Sleep Training in an Apartment?

jhsoontobe3

Okay so where do I start? Basically we want to start sleep training DD who is 6.5 months old however we live in an apartment complex. 
Long story so gab a snack...
We co-slept for about 4.5 months but once DD started rolling over it became very difficult to share the bed with her (this is not a debat! Please keep those opinions to yourself). She was rolling and reaching over and pulling my hair, smacking me, fingers up my nose, etc. So we moved her to her crib and she did great!! 7:30 bed time. I'd put her down awake and she would play until she fell asleep. Sleep until 3 or 4 am, I fed her and she'd sleep until 7 or 8 am. But one night all of a sudden, the week before she turned 6 months old she quit sleeping for such long stretches and would scream (red faced, gasping for air, gagging sort of scream) until I fed her (at times of the night when I wouldn't normally feed her). She was waking up every hour, sometimes multiple times an hour and demanding to be fed 3 or 4 times per night! So I chalked it up to she was maybe hitting the 6 month sleep regression/ growth spurt. I gave her the extra ounces and put her back to bed. It got worse the next week, pedi said it sounded like a virus although she couldn't find any physical signs of it. And the bad sleeping and more eating continued that whole week. It had now been 3 weeks with hardly any sleep and I am losing my mind! She slept better and longer stretches as a newborn than now! It has gotten to the point where she would not go to sleep unless DH or I snuggle her in bed and then we gently move her to the crib once she is DEAD asleep (like you lift her arm and let go and it flops down to the mattress. Lol). Once she awakes for her first of three or four feeding we've just been letting her stay in our bed because she is waking so often it's just easier than getting up and going to the crib (plus she screams bloody murder until we pick her up And snuggle her). Right now we have resorted to doing WHATEVER we can to get her to sleep, so that we can sleep too.  And it's still taking a major toll on us and DH job (fortunately I am a SAHM so I can nap throughout the day when DD naps. I have no idea how DH is doing it. I'm exhausted and I get naps unlike him!) It seems like all of a sudden sh*t just hit the fan and we are wondering how we got to this place. 
I've done a lot of reading and research on it and from what I'm seeing (and for the sake of our sanity) it sounds like we need to sleep train her.
So back to my original dilemma of we live in an apartment building. There are 4 apartments in a square. All 4 meet in one corner (like they actually physically touch in that once corner) And then they are 3 apartments high, if you can picture that. I'm just worried about severly disturbing all of our neighbors with our sleep training (we're already set on what type were doing. That's really up for discussion either. I don't remember what it's called exactly but my sister has used it on of her both children and I personally know several people who have had major success with this method) because there will almost inevitably be lots of crying.
So, should I just start with my sleep training? Go talk to them? Just make them a cute little basket with a letter explaining and maybe some earplugs? Just let my landlord know? 

I over think EVERYTHING but this dilemma has really been bothering me and I was just wondering what you would do! 
We are buying a house and will be moving the end of October/ early November but our sanity cannot wait until then! 
Thanks for letting me rant! And thanks in advance for your thoughts! 

EverythingsBetterOutside

I didn't read your whole post, but I'm pretty sure I got the idea. I've never had an infant myself,  but from the other side of the coin, I have lived in apartments, duplexes, and houses. I see no reason to warn neighbors or your landlord (though if you're in the habit of chatting and catching up with each other's lives, there's no harm in sharing this as part of it). You have a baby, that's warning enough. Babies cry, sometimes a lot. They may be cranky or sick or teething or colicky or overtired or sleep training. As long as it's not so severe that you're abusing/neglecting your child, it's expected. If you can and you have enough rooms for it, it would be thoughtful to have baby's room on a non-adjoining wall. If that's not possible and you know the layout of the neighbor's apartment, choose to put baby's room next to their kitchen or living room rather than bedroom. At least, it could be helpful to have baby's bed in her room on a wall that is not shared with neighbors. It's kind of you to be thinking of your neighbors, but I think setting things up to minimize the disturbance will be more meaningful than a cute basket. Then if neighbors do bring it up, have a conversation about how to be more thoughtful if necessary.

SmrBrd2012

I agree with PP that I wouldn't go out of my way to "warn" them unless you are already pretty chatty with them. My son is sleep trained but he still has rough nights occasionally and most often unexpected. It happens. Are the walls super thin?

jhsoontobe3

Thanks ladies! Like I said I know I'm an over thinker and overly nice. (my husband gets on to me in the grocery store when someone almost hits us and I sincerely apologize to The person. Even though it was their fault. Lol). The walls are not too bad. We actually love in a very upscale apartment complex. (people call it 'the fancy apartments') which was more of my concern bothering people. I know i get severely annoyed with my upstairs neighbors when they're being noisy (which they are quite often) so I just didn't want to be 'that' neighbor. Anywho, I did not bother mentioning it to anyone. Our sleep training is going better than expected. She only cried for an hour the first time (which was her first nap of the day) then 20 minutes at her second nap and 15 minutes at bedtime. 

It just not quite as much screaming as I thought it was going to be. 

Anyway. Thanks again!