Partner is not being supportive

Ntando

Hie everyone my name is Ntando m 29 having my 2nd m 20 weeks and 4days.  I hqve insomnia.  Caused by stress mainly from my boyfriend he is not being supportive, hw wont go to register the pregnancy and i really want him to come so he knows what to do too.  Worried and scared. 

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Ntando said:

Hie everyone my name is Ntando m 29 having my 2nd m 20 weeks and 4days.  I hqve insomnia.  Caused by stress mainly from my boyfriend he is not being supportive, hw wont go to register the pregnancy and i really want him to come so he knows what to do too.  Worried and scared. 

QFP.

Welcome to D16. I hope you'll get to know us, read the pinned threads, and participate. You'll find that this is a very supportive board with lots of ongoing threads on which we post vents similar to this all the time. Many of us generally discourage posting new threads like this, because if everyone did it this board would be nuts.

That being said, I'm sorry you're stressed. I'm not sure what you mean by "register the pregnancy." Do you mean create a registry at a store? I'm not sure why you would need your BF to do that. My husband has no interest in helping me with the registry, and that's fine with me. You also posted another thread that you're upset that your BF doesn't go to your doctor's appointments. That is probably not a huge issue, either. My H has gone to ultrasounds (not all), but definitely does not come to the appointments. And I'm fine with that.

You could probably benefit by taking a deep breath and trying to keep your expectations of your BF in check. He doesn't have to do everything perfectly the way you see on TV for him to be excited and to love your LO once he/she comes. For some people (particularly guys, because they can't feel pregnant or feel the baby), it takes time for the pregnancy to really seem "real." That's okay.