Last night we went out to dinner and a family with a toddler and a baby in a bucket cat seat sat by us. They flipped over a high chair and set the car seat on it. It promptly fell off and almost did a flip... the car seat luckily took the brunt, but the baby (probably 2 m old) was obviously shaken up pretty bad...cried for a long time! I gasped... Which was not helpful, because I saw it coming! Had a very similar (near) incident with our 1st at a week old when we tried the same thing (1st outing) when a waitress rushed past and pushed the car seat over/off the high chair, dh caught the seat. Haven't done that since. Please use a chair!!! It's much safer... Or ask for a sling. Those high chairs aren't designed for it. My public service announcement is now over... Thanks!
I've been blasting some beautiful classical music to calm my hormonal ass down today. It's been over a week since we DTD thanks to glucose induced yeast infection. I miss it, and I'm getting totally cranky.
I wasn't sure where to put this question, lol. My cat has flees for the first time ever. Five days ago I put a flee callar in her and the flees are gone! For some reason it never occurred to me that the chemicals might not be the best for me... I woke up this morning cuddling the cat with my face pressed right up to the collar. So now I'm worried. I've been googling and not finding any definitely answers. Who should I ask? Call the OB or the vet? Who would know? I feel like a bad mom right now for not thinking about this...
@Blockfour The flea meds should be on the inner part of the collar that's touching the cat's neck, not the outside. You can call your OB if it makes you feel better but most likely you didn't come in contact with any of the chemicals.
@maamawaabangi THANK YOU for that story! Just last weekend I saw someone do that at my local coffee shop and thought it was a brilliant hack. I didn't realize it was so dangerous. Yikes!!
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
oh noes to Brad Pitt and Angelina...I have certain hollywood couples I always hope will stay together, and they were one of them. The other is Dax Shepard and Kristen Bell...if they get divorced I might cry.
Also @Blockfour I have those collars on all my cats and dogs and I try not to come into direct contact with them constantly but I'm sure its not horrible occasionally...I will say I am switching to the obscenely expensive pill my vet recommends after their shelf life is up though because it worries me...although I also have a mobile baby so that factors into my decision.
Sidenote: I cannot spell ocassionally...I have to fix it every time. It just happened again! occasionally. There. dammit.
I have a baby trying to bust out of my rib and I'm wondering how people work with 24/7 discomfort/back/rib pain in their 3rd trimester??? STM, how do you do it??
Me: 35 Husband: 40 TTC #2: Jan 2019 DS: 2.5 yo EDD: 12/2/16 DOB: 10/22/16 (Previously MBS2016 Dec 2016 board
@LinziLoo09 whenever I am logged on to my computer and I see your Seahawks gif, I can't stop staring at it. We are fans, and I specifically remember when he did that and was like WTF? That's gross. lol, but the gif just makes laugh!
@MBS2016 my first daughter actually physically moved my ribs so that they permanently stick out instead of down now. How do you last the 3rd trimester? Some women have hardly any problems or discomfort. I'm not one of those. It is really hard, I have already started not going to events, or not doing things because it's just too much. It is hard work growing a human being. The most comfortable place for me is on the couch, laying on my left side, with a book or my phone. Which happens like 3 times a week if I am lucky. Hang in there! We can do it! It just gets more and more uncomfortable from here on out. Then you will be sitting on the toilet, pushing extra hard, praying that your water breaks!!! lol, seriously though.
@MBS2016 - I have noticed increased pain around my ribs and it always seems worse on Mondays when I have to go back to work and sit at my desk all day after a weekend off. I am trying a standing desk (one that I can raise and lower throughout the day as I need to sit/stand). I mentioned that to my doctor and she said that another option is to try sitting on an exercise ball at work because you can angle yourself a little differently to make space. Not sure if either of those are options for you or would help (or if sitting at a desk all day is actually contributing to your pain!) but thought I'd mention it.
@yellingbanana Did she bend your ribs on both sides? How did you find out and has it negatively affected you in any way since you had her? Thanks for the encouragement. It hurts the ribs to sit and the back to stand and as a result my house is messy. Maybe tomorrow will be better.
@katiejo1216 yes! It is worse sitting at work. Standing is not much better but I'd rather not have a broken rib!
STM, do women in 3rd trimester sometimes hire people to come clean the house occasionally? How do people do this.
Me: 35 Husband: 40 TTC #2: Jan 2019 DS: 2.5 yo EDD: 12/2/16 DOB: 10/22/16 (Previously MBS2016 Dec 2016 board
@MBS2016 - I'm a FTM but we hired someone to come clean the house every other week when I was in first tri. DH and I both work full time and up until then I had been doing it but since getting pregnant my energy has been way too low to spend hours cleaning on the weekends (plus when I tried I would feel sick/dizzy). So now we have someone coming every other week. I think it's a good decision if you can afford it. It's only going to be harder once there is a baby. The only advantage now is that we don't make much of a mess so every other week is fine, but I'm sure once there is a child things will be much more of a disaster.
@MBS2016 We have cleaners come once a week, which might be excessive. We're thinking about moving it to twice a week when the baby gets here, because since I'll be at home for at least half the year, I figure I can do more cleaning myself. Also, I hate it when the cleaners are in the house, so I usually leave when they're there, but I can't imagine having to do that with a baby once a week.
We pay about $90 a visit, and it's so worth it. Just keeping the place picked up is work enough, but coming home every Friday to nice clean showers, toilets, and floors is so awesome.
@MBS2016 My ribs just poke out more, the only time I can tell is when I get to pre-pregnancy weight. And my bra width went from 32 to 34, but nothing painful or life altering. I can tell, DH could after we had her too. But it's fine, just weird.
I'm not one for the big complaining since this too shall pass but holy shit ladies... twin pregnancy is a whole different ballgame at this stage. I had no idea my body could feel this bad. It's bothersome to do pretty much everything - and bothersome is the understatement of the year. I try to remind myself it's temporary but I'm losing the battle of needing to bitch tonight. Waahhhh!
What's most sad about Brangelina splitting is that she's going for full custody of the kids. Always sad even in Holywood.
@MBS2016 We have someone come in every two weeks to clean the house. I can't pick something up off the floor without grunting, and with three kids and a dog, I need the help!
@DiFazette Huge props to all you twin mommas, I don't know how you do it! I hope those boys shift for you soon and you get some relief. Just concentrate on that big ass glass of wine waiting for you in a couple of months
At the grocery store got grilled by the cashier. How far along are you? OMG you're so tiny for 28 weeks! Is it a boy a girl? What's their name? Are you excited? Are you scared? Is it your first? Natural birth or c section? It was pretty intense. Even DH was like wow when we left.
Married 4/12/13 TTC since 6/13 Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016 SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
I'm heartbroken for my friend. She has two beautiful kids and has been trying for a third for over a year. She finally got her bfp almost 3 weeks ago but has had bleeding on and off since then. She has had two ultrasounds and at her second one the doc said baby's HB looked weak and it hadn't grown much. Her bleeding had picked up then also. Of course they told her to prepare for the worst and she is devastated. After having two normal pregnancies she wouldn't have dreamed that A. This time would take so long or B. She would miscarry.
She was very supportive through my two losses last year and you would think I would feel like I can relate to her, but here I am 7 months pregnant with my 3rd baby and I feel almost guilty. You know what I mean? Like it makes me sad that I got my rainbow baby but she is still struggling. I have been checking in on her via text and we are having a play date this Friday so I will get to see her, but I feel so much at a loss for how to be there for her. I've offered to hang out to do whatever she wants if she needs to get her mind off of things and of course am praying for strength for her and her family. Ugh my heart hurts for her so much. And that hurt makes me even more thankful that I do have this rainbow baby boy in my belly right now. Life is so fragile and although we can't live in constant fear of life being taken away, we do need to try to cherish every moment.
@DiFazette I can't even imagine how done you are by now. I'm only carrying one baby and I'm miserable. Two? Omg Lord help me. You are doing so awesome and I really really hope these last couple months go quickly for you.
I'm sorry. Many of my friends have had losses. It's hard, particularly when you are pregnant or have (many) children. Being a mama is being a mama... We all feel those same feelings and know the fragility of life. It sounds like you know how to be a support for her. You're right, cherish the moments and love your friend through this part of life! Thanks for being a good friend.
@DiFazette So many props to you lady! I don't know how multiples-moms manage. I feel so full of baby and organs and food and poop at this point that I can't imagine where you'd fit another baby in there! I hope your SO is treating you like a queen and giving you all sorts of foot rubs and special treatment!
@PharmDMom I am so sorry for what you and your friend are going through. I have not experienced a loss but have had several friends go through them. Every time I read about a loss (seems like the news has talked a lot about MCs lately) I feel like I go into an emotional spiral. I can't imagine the conflicting feelings your dealing with right now. But it sounds like you're being a wonderful support to your friend. From everything I've heard, just being available for support, even if you don't know what to say, is one of the best things you can do. <so many hugs>
@PharmDMom I'm sorry for your friend. But I can relate. Our 1st DD was an accident, our 2nd DD happened on our first try. And then it took us over 2 years to conceive this 3rd baby, we had pretty much given up. I have PCOS, we discovered once we went to the fertility doctor. The best thing you can do for your friend is to be there for her. And let her know that she's not alone.
Thanks everyone. I really hope she does know that I'm there for her and that I wish I could do something to help her feel better. I know it will take time for her heart to heal and I really really hope she gets a rainbow baby after such a heartbreaking loss. She finds out on Friday (has an u/s) whether she has to have a D&C or not. No matter what, after that decision is made and this is all more final (since technically they don't know that she completely miscarried yet since baby still had a weak HB last week) I'm going to send her flowers.
So I'm on a baby and toddler marketplace on Facebook and every day there are these great deals I want to be interested in, but someone always beats me there with some variation of, "Oh yeah, I'm interested for my friend because she's 9 months pregnant, all alone, has nothing for her baby yet, is practically homeless," and so on. Then I feel awful, agree that person should have it, and just move on. It happens every time. Hopefully I'll have better luck at the town consignment sale tomorrow.
I'm happy today. A neighbor during our afternoon walked asked when I was due. That's the first stranger to acknowledge the bump. Makes me feel validated the bump actually looks like a baby and not burritos and ice cream. Now I just need someone to say something completely inappropriate and I'll really feel like I'm getting the full pregnancy experience.
Re: Randoms 9/19
and my inside baby kicked my PT today which was cute.
TTC since 6/13
Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change
BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016
SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
Had a very similar (near) incident with our 1st at a week old when we tried the same thing (1st outing) when a waitress rushed past and pushed the car seat over/off the high chair, dh caught the seat. Haven't done that since. Please use a chair!!! It's much safer... Or ask for a sling. Those high chairs aren't designed for it.
My public service announcement is now over... Thanks!
Due December 27th with baby #7
...but that's none of my business...
It's sad for sure, but personally, I find it surprising when Hollywood couples actually STAY with each other. Maybe that's the cynic in me.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
Also @Blockfour I have those collars on all my cats and dogs and I try not to come into direct contact with them constantly but I'm sure its not horrible occasionally...I will say I am switching to the obscenely expensive pill my vet recommends after their shelf life is up though because it worries me...although I also have a mobile baby so that factors into my decision.
Sidenote: I cannot spell ocassionally...I have to fix it every time. It just happened again! occasionally. There. dammit.
Baby #1
Baby #2
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TTC #2: Jan 2019
DS: 2.5 yo
EDD: 12/2/16 DOB: 10/22/16
(Previously MBS2016 Dec 2016 board
@MBS2016 my first daughter actually physically moved my ribs so that they permanently stick out instead of down now. How do you last the 3rd trimester? Some women have hardly any problems or discomfort. I'm not one of those. It is really hard, I have already started not going to events, or not doing things because it's just too much. It is hard work growing a human being. The most comfortable place for me is on the couch, laying on my left side, with a book or my phone. Which happens like 3 times a week if I am lucky. Hang in there! We can do it! It just gets more and more uncomfortable from here on out. Then you will be sitting on the toilet, pushing extra hard, praying that your water breaks!!! lol, seriously though.
@katiejo1216 yes! It is worse sitting at work. Standing is not much better but I'd rather not have a broken rib!
STM, do women in 3rd trimester sometimes hire people to come clean the house occasionally? How do people do this.
TTC #2: Jan 2019
DS: 2.5 yo
EDD: 12/2/16 DOB: 10/22/16
(Previously MBS2016 Dec 2016 board
We pay about $90 a visit, and it's so worth it. Just keeping the place picked up is work enough, but coming home every Friday to nice clean showers, toilets, and floors is so awesome.
@MBS2016 We have someone come in every two weeks to clean the house. I can't pick something up off the floor without grunting, and with three kids and a dog, I need the help!
@DiFazette Huge props to all you twin mommas, I don't know how you do it! I hope those boys shift for you soon and you get some relief. Just concentrate on that big ass glass of wine waiting for you in a couple of months
TTC since 6/13
Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change
BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016
SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
I'm heartbroken for my friend. She has two beautiful kids and has been trying for a third for over a year. She finally got her bfp almost 3 weeks ago but has had bleeding on and off since then. She has had two ultrasounds and at her second one the doc said baby's HB looked weak and it hadn't grown much. Her bleeding had picked up then also. Of course they told her to prepare for the worst and she is devastated. After having two normal pregnancies she wouldn't have dreamed that A. This time would take so long or B. She would miscarry.
She was very supportive through my two losses last year and you would think I would feel like I can relate to her, but here I am 7 months pregnant with my 3rd baby and I feel almost guilty. You know what I mean? Like it makes me sad that I got my rainbow baby but she is still struggling. I have been checking in on her via text and we are having a play date this Friday so I will get to see her, but I feel so much at a loss for how to be there for her. I've offered to hang out to do whatever she wants if she needs to get her mind off of things and of course am praying for strength for her and her family. Ugh my heart hurts for her so much. And that hurt makes me even more thankful that I do have this rainbow baby boy in my belly right now. Life is so fragile and although we can't live in constant fear of life being taken away, we do need to try to cherish every moment.
Due December 27th with baby #7
@PharmDMom I am so sorry for what you and your friend are going through. I have not experienced a loss but have had several friends go through them. Every time I read about a loss (seems like the news has talked a lot about MCs lately) I feel like I go into an emotional spiral. I can't imagine the conflicting feelings your dealing with right now. But it sounds like you're being a wonderful support to your friend. From everything I've heard, just being available for support, even if you don't know what to say, is one of the best things you can do. <so many hugs>
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The best thing you can do for your friend is to be there for her. And let her know that she's not alone.
Baby G born 6/6/14, 37 weeks 1 day due to preeclampsia. 5lb12oz 19"
#2 due Christmas 2016.
I got the job!!!
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I'm happy today. A neighbor during our afternoon walked asked when I was due. That's the first stranger to acknowledge the bump. Makes me feel validated the bump actually looks like a baby and not burritos and ice cream. Now I just need someone to say something completely inappropriate and I'll really feel like I'm getting the full pregnancy experience.
You're welcome.