I'll try to keep this short as I read many pages deep into the archives on sleep posts already and many posters give similar advice. DS is 4 months. Til now he has slept at night in a RnP next to my side of the bed. He is BF and takes a BM bottle occasionally for convenience when we are out, as well as every night between 11-1 my DH takes a feeding shift so I can get some sleep. We get his bed time routine going around 745 or 8 and he normally sleeps a first chunk of 4 hours sometimes more, then DH feeds him, then every 2-3 hours he wakes and I BFP him in my bed and we cosleep til 7ish. During the day usually 2 big naps and a smattering of little ones, often in his carseat, on top of me, andmore recently in his RnP.
So, I have some issues. One, is that my MIL has some weird power over DH. For most issues, including DS, her opinion and advice or comments seriously sways DH and I have to work to get him to hear me. For instance, she tells him to start letting DS CIO, put him in his crib that he's never slept in and go to the opposite side of the house,rice cereal in his bottle at 3months, etc. None of these have happened , but it has DH on my ass about "when are we gonna move him out? When is he gonna STTN? When are we gonna let him CIO?" When really all These things become my responsibility bc I EBF and DH works 40-50 hrs a week. I recently started back to work and have a sitter 2 days starting this week and I have no game plan for her.
I started earnestly putting him down for naps several times a day in his room with a sound machine and he can do it sometimes . I trI'd getting him to nap in his crib and he startled himself and woke after maybe 5 min, when It took like 45 to get to fall asleep. I read millions of articles and tips on sleeping and I try them and I fail. Now I also know that DS is a tension increaser and when I try to let him CIO for even 5 minutes he works himself up to the pointof vomiting even after I've finally picked him up, then I can't settle him unless I BF and he falls asleep.
I feel like a failure. I feel like I have so many people, now including DH bc of MIL, putting pressure and expectations on me and that if I don't sleep train him now he will be in his RNP in our room til he's a toddler. I know he's only 4 months, and on top of that I think he's into the regression now and also teething. I want him to have a daily nap schedule in his own room, preferably crib soon, and to sleep better at night also eventually in his crib. I need this so my sitter won't quit on me, and bc DH can't get him to nap when he's alone watching him .
If tl;dr - SLEEP PLZ HELP. thanks to those who made it all the way through.
Me: 29 DH: 31, married 6/21/14, TTC since 7/14
BFP #1 EDD 7/17/15, MMC 1/9/15 @8w
BFP #2 4/3/15= ectopic treated with methotrexate 5/1, YET ruptured 5/18/15= One Tube Wonder!
2 Cycles of Femara, Ovidrel, & Progesterone= BFP #3 DS born 5/17/16
TTC #2 March 2017 (initially med free)
BFP #4 8/14/17 *natural cycle* EDD= 4/25/18, MC @5-6w
BFP #5 12/29/17 w/ Femara/Ovidrel/Progesterone/Synthroid, EDD= 9/11/18 found out 1/18 ITS di/di TWINS!!!
DS and DD born 8/21/18