@kmcshane0211no one was attacking, we were just all letting her know the problems she can come accross. @ the end of the day she will do what works for her & her LO.
I get weekly baby emails & i got one a month ago where people start "potty training" babys @ 6 months. That its a new trend going on & i laughed @ the idea. I thought it was ridiculous, again my opinion. One of twins pooped in the toilet once but because i had him naked & in the bath already when he started pushing. I took him out & put him over the toilet & he pooped. But im not gonna potty train him now. Like i mentioned earlier, i found with DD that she was taking longer to want to use the bathroom because i started potty training her @ 14 months. She had just started walking on her 1st bday & 2 months later i was trying to potty train. its just all too much @ once. Were Just passing along advice from our experience.
I'm sorry if I came across as attacking? That wasn't my intent at all. I was just talking from my personal experience. Every child is different and every parent is different. I see no harm in introducing the potty whatsoever and I for one would never judge or bad mouth a parent just trying to parent or asking opinions. Again, I hope I didn't come across as judging or attacking.
@dmbfan46835 This is my son, we have to pay close attention for #2 he will happily sit in his own stink without a care... Apparently his daddy was the same way XD
I think behaviour issues (hiding, rebelling, etc) and constipation would have more to do with how the training is done than the age it's started. I did it Montessori style with DD1 (no rewards, no timer, no pressure). Its based on a sensitive period Montessori observed, around 12-18 months, where a child has the interest and can acquire a skill quickly if supported. Physical readiness begins around the time of walking. Montessori is all about preparing the environment. So I put out the potty (14m with DD1), talked about it, let her see us using the toilet, talked about that, etc. Eventually she wanted to try! At first it was just when she saw it (bath time, naked next to it), but at 19mo she was ready and would run to the potty when she needed to go. It took time to learn-which meant accidents for the first couple weeks, but we followed her lead and treated it like teaching anything else. This style fit our parenting approach perfectly. You don't expect a baby to learn to walk in a 3 day 'training weekend', it's a gradual process, and I treat toileting the same way.
The naps and nights happened on their own, and with no regressions or medical issues (never a UTI or constipation). She has been in undies overnight for a year, and has never once wet the bed. We don't limit fluids either, she can drink as much as she wants at supper. She gets up and uses a potty in her room in an emergency. She wasnt independent with wiping and getting pants up til she was 3, so I'm really glad I didnt wait for that.
@ForeverEverAfter Thank you so much for sharing your approach. It sounds genius. I just love it. I had never heard of PT this young but the way you explain it makes sense.
I'm an educator (but for elementary so I'm still learning about early childhood) and ascribe to a very child-centered approach in much of my parenting practices. This is perfect and fits my beliefs so well. I had no idea about this critical period.
Very cool oil approach you took. Maybe we'll try it.
Thanks to to the OP for bringing up this topic. Lots of learning to be had!
Nope, we haven't. We just potty trained our 3.5 year old son. I was really nervous about potty training so we probably waited way too long with him because when we finally went for it, it took like 2 days and was no big deal at all. We'll probably try earlier this time, but still probably not for a while. I don't know, I'm such a neat freak and I hate public washrooms, so I ended up putting it off forever because I was overly nervous about dealing with accidents at home and when we're out. It's super nice though to only have one kid in diapers now!
@ForeverEverAfter I like your approach and do agree with you that a lot of the outcome depends on how it is done. We are doing what you did just not as early since we like the Montesorri environment and have incorporated it into our home and teachings.
There are many articles out there like this and supportive data regarding longer term issues with early training. My husband is a Peds GI dr and he really does see kids every day with huge amounts of impacted poop in their rectum because of holding due to early training, diet, home routine, etc. Sometimes they need hospitalized to get the poop out because there is so much. Just some things to think about. Not to say your baby would have issues, but good to know what could happen because of early training. My older son is 2 1/2 and we are just now starting to think about going diaper free. He's been using his potty daily when he wants for about 2 months, but we haven't pushed the issue. He's showing signs now that he's physically and mentally ready.
I think behaviour issues (hiding, rebelling, etc) and constipation would have more to do with how the training is done than the age it's started. I did it Montessori style with DD1 (no rewards, no timer, no pressure). Its based on a sensitive period Montessori observed, around 12-18 months, where a child has the interest and can acquire a skill quickly if supported. Physical readiness begins around the time of walking. Montessori is all about preparing the environment. So I put out the potty (14m with DD1), talked about it, let her see us using the toilet, talked about that, etc. Eventually she wanted to try! At first it was just when she saw it (bath time, naked next to it), but at 19mo she was ready and would run to the potty when she needed to go. It took time to learn-which meant accidents for the first couple weeks, but we followed her lead and treated it like teaching anything else. This style fit our parenting approach perfectly. You don't expect a baby to learn to walk in a 3 day 'training weekend', it's a gradual process, and I treat toileting the same way.
The naps and nights happened on their own, and with no regressions or medical issues (never a UTI or constipation). She has been in undies overnight for a year, and has never once wet the bed. We don't limit fluids either, she can drink as much as she wants at supper. She gets up and uses a potty in her room in an emergency. She wasnt independent with wiping and getting pants up til she was 3, so I'm really glad I didnt wait for that.
We tried this, and at 3 + years old she was still not having it. We boot camped.
@JessicaS0914 us too. Still not PTed lol. We introduced the potty at Christmas before he was 16 months. We've been talking about it and reading books for 2 years, he has been coming into the bathroom with me and DH for 18 months and we started putting him on his little potty before baths around the time that we bought it. He just isn't into it yet or at least he wasn't until recently. I think every kid is just different.
@kmcshane0211 Oh no worries. I'm not feeling attacked I was just felt like my intentions where misunderstood, so I wanted to be clear. It's so hard to get the feeling of someones words over the internet! I know everyone has a right to their own opinions and will do whatever they think is right for their child. Even if I was being attacked I would ignore it and go on with what I was doing anyway. I was just curious about what other moms are doing. Well she got a little frustrated so we stopped for a week and now she's interested in the potty again so we'll see how it goes. I think at the moment she's concentrating on walking, finally got those first steps! But now she's afraid to take anymore steps haha. She takes one step and then slowly sit's down and crawls the rest of the way...
Re: Has anyone else introduced a potty yet?
I get weekly baby emails & i got one a month ago where people start "potty training" babys @ 6 months. That its a new trend going on & i laughed @ the idea. I thought it was ridiculous, again my opinion. One of twins pooped in the toilet once but because i had him naked & in the bath already when he started pushing. I took him out & put him over the toilet & he pooped. But im not gonna potty train him now. Like i mentioned earlier, i found with DD that she was taking longer to want to use the bathroom because i started potty training her @ 14 months. She had just started walking on her 1st bday & 2 months later i was trying to potty train. its just all too much @ once. Were Just passing along advice from our experience.
The naps and nights happened on their own, and with no regressions or medical issues (never a UTI or constipation). She has been in undies overnight for a year, and has never once wet the bed. We don't limit fluids either, she can drink as much as she wants at supper. She gets up and uses a potty in her room in an emergency. She wasnt independent with wiping and getting pants up til she was 3, so I'm really glad I didnt wait for that.
I'm an educator (but for elementary so I'm still learning about early childhood) and ascribe to a very child-centered approach in much of my parenting practices. This is perfect and fits my beliefs so well. I had no idea about this critical period.
Very cool oil approach you took. Maybe we'll try it.
Thanks to to the OP for bringing up this topic. Lots of learning to be had!
https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/1424826
There are many articles out there like this and supportive data regarding longer term issues with early training. My husband is a Peds GI dr and he really does see kids every day with huge amounts of impacted poop in their rectum because of holding due to early training, diet, home routine, etc. Sometimes they need hospitalized to get the poop out because there is so much. Just some things to think about. Not to say your baby would have issues, but good to know what could happen because of early training. My older son is 2 1/2 and we are just now starting to think about going diaper free. He's been using his potty daily when he wants for about 2 months, but we haven't pushed the issue. He's showing signs now that he's physically and mentally ready.