@Lisa3379 I get it. Not everyone is familiar with forum etiquette. Some of them probably googled a concern and got directed to this site and made the easy mistake of jumping in without testing the water (aka reading the rules)
I made this mistake with my first Pregnancy Bump experience and I admit the cattyness was pretty off putting. (That group was actually dismantled for all its "mean girl" behavior and then came back much more neighborly later on)
That said, the snark in this group is pretty minimal if not almost non-existent. Compared to my last hazing experience this group is pretty much a welcome wagon with a few cautionary pamphlets being handed out.
Sorry this isn't a UO but I'd like to add that although I'm not always super active on the boards I've really enjoyed being involved with this community (in contrast to my last) because it's such a thoughtful, entertaining and respectful group of women. So cheers ladies!
@ea301 What's up with those spouse challenges?! I keep seeing my aunt post stuff about them. What's sad is it's an established fact that they've both been in extra martial relationships for years. But he has boat loads of money and won't divorce her because he doesn't want her to take his money. Super healthy guys. Now let's make everything look all sunshine and rainbows to Facebook...
@aframe77 Agreeing with you on the level of snark on this board. I hear horror stories about other BMB's. Overall, I'd say we have a pretty great group of ladies with solid heads on their shoulders. And sometimes it's fun to get a little snarky about genitals
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
Football season is the best time of the year. When I was promoted at work it was with the agreeance that I would have Sundays off every week. I will not be missing NFL football..
My UO (maybe popular?) is that I hate hate hate Herbalife, Pampered Chef, It Works, Scentsy, et al. I especially hate when it gets plastered all over my news feed. "I need 5 friends who are serious about wanting to get in shape and change their lives..." Get that ish out of here.
Me:27 H:30 Till death do us part: 7.2.2011 Trying to conceive since 01.2014 Low AFC and azoospermia IVF #1 03.2016 - BFP 03.28.2016 Due: 12.05.2016
My UO is other people "taking over" my pregnancy... Telling me what they would name him, telling me all the things they will do with him when he gets here *eyeroll*, the "I better be the first one to know!" comments and the "I'm going to be in the waiting room!" comments *cue more eyerolls*. I've learned to just smile and nod and laugh snarkily about it with FI afterwards. I understand a new baby is exciting, but that doesn't mean you have to make it all about yourself and totally discredit us as parents before he's even here.
This!!! I just want to throat punch everyone for this same thing
Me (28), H (30) Together Since 04/21/2009; Married Since 05/29/2013
@cayaylonglegs I literally ordered oils off Amazon because I was intrigued, but didn't want to jump on the Young Life/Doterra bandwagon with my friends who sell it. Am I an awful person? (They do smell nice though!)
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@cayaylonglegs I love my Pampered Chef items. The parties are just excuses to have friends over and eat yummy food. I find it more tasteful if you just create a private event and talk to people before inviting them. No social media blasting, that's just rude and leads to people blocking.
Married 4/12/13 TTC since 6/13 Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016 SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
I have a friend who did the Herbalife thing with her husband right after giving birth and all her posts were like, " This is me in a bikini by the pool with my high school abs and my 5 month old!" And she tags EVERY GIRL ON HER FRIENDS LIST, so then I get notifications ( I know, I could turn it off). Its already kind of annoying when you post the stuff you sell and tag me, but when you do it along with a picture of your hot self post baby, I hate you even more.
I don't have a really great UO but my coworker always makes fun of me for having an opinion about this in general: breakfast sandwiches that have a homemade bread, a farm fresh local egg, and....FROZEN PREMADE SAUSAGE PATTIES from like, Generic Sausages R Us. Like, are these so much less expensive than just making patties from fresh local sausage and freezing them for ease of use? It just seems odd that the other two things would exist but then with this weird prefab patty.
ETA: I still eat the sandwich, BTW. I just think about what I would do different if I ran a place with breakfast sandwiches, and wonder why others made the choice they did.
Football season is the best time of the year. When I was promoted at work it was with the agreeance that I would have Sundays off every week. I will not be missing NFL football..
My UO (maybe popular?) is that I hate hate hate Herbalife, Pampered Chef, It Works, Scentsy, et al. I especially hate when it gets plastered all over my news feed. "I need 5 friends who are serious about wanting to get in shape and change their lives..." Get that ish out of here.
Yes so much to your UO - easiest way to get blocked by me is to spam me with your crap for sale. Can't stand it.
My UO - don't like any football. I'll stick with Olympics, hockey & Tour de France.
i have a friend who sells this and she uses a photo of her NINE MONTHS PREGNANT as her "Before" photo. I remember her first post pregnancy business post was a shot of the scale showing the weight she had dropped next to her "Before" photo... Um Herbalife had nothing to do with that. I think you can attribute that to your newly vacant womb.
I have a friend who did the Herbalife thing with her husband right after giving birth and all her posts were like, " This is me in a bikini by the pool with my high school abs and my 5 month old!" And she tags EVERY GIRL ON HER FRIENDS LIST, so then I get notifications ( I know, I could turn it off). Its already kind of annoying when you post the stuff you sell and tag me, but when you do it along with a picture of your hot self post baby, I hate you even more.
I don't have a really great UO but my coworker always makes fun of me for having an opinion about this in general: breakfast sandwiches that have a homemade bread, a farm fresh local egg, and....FROZEN PREMADE SAUSAGE PATTIES from like, Generic Sausages R Us. Like, are these so much less expensive than just making patties from fresh local sausage and freezing them for ease of use? It just seems odd that the other two things would exist but then with this weird prefab patty.
ETA: I still eat the sandwich, BTW. I just think about what I would do different if I ran a place with breakfast sandwiches, and wonder why others made the choice they did.
@SmashJam this is one of my favorite UO's of all time. Thank you.
I don't have a really great UO but my coworker always makes fun of me for having an opinion about this in general: breakfast sandwiches that have a homemade bread, a farm fresh local egg, and....FROZEN PREMADE SAUSAGE PATTIES from like, Generic Sausages R Us. Like, are these so much less expensive than just making patties from fresh local sausage and freezing them for ease of use? It just seems odd that the other two things would exist but then with this weird prefab patty.
ETA: I still eat the sandwich, BTW. I just think about what I would do different if I ran a place with breakfast sandwiches, and wonder why others made the choice they did.
Stuck in the box, but this UO perfectly sums up the things that keep me up at night.
My UO- I'm not really a baby person. I mean don't get me wrong, I love and adore my own baby, but I have no desire to watch other people's babies/toddlers on a regular basis.
I Iove play dates and don't mind the occasional babysitting for a couple hours to help a friend, but ever since I decided quite my job and go back to freelance allowing me to stay home with my toddler, several people have asked me if I would be willing to provide childcare for their babies/toddlers as well.
I feel selfish and a bit awkward saying no but I can honestly barely take care of my own kid and maintain my sanity. Plus I really want to soak up these last few months before number two comes and things really get crazy.
The snark on this board is nothing compared to my previous bmb. That board was so full of snark and *gasp* I loved it.
Mothers spouse challenger is dumb as are all of those Facebook photo challenges.
I dont care care for the olympics. It an awesome rents for amazing athletes to showcase their talents and while I do take some national pride when Americans do well, I don't get super into watching it.
My UO: Chevron is not cool. I hate it. It's super trendy and looks like it only belongs in a teenage girls room.
My UO- I'm not really a baby person. I mean don't get me wrong, I love and adore my own baby, but I have no desire to watch other people's babies/toddlers on a regular basis.
I Iove play dates and don't mind the occasional babysitting for a couple hours to help a friend, but ever since I decided quite my job and go back to freelance allowing me to stay home with my toddler, several people have asked me if I would be willing to provide childcare for their babies/toddlers as well.
I feel selfish and a bit awkward saying no but I can honestly barely take care of my own kid and maintain my sanity. Plus I really want to soak up these last few months before number two comes and things really get crazy.
This. I'm cool with older kids (8 and up or so), but I have no desire to watch other people's babies/toddlers. My coworker constantly "jokes" that I should watch her 3 and 5 year old (which from what she tells me are terrors because she wants them to like her and not parent them). Yeah, no thanks. Coincidentally, she's also the person that gives me the most "parenting advice" while complaining she can't manage her own kids. *major eyeroll*
Me: 26 & DH: 25
Married: August 2014 TTC since November 2015 BFP #1 12/17/15 - MC 1/28/16 BFP #2 4/22/16 - EDD 12/30/16
I was challenged by a friend last week for that Spouse Challenge, and haven't posted anything... and now that I think about it, neither has she since the "Day 1". So obviously it wasn't that big of a deal, ha.
I hate all the sappy posts between couples, like you can't just tell them that stuff to their face? Especially the ones where they wish each other a Happy Birthday/Anniversary and say how much they love them and how they couldn't imagine anyone else to be a part of their life, etc etc. Um, yeah... you married them, so I would hope you feel that way.
This is my first PG board, and I know I've been timid to post my own posts to avoid any snark, ha. But, usually can voice my opinion/thoughts on some other posts... or it probably just isn't necessary to talk about. So far, I think everyone has been great!
Me: 37 years old
DH: 39 years old
Married: October 17, 2014 TTC Since: November 2015 BFP: March 31, 2016 DS: November 21, 2016
December'16 December Siggy Challenge: Elf on the Shelf Fails **winner**
Also not a baby/kid person. So much so that when DH and I started dating, I told him I didn't want kids at all! But then the longer we were married, the more I wanted to have one with him. When it wasn't happening and we found out about the endometriosis, it made me ask myself I really wanted a baby--the answer was YES!
I feel extremely attached to Ashton, and I'm better at dealing with other kiddies, but I don't think I'll ever be a kid person...and that's ok! I don't need to enjoy all children to be a great mom to my son.
I'm a baby person, but have never been a kid person. I love to work in the nursery at church, for example, but I would never volunteer to work with older kids. I don't think it's going to matter though with my own children. I have never liked kids, but when my sister was a kid, she was the best in my eyes. I still didn't like being around kids, but I loved being around her - I couldn't get enough. Some people are really awesome at interacting and having fun with any kid, and that's just not my strong suit. I think I'll be really awesome with Eaton because he's mine and I'll know him and he'll know me very well.
FWIW, I don't like other people's cats either but mine are my beloved children. So there's that too. I think anything is different when its yours.
ETA: I had a roommate in college that was actually squicked out by babies. She thought they looked like aliens and actually would scream if presented with one...so it can be worse than just not being a baby person.
I am also not a big baby person. I know so many (mostly) women who just HAVE to hold the baby in the room. Then if someone asks me if I want to.. I awkwardly say "umm sure!" and then have no idea what I am doing & hand them back as soon as crying ensues. I love hanging out with kids like 4+.
I will admit I did the spouse "challenge", but have the same opinion of most on here. DH was a little sad when I wasn't going to do it so I was a little guilt-tripped into it haha. I just put one post of all the photos on one and said I'll continue to 'show my love' at home like usual
My UO took 24 hours to surface to my brain. I absolutely hate politics. (probably not that crazy of a UO) I definitely do not have my head in the sand and will absolutely vote when the time comes, but I can't stand the constant drama talk around it. Many people I know constantly have CNN/Fox News on their TV - Don't you know they're telling you a twisted version of the truth? It seems like a reel getting played over and over. I also hate when people who are on the same side have a heated discussion.. you have the same opinion! Why are you getting louder and more angry with your same points?!
ETA - I completely agree with @cayaylonglegs on the infomercial talking type people on social media. They all have the same exact posts, sometimes even word for word. I have found the off brands on Amazon of some products (like Juice+) and tried it, yes, but please stop with the 'I'm so happy with the extra income, I need 5 awesome!motivated!lovely!amazing! people to join me!" Get. out. now.
@aframe77 Same. Others peoples kids always make me all nervous. Like I have no idea what I'm supposed to do with them. And I've alway been meh on babies. But pretty sure the mommy hormones are already kicking in because pictures of babies just looked cuter all the sudden.
@caseyewhitaker Do we have the same friend? Haha. My best friend hates babies. Looking at a droopy little baby actually makes her start gagging. I told her my kid will convert her
One of my college friends swore up and down that she'd never have kids, as she was not a fan and wanted nothing to do with them. Her brother ended up having a child with a GF, and she adored her niece, which I think changed her mind some!
Today... this friend just had her 4th kid in April
Me: 37 years old
DH: 39 years old
Married: October 17, 2014 TTC Since: November 2015 BFP: March 31, 2016 DS: November 21, 2016
December'16 December Siggy Challenge: Elf on the Shelf Fails **winner**
I gotta admit, when a baby is ugly, it's kind of creepy to me. When they're newborn, most babies look like potatoes, but you know an ugly baby when you see one. Like Kwatto--terrifying, but you can't look away!
Since we are on the topic of various baby related UOs, mine would be naked baby pictures. I just don't get the appeal, especially when people post them all over social media. It's wouldn't be ok for an adult or an older child, but sure go ahead and show a baby in all their naked glory.
Me: 26 & DH: 25
Married: August 2014 TTC since November 2015 BFP #1 12/17/15 - MC 1/28/16 BFP #2 4/22/16 - EDD 12/30/16
Before all this talk about babies was posted I asked DH if we could skip the first 3 months of life with the boys. They're fussy, super needy, and don't yet 'connect' with you. Sure, there's an intrinsic strong connection, but once they look you in the eyes and smile or coo - that's when I'm in absolute love . Until then, it's straight up survival mode in my opinion.
@difazette - in contrast, I LOVE newborn stage. I love it from day one til day... crawling to find poison and destroy things. I will let out a big sigh of relief when my little monkey toddler stops moving from impulse to impulse. And all of his impulses involve danger and destruction. Though every once in a while there is the impulse to lay a big fat kiss on mama. I do love those.
@difazette - in contrast, I LOVE newborn stage. I love it from day one til day... crawling to find poison and destroy things. I will let out a big sigh of relief when my little monkey toddler stops moving from impulse to impulse. And all of his impulses involve danger and destruction. Though every once in a while there is the impulse to lay a big fat kiss on mama. I do love those.
@slartybartfast so funny how people have such opposite preferneces. From age 1-now have been my favorite part of being a parent. DS is over 3 and still looks for the most dangerous activity, but I love it. I'd much rather run and play and correct than sit holding a baby all day. And I hate to say this, but at 3 years, 4 months - my son still moves from impulse to impulse so you may be in for the long haul. His most recent adventure is climbing to the counters (kitchen or bathroom) and jumping off. I caught him earlier this week trying to get to the chandelier in the dining room. God only knows what the plan was from there. Boys will turn you gray early in life, that's for sure!!
@difazette - in contrast, I LOVE newborn stage. I love it from day one til day... crawling to find poison and destroy things. I will let out a big sigh of relief when my little monkey toddler stops moving from impulse to impulse. And all of his impulses involve danger and destruction. Though every once in a while there is the impulse to lay a big fat kiss on mama. I do love those.
@slartybartfast so funny how people have such opposite preferneces. From age 1-now have been my favorite part of being a parent. DS is over 3 and still looks for the most dangerous activity, but I love it. I'd much rather run and play and correct than sit holding a baby all day. And I hate to say this, but at 3 years, 4 months - my son still moves from impulse to impulse so you may be in for the long haul. His most recent adventure is climbing to the counters (kitchen or bathroom) and jumping off. I caught him earlier this week trying to get to the chandelier in the dining room. God only knows what the plan was from there. Boys will turn you gray early in life, that's for sure!!
Re: UO 8.11
I made this mistake with my first Pregnancy Bump experience and I admit the cattyness was pretty off putting. (That group was actually dismantled for all its "mean girl" behavior and then came back much more neighborly later on)
That said, the snark in this group is pretty minimal if not almost non-existent. Compared to my last hazing experience this group is pretty much a welcome wagon with a few cautionary pamphlets being handed out.
Sorry this isn't a UO but I'd like to add that although I'm not always super active on the boards I've really enjoyed being involved with this community (in contrast to my last) because it's such a thoughtful, entertaining and respectful group of women. So cheers ladies!
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
My UO (maybe popular?) is that I hate hate hate Herbalife, Pampered Chef, It Works, Scentsy, et al. I especially hate when it gets plastered all over my news feed. "I need 5 friends who are serious about wanting to get in shape and change their lives..." Get that ish out of here.
Me:27 H:30
Till death do us part: 7.2.2011
Trying to conceive since 01.2014
Low AFC and azoospermia
IVF #1 03.2016 - BFP 03.28.2016
Due: 12.05.2016
I just want to throat punch everyone for this same thing
Together Since 04/21/2009; Married Since 05/29/2013
Baby Boy born 11/30/16
Baby #2 Due December 4
Just kidding...I have nothing for today.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
TTC since 6/13
Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change
BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016
SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
I have a friend who did the Herbalife thing with her husband right after giving birth and all her posts were like, " This is me in a bikini by the pool with my high school abs and my 5 month old!" And she tags EVERY GIRL ON HER FRIENDS LIST, so then I get notifications ( I know, I could turn it off). Its already kind of annoying when you post the stuff you sell and tag me, but when you do it along with a picture of your hot self post baby, I hate you even more.
I don't have a really great UO but my coworker always makes fun of me for having an opinion about this in general: breakfast sandwiches that have a homemade bread, a farm fresh local egg, and....FROZEN PREMADE SAUSAGE PATTIES from like, Generic Sausages R Us. Like, are these so much less expensive than just making patties from fresh local sausage and freezing them for ease of use? It just seems odd that the other two things would exist but then with this weird prefab patty.
ETA: I still eat the sandwich, BTW. I just think about what I would do different if I ran a place with breakfast sandwiches, and wonder why others made the choice they did.
My UO - don't like any football. I'll stick with Olympics, hockey & Tour de France.
Me:27 H:30
Till death do us part: 7.2.2011
Trying to conceive since 01.2014
Low AFC and azoospermia
IVF #1 03.2016 - BFP 03.28.2016
Due: 12.05.2016
ughhhhhh
i have a friend who sells this and she uses a photo of her NINE MONTHS PREGNANT as her "Before" photo.
I remember her first post pregnancy business post was a shot of the scale showing the weight she had dropped next to her "Before" photo... Um Herbalife had nothing to do with that. I think you can attribute that to your newly vacant womb.
I don't know about you guys but generally with people I know there's only one reason they share an account. Oh the irony.
My UO - if you're spending more than like $12 at a fast food place, go inside and stay out of the drive-thru.
I Iove play dates and don't mind the occasional babysitting for a couple hours to help a friend, but ever since I decided quite my job and go back to freelance allowing me to stay home with my toddler, several people have asked me if I would be willing to provide childcare for their babies/toddlers as well.
I feel selfish and a bit awkward saying no but I can honestly barely take care of my own kid and maintain my sanity. Plus I really want to soak up these last few months before number two comes and things really get crazy.
Mothers spouse challenger is dumb as are all of those Facebook photo challenges.
I dont care care for the olympics. It an awesome rents for amazing athletes to showcase their talents and while I do take some national pride when Americans do well, I don't get super into watching it.
My UO: Chevron is not cool. I hate it. It's super trendy and looks like it only belongs in a teenage girls room.
TTC since November 2015
BFP #1 12/17/15 - MC 1/28/16
BFP #2 4/22/16 - EDD 12/30/16
I hate all the sappy posts between couples, like you can't just tell them that stuff to their face? Especially the ones where they wish each other a Happy Birthday/Anniversary and say how much they love them and how they couldn't imagine anyone else to be a part of their life, etc etc. Um, yeah... you married them, so I would hope you feel that way.
This is my first PG board, and I know I've been timid to post my own posts to avoid any snark, ha. But, usually can voice my opinion/thoughts on some other posts... or it probably just isn't necessary to talk about. So far, I think everyone has been great!
TTC Since: November 2015
BFP: March 31, 2016
DS: November 21, 2016
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
Also not a baby/kid person. So much so that when DH and I started dating, I told him I didn't want kids at all! But then the longer we were married, the more I wanted to have one with him. When it wasn't happening and we found out about the endometriosis, it made me ask myself I really wanted a baby--the answer was YES!
I feel extremely attached to Ashton, and I'm better at dealing with other kiddies, but I don't think I'll ever be a kid person...and that's ok! I don't need to enjoy all children to be a great mom to my son.
FWIW, I don't like other people's cats either but mine are my beloved children. So there's that too. I think anything is different when its yours.
ETA: I had a roommate in college that was actually squicked out by babies. She thought they looked like aliens and actually would scream if presented with one...so it can be worse than just not being a baby person.
I am also not a big baby person. I know so many (mostly) women who just HAVE to hold the baby in the room. Then if someone asks me if I want to.. I awkwardly say "umm sure!" and then have no idea what I am doing & hand them back as soon as crying ensues. I love hanging out with kids like 4+.
I will admit I did the spouse "challenge", but have the same opinion of most on here. DH was a little sad when I wasn't going to do it so I was a little guilt-tripped into it haha. I just put one post of all the photos on one and said I'll continue to 'show my love' at home like usual
My UO took 24 hours to surface to my brain. I absolutely hate politics. (probably not that crazy of a UO) I definitely do not have my head in the sand and will absolutely vote when the time comes, but I can't stand the constant drama talk around it. Many people I know constantly have CNN/Fox News on their TV - Don't you know they're telling you a twisted version of the truth? It seems like a reel getting played over and over. I also hate when people who are on the same side have a heated discussion.. you have the same opinion! Why are you getting louder and more angry with your same points?!
ETA - I completely agree with @cayaylonglegs on the infomercial talking type people on social media. They all have the same exact posts, sometimes even word for word. I have found the off brands on Amazon of some products (like Juice+) and tried it, yes, but please stop with the 'I'm so happy with the extra income, I need 5 awesome!motivated!lovely!amazing! people to join me!" Get. out. now.
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
@caseyewhitaker Do we have the same friend? Haha. My best friend hates babies. Looking at a droopy little baby actually makes her start gagging. I told her my kid will convert her
Today... this friend just had her 4th kid in April
TTC Since: November 2015
BFP: March 31, 2016
DS: November 21, 2016
Yes, there are ugly babies out there--I said it.
TTC since November 2015
BFP #1 12/17/15 - MC 1/28/16
BFP #2 4/22/16 - EDD 12/30/16
Before all this talk about babies was posted I asked DH if we could skip the first 3 months of life with the boys. They're fussy, super needy, and don't yet 'connect' with you. Sure, there's an intrinsic strong connection, but once they look you in the eyes and smile or coo - that's when I'm in absolute love . Until then, it's straight up survival mode in my opinion.
@caseyewhitaker I'm with you, but dogs. I only like my dogs or my family members' dogs. Anyone else's dogs annoy me.