 3), very easily offended, the list could go on and on. The best description is just that I don't feel like myself. I hope and pray this passes after the first tri when hormones calm down. I never had this feeling with my other pregnancies either before during or after. I totally feel like it's affecting my mothering. 
Here's hoping I'm not alone and that this passes quick! 

mdlorenz

Hugs. Don't be afraid to reach out to your doc/midwife if it doesn't start to lift in the next few weeks. And try to carve out time to see friends and do things just for you (I know ... kids). You aren't alone. 

Shopaholic

When I found out about this baby it wasn't hormones.  I was in a state of shock and having a 2 year old tantrum without the crying. "I don't like it!". Can I have a do over?  I know for a fact once they place this baby on my chest that I will love, protect, teach, and grow with this person. Along with hormones this could be part of being grumpy (At least for me)

@mamatowildones give yourself a grace period. Hug your kids and let them know mom is adjusting and sorry. 
ETA my phone

Laurieday10

Don't beat yourself up. It's difficult being pregnant while taking care of your little ones. This is #3 for me too (and it was a complete surprise) and I know I'm not giving my 5 year old the attention she needs. I think we'll figure it all out and get back to our normal selves once we settle into everything. The second trimester is more mellow than the first and it sounds like you're close. Keep your chin up and make sure you take a little time for yourself. 

megchelle

I feel super moody and I feel bad about it sometimes. This is my third baby and I don't remember being this moody with my other two but my husband might disagree!

SKZW

@mamatowildones
Maybe try to find one small thing you can do today to feel better about spending time with your kids. It doesn't have to be a long drawn-out, huge-statement thing. Maybe it's completing a puzzle together. Coloring for 10 minutes? Prepping dinner together? Tickle-fest? Fill in the blank: My kids love it when I _______. And try to do that. It might help assuage your guilt and give you something fun to look forward to. The small things are the best things, right? Even just an extra-long hug before bedtime might help you take a step down the path of getting back to your true self. Just one small thing. Sending good vibes your way!

ann_jeremiah

Baby #4 here.. Remember.. with each additional child.. It's nearly impossible to be "rested," causing you to have a shorter fuse too.. Make sure you're getting the time you need to take care of yourself emotionally too!

katie0919

I've been the same way (baby #3 here as well). My anxiety level has been sky high due to little sleep (my 11 month old still thinks it's fun to get up every single MOTN), plus full time work, a fussy and stubborn almost 4 yr old, plus my brilliant self decided to take on a side gig doing consultant work (prior to finding out I was KTFU of course). I have been stressed to the max and extremely moody. Hoping all calms down soon!

mamatowildones

Thank you all. It's nice to know I'm not alone. Today was actually a better day! It may have something to do with the fact that I allowed myself a cup of coffee this morning. Believe it or not it made a big difference. We played all morning and got errands done with no tears and happily off to nap. Maybe I'll be drinking a cup of coffee here and there this time around. 

Yiggle09

Im sorry your going through this! I do feel extra short with my LO these days and hope it passes quickly. Sunny second trimester is just on the horizon, you can make it!