SAHM Check In (9/7)

Munchie2.0

Hello ladies! 

How are things going this week?
What challenges, if any, are you facing this week? 

Is there anything you are hoping to accomplish this week or next? 



*If you are new to this check in, simply start with how many kiddos you have and how long you have been a sahm*

Munchie2.0

We started school yesterday (both DD and I)  I am teaching 19m-21m, so they will be turning 2 starting in Nov.  
DD had a great first day, but I could barley walk when we got home. I seriously just sat on the couch until DH got home and it was warm up whatever you could find in the fridge for dinner  
*Damn you sciatica!* 

We are having new bedroom furniture delivered today, so I woke up super early to try to get as much last minute cleaning of our room. Well, DD woke up at 5:30am with a bit of a cold or something. soooo there went trying to clean.  I really should be cleaning instead of being on here, but what's done is done! lol. 

Challenges for this week/next: 
Really need to make sure I have either leftovers or a crockpot meal ready to go on Tue/Thur because I am pretty sure I will be useless those evenings. 
We are doing a sneak peak gender U/S this evening, praying the little squish opens it's legs so we can see the goods.. If we get a good look and it's a boy, I will be pulling all of DD's old clothes out of storage to sort and sell. 
There is a HUGE consignment sale coming up and I am hoping to make the cut off to take stuff there. Otherwise, I will just post on fb B/S/T groups.   I really want to get as much stuff done before the holidays and 3rd tri.  

As always, all things are subject to how DD is acting at any given moment.   My luck would be pull clothes down and she throw a fit, so clothes will be left scattered around for days! 

Oh, and we have been trying to show her how to climb up on the toilet, but she is too small to get up there.  I will be trying to bribe her to use the step stool again. 

kswiger06

I think I participated a couple weeks ago, but was busy last week.

I have 2 kids, a 10 year old son and 7 year old daughter. I've been a SAHM forever.

I'm seriously struggling this week already because my kids started school a week late due to vacay, they just went yesterday for their first day. They both have homework already, my son even has makeup work from last week. I seriously feel like I'm constantly teaching my kids at home. They have homework that they don't understand at all and instead of just going over it and checking it when they are done, I have to sit right next to them and help them through all of it. It's ridiculous and although yesterday was only the first night of doing this, I had flash backs of last year and lost my shit. I might share this in randoms to see what some of the teacher ladies might suggest to help me out or give me insight as to what's going on.

@Munchie2.0 I hope the baby cooperates for you to get a good peak at the sex!!

kerris713

This week has seemed to drag by due to the weather. I'm having a hard time finding fun things to do with DD bc it seems that the library doesn't really start doing anything until next week and its just been raining a lot. Also my H pissed me off last night so I'm trying to figure out how best to go about talking about it with him.

My biggest accomplishment was washing her 18m old clothes and packing up her summer clothes/outgrown clothes and organizing them in bins. So if I can continue being productive that would be great. 

Munchie2.0

@kerris713 why is packing clothes so hard! haha.  A couple of weeks ago, I finally pulled all her old "winter" stuff out of the closet. My H was so mad I hadn't done it already. 


@kswiger06  homework is the worst! I hope some of the teachers can give you some pointers.  

kswiger06

Munchie2.0 said:

@kerris713 why is packing clothes so hard! haha.  A couple of weeks ago, I finally pulled all her old "winter" stuff out of the closet. My H was so mad I hadn't done it already. 


@kswiger06  homework is the worst! I hope some of the teachers can give you some pointers.  

Did the baby cooperate??

Munchie2.0

@kswiger06 yes. It's a boy  

1lindarose

Hi!  I have 1 son who is 15 months old and I've been a SAHM since he was born. 

Challenges: well let's see now... I have a pulled muscle in my leg and am currently in a boot and forced to go to PT twice a week.  Not fun when you need to chase around a VERY active toddler. He is getting in 3 molars so he's crabby and none of us are sleeping argh!  Oh, and I'm getting a cold. Lovely!  

Accomplishments: well I had a whole section here but the bump ate half my post. Boo.  Basically I roasted two chickens this week and made 5 seperate meals out of them. (Some are freezer meals so we don't get sick of eating chicken!).  

next week we are looking forward to Friday when we will hopefully learn the sex. Yay!

Babymakes5!

This is my first time participating so I will brief intro. I'm a SAHM to two boys aged 2&4. I quit my job to stay home in march. I miss my work but love the time with my guys.

4 yr old started Junior kindergarten Tuesday and is already home sick today. I was warned that it would be a rough yr for catching bugs but this is insane. The boys and I all woke up with nasty head colds. 

Accomplishment:  we got a good start to school other than getting sick. And I have managed to keep them both happy and resting today.

birdiejo

It's my daughters birthday today! She's currently taking a late as ever nap but we spent the morning doing fun things and eating cookies. I can't believe she's two! 

Im hoping to get the house cleaned up this weekend because we've been gone for a bit and then came back to dr appointments and birthday madness. Tuesday is the anatomy scan and yes I've been thinking about it every other minute for the past week. Come on Tuesday! 

annewheeler2

This week has been good because we're on vacation. We're heading to the river tomorrow for the weekend. I'm going to look at more classes for DD when we get back to get us both out of the house. 

I I want to start organizing her old clothes to get ready for the baby when we get home.

jab3-2

This week, helping DS get adjusted to going to school since he started kindergarten Tuesday. 
Next week, will be helping DD get adjusted to starting her half day preschool program. Looking forward to having the 3 hrs a day to myself and hoping to be way more productive because of it. Probably wishful thinking but we'll see lol I would really like to go apple picking as a family soon, maybe not this weekend but next. I also need to get going on sending out invites to the kids birthday party. I combine them since one is this month and the other next. Will probably have the party around Columbus Day weekend. I know eventually they will complain, but trying to get away with it while I can haha @homemake, I hope your daughter had a great 2nd birthday today! @Babymakes5! and @1lindarose, I hope you all feel better soon!

birdiejo

raptormomma said:

This week has been good because we're on vacation. We're heading to the river tomorrow for the weekend. I'm going to look at more classes for DD when we get back to get us both out of the house. 

I I want to start organizing her old clothes to get ready for the baby when we get home.

Were living parallel lives! I just started ballet for my daughter but it's only once a week on Saturdays... I keep meaning to get into her closet to organize all her stuff but....

annewheeler2

@homemake we just finished soccer two weeks ago and she loved it. I might do it again or do that and music. I'm dreading her closet and the boxes of clothes from when she was a baby. I didn't organize them that well so it should be interesting. 

mrslittlemac

I don't really go here yet since this will be my first, but H brought up the prospect of me either dropping my hours to 1-2 days a week or quitting entirely. 
I love the idea of raising my kids from home, having time to cook and clean and run the household the way I think I could without shouldering as much job stress.
The other part of me is terrified. I have so much of my sense of independence wrapped up in working, contributing financially. I feel like I would never really feel justified in taking "me money" unless I was the one who brought it in. Seriously getting anxiety over it and I'm still several months away at least. Yikes. How did/do you all cope if you had those same feelings? H would undoubtedly spoil me to no end like he does now, it's my own feelings of worthiness and my own inhibitions running amok. 

birdiejo

@MrsLittleMac I struggle with this all the time, for me it's one of the hardest parts of being a stay at home parent. My husband makes a good living but we have lots of MY student loans to pay so I definitely have guilt over not being able to contribute. My husband on the other hand doesn't care and is happy that I'm home with her. My plan to combat my insecure and guilty feelings is to find something that I can do to make a little side money so I can feel justified buying the extras. Not sure how I'm going to do that yet but hopefully I'll figure it out. 

birdiejo

@raptormomma how old? I would love to do something like soccer with her but I think she's too young still. 

SweetT

This week was rough! T started preschool Tuesday and she goes T, W, Th. I thought 3 days in a row would be great because we always have a long weekend but she is exhausted and each evening has been a struggle. 
But I got to go out to brunch Wednesday with some friends and it was the highlight of my week! 
She started gymnastics monday evenings a few weeks ago so the weeks seem to fly by now. 
I might delete this later but here's T on her first day of school! 

Munchie2.0

@MrsLittleMac It's not for everyone, for sure! Personally, I wouldn't go straight from working FT to being a SAHM. Use the maternity leave to see how you feel about being home 24/7.  I have a lot of mom friends who went stir crazy and had to get back to work. I also have mom friends who said they couldn't stand the thought of leaving their baby at daycare to go to work. Whatever you decide, I am sure it will be best for you and your family.  
Although if you hang around for these check-in's, we may scare you with all the shenanigans that these littles put us through. LOL 


 oh and, I still feel guilty about DH working so hard to provide for us. I do like working 2 days a week for a little extra money, It makes me feel better about bills and stuff  

WinchesterGirl

@MrsLittleMac I don't go here yet either, but I like to read this thread because we are in the same boat as you. The plan now is for me to quit and be a SAHM. I have serious qualms about not bringing any money in, because I like to contribute financially. I like that we are succeeding financially together. I know that will still be true, but it feels different to me for some reason.

So basically, I feel you and I have a lot of the same thoughts. 

Spicyweiner

@MrsLittleMac I work 2 days a week and it's PERFECT. I would seriously recommend doing it. 
I feel like it's the perfect balance of being home with your kid(s) and still feel like you are contributing financially. 
Not to mention, being able to get out and be around adults and have adult conversations that aren't play dates, etc. 
Feel free to PM me if you have any questions! 

mrslittlemac

Thanks all! That makes me feel a ton better--I tried broaching the subject with a cousin who is a SAHM and she kinda blew it off, I ended up feeling like my concerns aren't "normal". 
1-2 days a week would be pretty amazing as long as my employer will be forgiving and work around H's schedule so one of us can always be home. Daycare already gives me anxiety and kid's not even here yet!

kerris713

Being a SAHM is definitely not for anyone but I seriously could not imagine not being home with my DD. Daycare is expensive and we determined that even if I worked, we would still not be able to afford it and live the way we want to. My mom was a SAHM for a period of time and I really think that's what solidified our decision. Yes there were periods of time when I was bored out of my tree (luckily she was born in April so I would go for walks every day with her) and winter/rainy days can seem especially long but I get creative and try to do something different every day. The first few months can seen especially boring bc babies sleep all the time- I binged watch SOA for 3 weeks and really had to evaluate my life when it was over hahah. It does get easier though and then 6 months comes along so I started making her baby food and that occupied my time. Having a good support network is really important, something I lacked last winter and it was hard. It's great watching her grow every day and I wouldn't change it. 

annewheeler2

homemake said:

@raptormomma how old? I would love to do something like soccer with her but I think she's too young still. 

She turned two in June. It's such a shit show with that age but she loves it. They don't have games but just get used to ball control and following directions. 

birdiejo

raptormomma said:

homemake said:

@raptormomma how old? I would love to do something like soccer with her but I think she's too young still. 

She turned two in June. It's such a shit show with that age but she loves it. They don't have games but just get used to ball control and following directions. 

Ok so shes just a few months behind. I used to work at a camp in college and even my six year olds couldn't figure it out. I will definitely look into it ... we need more activities. I'm loving the ballet class for "learning directions and improving listening skills". I put air quotes because none of them pay any attention but I'm thinking eventually it should stick? It's hilarious to be a part of though.