This might be better for the names thread, but I don't care. It's still random. Now that we know we're having a boy, I'm having a really really hard time with names. For tradition reasons, I'm "forced" into using letters that don't have a lot of names to be desired. I had the perfect name for a girl. Bah.
All this bagel talk has me contemplating crossing a river to get a Bruegger's bagel sandwich for lunch... Mmmmm, bagel sandwich. (Does anyone else have Bruegger's in their area?)
This might be better for the names thread, but I don't care. It's still random. Now that we know we're having a boy, I'm having a really really hard time with names. For tradition reasons, I'm "forced" into using letters that don't have a lot of names to be desired. I had the perfect name for a girl. Bah.
We're having a much harder time with boy names, too. Basically, we've got nothing, though we don't know the sex yet so it may be a moot point. I'd say don't be pressured into following family traditions unless it is truly meaningful to you. MIL is really on our back about using certain names and we are 100% going to rebel against her requests.
@Gingersnap, my DS and DD still share a room and they're almost 6 and almost 4. We tried to split them up at our last place (that had 3 bedrooms) and that did not go over well at all. They actually prefer sharing a room.
@Xstatic3333 they're more like religion traditions (I'm Jewish) that are important not only to me but also to my family. We are looking to name after my FIL and uncle who have passed away. I know we'll figure something out.
This is my breakfast every morning. It's pretty much all I can handle first thing. Sometimes I have one for lunch too
I have been living on bagels. sometimes twice a day too. good to know I am not alone in this bc I was feeling pretty bad about it.
As for the naming traditions, we're supposed to name after my husband's parents. Problem is I hate them (the names, not the people). They're so ethnic and not nice sounding in English. My husband doesn't care but my mother said I would be "the world's worst daughter in law" if I didn't do it. It's Areti (f) and Aristideis (m). help!
@Eveinshock "the world's worst daughter in law"?? OMG - nope. Get that guilt and emotional manipulation right the f out of here. Name your kid what you want. Make their middle name your in-laws' names if you want a nod to them, but you are not required to put up with that.
@Eveinshock WHAT?! My jaw just dropped at your MIL's comment!! Could there be a compromise using names that sorta honor them without sucking? Like Arianna or Arlo or something with an Ar- prefix that could technically honor both without using their actual names?
How did your husband respond to his mom's venomous comment?
How did your husband respond to his mom's venomous comment?
He thought it was pretty funny bc it was MY OWN MOTHER! His mother would never have said that. She's really sweet. I think the issue is that my FIL is deceased and I would be "evil" to not name after him considering what a strong greek tradition it is. But he already has one grandson named after him! My MIL has no granddaughters so that's another pressure too.
I am trying to figure out how to make those names into something America-friendly and pronounceable. My own real name is not Eve but is an acceptable manipulation. His mom's dad was named Leonidas. THAT I love.
It really rubs me the wrong way when people feel like they can impose naming traditions on someone else.
First, I was not part of said tradition so if I wasn't consulted, don't think for a minute that I feel obligated to carry it on.
Second, it's my child and no one else has a say in what I name them. You had your children and had the opportunity to name them what you wanted. You no longer have a say.
My mom always said that one of us girls (she had 3 girls) needed to name a daughter Florence Isabel. Florence was after my great grandma (her grandma who died and my mom didn't have another girl after the death) she would get irritated that none of us girls liked the name and I had to remind her often that if she liked it so well, she should have named one of us that. My first was a boy and while pregnant with my daughter, my sister announced her pregnancy with a girl also. Luckily my sister was a major Twi-hard and named her daughter Isabella and that was good enough. Lol
Oh yeah a random thought after that... today I went in for my 16 week appointment and we scheduled the OB ultrasound. On my disclaimer paper it states I'll receive a DVD that we can have to share with family and friends. I didn't get that way back, while pregnant with my other 2 so I'm looking forward to it!! And I'm excited just knowing that the date is scheduled in.
We got a LOT of shit for not at least middle naming our kids after our dads. It took me like 2 months to be able to pronounce his dad's name and 5 years to spell it.
Yeah, MIL really wanted us to use her dad's name, which is also my dad's name, for a MN. Little does she know that 1) H's pregnant cousin already messaged me to "call it," and I want no part in that mess, 2) My super close friend due 3 weeks after me is also using this name after her deceased dad, and 3) we're not that into it. 3) would have been reason enough, and her pressure earned her the pleasure of knowing nothing about our names til the baby is out.
My dog did the CUTEST thing last night. Normally, when we watch our evening shows, she'll sit at the opposite end of the couch, so she's near, but not touching us. Last night she came over and sat next to me, pressed her little nose to my belly for a minute, looked up at me, and then gently laid her head down on my baby bump. I. About. Died. So much cuteness.
I have a long time friend that has slowly become seemingly schizophrenic and believes there is a government conspiracy against him. He's pretty angry and hard to be friends with. I had always made an effort to check in on him and keep in touch, but last year (next month) my husband made him dinner and I baked a cake for his birthday and he was such an asshole about it, he threw away the cake I made. I just stopped making the effort. It was so one sided and hard and I had enough going on in my life where I didn't need someone who wasn't my family being cruel to me.
Anyway he just texted me telling me he needs to talk to me and is having a rough time. So now I have all the anxieties.
While pregnant with DD WE as in husband and I were debating between kayli and Brooke because we both like kayli but couldn't agree on the spelling (he won) but when my mil heard that we were debating she repeatedly told us that she liked Brooke. It annoyed me so much that I was ok with spelling kayli my husbands way just to keep mil bummed and now this past Saturday she asked if we had potential names picked out. I told her yes, but we're not telling anyone yet. Lol
Thanks, Pauk. My travelling friend popped right into my head when I first read it, but then I thought it might have been insensitive to you and the many others around here that live in FL. Nice to see you in Feb BTW!
While pregnant with DD WE as in husband and I were debating between kayli and Brooke because we both like kayli but couldn't agree on the spelling (he won) but when my mil heard that we were debating she repeatedly told us that she liked Brooke. It annoyed me so much that I was ok with spelling kayli my husbands way just to keep mil bummed and now this past Saturday she asked if we had potential names picked out. I told her yes, but we're not telling anyone yet. Lol
We intend on keeping baby's name under wraps. We will tell some people, but we think we want it to be a surprise for our families.
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My dad was so mad when we named DS. His first name was after H's dad and middle after H's uncle. I went along with it because I knew how important it was to H and also really liked the names. I thought it was crazy how pissy my dad got about it considering we weren't even close. With DD we didn't tell anyone right up until she was born. I didn't feel like listening to all the comments from the peanut gallery.
@Jab3 my sons naming process was similar. I didn't have any strong feelings on boys names and it was really important to my SO to name our kid after his dad. I thought about it a lot (nicknames, resumes, office door) and came to the conclusion that it was a really good name. The backlash from my family was ridiculous. This time we already have names picked out for either boy or girl but we aren't telling anyone.
So, my grandma just gifted me a bunch of little diamonds that were from two rings that my biological grandfather had given her before he died. I went to my jeweler to see if we could add them to my wedding ring and he examines them and informs me that only about half of them are real!! Lol, I don't think she has any idea he gave her fake diamonds!!
I spent aaalll day in meetings and had to lead 3 hours' worth. I'm exhausted and sick of hearing myself talk.
Catching up now! H had DS's first name picked out before he even met me and we gave DS H's first name for a middle name. We don't have much pressure re: naming, but I think it's my turn
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Now I really want a cinnamon crunch bagel from Panera
Married: 9/2013
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BFP: 2/1/16 MC 2/8/16 @ 5wks
BFP: 5/22/16 RAINBOW BABY
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Now that we know we're having a boy, I'm having a really really hard time with names. For tradition reasons, I'm "forced" into using letters that don't have a lot of names to be desired. I had the perfect name for a girl. Bah.
Me: 37 - H: 39
TTC#1: 01/2016
BFP: 06/18/2016 - EDD: 02/20/2017 - Born: 01/27/2017
I love bagel sandwiches, definitely get one!
Me: 37 - H: 39
TTC#1: 01/2016
BFP: 06/18/2016 - EDD: 02/20/2017 - Born: 01/27/2017
As for the naming traditions, we're supposed to name after my husband's parents. Problem is I hate them (the names, not the people). They're so ethnic and not nice sounding in English. My husband doesn't care but my mother said I would be "the world's worst daughter in law" if I didn't do it. It's Areti (f) and Aristideis (m). help!
How did your husband respond to his mom's venomous comment?
Fortunately we get to use the first letter and not the whole name.
Me: 37 - H: 39
TTC#1: 01/2016
BFP: 06/18/2016 - EDD: 02/20/2017 - Born: 01/27/2017
I think the issue is that my FIL is deceased and I would be "evil" to not name after him considering what a strong greek tradition it is. But he already has one grandson named after him! My MIL has no granddaughters so that's another pressure too.
I am trying to figure out how to make those names into something America-friendly and pronounceable. My own real name is not Eve but is an acceptable manipulation. His mom's dad was named Leonidas. THAT I love.
First, I was not part of said tradition so if I wasn't consulted, don't think for a minute that I feel obligated to carry it on.
Second, it's my child and no one else has a say in what I name them. You had your children and had the opportunity to name them what you wanted. You no longer have a say.
Third, fuck off.
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Little Bro 2/6/17
I don't, however, like names being pushed on anyone.
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BFP May 16th 2016
DD born January 30 2017
Surprise BFP/MC April 2017
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
Anyway he just texted me telling me he needs to talk to me and is having a rough time. So now I have all the anxieties.
Edit: Super poor phrasing.
BFP May 16th 2016
DD born January 30 2017
Surprise BFP/MC April 2017
BFP May 16th 2016
DD born January 30 2017
Surprise BFP/MC April 2017
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
Catching up now! H had DS's first name picked out before he even met me and we gave DS H's first name for a middle name. We don't have much pressure re: naming, but I think it's my turn
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