Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

Just found out today...

I'm sure I could find all kinds of useful information here, but I just can't stomach it right now. I was 15 weeks today and went in for a normal check up only to find my baby no longer has a heartbeat. 

My OB recommends a D&C since the baby is measuring less than 14 weeks. It's scheduled for Friday. Anything I should know? I really wanted to bury my baby next to a baby I previously miscarried, but she said it will go to pathology. I'm guessing that's the norm. Do I legally have any rights to take it home? 


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  • I am sorry for your loss. 
  • I'm so sorry for your loss.  I was 10 weeks and baby went to pathology but we have the option to do what we wish with remains when they are finished.   We have 30 days to decide.  I have 2 weeks left to make my decision.  I'm not sure if it's different state to state.  We found out information at d & c. I hope all goes well. 
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  • Mack2342 said:
    I'm so sorry for your loss.  I was 10 weeks and baby went to pathology but we have the option to do what we wish with remains when they are finished.   We have 30 days to decide.  I have 2 weeks left to make my decision.  I'm not sure if it's different state to state.  We found out information at d & c. I hope all goes well. 
    Good to know. I guess I'll find out Friday. 

    I'm sorry for your loss too. It's such a hell hole for all of us. 
  • I am so sorry. 

    I would assume that just because they are doing some testing doesn't mean that you wouldn't have options (as the PP said) regarding the physical remains. 

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  • I am so so sorry for your loss. I am not sure what your rights are but it sure seems like you would be able to take your baby after pathology is done.


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  • I'm so sorry. I just delivered my 2nd loss yesterday, he was 16 weeks. I was given the option after pathology does what they need to we could either let them cremate baby or we could reach out to the funeral home. I want to either bury baby next to his sister or have him cremated.

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  • I'm so sorry for your loss.
  • @nattn I'm so very sorry for your loss. I had a D&C in July and the nurse went over some legal information about our state laws (I'm in Ohio) and cremation/burying the baby. I know it was an option, but I'm not sure of the entire process. My mind was spinning while she was talking.  I pray you are able to do what you want with your baby after pathology. Keeping you in my thoughts. 
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  • I am truly sorry for your loss. I do know that in my state you have the right to take your baby after testing. I would look up the laws of your area, if your up for it, so your not pushed to do anything you do not want to.
  • I appreciate all the advice. It took some doing, but we were able to take the baby after all. We're having he/she cremated and I ordered a special urn. As hard as this time is, at least we're able to get what we want.
  • I'm glad you are able to do what you want. I think that helps the healing process 
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