DH never comments on my food choices and I feel I've done pretty well this pregnancy. But yesterday I went to the mall by myself so I could walk around and get some "exercise" (it's too hot here to walk around outside). At least that's what I told DH. I actually went to the Starbucks, drank a frappacino and read the new Harry Potter book. Then I went to cold stone creamery and ate ice cream. I paid cash for both so he wouldn't see it in our bank account. I could have probably told him all of this and he wouldn't have cared, but just decided against it. It was a good day.
I had planned to work until the baby comes out (including through the early stages of labor) since we're so understaffed at work. After being scheduled for tons of OT and put under unnecessary stress I caved and Saturday is my last day of work! My maternity leave officially begins Monday on my due date. I just can't handle work anymore like I thought I would be able to.
Another confession, which I'm sure the few of us who are still pregnant all feel: I just want this baby to come out already!
@Hannah0726 that's hilarious! Sounds like the best day ever
I have been treating every meal like its my last before baby. I keep getting whatever I want and saying 'this could be the last' to justify the spending and calories. This morning I had a big breakfast for McDs
DS is a week old today and, besides his going home outfit, I haven't had him in anything but a white onsie. With DS1, I dressed him in a new outfit every day, but this poor kid is just in a rotation of plain white tee shirts.
I have another one! I've been eating desert for breakfast everyday. We wake up at 11 because both DH and I work nights. I immediately eat a cookie or something and then have lunch an hour later. I've justified it as this pregnancy is almost over and then I have to go back to my medical diet so why not!
Don't forget ladies, if you're breastfeeding it requires more calories than being pregnant, so you can still eat like you're pregnant after baby comes with good reason! I actually find myself starving way more now than when I was pregnant.
My confession is that I broke down and ugly cried this morning because I am still pregnant and baby is showing no signs of making her appearance. So over being pregnant! When DH asked what was wrong, I couldn't bare to tell him. Luckily he's used to my irrational hormonal meltdowns, so he didn't pry.
My husband is very much a DIY kind of guy, but he also works 55 to 60 hours per week so essentially has no time. Our bathroom renovation in the nursery and DD's room has been going on for about 8 weeks because he is handling most of it. Yesterday, I thought we were super close to being close to done but he realized he had made a mistake and the vanities would have to be taken off the wall and re-attached. Currently the toilet is still sitting in the bathtub that is yet to be refinished.
I love that he wants to save us $ and that he takes pride in doing this for our home, but I want to call someone who can come and knock it out. I feel like I'm constantly nagging him to work on it and I know he is exhausted. It is SO stressful.
@LWC1112 My DH is the exact same. Our new floor has been in the process of being done since March. I too am grateful that he is able to do and that he works so hard, but I'm ready for it to just be done. Preferable before baby is here.
DH picked up my stepson the other day, come to find out he has a massive cold....which I have now contracted. It's taking all my will power not to throat punch DH seeing as he knew about this cold and picked him up anyway. I can only pray I don't go into labor while this thing is raging. Sadly, I find myself fantasizing about smothering him with a pillow as he snores the night away and I lay awake unable to breathe, getting up to pee every 30 minutes, hips throbbing. How does he not think about these things?????
Lol @bananers & @texasmama2014 when I saw her shit dipped foot, I thought of going that extra step in bringing her to the sink to wash it off with soap & water but I knew that was asking too much of me. Baby wipes FTW.
My 5 year old DD is way harder to take care of than my 3 day old DS.
She's driving me mad.
Omg I'm in the same boat with DS1 who will be 5 on the 19th. Plus he just started kindergarten and of course he gets sick the 1st day! Now we are all getting it
DH picked up my stepson the other day, come to find out he has a massive cold....which I have now contracted. It's taking all my will power not to throat punch DH seeing as he knew about this cold and picked him up anyway. I can only pray I don't go into labor while this thing is raging. Sadly, I find myself fantasizing about smothering him with a pillow as he snores the night away and I lay awake unable to breathe, getting up to pee every 30 minutes, hips throbbing. How does he not think about these things?????
I caught my son's cold (he actually had croup) the week I went into labor. Any time I coughed after delivering A it was sooo painful!
I gave my newborn a pacifier. The nurse suggested it... he's big into cluster feeding and sucking to soothe. The paci lets everyone win...
#savethenipple
I asked for a paci in the hospital the day after ds was born. The nurse mentioned it wasn't recommended for nursing babies, which I was aware of, but it gave me the ability to get just a little sleep! And he does just fine nursing and using a paci
@Allisun85 I'm bringing my own to the hospital. A couple kinds. DD took a paci for 6 months, the best sleeping months of her life. I'm all about sleep!
@Allisun85 I asked the nurse for a paci the second night as well... LO had horrible gas and was so uncomfortable, she was cluster feeding for hours and I figured she was just nursing for comfort, and neither of us were sleeping. Once I gave her the paci she settled right down and slept for 3 hours. No changes in her ability to nurse.
@texasmama2014@lotsofsunshine, I'm sorry! I did put a thread warning before everything stopped being rainbows! Also, I apologize for the typos. I typed all that on my tablet while holding Oliver. And between the painkillers and the stress I'm admitting I am quasi coherent at best. It helped to share it. I think Dh needs to talk to someone - he can't talk about it without crying. He's not a crier.
I had packed one of the pacifiers we got in a baby event goody bag "just in case"
The lactation consultant came by to help us stay on track and saw the plug. It was like we"d gone to the dark side. Side note, we're doing excellent so far learning to breast feed.
With DS1 I was guilted into not using one for the first week or so and my nipples took a beating. This time, I told them from the start that he was allowed to have a paci, and it's been significantly better. No guilt here!
The LC guilted me about not using a pacing on DD either and said it in front of DH. And now he is anti-paci and was upset I suggested one for her during our cluster feeding episode last night. After DH dozed off during my last feeding, I have her the paci so I could go to sleep. I'm also in camp #savethenipples
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I'm convinced the whole pacifier interfering with breastfeeding thing is an urban legend. I know plenty of babies who have used a paci and nursed. In fact, a paci is part of E's physical therapy so he can get stronger sucking muscles and build more endurance.
I think where the paci can do harm is when moms miss actual hunger cues and pop a paci in. But nurses should give moms more credit for being able to tell the difference between a hungry baby and one who just needs to soothe.
I'm not breastfeeding but I could only imagine because G definitely sucks to soothe himself. It's crazy how different he is from DD. I was fairly convinced they were gonna be just alike in the newborn stage. Swaddles and pacifiers for the win!
@bananers I totally think you're right. And I'm sorry but when my nipples feel like they are going to fall off and my newborn is clearly frustrated I'm going to use the pacifier.
I will say that an LC told me that the first few days when he's cluster feeding it's to trigger your body to bring the milk in. I could understand not wanting people to use them then if it really does help. But just like everyone else my milk came in 3-4 days later (overnight in between the 3/4 day). I was quite irritated with the input from the LCs on that one. Yeaaaah I can't have my boob in this kids mouth 24/7 that's a bit unrealistic, however he is welcome to have a pacifier and soothe himself.
The nurse who suggested it suggested using it after a feeding primarily. If he's actually hungry, he will spit it back at us lol. Dh tried to redirect hungry to paci yesterday. I was in the shower, and we're EBF. Little man continued to howl until he got the good stuff... Mommy. Lol.
Adding a vote to Team Paci. With DS1 the hospital warned us on the tour that they don't provide them bc they are BF-friendly, etc. So we brought our own. I was so glad I did bc LO wanted to cluster feed for hours and my nipples were chapped and bleeding. (Thinking of your DH, @midwestbaby --easy for men to be against it when it's not their bleeding nips!) We went on to successfully EBF for a year. I will definitely be doing it again with this LO.
I'm insanely jealous of those of you with babies that will take a paci. Ours fights us on them and then spits them out. My MIL brought us a few other brands last night, so we're going to try them today and hopefully find one he likes.
We also tried to avoid the paci. I wanted to make sure she was back at birth weight. But after our checkup 2 days after leaving the hospital, when she had already gained some weight, we started using one at night. Any extra minutes I can sleep are worth it
Married May 2014 DD born August 2016 Baby #2 due December 2017
My overnight nurse had worked in a NICU for 14 years. She said that she has never witnessed a baby having nipple confusion due to taking a paci. She also feels like that is a myth and was fine with us using one for the baby. I caved because he was using me as a paci. Also, our pediatrician said that pacis reduce the risk of SIDS if given at night because sucking stimulates brain activity which keeps them remembering to breathe.
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Another confession, which I'm sure the few of us who are still pregnant all feel: I just want this baby to come out already!
I have been treating every meal like its my last before baby. I keep getting whatever I want and saying 'this could be the last' to justify the spending and calories. This morning I had a big breakfast for McDs
Baby #2: Emmeline Grey - August 2016
Baby #3: BFP 9/7/18 | EDD 05/24/19
I love that he wants to save us $ and that he takes pride in doing this for our home, but I want to call someone who can come and knock it out. I feel like I'm constantly nagging him to work on it and I know he is exhausted. It is SO stressful.
Well, her foot fell into one of them. I just used baby wipes to get poop off and called it a day. #whatshituation
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
She's driving me mad.
I gave my newborn a pacifier. The nurse suggested it... he's big into cluster feeding and sucking to soothe. The paci lets everyone win...
#savethenipple
Also, I apologize for the typos. I typed all that on my tablet while holding Oliver. And between the painkillers and the stress I'm admitting I am quasi coherent at best. It helped to share it.
I think Dh needs to talk to someone - he can't talk about it without crying. He's not a crier.
I had packed one of the pacifiers we got in a baby event goody bag "just in case"
The lactation consultant came by to help us stay on track and saw the plug. It was like we"d gone to the dark side. Side note, we're doing excellent so far learning to breast feed.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I think where the paci can do harm is when moms miss actual hunger cues and pop a paci in. But nurses should give moms more credit for being able to tell the difference between a hungry baby and one who just needs to soothe.
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
And I'm sorry but when my nipples feel like they are going to fall off and my newborn is clearly frustrated I'm going to use the pacifier.
I will say that an LC told me that the first few days when he's cluster feeding it's to trigger your body to bring the milk in. I could understand not wanting people to use them then if it really does help. But just like everyone else my milk came in 3-4 days later (overnight in between the 3/4 day). I was quite irritated with the input from the LCs on that one. Yeaaaah I can't have my boob in this kids mouth 24/7 that's a bit unrealistic, however he is welcome to have a pacifier and soothe himself.
If he's actually hungry, he will spit it back at us lol. Dh tried to redirect hungry to paci yesterday. I was in the shower, and we're EBF. Little man continued to howl until he got the good stuff... Mommy. Lol.
not their bleeding nips!) We went on to successfully EBF for a year. I will definitely be doing it again with this LO.
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017