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7 year old daughter

So my 7 year old has been picking on her brother who is 5, non stop for the last couple days. No matter what I do, yell at her, spank her butt or put her in time out she is constantly just picking at him. She has also been cursing at me, and her father. I do have 2 other children (3&1) and I am pregnant with twins, but she wasn't this way before. 

Do do any of you know what could be causing this? 

Re: 7 year old daughter

  • It could be maybe she feels a lack of attention. I have a 5 year old who will be 6 on the 27th & twins who will be 1 September 3rd & I've noticed the days my boys are extra clingy or need me more is when she acts out. Because i can't give her my full undivided attention. She'll start saying i don't love her, that she wishes she didn't have brothers so that all the attention can be for her, & she doesn't know why i had to have them. & the days i can actually give her all my attention because the boys are relaxed & entertained shes happy & loving her brothers. 

    I know Its hard, trust me i went from having only her to 2 @ a time & its hard giving them each mommy time every single day. I can only imagine how hard it is for you.

     Maybe talk to her, sit her down & ask her how She feels & why. Let her know she's not In trouble & you want to know what to do to fix it. Ask her how She would feel if an older friend, cousin or just random person was hitting her all the time. That she's supposed to be protecting her siblings not hurting them. Let her know u know that the babys will be an adjustment but it will be okay. Ask her what she needs from you.

    She probably just needs you to listen. I found myself yelling @ DD alot & spanking her here & there but her behavior wasn't changing. So i figured talking to her & asking those questions i mentioned would help & they did. She feels heard & knows I'm trying to change things that i can. & the things i can't change, like giving only her attention she has to accept & i explain why i can't just ignore my almost 1 year old twins. Even if you have to talk to her quite often, do it it helps. I have a talk with DD maybe 2 times a week & she feels better after. I also feel better because i know what i need to fix & what my daughter needs from me. So I wish you luck. Keep me posted.
  • I also think that she is felling that she is insecure. She is thinking that, she is not getting enough attention. This could be the reason why she is behaving like this.
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