WTF Tropical Depression 9! You better not mess with my plans to travel home on Friday! I expect to be in my bed cuddling with my hubby and puppy on Friday night.
Married 4/12/13 TTC since 6/13 Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016 SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
The emotions. I have them all today. A really awful local news story set me off last night. It just crushes me when people are not good to children. And now I'm definitely in a pregnancy hormones pit. Just gotta wait it out I suppose. Also I brought leftover pizza for lunch. It was eaten by 8:30. WTF hormones.
Coworkers. Mostly clients and consultants from other companies. How do you keep your contracts? I'm counting down the days until my maternity leave (or my backfill is hired and badged- yay government contracting!) so I can get the hell out of here and never look back. These people are crazy. And I'm done working with them once I go...new clients when I get back!
And school PTA. Seriously, you've been communicating about Back to School night since before school even started. Now you email us today and ask that we not bring children? Where I come from, Back to School night was ABOUT the kids. So now DH can't go and I get to spend the time with exH and his "know-it-all cause she is 24 and a teacher" gf* without the buffer of DH or my kid. Thanks. (No offense to the young ones on the board, but 1 year of teaching under your belt, zero children of your own, and a few months of living somewhere other than your parent's house does not make you an expert in child rearing, education, or adulting).
@slartybartfast I feel you on the emotions. I had a bad dream last night and then was startled awake by the cat which sparked a 20 minute kim kardashian style ugly cry. My husband couldn't help but laugh at me while he tried to comfort me, which didn't help things.
WTF- pelvic pressure and "cramping" which led to an unscheduled OB visit this morning. Thankfully everything looks great and closed- but my WTF is more about the explanation- she thinks it's my age and my pelvis is taking a "beating." So I guess I can WTF my age, my old pelvis and the cramps that go along with them. Dr. said that the pressure will be a "friend" through the rest of this pregnancy. I already feel like I'm deep in the 3rd trimester with trouble sleeping and all of the other "fun" 3rd tri symptoms. perhaps this really belongs in the Monday BF.....
WTF body? Everything hurts. I feel like an old woman by the end of the day. Upper back pain, feet hurt, lower stomach/pelvis pain. Ugh what is it going to be like a month from now?
WTF weather. I feel like it's an abomination to have to deal with falling leaves and still 90 degree weather. My dogs track in all the crap from outside and yet no cool fall breeze to go with it. Just trash upon sweaty misery. I wanna wear a scarf and eat something pumpkin if I'm going to need to vacuum every day.
WTF stupid work and maternity leave. DH is out of town at a family birthday thing, and I would've LOVED to have gone too. But nope. Gotta save all my time, and still won't have enough time anyways. Seriously irritates me to no end. Birth a human or two, and hurry back to work! And my supervisor, a woman who's had three kids, is actually the WORST about this whole me being pregnant thing.
WTF stupid work and maternity leave. DH is out of town at a family birthday thing, and I would've LOVED to have gone too. But nope. Gotta save all my time, and still won't have enough time anyways. Seriously irritates me to no end. Birth a human or two, and hurry back to work! And my supervisor, a woman who's had three kids, is actually the WORST about this whole me being pregnant thing.
+1, but I'm adding my OB practice. After being a PITA to get them to nail down exactly what I can/can't do, they called this morning. Apparently they had a miscommunication among the group and I might be allowed to go back to work starting Monday. GRRRRRRRRR its been 6 weeks of trying to get this crap nailed down, dealing with HR lawyers, and trying to explain to them why I NEED to work and I get an 'oopsie, maybe we over-reacted/didn't talk to each other'. This is Bullsh!t!!
Formerly known as Kate08young August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Me: 28 H: 24 Married: 7/22/14 Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017. Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
@Kate08Young wtf!?!? I'd be so pissed. It seems like choosing to have a family is actually a luxury in the US. Everyone looks shocked when I say I'll be lucky to get 6 weeks off, and I won't get ANY vacation time until 2018 because of it, and NOPE FMLA doesn't apply to me because I work for a company with less than 25 employees. It's like you have to plan two years ahead of time to have a baby. And then it's even worse for someone like you, who ends up on bed rest on top of it all! Shocker, we still need to make money to survive, even though we're having kids...
My WTF is to myself. I stayed up way way too late last night reading a book and I'm dragging big time today. I don't know what I was thinking - normally if I did this I'd chug caffeine all day. If only that was an option...
Also, like @slartybartfast emotions and hormones are a big WTF. I teared up because I saw a puppy at Starbucks this morning, he was just too adorable to handle.
@slartybartfast I feel you on the pizza. Even pre-pregnancy, whenever I bring leftover pizza for lunch it's literally all I can think about until lunch time. I've been known to eat it before lunch too. Once, I had bad morning/all day sickness and couldn't eat the pizza I had brought and was so sad. Then that evening I forgot to take my lunchbox home. But you bet I came in and ate that day-old sitting out pizza the next day. I'm so gross. But I really love pizza.
I just went to a store to get a drink and when I walked in, the cashier hollered "Welcome! Need help finding anything?" and I wanted to burst into tears and shout "STOP YELLING AT ME" Instead I smiled and shook my head and hurried down an aisle as my eyes actually did fill with tears. WWWTTTFFFF
Regarding emotions, oh holy hell. I went to Babies R Us yesterday and started tearing up the second I walked through the door. I'm just so overwhelmed at the fact that I will have a little dude to take care of in just a couple months. Most of the time I'm SO excited about it, but then sometimes I'm freaking out at the foreverness of it all.
Anyway, I have two WTFs.
First one goes to the two hurricanes moving toward Hawaii. WTF. At least one will be through before we fly on Friday, but then there's another one. Don't ruin my weekend, Lester.
The second one goes to me. I have been waiting for a dress I ordered in the mail (going to a wedding this weekend, thus the reason for the trip to Hawaii), and it hasn't showed up yet. I check my order status online... no order. I never ordered it. Just great. Welp, time for an emergency trip to the mall today!
@brittnic86 I'm with you on maternity leave. I waited until today to talk to HR about it because I've been dreading it. Unfortunately they confirmed exactly what I thought. I get FMLA but 0 maternity leave compensation. I've worked for this company four years and it is a growing, medium size company with the worst benefits ever. At least I didn't have my hopes up.
WTF... white maternity tank tops. Has anyone found any that aren't completely see through??
I bought one at Target and Pink Blush, and both are super see through. I already washed the Target one, but may return the PB one. So sad.
Also, I need to call on my maternity leave. I know we get 2 weeks before and 8 weeks after paid per FMLA. BUT, I have vacation that I thought I could use towards leave but don't think I can now (10 days) due to our busy November work schedule and all hands on deck. My new manager said I should be good for the 2 weeks before since by Thanksgiving we should be all done, but still. As a FTM, this is stressful to figure out.
Edit: Spelling, as I did it from my phone and didn't catch some stuff reading it back through
Me: 37 years old
DH: 39 years old
Married: October 17, 2014 TTC Since: November 2015 BFP: March 31, 2016 DS: November 21, 2016
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@brittnic I plan my kids 2.5 years apart because that's how long it takes me to save enough pto for 12 weeks. That leaves 4 weeks for bedrest and 8 for post baby (c section) or 12 for post baby if all goes well. I don't take vacation and totally dread sick days for those 2.5 years. It sucks.
Spacing between dd1 and this kid will be 2.5 years give or take a few days. I would space a little closer next time if I could but it's not possible with the pto situation.
If you look at the Spacing of most women's kids who work here, it's 2.5 to 3 years. Men's kids (who's wives don't work here) are closer to 12-18 months. Apparently I was the first to notice this.
WTF to cleaning. I'm taking a break from scrubbing a bathtub we don't even use, and somehow it has hard soap crusties all in it. Wtf to the people that clean as a career--I don't know how you do it, and once Ashton gets here, it's going to look like a bomb went off. Then I'll be thinking of the days where I just had soap scum crusties in the bathroom....
@dmontgo I hate cleaning so much more being pregnant. Kills my back. I make FI do the vacuuming cause I just can't.
I'm dreading deep cleaning this house once all our furniture and stuff is out. It was nasty when we moved in. Like dead roaches under the cabinets, dead lizard in the bathtub, brown water in the toilets nasty. The leasing agency actually had to refund us a few days rent because it wasn't in livable conditions. Landlord later fired the agency. I'm debating just doing a quick surface level clean. No way he could argue it's in worse shape now then when we moved in. But then I think of possibly having to argue with him later and not sure it's worth it. Ugg.
So annoyed about maternity leave. Like, don't even talk to me about it unless you're ready to sit through a rant. My work gives 2 weeks paid...oh and they give male employees the same! So whether or a dad, or pushed a baby out of your vagina, you get the same amount of time. I'll get sick time next year, 6 days, maybe...and there will baby Doctor appointments that I'm sure will eat that up.
1. DH. Got me sick. He complains constantly. He takes meds. He coughed all night and I finally succeeded in kicking him to the couch at 3am after 4 attempts. Ugh. Today he is going med free because he's seeing the doctor. Constant complaining about how much worse he now feels...but he did apologize for getting me sick after seeing kinda how this is without super strong meds.
2. Pool company. We pay for our pool to be serviced and cleaned and chemicals added every week. Last Thursday the pool was a little foggy but it sometimes is the day after chemicals are added (they come wed). Get home from vacation yesterday to a toxic slime green pool. Checked the logs...no one's been out in August. Checked credit card, they billed for Aug. Call them to complain and the guy said the new pool guy couldn't get in the gate so he stopped coming. No call to us. One of us has been home sick every Wednesday in Aug...they never showed at all. Now it's gonna take lots of chemicals to fix and even if the algae is gone by this weekend like what they said, it's gonna be too acidic for me or DD to swim. Also the cover has to stay off so the pool will get cold. This is basically the end of swimming season for us now because it will never warm up enough with the cooler evenings. I'm pissed.
3. Work. Got called into my boss's office for a chat. Was told that I'm being temporarily assigned as the boss for the next 2 weeks while Boss is out. Said grooming me for the future and how awesome i am..... Then at the very end he said a lot of why they think I should be groomed is because I'm 25 years younger than everyone else and there's no reason to groom them to take over for just a few years before they retire. So I'm torn about this whole thing. Glad they see potential in me to lead...but question if it's just because I'm young.
@dmontgo bathtub scrubbing is the worst. I swear our unused tub gets dirtier too.
@tinatt23 we're living the same moving life and DH and I totally had the "how crazy are we really going to clean this place" convo. We got it pretty good, but I kept getting annoyed at DH for going a little too crazy and spending too long in areas (he literally had qtips involved cleaning the fridge lol). We still need to clean up the yard (blow leaves, pull random weeds) and we keep talking about just saying screw it, and giving the keys back so we can be totally done.
@cgss11 Glad we're not the only crazy people to take on a move at 20-some weeks pregnant. I keep asking myself why we're doing this. Oh yeah, because it was now or doing it with a newborn. And then a 24 hour road trip with a newborn. Screw that. Haha.
@dmontgo My house looks like a bomb went off in each room. It hasn't ever been not cluttered as we have 0 storage space, but with L pushing/moving things + his toys+bouncers+ walker+ my 'work office' stuff it is just a disaster. I just had to move all my grading from a chair so that the pups had a 'safe from the baby' space. The good thing is, after a while you learn to not care as much.
Formerly known as Kate08young August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Me: 28 H: 24 Married: 7/22/14 Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017. Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
@tinattt23 I'm trying to take a couple of weeks to deep clean the house one little piece at a time so that in the third trimester it will just be maintenance and surface cleaning. I really like it when my house is clean, but man...cleaning while pregnant is big, sweaty, hairy bawlz.
@Kate08Young I'm texting a friend this very minute and we are talking about how perfection is the enemy in motherhood...to just be ok with "good enough." Gonna be a hard lesson for me--there is a LOT I need to pull an Elsa on and just LET IT GOOO--
WTF to performance reviews. My semi-annual one is scheduled for late September, conveniently smack dab in the middle of several work trips. I'm going through my self evaluation and even I want to give myself a check-minus or needs improvement. I'm just doin what I have to to survive at this point. Can't we postpone this bs until after leave?!
@dmontgo I keep looking around my house at all the deep cleaning that needs to be done. Just makes me tired thinking about it. So it hasn't happened yet lol.
@dmontgo as much as I've tried to pull an Elsa on things....I've only 50% succeeded. All those perfection things still end up on my to do list and drive me crazy....but I rarely have time to do them. I mean really, who needs clean toilets?!? (Just kidding, we now pay ppl to deep clean once a month and I do light cleaning in between, so our toilets are typically clean).
@dmontgo Pretty much everyone in my family (besides me) has their house cleaned. Some once a month. Some weekly. Their houses all vary widely in size and are in different states. Different cleaning ladies doing different tasks. And I swear they all pay $100 per visit. No idea how that makes sense, but it is what it is.
I'm sure I can come up with $100 once a month...I think it would be a huge weight off my shoulders once everything is going on. I can do light cleaning, but it would be nice to not have to worry about it all the time.
@dmontgo we have someone clean twice a month for $80 a pop. She does a good job, but the really awesome person we had charged $125. I opted for the cheaper and more often versus the more expensive and less often option.
It's a major cost but it is honestly well worth it for my sanity. I'm really Type A and as much as I try to Elsa it out, I can't relax in a messy and dirty house and I work too many hours to devote the time to cleaning that it would take to have a nice, clean house. The thing with paying someone to clean is it also puts us on a schedule of straightening up all the clutter. I love my DH to pieces, but he has ADHD and tends to leave a trail of stuff wherever he goes, so it helps to be able to say, "she's cleaning tomorrow, we have to straighten up."
I will echo everyone who is WTFing their maternity leave policies....I feel like this is a real problem in our country. My company's leave policy is not going to do me any favors either....I'll get to take 2 weeks of PTO and 4 weeks at 60% pay and that's it. The shitty thing is, they give 6 weeks paid if you've been employed for 18 months. By the time LO is born, I will be at 15 months. I'm in the process of preparing a plan to present to my supervisor whereby I'd get the 6 weeks paid in exchange for doing some work from home. Fingers crossed my plan works.
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Re: WTF Wednesday 8/31/16
TTC since 6/13
Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change
BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016
SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
Also I brought leftover pizza for lunch. It was eaten by 8:30.
WTF hormones.
And school PTA. Seriously, you've been communicating about Back to School night since before school even started. Now you email us today and ask that we not bring children? Where I come from, Back to School night was ABOUT the kids. So now DH can't go and I get to spend the time with exH and his "know-it-all cause she is 24 and a teacher" gf* without the buffer of DH or my kid. Thanks. (No offense to the young ones on the board, but 1 year of teaching under your belt, zero children of your own, and a few months of living somewhere other than your parent's house does not make you an expert in child rearing, education, or adulting).
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
Also, like @slartybartfast emotions and hormones are a big WTF. I teared up because I saw a puppy at Starbucks this morning, he was just too adorable to handle.
Instead I smiled and shook my head and hurried down an aisle as my eyes actually did fill with tears.
WWWTTTFFFF
Anyway, I have two WTFs.
First one goes to the two hurricanes moving toward Hawaii. WTF. At least one will be through before we fly on Friday, but then there's another one. Don't ruin my weekend, Lester.
The second one goes to me. I have been waiting for a dress I ordered in the mail (going to a wedding this weekend, thus the reason for the trip to Hawaii), and it hasn't showed up yet. I check my order status online... no order. I never ordered it. Just great. Welp, time for an emergency trip to the mall today!
WTF... white maternity tank tops. Has anyone found any that aren't completely see through??
I bought one at Target and Pink Blush, and both are super see through. I already washed the Target one, but may return the PB one. So sad.
Also, I need to call on my maternity leave. I know we get 2 weeks before and 8 weeks after paid per FMLA. BUT, I have vacation that I thought I could use towards leave but don't think I can now (10 days) due to our busy November work schedule and all hands on deck. My new manager said I should be good for the 2 weeks before since by Thanksgiving we should be all done, but still. As a FTM, this is stressful to figure out.
Edit: Spelling, as I did it from my phone and didn't catch some stuff reading it back through
TTC Since: November 2015
BFP: March 31, 2016
DS: November 21, 2016
Spacing between dd1 and this kid will be 2.5 years give or take a few days. I would space a little closer next time if I could but it's not possible with the pto situation.
If you look at the Spacing of most women's kids who work here, it's 2.5 to 3 years. Men's kids (who's wives don't work here) are closer to 12-18 months. Apparently I was the first to notice this.
I'm dreading deep cleaning this house once all our furniture and stuff is out. It was nasty when we moved in. Like dead roaches under the cabinets, dead lizard in the bathtub, brown water in the toilets nasty. The leasing agency actually had to refund us a few days rent because it wasn't in livable conditions. Landlord later fired the agency. I'm debating just doing a quick surface level clean. No way he could argue it's in worse shape now then when we moved in. But then I think of possibly having to argue with him later and not sure it's worth it. Ugg.
1. DH. Got me sick. He complains constantly. He takes meds. He coughed all night and I finally succeeded in kicking him to the couch at 3am after 4 attempts. Ugh. Today he is going med free because he's seeing the doctor. Constant complaining about how much worse he now feels...but he did apologize for getting me sick after seeing kinda how this is without super strong meds.
2. Pool company. We pay for our pool to be serviced and cleaned and chemicals added every week. Last Thursday the pool was a little foggy but it sometimes is the day after chemicals are added (they come wed). Get home from vacation yesterday to a toxic slime green pool. Checked the logs...no one's been out in August. Checked credit card, they billed for Aug. Call them to complain and the guy said the new pool guy couldn't get in the gate so he stopped coming. No call to us. One of us has been home sick every Wednesday in Aug...they never showed at all. Now it's gonna take lots of chemicals to fix and even if the algae is gone by this weekend like what they said, it's gonna be too acidic for me or DD to swim. Also the cover has to stay off so the pool will get cold. This is basically the end of swimming season for us now because it will never warm up enough with the cooler evenings. I'm pissed.
3. Work. Got called into my boss's office for a chat. Was told that I'm being temporarily assigned as the boss for the next 2 weeks while Boss is out. Said grooming me for the future and how awesome i am.....
Then at the very end he said a lot of why they think I should be groomed is because I'm 25 years younger than everyone else and there's no reason to groom them to take over for just a few years before they retire. So I'm torn about this whole thing. Glad they see potential in me to lead...but question if it's just because I'm young.
Yes, just keep sleeping, you punk...
@tinatt23 we're living the same moving life and DH and I totally had the "how crazy are we really going to clean this place" convo. We got it pretty good, but I kept getting annoyed at DH for going a little too crazy and spending too long in areas (he literally had qtips involved cleaning the fridge lol). We still need to clean up the yard (blow leaves, pull random weeds) and we keep talking about just saying screw it, and giving the keys back so we can be totally done.
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Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
Thinking of getting house keeper estimates...
WTF hunger. I can't stop eating EVERYTHING IN SIGHT!!!!!
TTC since June 2015
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It's a major cost but it is honestly well worth it for my sanity. I'm really Type A and as much as I try to Elsa it out, I can't relax in a messy and dirty house and I work too many hours to devote the time to cleaning that it would take to have a nice, clean house. The thing with paying someone to clean is it also puts us on a schedule of straightening up all the clutter. I love my DH to pieces, but he has ADHD and tends to leave a trail of stuff wherever he goes, so it helps to be able to say, "she's cleaning tomorrow, we have to straighten up."
I will echo everyone who is WTFing their maternity leave policies....I feel like this is a real problem in our country. My company's leave policy is not going to do me any favors either....I'll get to take 2 weeks of PTO and 4 weeks at 60% pay and that's it. The shitty thing is, they give 6 weeks paid if you've been employed for 18 months. By the time LO is born, I will be at 15 months. I'm in the process of preparing a plan to present to my supervisor whereby I'd get the 6 weeks paid in exchange for doing some work from home. Fingers crossed my plan works.
Me: 33 H: 36
Married: 12/14/13 DS: 1/29/09
BFP2: 10/9/15 MMC: 11/12/15
BFP3: 4/6/16 DD: 12/12/16