So angry right now!!

scorpiomer

Why do women have to be so catty?!?!?  So one person at work confronted me the other day and just straight up said so when are you do?  I was like what?!  And she said well I saw you drinking sprite instead of your energy drinks and you have been more tired and burping more...so I have known for like a week.  I didn't want to lie so I told her the truth But that I was not sharing yet...so I thought she understood keep your mouth shut.  One other girl came into a room while I was talking to a provider so she overheard part of a conversation.  One of them has been running their mouth.  Someone just came up to me and said I heard congratulations are in order!!  Wtf!?!?!?  Who does that...shares info that they know had not been made public yet?!  Ugggghhhh sorry so long....I just needed to vent.

Edited because the bump cut off half my post.

catem07

I wouldn't call that being catty, but it's certainly gossipy. I think you need to tell those women to please keep your personal information private. Unfortunately, many people don't realize that when you tell them you're pregnant that doesn't mean it's public info...

scorpiomer

The person that I think did it is someone who is always like look at me.  So I think she was just excited to be like...I have the newest gossip...who wants to hear.  Which in my book...is pretty catty.  But regardless of what you call it....it's rude!!!  

TheJerilu

For future reference, a post like this should go in the weekly Randoms or Pregnancy Chatter threads, as per the Welcome...PLEASE READ THIS FIRST thread.

leslieknope

TheJerilu said:

For future reference, a post like this should go in the weekly Randoms or Pregnancy Chatter threads, as per the Welcome...PLEASE READ THIS FIRST thread.

Huh. What about this topic disqualifies it from having its own thread? 

I mean, sure, I can see how it would fit into one of the threads you mentioned, but I did read the welcome thread and didn't see where it said everything has to go into one of those threads. 

I I was active on my last bmb and maybe we were a little more breezy. Tbh, I haven't been on this site since the exodus, so I probably need to re-learn the ropes. It just seems like this board is slow right now, so I guess I don't see the harm. 

Also, I hate random threads, so I know my bias is coming from there. 

Beckyf321

I don't blame you and I'd be upset, too!  Not only is it big news to share, but it's also sensitive news right now.

housewifehobbyist

This would be perfect in the Monday Bitchfest thread!  I also prefer the boards to be less cluttered tbh.  Especially as we get new members. 

But wow on that woman for even saying something to you.  I (and I'm sure many of you) have caught on to a friend being pregnant and have refrained from saying anything until they did because I am polite and know how to function in society.  That is some nerve right there!

clickclackmoo

I will never understand breaking the female code like this. Not only is it your news to share, but pregnancy can also have a very real impact on employment (getting staffed on good projects, etc.), and it's beyond catty to be gossiping about a coworker's reproductive choices. Sorry this is happening to you.

TheJerilu

leslieknope said:

TheJerilu said:

For future reference, a post like this should go in the weekly Randoms or Pregnancy Chatter threads, as per the Welcome...PLEASE READ THIS FIRST thread.

Huh. What about this topic disqualifies it from having its own thread? 

I mean, sure, I can see how it would fit into one of the threads you mentioned, but I did read the welcome thread and didn't see where it said everything has to go into one of those threads. 

I I was active on my last bmb and maybe we were a little more breezy. Tbh, I haven't been on this site since the exodus, so I probably need to re-learn the ropes. It just seems like this board is slow right now, so I guess I don't see the harm. 

Also, I hate random threads, so I know my bias is coming from there. 

Per the intro: "In addition, if you have a new topic or question, please add it to the Pregnancy Chatter or Randoms to avoid over-cluttering the board with topics."  There is a caveat for if you do feel the need to create your own thread, but the rule of thumb for this should be "is this topic worthy of me saying, 'Hey take the attention away from everybody else's conversations and give me the spotlight'?".  There are definitely times when this is the case, but 99% of posts should just go to the chatter/randoms or other organized conversation threads.

A thread like this doesn't actually foster any discussion; there's not much of a reaction other than "you're right, that sucks and I can understand why you're mad."  As a result, the thread just pushes out other regular threads that do encourage conversations (like the weekly specialized topics) or other specialty threads that deserve the spotlight (such as loss threads).

It's slow now, yes, but getting a sense of order before the board picks up makes it easier to get into the habit than when there's lots of people.

ladameperdue

You have some terribly immature colleagues.

ImAMouseDuh

scorpiomer said:

The person that I think did it is someone who is always like look at me.  So I think she was just excited to be like...I have the newest gossip...who wants to hear.  

Lurking...

Yes, I'd be annoyed if someone shared my news before I was ready to share it myself. I'll give you that. But I'd just like to point out that this comment on another woman's personality is FAR more catty than someone letting it slip that you have good news, causing everyone to congratulate and be happy for you. You keep saying catty, but I don't feel like you know what catty means. 

Also, if you're "so angry right now," it's gonna be a long nine months. I get being temporarily mildly annoyed, but "so angry?" I politely suggest you find your chill. 

Dannylion24

@leslieknope what was your last BMB? I was on Feb 2015 so ALL THE CRAZY went down a couple weeks before we were all due. My board turned into a ghost town so this is the first time I've been back. We also didn't really regulate on people starting their own threads, tho I see the point on not cluttering up the board too much. I do have a hard time following some of the heavily commented 'random' threads too, but I'm guessing that's cause I'm strictly mobile.