Although I really don't care which sex we get, I do confess that a boy would feel easier to me since I'm much more fond of boy clothes. It's silly, but it's my truth and I speak it.
Were finding out the sex tomorrow & i think ill be a little disappointed if its a boy & my husband will be a little disappointed if its girl! That being said we will get over it pretty quickly as this baby is very much wanted and loved. But i can totally understand the initial reaction.
I brought a piece of pie for second breakfast this morning (yes- 2nd breakfast is a thing every day) and I'm still going to have a big piece tonight. I'm the only one that likes the kind we have so I have to make sure it doesn't get thrown away.
I love that someone else is doing second breakfast. I was breaking my food day down to Hubby last night and explained it as: breakfast, second breakfast, elevensies, lunch, snack, dinner.
If we have another girl, I'm going to be worried for her. DD is super smart, funny and really strikingly pretty. Red ringlets that are almost waist length, green/ blue eyes and porcelain skin. She looks like a cross between Merida and a porcelain doll. When ever we go anywhere we get stranger coming up and gushing about how pretty she is. So my fear is that I'll birth a completely average looking child (who will look just like myself or H) and the kid will grow up in her big sisters shadow and become jealous and resentful. I know it's crazy, but there it is.
Sooooo. Maybe this my confession but I have a friend who's daughter is like supermodel material at the ripe ol age of 4. Mocha skin with bright blue eyes, silky brown waves, just the perfect facial structure, too. I used to watch her before I went back to work with DD2 and people would always compliment her. My friend had a second daughter and yikes... I love babies. I am a freaking birth doula, I love everything about pregnancy and L&D and newborns and early PP, helping women out is my passion, but this baby.... I cringed when I was asked if I wanted to hold her. She is kind of growing into her looks, but my husband once compared her to Sloth from the Goonies and I cried a little because it is so awful but slightly accurate.
FFFC: I am the prettier older sister (sorry not sorry) and my sister got way more dates in high school than I did.
I brought a piece of pie for second breakfast this morning (yes- 2nd breakfast is a thing every day) and I'm still going to have a big piece tonight. I'm the only one that likes the kind we have so I have to make sure it doesn't get thrown away.
I love that someone else is doing second breakfast. I was breaking my food day down to Hubby last night and explained it as: breakfast, second breakfast, elevensies, lunch, snack, dinner.
I'll be legit disappointed if we don't have a boy and there will probably be tears. We have 3 girls and it's our last chance. And I absolutely dread the shitty comments we will get. So much so that I almost want to pretend to be team green.
Rachel, mama to Ava (6), Olivia (4), Nora (2), and baby#4 on the way.
My friend wants to throw me a shower. I confess that there aren't enough people I like right now (including her) that I could invite. I'm in a little bit of a lone wolf season of life.
Rachel, mama to Ava (6), Olivia (4), Nora (2), and baby#4 on the way.
@vastra Girl I completely understand. I'm in SF and my job was (recently quit) in the middle of market street/union square tourist cluster fuck. There were quite a few times I felt compelled to explain escalator/stair rules to some inconsiderate a holes.
@winchestergirl I stopped shaving my legs with any regularity in 2009. Pants for lyfe.
On the sex topic : at the beginning of this pregnancy I was really hoping for another boy so my son could have a brother. But as I get closer to the anatomy scan I'm just excited to find out and I don't care what the sex is anymore.
On the sex topic....I really want a girl, so badly. I've already got everything figured out if it's a girl, name theme, all the gear, etc. If we have a boy, we've got nothing. But as much as I want a girl....I kinda feel like it's a boy so I'm trying to prepare myself for penis at the a/s
On the sex topic....I really want a girl, so badly. I've already got everything figured out if it's a girl, name theme, all the gear, etc. If we have a boy, we've got nothing. But as much as I want a girl....I kinda feel like it's a boy so I'm trying to prepare myself for penis at the a/s
I was CONVINCED at my pregnancy with Vi was a boy.... but Nope.
On the sex of the baby discussion, I think H and I are both leaning towards a girl because it would be nice to have one of each. Also, I always pictured myself the mother of a girl growing up. However, if it's a boy, I'll be happy to give DS a brother. We may be disappointed initially but we know we'll get over it very quickly!
************* First BFP: 12/16/13 EDD: 08/23/14 Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
In reading some of these responses I feel abnormal in that I don't have a preference for either sex. I feel like I *should* or something. I'm not heartless I swear.
My FFFC is that I hired movers today because it takes stress off me and the move. Husband is PISSED because "he had it covered with his buddies." It seems like a dumb thing to be pissed about so I got passive agressive and hired a company called "College Muscle Movers" so at least if he's going to be an ass about it I have something fun to look at.
I'm actually totally cool with boy or girl. I really don't have a preference. However, I am one of three girls, my sister has 3 girls and I have one girl. If this is a girl then I'm not having a third. If it's a boy, I'm open to having a third child.
I have been wrong every time. I was sure my twins were both boys (boy and girl) and that my youngest was a boy (girl). I can't imagine my life any differently and they are all a perfect fit for our family.
This one I have no idea. We are hoping for a boy for a tie breaker, but girls seem to be our norm.
Married - 7/29/06 Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09 Mia - 6/16/11 Surprise! due 2/23/17
My SIL is getting married in October. I kind of don't want to go because 1) she's only nice when she thinks she'll benefit from it 2) it's nearly 40 mins away and will put us late for getting the kids to bed, and 3) it's the only chance DH and I will have to celebrate our anniversary (her wedding is 3 days before our anniversary and we've already been told at work to expect to work the 2nd and 3rd weekend because it's quarter-end and they want an accelerated timeline). On the other hand there will be cake...
I would feel a lot more guilty about not wanting to go if it wasn't the second marriage for both of them, they hadn't already been pretending to be married for nearly 2 years, and if she weren't already acting like an entitled princess about it.
On the sex preference issue, I just want to gently point out that a number of us tried for a very long time to get and/or stay pregnant, and will be delighted to take home a healthy baby, regardless what that kid is packing. Yall are entitled to your personal preferences, but please be aware (both here and in your personal lives) that worrying over your baby's sex can come across as pretty insensitive to someone who is suffering through infertility or miscarriage.
I REALLY want a girl! I always wanted one of each and no more. Overall I want healthy and if it's a boy I'll be set. I secretly just want to have the only girl on my husbands side.
@NiceyMeany I think for some people that definitely is true, but not always. This is our rainbow baby and I have a preference on what I think/want it to be, but ultimately I just want a healthy child. I'm assuming that everyone here is the same and isn't trying to say what they want to be insensitive to anyone who is struggling either with fertility or miscarriages. Some people have preferences and some don't. I'm sure we ALL want healthy babies regardless and will be happy with what we get, even if disappointed right away.
BFP #1: DD born on 08.25.12
BFP #2: 09/08/15 miscarried at 6w
BFP #3: DD2 born on 02.07.17
DH and I have talked about not going out to eat to save money. I buy stuff to pack my lunch & he bought groceries to eat at home. I've been grabbing food at lunch rather than packing it & practically begging to go out for dinner too a lot of nights. It's not healthy, cost effective or what we decided on, but I have A) not been wanting the food we have at home (kind of typical approach for me) and have exactly 0 desire to cook whatsoever. I should pick out different meals of what sounds good then stick with that, but...I don't.
BFP #1: DD born on 08.25.12
BFP #2: 09/08/15 miscarried at 6w
BFP #3: DD2 born on 02.07.17
On the sex preference issue, I just want to gently point out that a number of us tried for a very long time to get and/or stay pregnant, and will be delighted to take home a healthy baby, regardless what that kid is packing. Yall are entitled to your personal preferences, but please be aware (both here and in your personal lives) that worrying over your baby's sex can come across as pretty insensitive to someone who is suffering through infertility or miscarriage.
^This. As a former member of this BMB, I would do absolutely anything for a healthy take home baby. After an infertility diagnosis and a miscarriage, the comments I'm reading here seem pretty petty.
That being said, I still regularly check in on you ladies and am constantly cheering for you to have a happy and healthy pregnancy.
About me: TTC#1: October 2015 dx: PCOS & MFI IUI #1 w/Femara + Ovidrel June 2016 ~ BFP July 2016: Blighted Ovum IUI #2 w/Femara + Ovidrel September 2016 ~BFN IUI #3 w/Femara + Ovidrel October 2016 ~BFN IUI #4 w/Femara + Ovidrel November 2016 ~BFN IVF with ICSI January 2017 ~BFN FET February 2017 ~BFN IVF with ICSI March 2017 ~BFP--Twins Due 12/8/17 Team Blue X 2!
@Aussie45 I've been having the same issue! I'm always on my hubby about eating out too often for lunch, when he could just pack a lunch and save the money....but I've totally been eating out for lunch every day for the past 2 weeks. Even when I pack a lunch, when it comes time to eat it I'm like, "Nah...that doesn't really look good right now, I'll just go to KFC". Hubby has been very understanding though, I don't know what I did to deserve such an amazing life partner.
My friend wants to throw me a shower. I confess that there aren't enough people I like right now (including her) that I could invite. I'm in a little bit of a lone wolf season of life.
Amen. I don't think my friends will offer a shower, but my aunt will and it'll be 98% family and my mom's friends, and the two people I like. Two once-close friends are also due in Jan/Feb, and I haven't given two Fs to reach out to them to let them know I am too (they both publicly announced, we didn't).
@Aussie45 I've been having the same issue! I'm always on my hubby about eating out too often for lunch, when he could just pack a lunch and save the money....but I've totally been eating out for lunch every day for the past 2 weeks. Even when I pack a lunch, when it comes time to eat it I'm like, "Nah...that doesn't really look good right now, I'll just go to KFC". Hubby has been very understanding though, I don't know what I did to deserve such an amazing life partner.
Sorry, that got a little gushy at the end.
He hasn't said anything thankfully, which is weird for him. So maybe he's just overlooking it, because normally he is all on my case about stuff like this. It's not just my pregnancy though, I'm typically always like this when it comes to eating. If I could make food taste better, then I might have a legitimate chance. Everything I make is very blah & doesn't sound nearly as appealing as pretty much anything else that is available to me.
BFP #1: DD born on 08.25.12
BFP #2: 09/08/15 miscarried at 6w
BFP #3: DD2 born on 02.07.17
I hope none of the comments about sex preference stung any of you. I had a living child when I miscarried, and haven't had to deal with infertility like some of you have. I think all of us here are going to be happy regardless of the sex of our child, but I do see both points.
I too can see both points, and I've been on both sides. I have been pregnant six times with only one child make it to term (this was my last pregnancy). The others were miscarriages and ectopics. With my son I lived in fear daily and truly only wanted a healthy baby. This time, I really hoped for a girl. I knew this would be my last attempt because I'm getting older, and I didn't think I could handle even more miscarriages or another ectopic. I still pray that I get to bring this one home too. I am also surrounded by boys. My son, two godsons, and my brother I helped raise, I really wanted some feminine energy around here. But I totally get, respect and hope for my fellow ladies who are still trying hard to have their babies to bring home.
@silvercamaro77 You are a genius! I'm going to have to buy one of those.
I was a consistent every other day shaver pre-pregnancy.... that lasted until week 6. Luckily it's mostly blonde and screw Florida I wear jeans in summer.
I've been pregnant 7 times. I had a surgical removal of an ectopic a couple weeks before I ovulated with this pregnancy and was told not to try to get pregnant again on my own and we thought we were done. I have two living children one of whom was a premie and one of whom was extremely sick and almost died at 3 months old. I had fertility issues getting pregnant with my second child as well. I don't have the monopoly on fertility issues and heartbreak but I still have one sex I would prefer over the other. I could even say I'm a little offended about the healthy baby comment because we knew going into this another baby could have the same issues my daughter did and the survival rate of infant onset is pretty low and the prognosis they gave us even if she survived was pretty dim at the time, we just got amazingly unbelievably lucky. (I will kick someone's ass if they mention survival of the fittest though because those people can fuck right off) I want this baby regardless of sex or health. Would I worry less during the pregnancy knowing this was a healthy boy? Yes. Doesn't mean I won't love this baby regardless.
As many of you know we lost a little girl last year at 32 weeks, our house was completely ready to bring her home. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't hoping for another girl. If this baby is a boy I will be happy, because he/she is our baby but till we find out I've got my fingers crossed for another daughter. One of each would complete our family, but I know either way we will try for one more after this baby.
We have two sleeping beauties in heaven. Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016. Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015. They will be forever missed.
DD stopped napping a week ago but I still put her in her crib every day in hopes that she will remember how glorious naps are.. And so I can watch Netflix
@Gingersnap@sweetT and anyone else on the sex talk: I've thought about it some more and I do see both sides. Maybe it's because I haven't been in the situation where I could get excited about a pregnancy to even think about hoping for a boy or a girl.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and maybe mine is shaded right now because of my loss. I respect the different perspectives on this board. I know all of you will love your LO's regardless of their sex.
About me: TTC#1: October 2015 dx: PCOS & MFI IUI #1 w/Femara + Ovidrel June 2016 ~ BFP July 2016: Blighted Ovum IUI #2 w/Femara + Ovidrel September 2016 ~BFN IUI #3 w/Femara + Ovidrel October 2016 ~BFN IUI #4 w/Femara + Ovidrel November 2016 ~BFN IVF with ICSI January 2017 ~BFN FET February 2017 ~BFN IVF with ICSI March 2017 ~BFP--Twins Due 12/8/17 Team Blue X 2!
@Gingersnap@sweetT and anyone else on the sex talk: I've thought about it some more and I do see both sides. Maybe it's because I haven't been in the situation where I could get excited about a pregnancy to even think about hoping for a boy or a girl.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and maybe mine is shaded right now because of my loss. I respect the different perspectives on this board. I know all of you will love your LO's regardless of their sex.
Late night entry: I had to see my big boss today and oh man. He has got to be at LEAST late 50's, maybe early 60's but he is so handsome. He's Italian and just exudes this gentlemanly masculinity. Swoon. I bet he was HOT in his day.
I like to refer to this baby as my designer baby or Petri dish baby. But I guess I was a little bummed when I found out it was a boy at the same time crying for joy one of my two embryos was usable. The idea that I will never have the opportunity to have a daughter was a pill I swallowed but man my son is rad and weird and Im excited to see what kind of shananagins happen with two
Re: FFFC Time!!! 8/19
ETA: I eat like a hobbit... no shame.
TTC since January 2016
BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
@winchestergirl I stopped shaving my legs with any regularity in 2009. Pants for lyfe.
On the sex topic : at the beginning of this pregnancy I was really hoping for another boy so my son could have a brother. But as I get closer to the anatomy scan I'm just excited to find out and I don't care what the sex is anymore.
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
My FFFC is that I hired movers today because it takes stress off me and the move. Husband is PISSED because "he had it covered with his buddies." It seems like a dumb thing to be pissed about so I got passive agressive and hired a company called "College Muscle Movers" so at least if he's going to be an ass about it I have something fun to look at.
If it's a boy, I'm open to having a third child.
This one I have no idea. We are hoping for a boy for a tie breaker, but girls seem to be our norm.
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17
I would feel a lot more guilty about not wanting to go if it wasn't the second marriage for both of them, they hadn't already been pretending to be married for nearly 2 years, and if she weren't already acting like an entitled princess about it.
edited because posted too soon
That being said, I still regularly check in on you ladies and am constantly cheering for you to have a happy and healthy pregnancy.
TTC#1: October 2015
dx: PCOS & MFI
IUI #1 w/Femara + Ovidrel June 2016 ~ BFP
July 2016: Blighted Ovum
IUI #2 w/Femara + Ovidrel September 2016 ~BFN
IUI #3 w/Femara + Ovidrel October 2016 ~BFN
IUI #4 w/Femara + Ovidrel November 2016 ~BFN
IVF with ICSI January 2017 ~BFN
FET February 2017 ~BFN
IVF with ICSI March 2017 ~BFP--Twins Due 12/8/17
Team Blue X 2!
@Aussie45 I've been having the same issue! I'm always on my hubby about eating out too often for lunch, when he could just pack a lunch and save the money....but I've totally been eating out for lunch every day for the past 2 weeks. Even when I pack a lunch, when it comes time to eat it I'm like, "Nah...that doesn't really look good right now, I'll just go to KFC". Hubby has been very understanding though, I don't know what I did to deserve such an amazing life partner.
Sorry, that got a little gushy at the end.
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
I had a living child when I miscarried, and haven't had to deal with infertility like some of you have.
I think all of us here are going to be happy regardless of the sex of our child, but I do see both points.
I was a consistent every other day shaver pre-pregnancy.... that lasted until week 6. Luckily it's mostly blonde and screw Florida I wear jeans in summer.
Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016.
Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and maybe mine is shaded right now because of my loss. I respect the different perspectives on this board. I know all of you will love your LO's regardless of their sex.
TTC#1: October 2015
dx: PCOS & MFI
IUI #1 w/Femara + Ovidrel June 2016 ~ BFP
July 2016: Blighted Ovum
IUI #2 w/Femara + Ovidrel September 2016 ~BFN
IUI #3 w/Femara + Ovidrel October 2016 ~BFN
IUI #4 w/Femara + Ovidrel November 2016 ~BFN
IVF with ICSI January 2017 ~BFN
FET February 2017 ~BFN
IVF with ICSI March 2017 ~BFP--Twins Due 12/8/17
Team Blue X 2!
I really hope you get your rainbow.
He has got to be at LEAST late 50's, maybe early 60's but he is so handsome. He's Italian and just exudes this gentlemanly masculinity. Swoon.
I bet he was HOT in his day.