I was given quite a few options. My OB was just as heart broken as we are and even cried with us. She said I could let baby come naturally, a d&c (ugh my heart goes out to those who've experience one of these), or take medicine to start labor. I opted to take medicine to start labor and have the baby this weekend. There is a chance the sex maybe able to be determined, but it wasn't promised. I'm not sure if I want to know yet. I don't know how that will affect me. They will look to see if they can tell why baby's heart stopped. I will have tests done and I'm going to request tests be done for my husband as well. End of trigger warning.
At this time I am open to trying again in three months (that's the amount of time doc said we'd have to wait after all is said/done) and I plan on focusing on getting as healthy as possible these next three months. I'm trying to stay positive, keeping an open mind, and praying for guidance.
We have two sleeping beauties in heaven. Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016. Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015. They will be forever missed.
You are welcome to stick around here as much, as little, or however you want. You are an amazingly strong woman, and I have nothing but amazing hopes for you and your family @bdesterhouse
@bdesterhouse Praying extra hard for you this weekend as you are going through this. We are happy to have you whenever you feel like jumping in. Feel free to share as much or as little as is comforting to you in this time.
@bdesterhouse I'll be thinking of you this weekend. I hope you have some help to take care of yourself. I hope you'll keep us updated and find some answers soon.
@bdesterhouse I'm glad you're sticking around. But if you ever change your mind, we all completely understand. They say that a loss this early, is usually something you couldn't have prevented. I think it's great that you and your husband are going to try to get in the best health, but please don't ever blame yourself. I'm not sure if that's what you're doing but that's the feeling I got from your post. Loves to you. XOXO.
@bdesterhouse we would love to have you stay in this community to the extent you are comfortable doing so! I will be thinking of you this weekend and hope things go as smoothly as possible and that you get some answers. I really admire your strength and again, I'm so sorry for what you are going through. We're here if you need us!
@bdesterhouse I'm so glad you'd like to stick around, but we'll definitely understand if you need to bow out at any point. I hope the process will go as smoothly as possible for you, and that you'll be able to find peace with this in some way before too long. Your strength is amazing to me.
Thought I posted this yesterday, but it's in the reply box as a draft
***TW***
This happened to a woman while I was at my MW yesterday... I didn't know her, but I was heartbroken for her.
***end TW***
I don't know you, but my heart breaks for you too... You are so strong! I hope this weekend is as easy as it can be for you.. I have and will continue to keep you and your family in my thoughts.
I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so very sorry for your loss.
About me: TTC#1: October 2015 dx: PCOS & MFI IUI #1 w/Femara + Ovidrel June 2016 ~ BFP July 2016: Blighted Ovum IUI #2 w/Femara + Ovidrel September 2016 ~BFN IUI #3 w/Femara + Ovidrel October 2016 ~BFN IUI #4 w/Femara + Ovidrel November 2016 ~BFN IVF with ICSI January 2017 ~BFN FET February 2017 ~BFN IVF with ICSI March 2017 ~BFP--Twins Due 12/8/17 Team Blue X 2!
I haven't been on the board in awhile and came in to see this awful news. My heart is breaking for you. I can't imagine what you must be feeling. I think we're all really glad you still want to hang around here. Hugs, mama.
@bdesterhouse, I'm so glad you're not going to leave. As creepy as this is going to sound, I'll be thinking of you all the time especially throughout this weekend. I hope the test results are helpful somehow so that you can move forward from this in a positive direction. I can't even begin to tell you how much I admire your strength in going through this. I hope you and your H and your son will all be okay. I also hope and pray for only the very best of outcomes for you in the near future.
*lurking* I'm so sorry for everything you're going through! Loss like this is a pain no one should ever have to experience. I hope you're able to get some answers and that your labor goes as smoothly as it can. Sending all the positive vibes possible to you and your family *hug*
Hello ladies, I wanted to give you an update. The medicine they gave me worked a lot quicker than expected. I had a baby boy. We did learn how he passed and it was a cord accident, his cord was wrapped around his neck three times. I decided to name him Jack Leslie (Leslie is my FIL who is severely sick with cancer). My husband had to go home to take care of our fur babies, so we shall see how he feels about me naming him. He didn't seem too thrilled about the idea when he left. This is really hard for him because his dad is also being hospitalized right now across town. So I don't think he even wants to think about any of this, which I cannot blame him. I was able to have a chaplain come and bless him, which did make me feel slightly better. I just pray he felt no pain and I am sorry that there was nothing I could do to help him.
We have two sleeping beauties in heaven. Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016. Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015. They will be forever missed.
I think that is a beautiful name. I hope you're able to get some much needed rest this weekend. Thinking of your and your husband and sending love your way.
I hope this brings you some small amount of closure, you've picked a beautiful name and I'm confident that you will see him again. I'm in tears again for your loss, I am just so, SO sorry. All the hugs mama, please know you're in all our thoughts and prayers.
@bdesterhouse I hope you get some closure from all of this. I'm also so sorry that your FIL is sick. It must be very hard on you guys. Stay strong. We are all praying for your family. Thank you for updating us.
@bdesterhouse I love the name, I'm so sorry again. I hope your husbands father is okay and that you do hang around here with us. Thinking of you and your family .
I'm so sorry for your loss. The name sounds lovely to me, and I hope knowing a little bit more about what happened helps in your grieving process. Thoughts and prayers with you during this time.
It's good you got some answers on what happened. It was an awful accident that couldn't be prevented. You've been such a tough mama through all this. I honestly admire your strength and will continue to send my T&P's your way, to you and your husband.
Also, I think that's a beautiful name.
************* First BFP: 12/16/13 EDD: 08/23/14 Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
Know that you were doing all you could for your little boy & that there was absolutely nothing you could have done differently to prevent this. Im glad that the chaplain coming to bless him has helped you some. You chose a really lovely name for your angel. Xxx
I'm glad you got answers and hope it helps you and your husband grieve. Don't forget to take care of yourself through all this! Right now, you health and wellbeing are so important. My thoughts to you, your husband, and your baby boy.
I am so glad you got some answers about your sweet boy. I am glad the chaplain could bless him, and that things progressed quickly. I can't imagine the pain you are going through, but you are in my thoughts and prayers. I think the name is lovely and i hope your father in law is okay. Sending love and hugs.
Married - 7/29/06 Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09 Mia - 6/16/11 Surprise! due 2/23/17
I love the name and I am glad you were able to get answers and bless your sweet baby. I will be praying for you guys as you go through these two very tough situations.
Prayers for you and your family as you grieve for sweet little Jack Leslie. I'm so sorry to hear about his cord accident.
When I lost my second trimester twins, my husband and I started going to a grief therapist together. It was good for us that we had a set time and place to talk about our babies. My husband opened up more than he would do at home. I'm sure your husband will love the name you chose for your precious boy.
I don't visit these boards often, mostly because of previous losses I've had a hard time enjoying this pregnancy or believing in it. But I did notice you as a fellow PGAL mom and that we shared a due date. I am crushed to think of how hard this will be for you and your family. Just as a mother's love never ends, your grief never ends. Thinking of you & sending prayers for peace and healing.
Re: Devastated
We are gonna love you through this.
I was given quite a few options. My OB was just as heart broken as we are and even cried with us. She said I could let baby come naturally, a d&c (ugh my heart goes out to those who've experience one of these), or take medicine to start labor. I opted to take medicine to start labor and have the baby this weekend. There is a chance the sex maybe able to be determined, but it wasn't promised. I'm not sure if I want to know yet. I don't know how that will affect me. They will look to see if they can tell why baby's heart stopped. I will have tests done and I'm going to request tests be done for my husband as well.
End of trigger warning.
At this time I am open to trying again in three months (that's the amount of time doc said we'd have to wait after all is said/done) and I plan on focusing on getting as healthy as possible these next three months. I'm trying to stay positive, keeping an open mind, and praying for guidance.
Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016.
Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
***TW***
This happened to a woman while I was at my MW yesterday... I didn't know her, but I was heartbroken for her.
***end TW***
I don't know you, but my heart breaks for you too... You are so strong! I hope this weekend is as easy as it can be for you.. I have and will continue to keep you and your family in my thoughts.
TTC#1: October 2015
dx: PCOS & MFI
IUI #1 w/Femara + Ovidrel June 2016 ~ BFP
July 2016: Blighted Ovum
IUI #2 w/Femara + Ovidrel September 2016 ~BFN
IUI #3 w/Femara + Ovidrel October 2016 ~BFN
IUI #4 w/Femara + Ovidrel November 2016 ~BFN
IVF with ICSI January 2017 ~BFN
FET February 2017 ~BFN
IVF with ICSI March 2017 ~BFP--Twins Due 12/8/17
Team Blue X 2!
Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016.
Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
Also, I think that's a beautiful name.
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
Me: 37 - H: 39
TTC#1: 01/2016
BFP: 06/18/2016 - EDD: 02/20/2017 - Born: 01/27/2017
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17
BFP #1 8/4/2015, MMC 9/24/2015
BFP #3 8/24/2017, MC 9/20/2017
BFP #4 11/14/2017, CP
BFP #5 1/5/2018, MC/BO 2/17/2018
BFP #6 7/15/2018, CP
BFP #7 12/15/2018, EDD 8/28/2019
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
When I lost my second trimester twins, my husband and I started going to a grief therapist together. It was good for us that we had a set time and place to talk about our babies. My husband opened up more than he would do at home.
I'm sure your husband will love the name you chose for your precious boy.
I don't visit these boards often, mostly because of previous losses I've had a hard time enjoying this pregnancy or believing in it. But I did notice you as a fellow PGAL mom and that we shared a due date. I am crushed to think of how hard this will be for you and your family. Just as a mother's love never ends, your grief never ends. Thinking of you & sending prayers for peace and healing.