@karaelaine1991 nope, I'm in Utah. Which is frustrating on a whole other level haha it's super culturally common to get married and have babies young here and I still can't find mom friends? Come on. Ugh.
Haha yeah I would've thought you'd have no problem! I have a few friends from high school who moved out there after we graduated and they all ended up at least married and, in most cases, pregnant within 2 years of moving there!
Young mom club here too! I have a couple friends with kids, but either their kid is much older because they got KU in high school or they are 10+ years older than me. Which I'm okay with, but our interests are vastly different! The rest of my friends are either still dating or newlyweds who aren't ttc for a while. It's hard making mom friends for sure!
Our RainbowBaby H arrived at 37 weeks on 12/20/16!
Baby E arrived at 37 weeks on 01/31/15!
Married my Marine 05.23.14
*TW* TWIN LOSS 7.2.15 BFP 9.7.15 CP BFP 12.31.15 MC 2.28.16 BFP 10.14.17 CP BFP 3.10.18 D&C 4.13.18
Young mom club! All my friends are in the party stage (and honestly so was I until I found out). I'm reading baby books and the rest of them are too drunk to find their phones.
WEDNESDAY BITCH FEST! Bonus points for in-law bitching! *Background* DH's immediate family and extended family all live within about an hour and half from us, including 3 cousins who are all having babies around the same time as us. The family is close so there has been so bitching and nastiness over "stolen" baby names in the past. Well I'm fairly close to cousin A who lives down the road from me, and months ago when she was "done having babies" I had told her our top baby names and she is one who has had a name "stolen" by cousin C so I figured she was a safe person to tell our names to. Well right after we got our BFP she got one too! So, I told DH I wasn't telling his family our baby names because there is always so much drama involved, particularly the cousins who are having babies and haven't chosen names yet. Well DH slipped and told cousin B the names and I was like "omg she's gonna take my name I love and her baby is due first so then it would look like I was the name stealer!" and was flipping out. This was a few weeks ago. Then last night cousin A who accused cousin C of being her name stealer told me her top boys name which is MY TOP BOYS NAME and she knows it! I'm so mad, because I realize that I do not own that name and that it wouldn't be a huge deal to have second cousins with the same name, even if they are close, but ughhhh double standards!
@ceclarlinetlo RIGHT?! Bitch. Leave my baby name alone, it's mine. We actually went through this last time around too but with SILs. I have 2 SILs who had babies within months of each other and both named the baby a variation of Grandpa's name (Jack) and years later it's still a sore spot so when one of said SIL and I had a baby girl within a month of each other and had both talked about naming a baby boy after FIL I was ready to fight her to the death over it because omg stop taking people's chosen baby names when their babies are coming first! Luckily we both had baby girls, but her baby's middle name is my baby's first name. Ugh.
@katesmama0706 This is why I wish we kept our names to ourselves. In addition to everyone's rude opinions, now everyone around me is popping up pregnant and I'm paranoid about losing my favorite names. I've seen this happen to my best friend (taken by a mutual friend) and it happened to my mom with me. It's so rude. I don't understand where people come across stealing names. I know you don't own the name, but you should have the common decency and respect to at least have a conversation with the person about how much you also love the name.
I have so many angry Drag Race GIFs to add but I'm mobile bumping. Damn.
@emy730 oh you better believe I called her out on it! What makes me so nuts is that the whole family bitches and moans about name stealers but they all do it to each other, which would be fine if we could be normal and see each other a few times a year but we see at least one family member weekly, if not 10+ of them. Similar or same names gets sooooo confusing.
@emy730 oh you better believe I called her out on it! What makes me so nuts is that the whole family bitches and moans about name stealers but they all do it to each other, which would be fine if we could be normal and see each other a few times a year but we see at least one family member weekly, if not 10+ of them. Similar or same names gets sooooo confusing.
What did say when you called her on it? Did she agree not to use it? Or at least agree that if she's going to be upset that someone did that to her, she shouldn't turn around and do it to someone else?
@emy730 oh she hemmed and hawed about "oh I forgot" and "well it's on our short list but it isn't the chosen name" and "but we're spelling it differently". Whatever. My baby is due a full month before hers so if we both have boys and I use it first she looks like the brat.
ETA: she's also keeping her names a big secret from everyone else because they're using her husband's family names as middle and she's afraid it'll hurt feelings on the side of the family we have in common so nobody will know she was considering it if I use it first. But it still bugged me.
@katesmama0706, while I agree no one ownsa name it's still rude and spiteful to name your kid the same name that was told to you by someone else. One of our "friends" (we kicked her off the island when she basically stopped talking to us when she graduated) from college just stole another friends baby name. This has been my friends picked out girl name since we all became friends in 2002 and had those drunken dorm nights talking about our futures. It just sucks.
Can I bitch a little today about my first day of school? Yes, thank you! First day with kids, in a new building but 10 year teaching vet. I'm used to the typical first day hectic mess. What I'm not used to is my schedule being changed not once, not twice but three times, the last one being 10 min before my next scheduled class on the FIRST day of school! I'm a Special Ed teacher so inclusion (special Ed kids learning beside regular Ed kids in a reg Ed classroom while two teachers co-teach) is being pushed hardcore and this building has never done it before so to appease the district/state reps they're doing a form of inclusion where I'm a glorified assistant. The reg Ed teachers do not want "my" kids in "their" classes and "nothing personal against me" but what they're trying to do is "illegal" which is NOT the case. It just dumbfounded me that before my so called "horrible building" closed two years ago we were already doing inclusion with real co-teaching and all the kids were learning in a respectful environment. I don't know how or why within the same district there are still buildings operating under the same parameters as 30 years ago. It's going to be a long year.
Re: Monday Bitchfest- 8.22.16
*TW*
TWIN LOSS 7.2.15
BFP 9.7.15 CP
BFP 12.31.15 MC 2.28.16
BFP 10.14.17 CP
BFP 3.10.18 D&C 4.13.18
*Background*
DH's immediate family and extended family all live within about an hour and half from us, including 3 cousins who are all having babies around the same time as us. The family is close so there has been so bitching and nastiness over "stolen" baby names in the past. Well I'm fairly close to cousin A who lives down the road from me, and months ago when she was "done having babies" I had told her our top baby names and she is one who has had a name "stolen" by cousin C so I figured she was a safe person to tell our names to. Well right after we got our BFP she got one too!
So, I told DH I wasn't telling his family our baby names because there is always so much drama involved, particularly the cousins who are having babies and haven't chosen names yet. Well DH slipped and told cousin B the names and I was like "omg she's gonna take my name I love and her baby is due first so then it would look like I was the name stealer!" and was flipping out. This was a few weeks ago. Then last night cousin A who accused cousin C of being her name stealer told me her top boys name which is MY TOP BOYS NAME and she knows it! I'm so mad, because I realize that I do not own that name and that it wouldn't be a huge deal to have second cousins with the same name, even if they are close, but ughhhh double standards!
BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
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Diagnoses and Treatments
PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
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BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏
I have so many angry Drag Race GIFs to add but I'm mobile bumping. Damn.
ETA: she's also keeping her names a big secret from everyone else because they're using her husband's family names as middle and she's afraid it'll hurt feelings on the side of the family we have in common so nobody will know she was considering it if I use it first. But it still bugged me.
Can I bitch a little today about my first day of school? Yes, thank you! First day with kids, in a new building but 10 year teaching vet. I'm used to the typical first day hectic mess. What I'm not used to is my schedule being changed not once, not twice but three times, the last one being 10 min before my next scheduled class on the FIRST day of school! I'm a Special Ed teacher so inclusion (special Ed kids learning beside regular Ed kids in a reg Ed classroom while two teachers co-teach) is being pushed hardcore and this building has never done it before so to appease the district/state reps they're doing a form of inclusion where I'm a glorified assistant. The reg Ed teachers do not want "my" kids in "their" classes and "nothing personal against me" but what they're trying to do is "illegal" which is NOT the case. It just dumbfounded me that before my so called "horrible building" closed two years ago we were already doing inclusion with real co-teaching and all the kids were learning in a respectful environment. I don't know how or why within the same district there are still buildings operating under the same parameters as 30 years ago. It's going to be a long year.