Monday B*fest 9/4

WinchesterGirl

Just because it's labor day, doesn't mean somebody's not driving you up a wall. 

catmommac

We're spending the weekend with my family. I don't see my parents often (though we talk/text a couple times a week). This entire weekend every time I have an ache or pain or need a few minutes to rest, my mom keeps telling me some story about how it was totally worse for her. Or that it only gets harder once the baby is born and because I'm a FTM I have no idea what's coming and stuff. Ugh, this isn't a pissing contest! Just have some sympathy and swap stories without putting me down.

Gretchypoo

My Monday B*tchfest is about Hubs. This 3 day weekend we are cleaning the house to get ready for baby and I'm so frustrated. I have asked him for (literally) years to get his areas of the house together. Needless to say, he has not. so now I have to supervise. He spent ALL DAY on Saturday entertaining some friends of his who came in town and ALL DAY yesterday changing out the alternator on my car. So today he has a ton to get done and my pissy b*tchy prego hormones are coming out...

CAndrada

My H. We have plans to go to the Greek Festival today. This morning he's all " I dont want to go". Get in the car buddy. You can't tell our three year old we're going somewhere and then not do it and I had her all day yesterday and Saturday by myself while you played video games and worked. (Hes in the car )

poofwok

Lately, family & friends have been commenting that I'm carrying very differently this time around and that I seem to be getting wider at the hips. So naturally, I must be having a girl this time around. Either way, both comments are annoying as hell. Ugh. 

LivingLaVidaGinger

My mother is driving me crazy lately. She and my dad live literally less than 10 minutes away from H and I so we see each other quite a bit. She already told my entire family the baby's sex (admittedly, it was on accident but now everyone knows) so I figured I'd go ahead and do a social media announcement before anyone in my family did. So my mom and I have been tossing around cute ideas but she seemingly discards anything I like and replaces it with something she likes. Then assumes we're going with her fabulously brilliant idea. I know this bitchfest sounds juvenile and very teenager-esque complaining about mommy ruining my life but she's just been such a control freak lately. I think it's just first grandbaby syndrome. We're all incredibly new to this lol. 

kswiger06

concreteangell said:

Lately, family & friends have been commenting that I'm carrying very differently this time around and that I seem to be getting wider at the hips. So naturally, I must be having a girl this time around. Either way, both comments are annoying as hell. Ugh. 

I agree that those types of comments are annoying. My mom (though I feel guilty griping about her) has been telling me I'm having a boy because I'm  "grumpy". Then I just sent her a picture of me with my family while we were on vacation and she responded by telling me I must be having twins because I'm so big. Ugh... I had to politely tell her that the Dr checked at my first ultrasound and found only 1 baby. I know she's excited and is having fun but it drives me crazy having people throw away my upset feelings just because they "think" I'm having a boy. We don't know yet, and those comments only make me more grumpy!!

yogadevil

I've been telling my mom for years I wouldn't have her in the room with me when I eventually gave birth someday. Today she called and gave me an earful saying how it was news to her, and she laid on a thick guilt trip. I don't care if you were there for all 3 of my sister's births, we're two different people and I've always wanted to have that moment with DH and I

LC12261012

Our family outing to the zoo turned into a disaster. DD was acting very much like a toddler and crying/whining over EVERYTHING (there's dirt in her shoe/ she doesn't wanna walk that way/ the zebra is looking at her- seriously). Then DH started complaining about how hot and tired he was, a grown man acting like a toddler. I tried to make the best of it to just be out of the house, but eventually my mood soured as well and we gave up and went home earlier than planned. Now I'm back on the couch bored, pissed and defeated. 

beern

purplewriter said:

We're spending the weekend with my family. I don't see my parents often (though we talk/text a couple times a week). This entire weekend every time I have an ache or pain or need a few minutes to rest, my mom keeps telling me some story about how it was totally worse for her. Or that it only gets harder once the baby is born and because I'm a FTM I have no idea what's coming and stuff. Ugh, this isn't a pissing contest! Just have some sympathy and swap stories without putting me down.

Ugh, I got that ALL THE TIME with my 1st pregnancy. Why can't people stop being such fucking one-uppers all the time and just say, aw, I'm sorry, can I get you anything?

poetryandoceans

I think my bitchfest is aimed at myself? Usually, when the weather turns and fall arrives, I get a big burst of energy and do lots of cooking and baking to freeze and I feel very on top of things and homey... And right now I'm just sitting like a bump on a log.  I'm just feeling a bit useless lately; I have NO energy to do things like make a pot of stew for the week or something. Intellectually I know I haven't lost all my get-up and go, my body is just busy right now doing other things, but it's frustrating. And if I'd just give myself permission to not worry about it, fine. But I'm mad at myself for not having the energy, instead of just embracing the fact that my body is doing something else right now, and it's okay to not have energy. Ugh. 

Spicyweiner

concreteangell said:

Lately, family & friends have been commenting that I'm carrying very differently this time around and that I seem to be getting wider at the hips. So naturally, I must be having a girl this time around. Either way, both comments are annoying as hell. Ugh. 

Yes, I had that but that I was having a boy, since the pregnancies are so different. 
Guess what? 
Its another girl! 

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poetryandoceans said:

I think my bitchfest is aimed at myself? Usually, when the weather turns and fall arrives, I get a big burst of energy and do lots of cooking and baking to freeze and I feel very on top of things and homey... And right now I'm just sitting like a bump on a log.  I'm just feeling a bit useless lately; I have NO energy to do things like make a pot of stew for the week or something. Intellectually I know I haven't lost all my get-up and go, my body is just busy right now doing other things, but it's frustrating. And if I'd just give myself permission to not worry about it, fine. But I'm mad at myself for not having the energy, instead of just embracing the fact that my body is doing something else right now, and it's okay to not have energy. Ugh. 

@poetryandoceans this is EXACTLY how I feel.  I'm so used to always being on the go getting shit done. I hate wasting time. But I've had to slow way the heck down during pregnancy. I have to actively remind myself not to feel guilty over not getting things done.  It's not easy.  It's an everyday struggle.  I have OCD and my apartment is usually spotless.  Not so right now.  And there ain't anything I can do about it!

poetryandoceans

@AfKash yeah, daily house stuff had become so much more WORK than it was before. It's certainly making me go, "Oh my god, if I can't even do this now, how is anything going to get done once this baby is on the outside??!?!?"

Ugh. 

BumpasaurusRex

Gretchypoo said:

My Monday B*tchfest is about Hubs. This 3 day weekend we are cleaning the house to get ready for baby and I'm so frustrated. I have asked him for (literally) years to get his areas of the house together. Needless to say, he has not. so now I have to supervise. He spent ALL DAY on Saturday entertaining some friends of his who came in town and ALL DAY yesterday changing out the alternator on my car. So today he has a ton to get done and my pissy b*tchy prego hormones are coming out...

Ugh this is so frustrating.  DH has had random
crap in the basement to go through since forever ago.  It's taking all of my patience not to go down there and trash it all.  Of course, if I did that it'd be the greatest tragedy in the world to him.

If it means that much to you, then take care of it already! Or throw it all into plastic storage bins so I don't have to look at it anymore.

Patience7150

I don't really have a MBF, but:

1) I feel like we need to start a support group for women with husbands with hoarding tendencies and no ability to focus, and

2) Everything takes a monumental effort right now. I cried today about needing to go to the grocery store and not wanting to. I never did make it. 

poofwok

@Spicyweiner yep, just goes to show. i don't trust anyone's intuition including my own. It's always a 50% chance and it's insulting when people use your body & belly shape to guess the sex. 

Lol, like the whole "I'm carrying wider" is giving me a complex here.

poetryandoceans

Late entry: I have to go a fricking fracking faculty reception for the staff at my school tonight. I have not worn a bra after 6 pm since May. I am so unenthused. 

Gretchypoo

BumpasaurusRex said:

Gretchypoo said:

My Monday B*tchfest is about Hubs. This 3 day weekend we are cleaning the house to get ready for baby and I'm so frustrated. I have asked him for (literally) years to get his areas of the house together. Needless to say, he has not. so now I have to supervise. He spent ALL DAY on Saturday entertaining some friends of his who came in town and ALL DAY yesterday changing out the alternator on my car. So today he has a ton to get done and my pissy b*tchy prego hormones are coming out...

Ugh this is so frustrating.  DH has had random
crap in the basement to go through since forever ago.  It's taking all of my patience not to go down there and trash it all.  Of course, if I did that it'd be the greatest tragedy in the world to him.

If it means that much to you, then take care of it already! Or throw it all into plastic storage bins so I don't have to look at it anymore.

I WOULD! but part of the issue is it isn't just a few things. his "office" is becoming the nursery and until our BFP it had so much sh*t in it you couldn't walk from one side to the other. Like, for a minute i was really thinking I'd married a hoarder! hes got that mostly clean but now needs to get working on our dungeon*-- he needs to get it cleaned out so he can put his tools away!

He's got so much stuff and it is like music equipment, a full desk, golf clubs-- I'm tempted to just get a dumpster and teach him what happens when you don't take care of your stuff.

good news is, he did a lot today in the dungeon but found mold so that needs to be treated before he can put anything in there. But we talked and I told him how frustrated I was and he owned it and agreed, he needs to move 30x faster. 

*Dungeon (for those curious)-- our house was built in the 1920s and we have a coal shoot-- a concrete room where coal was literally shoveled into the house to burn.  now it is just a concrete room with a single bulb light and it locks from the outside, so we refer to it as "the dungeon" ;-)

Gretchypoo

Patience7150 said:

I don't really have a MBF, but:

1) I feel like we need to start a support group for women with husbands with hoarding tendencies and no ability to focus, and

2) Everything takes a monumental effort right now. I cried today about needing to go to the grocery store and not wanting to. I never did make it. 

Yes to all of this.

NiceyMeany

Gretchypoo said:

Patience7150 said:

I don't really have a MBF, but:

1) I feel like we need to start a support group for women with husbands with hoarding tendencies and no ability to focus, and

2) Everything takes a monumental effort right now. I cried today about needing to go to the grocery store and not wanting to. I never did make it. 

Yes to all of this.

All in favor say 'aye.'

Spicyweiner

concreteangell said:

@Spicyweiner yep, just goes to show. i don't trust anyone's intuition including my own. It's always a 50% chance and it's insulting when people use your body & belly shape to guess the sex. 

Lol, like the whole "I'm carrying wider" is giving me a complex here.

I was convinced my first was a boy, and NOPE. 
Then literally everyone we know thought this one was a boy, (except me and DD) and NOPE. 

MrsP052909

I spent all day yesterday cleaning because the weather was nice and the kids were playing in the yard with the dogs. I got done mopping and was folding some laundry when the back door opens and my kids and three mud covered dogs come running in. Apparently we got a crazy rain storm out of no where. So I had to mop again, clean carpets and give all of them baths. Today I did nothing lol.

BumpasaurusRex

Guys, I'm beyond annoyed.  For the past few years, my boss has brought her son into our office every day with a nanny.  However, this is not permitted by any other employees AND the nanny is actually on company payroll.

It burns me because I work hard every day to provide for my family and spend a huge chunk of our budget to put DS in daycare.  It seems so unfair that only the boss gets to do this and everyone else has to grit their teeth and suck it up.

I know I sound like a baby but geez, I'd love to spend more time with my little guy.  Just wish the opportunity was there for every employee.

yogadevil

@BumpasaurusRex that is so ridiculous. How is that even permitted?! Does your boss own the company or something? That really sucks that if the "company" is hiring a nanny that more employees can't take advantage of it.

You're not being a baby, I'd be pissed

poetryandoceans

@BumpasaurusRex wait, so this place of employment would have to do virtually nothing except some paperwork to be able to offer childcare to its employees, given that they already have childcare on payroll, and the boss is instead just saying "shan't"? That is just the dumbest thing I've ever heard. They could make themselves look SOOO good for soooo little work. 

BumpasaurusRex

She is part owner of the company so I know that essentially, she can do whatever she wants.  

There are a few other employees that have young kids so I know it would be a huge help for them as well.  It's just....so annoying.

I think I may say something soon, politely of course.  Maybe suggest the idea of an in-house childcare center and see how they react to it.

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@BumpasaurusRex I like the idea of an in house day care Center.  Do you think they would really go for it though? 

leprechaunlady

@BumpasaurusRex could the suggestion that interaction with other children be good for the boss' son: social skills etc? If she sees its would benefit her too?

BumpasaurusRex

AfKash said:

@BumpasaurusRex I like the idea of an in house day care Center.  Do you think they would really go for it though? 

Eh, if I'm being realistic, probably not.  In the past if DS' center has been closed on a day work hasn't, they haven't let me bring him to the office.  I've just been given the option to work from home that day, which is good.  

lfrank12

BumpasaurusRex said:

AfKash said:

@BumpasaurusRex I like the idea of an in house day care Center.  Do you think they would really go for it though? 

Eh, if I'm being realistic, probably not.  In the past if DS' center has been closed on a day work hasn't, they haven't let me bring him to the office.  I've just been given the option to work from home that day, which is good.  

I can't believe they wouldn't even let you bring him in on days his daycare is closed! It seems a little ridiculous considering the nanny is already there and being paid...

Gretchypoo

@BumpasaurusRex that is BS. It is awful when women expect one thing for themselves but won't budge for their employees.

BumpasaurusRex

Email has been sent.  I'm a little nervous to see how this is going to go down but keeping my fingers crossed.

grapeskittles4lyfe

BumpasaurusRex said:

Email has been sent.  I'm a little nervous to see how this is going to go down but keeping my fingers crossed.

FX for you! Your boss is being ridiculous. My current job has an on-site DC/preschool for kids 0-6, so I can drop DD off on the way to work. At least my last employer had backup DC at a rate of $5/hr if an employee's regular care fell through. Maybe that would be an option?

PerraSucia

My work is a multibillion dollar company and won't  have a daycare because of insurance and liability reasons.  

tishb

Gretchypoo said:

BumpasaurusRex said:

Gretchypoo said:

My Monday B*tchfest is about Hubs. This 3 day weekend we are cleaning the house to get ready for baby and I'm so frustrated. I have asked him for (literally) years to get his areas of the house together. Needless to say, he has not. so now I have to supervise. He spent ALL DAY on Saturday entertaining some friends of his who came in town and ALL DAY yesterday changing out the alternator on my car. So today he has a ton to get done and my pissy b*tchy prego hormones are coming out...

Ugh this is so frustrating.  DH has had random
crap in the basement to go through since forever ago.  It's taking all of my patience not to go down there and trash it all.  Of course, if I did that it'd be the greatest tragedy in the world to him.

If it means that much to you, then take care of it already! Or throw it all into plastic storage bins so I don't have to look at it anymore.

I WOULD! but part of the issue is it isn't just a few things. his "office" is becoming the nursery and until our BFP it had so much sh*t in it you couldn't walk from one side to the other. Like, for a minute i was really thinking I'd married a hoarder! hes got that mostly clean but now needs to get working on our dungeon*-- he needs to get it cleaned out so he can put his tools away!

He's got so much stuff and it is like music equipment, a full desk, golf clubs-- I'm tempted to just get a dumpster and teach him what happens when you don't take care of your stuff.

good news is, he did a lot today in the dungeon but found mold so that needs to be treated before he can put anything in there. But we talked and I told him how frustrated I was and he owned it and agreed, he needs to move 30x faster. 

*Dungeon (for those curious)-- our house was built in the 1920s and we have a coal shoot-- a concrete room where coal was literally shoveled into the house to burn.  now it is just a concrete room with a single bulb light and it locks from the outside, so we refer to it as "the dungeon" ;-)

Haha @Gretchypoo! We have a coal shoot room also! When we moved into our house, it scared the crap out of me! I was thinking "This is where someone gets taken and murdered in scary movies!" So we call it The Murder Room. 

Lafreeman21

My MBF is just about, timing I guess?

My husband has been an engineer at the same company for 7 years. Pay started out spectacular and then stalled... so now I'd say it's 45th percentile. He has to travel out of state for 5-6 weeks at a time. It used to be once a year, and now it's 6 times. His boss is a piece of work, very traditional 'work comes first' mindset... the guy bragged about taking 1 day off for the birth of his daughter and then returning to an out-of-state outtage. We're looking forward to the boss's reaction when Michael says he's taking 8 weeks paternal leave. No one has ever done more than 1.

I've been heckling him to look at other jobs on and off for years. Another one of his coworkers quit last week, and now husband's looking for a job. Jobs out of state, that we would move for. Great, right? NO!

We've been remodeling our house since 2011, and it's 90% done. This guy wants to move before it's done, and before I can properly love living in a nice house after dealing with drywall and exposed electricity for half a decade.


Look at my awesome stair rail! I just got that Sunday. We haven't had a rail there for 17 months! I need at least 2 more years to hug it every day before I leave it 

lfrank12

@Lafreeman21 that stair railing is GORGEOUS

Gretchypoo

@tishb EXACTLY!!! It is the perfect place to keep your murder/ kidnap victim!

Gretchypoo

@Lafreeman21 that stair rail is amazing. don't move!

BumpasaurusRex

@lafreeman21 I love that railing!