I had my D&C in August and still haven't had AF return yet. Not too worried as it's only been a couple of weeks since the bleeding stopped and I don't really expect a return for another two weeks. We definitely want to try again but my fiance has heard from our friends that you're more fertile after MC so he thinks we should just let nature take it's course now. I'm still not emotionally ready to BE pregnant again. I really wanted to wait the couple of cycles that the doctor suggested because I don't know if I can handle going through a loss again if we try to soon and I'm not healed. Plus, he brought all this up after we set our wedding date in stone for March 25th and after I found my dress. If we wait a few months, then I'll just be early pregnant at the wedding and I'll be in a better place emotionally. If we conceived now and it stuck, I'd be 5-6 months and it's probable that the dress we just spent a lot of money on wouldn't fit. I feel so selfish saying that because we want a baby, we wanted the baby we lost, but I want to focus now on healing physically and emotionally and enjoying our wedding day. I don't know how to tell him this and I feel like an awful awful person.
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DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
Re: Not sure I'm ready yet...
Youre not not alone in this event upending your life. Take all the time you need. You are in control of how this proceeds. Please keep that in mind.
We we are here for you.
Me: 40, DH: 35 / Married: 2009; TTC #1: 2013
2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies —> 5 miscarriages
TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016
2016: 3 medicated TI cycles —> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN
Donor Egg IVF Transfer: May 1, 2017
May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714
EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL! E. L. A. born 12/7/2017
You didn't mention if you were dealing with IF, but assuming it wasn't difficult for you to get pregnant, chances are it won't be difficult to get pregnant the second time. Obviously there are no guarantees, but I just want to assure you that there's not a magic window that closes after 3 months after a MC.
I hope you and your SO can come to a consensus that works for you. Good luck!w
i wanted to say that I agree with pps. You have to let yourself go through grief, feel
better and when you feel ready, then it's time to go back. I am sure your Fiancé will understand if you explain this to him. Men process loss and MC in a completely different way, it was your body that was completely changed with pregnancy and eventually with MC.
good luck! And congrats on the upcoming wedding!
BFP 01.03.2016 / MMC 6w5d D&C 02.2016 // BFP 05.06.16 / natural MC 05.12.16
Benched 06.2016-08.2016 / TTC again 09.2016! On a diet. Cranky.
BFP 10.02.2016 / NT scan at 12w looked normal / Anatomy scan at 20w everything ok
Team blue! / EDD June 11th 2017
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Congrats on your wedding! That's right around the corner!
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018