My little guy just turned 11 weeks today. I've been home with him since birth and we haven't developed really a strict routine, but most days he will wake up, eat, play/tummy time, and then take a nap. His naps up til now are usually 1-2.5 hours (usually one big in the am 9-11 and afternoon 3-5 with shorter ones between). He is easu going and tolerates errands and walks and usually falls asleep in his carseat if we are going somewhere.
Two weeks ago I started going back to work on just weekends (every other) from 9-5. My husband is with him all day. Baby will not sleep really at all when he's alone w my husband. He goes 6 hours straight and fights sleep so hard, is cranky and cries. I gave my husband a schedule outline to try and keep with feeds and sleep and he does everything rght but no luck. If he goes on errands or walks baby, baby stays awake. Baby is breastfed with occasional breastmilk bottles in the day, and every night husband feeds one bottle in the night and has since birth.
Within an hour of me coming home and I "take over" he's sound asleep for hours. He tends to make up for it with naps into the next day too. I don't know what's up. He spends plenty of time with his dad, he isn't a stranger . My husband gets really frustrated and upset and feels like the baby doesn't like him, and after these weekends he starts to distance himself from baby because he's so worn out. Is this separation anxiety from me? Is there anything I can do different to help? I'm worried their relationship will be effected if my husband keeps getting frustrated and feeling incompetent.
Me: 29 DH: 31, married 6/21/14, TTC since 7/14
BFP #1 EDD 7/17/15, MMC 1/9/15 @8w
BFP #2 4/3/15= ectopic treated with methotrexate 5/1, YET ruptured 5/18/15= One Tube Wonder!
2 Cycles of Femara, Ovidrel, & Progesterone= BFP #3 DS born 5/17/16
TTC #2 March 2017 (initially med free)
BFP #4 8/14/17 *natural cycle* EDD= 4/25/18, MC @5-6w
BFP #5 12/29/17 w/ Femara/Ovidrel/Progesterone/Synthroid, EDD= 9/11/18 found out 1/18 ITS di/di TWINS!!!
DS and DD born 8/21/18