The laws of the language should still apply when naming your child. I don't get why people swap vowels.
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The laws of the language should still apply when naming your child. I don't get why people swap vowels.
This! On this local moms group I'm on, this person was asking for an alternate way of spelling "River" for a boys name. Some of the responses: Rhyver, Ryyvher, Rivar, Rhiver... Etc. I couldn't even. I had to comment that there are rules to the English language, and If you like River, you like River, leave it be. I don't get adding a double letters for no reason.
@Burrberrymum lol!! Because River is not unique enough without incorrect spelling!
I have to say that I named DD2 "Blythe". Admittedly, we heard it on "Littlest Pet Shop" and did not realize how few people could say it. Fyi: it's Bl(eye)the. Anyway, it is an older name that I figured people knew. Now I feel guilty that nobody can say her name and I won't make that mistake again.
@mcdonald-bailey I truly appreciate that. It's very bizzarre to me. I thought it was simple. None of my close relatives or friends had a tough time saying it but every stranger out there looks at me funny when she is introduced or someone sees it in writing.
@ashannon3490 yes I do agree with you there, there is a limit to spelling before I side eye the name. But where do you draw the line?
@AverageAsh I completely understand what you're saying, I am one of those people who does not like when people spell things wrong in the english language (thru for through really bothers me). However, do the rules still apply to nouns? (I'm asking here - I am not a big english person) It's not like you are using the wrong context of "there/their/they're", you are simply naming a person and then you form a proper sentence around that name.
American english has really changed throughout the years, why are names supposed to be exempt from this? What is now a traditional name may have not been a traditional name when someone first came up with up.
I'm not totally for the unique spellings of the name, but I don't care what others do with their own progeny. I just am trying to understand the side of 'traditional names only' people who are highly against any letter out of place in a name.
Ultimately, to each his/her own. Parents have a right to spell their children's names however they want. On a scale of 0-10 of student names that border on ridiculous trying to spell, annoyance level is 1-2 (depending on how out-there the spelling is and how often I have to recall it.) Really not *that* big of a deal to me, but I never got the hype to pick a unique baby name.
Personally, I don't care if my child has a classic or "boring" name, and I don't care if he/she shares the name (and gasp, even the spelling) with several others in their class. Our children will be named after people that have strongly influenced and inspired DH and me, and that's what's important to us.
You guys... I can't wait until we start talking about baby shower etiquette and opinions on gender reveal parties. We're gonna have so much fun.
@jessjoelmasse i'm so surprised people don't know how to pronounce Blythe! I know it's not that common anymore, but....it's still a name! And haven't they at least heard of Blythe Danner?
I don't mind when people have sort of unique or less common name spellings, especially when they are using the spelling from a different culture or language (like I get that Gaelic names have spellings that defy everything i know about pronunciation, and that's fine). But I HATE when the spellings make absolutely no sense. How are you going to teach your children to read and write when their own names break every rule you teach them?
@dubcompanion I agree with you on all points personally. Maybe for some seeing a same spelled different elicits the same response when I see through spelled thru. Ha oh well, this discussion was bound to come up at some point.
Looking forward to those baby shower and sex/gender talks, at that point I will sit back and enjoy the show
@jessjoelmasse i'm so surprised people don't know how to pronounce Blythe! I know it's not that common anymore, but....it's still a name! And haven't they at least heard of Blythe Danner?
This was my first thought too! I've heard this name from a young age (the movie/musical 1776 with Mr. Feeny was big in my house, and Blythe Danner played Martha Jefferson) but I can't even think of how else it could be pronounced. I personally think it's a great name, even if I'm not a huge fan of Gwyneth Paltrow's mom.
@dubcompanion@CanadianintheSouth I once went to the baby name board thinking I might get inspiration. There are some REALLY. INTENSE. OPINIONS. about how one should or should not spell their kids names that I sometimes find borderline racist/insensitive? Like...I really dislike some spellings, but I would never tell another person that naming their kids unique names/spellings violates some sort of social contract. We're naming our kids after deceased relatives no matter what, so there are no Maddysyns in my future, but man, oh man. I'm guessing it's the same people who find out that a couple is having a big wedding after a private courthouse ceremony and just blow a gasket.
I think there has been a resurgence of old-fashioned names. Sophia is an example, and it's become quite popular. Recently, people I know have named their daughters Ellen, June, Frances, Evelyn, and Eliza. Not sure if this is a UO or not, but I actually really like the comebacks of these "vintage" names. @jessjoelmasse I consider Blythe to be among those I like seeing resurged!
@anonellis I've never visited the baby name board, but now I know where to go when I'm just not getting enough drama from the BMBs/1st tri board!
Edited for name spelling (lol). I mixed up Francis and Frances.
Love "vintage" names too! I'm more of a classic girl myself. If my husband wasn't against it, I would name our next kid James if we were having a boy.
@anonellis I'll have to visit the name board to see what people are saying. I simply don't like trends so that's why I'm not a fan of cutesy trendy names, but never would I say someone's a certain type of person because of what they named their kid. That's terrible. My full name's Zakiya, pronounced Zuh-kee-yuh, and it's Swahili for intelligent. I've had people hear my name and then meet me and actually admit to my face that they thought I'd be some ghetto stereotype of a black person, even though my name isn't "ghetto", just different. Very hurtful to know that people automatically assume things about you from just hearing your name. Going back to the resume thing, another reason we went with Oliver is because it's racially ambiguous. Racism is obviously alive and well and I want my kid to at least get his foot in the door instead of someone immediately writing him off.
I missed this thread yesterday, so I will save my UO for next week... but I do want to complain that despite it being 10:00 a.m., and despite the aversion to meat I've had for the last few weeks, I'm now starving for a cheeseburger (In 'N Out OR Five Guys)
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I have to say that I named DD2 "Blythe". Admittedly, we heard it on "Littlest Pet Shop" and did not realize how few people could say it. Fyi: it's Bl(eye)the. Anyway, it is an older name that I figured people knew. Now I feel guilty that nobody can say her name and I won't make that mistake again.
@AverageAsh I completely understand what you're saying, I am one of those people who does not like when people spell things wrong in the english language (thru for through really bothers me). However, do the rules still apply to nouns? (I'm asking here - I am not a big english person) It's not like you are using the wrong context of "there/their/they're", you are simply naming a person and then you form a proper sentence around that name.
American english has really changed throughout the years, why are names supposed to be exempt from this? What is now a traditional name may have not been a traditional name when someone first came up with up.
I'm not totally for the unique spellings of the name, but I don't care what others do with their own progeny. I just am trying to understand the side of 'traditional names only' people who are highly against any letter out of place in a name.
Personally, I don't care if my child has a classic or "boring" name, and I don't care if he/she shares the name (and gasp, even the spelling) with several others in their class. Our children will be named after people that have strongly influenced and inspired DH and me, and that's what's important to us.
You guys... I can't wait until we start talking about baby shower etiquette and opinions on gender reveal parties. We're gonna have so much fun.
I don't mind when people have sort of unique or less common name spellings, especially when they are using the spelling from a different culture or language (like I get that Gaelic names have spellings that defy everything i know about pronunciation, and that's fine). But I HATE when the spellings make absolutely no sense. How are you going to teach your children to read and write when their own names break every rule you teach them?
Looking forward to those baby shower and sex/gender talks, at that point I will sit back and enjoy the show
@anonellis I've never visited the baby name board, but now I know where to go when I'm just not getting enough drama from the BMBs/1st tri board!
Edited for name spelling (lol). I mixed up Francis and Frances.
@anonellis I'll have to visit the name board to see what people are saying. I simply don't like trends so that's why I'm not a fan of cutesy trendy names, but never would I say someone's a certain type of person because of what they named their kid. That's terrible. My full name's Zakiya, pronounced Zuh-kee-yuh, and it's Swahili for intelligent. I've had people hear my name and then meet me and actually admit to my face that they thought I'd be some ghetto stereotype of a black person, even though my name isn't "ghetto", just different. Very hurtful to know that people automatically assume things about you from just hearing your name. Going back to the resume thing, another reason we went with Oliver is because it's racially ambiguous. Racism is obviously alive and well and I want my kid to at least get his foot in the door instead of someone immediately writing him off.
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
*TW* - BFP & MC in March 2016.
BFP in June 2016; EDD March 2017.
Samuel born February 2017!