TTC after 35

Intro: TW - recent MC (6w), terminations

New to thebump, and to any TTC forums. (Though I've been lurking on a couple for a few weeks now.) MC at 6w2d on Aug 3 while on a 5-week trip away from DH and my docs. 

DH and I were NTNP for about a year, but now we're 3 cycles in (including the MC) to a regimen with BD schedules and repeat testing and long waits to see specialists. I thought I might get lucky last cycle (post MC fertility bump?), but AF is here and heavier than ever.

As for risk factors: I'm 37, have anemia, adenomyosis, and allergies that have gone bananas over the past 8 months. I had three terminations during college, all pregnancies that happened with bf's while on the pill. (Wtf, I know. Please no judgements here.) I haven't been on any hormones for over ten years though, and the drastic shift from overly-fertile to quiet womb makes me very nervous.

All my family and friends know I've wanted to be a mom since I was 9. Convincing DH to start trying has been it's own really long exhausting journey. My friends are done having kids/trying to have kids/talking about having kids. I'm feeling emotionally raw and worried about the impact of being bummed and just not myself. I'm letting the uncertainty of this process really get to me.

So... now that I've got all my Debbie Downer intro stuff out, I'll be sunnier when I show up in the other posts/check-in. Looking forward to hearing/supporting everyone's journeys.

Re: Intro: TW - recent MC (6w), terminations

  • SFtoBKtoYVR.  I hope your stay here is short.  :)
    History and blog link in spoiler
    2016 - dx with super low ovarian reserve; failed cycle with clomid, failed IUI, 
    2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
    moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
    Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP!  baby boy born 8/22/18

    May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
    Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
    May 2020 FET; BFN
    July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
    Oct 2020 BFP! 

    Take a look at my blog

  • @SFtoBKtoYVR welcome! I'm sorry to hear of your loss but hope you find lots of support here. FX for you!
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  • Thank you, ladies! :) I hope your stays here are brief and end in joy. 
  • Hello and welcome!  Sorry to hear about your recent loss.  Wishing you lots of luck!
    Me: 41
    Husband: 40
    TTC#1 since 9/2014
    Unexplained Infertility - Trying naturally
  • Welcome! 
    Me: 39 SO: 36

    Dx: low progesterone, possible DOR - officially "unexplained"

    TTC#1 since November 2015
    9/16/2016 IUI#1 - BFN
    10/12/2016 IUI#2 - BFN
    1/21/2017 Clomid/IUI#3 - BFN
    March 2017 IVF: BFP! (beta#1 191, beta#2 378!) - it's a boy! DS born 12/6/2017

    TTC #2 since July 2018
    May 2019 IVF #2: BFP! (beta#1 346, beta#2 646) - vanishing twin at 8 weeks. Baby B still going strong - due 2/8/20!
    Pregnancy Ticker
  • So sorry to hear about your loss.  You've come to the right place!  Being AMA is a struggle all in itself, and TTC can be such an isolating situation.  Hugs to you, and welcome!
    Me: 45 OH: 42
    Beloved SS: born 12/2011
    TTC my bio #1/our #2 since January 2016
    **TW** June 2016 had CP **end TW**
    August 2016 - dx with DOR
    Somewhere in here received recommendation to do IVF with donor eggs, elected not to; OH dx with Low T
    May 2017 - began freezing sperm
    June 2017 - OH began treatment for Low T
    July 2017 - began doing 1 IUI via a midwife and 1 at home insemination each cycle
    July 2018 - exhausted frozen sperm, officially NTNP since OH is probably shooting blanks

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