You guys are on the ball today! You're lucky I'm stuck watching Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and trying to get a 3 year old to sleep. Lol. I think I've responded to almost everyone. Let me know if those invites don't end up in your email inboxes!
I'm down with FB too, I'm sure I've missed things on here since there's no notifications. @nsquaredlife13 I still need a labor buddy if you want to be mine. I'm due 10/10, but may not get there with GD.
Let's do it!
Married to DH for 6 years (together for 16) DS born 12.13.14 DD born 10.15.16 BFP 1.24.18, MC 3.13.18 BFP 4.25.19, EDD 12.31.19
@LMNOBaby If your willing to accept I would love to be your buddy!
Edit: just checked the EDD spreadsheet and we are only due 1 day part and I think we are supposed to pair up with someone not so close. Insert sad face!
@krzyriver and I are only a day apart I think, but I'm not concerned because with my luck I'll be paired with someone Nov 1 (EDD 10/10) and my body will go "oh Nov 1?! That sounds like a good day to go!"
Woah, I'm late, but if there's still a sign-up or someone needs a labor buddy, I'm in. EDD is 10/17 but measuring ahead and DH is convinced I'll go early. We'll see.
In my first BMB my labor buddy missed my texts and forgot to post, so I feel I got ripped off. Would love a good one this time! ; p
I might be having a pregnancy brain/SS moment but please bear with me...so how does updating the board go, like is there going to be a thread that we post "so and so is...(and whatever info the person says they want shared)"?
@UponAStar16 yeah! We can start a labor thread. Anyone can post for their labor buddy if their labor buddy wants them to share the info. You can always also update for yourself. The point of the labor buddy is to be there for you to update the board if you can't right away, but also someone who you can get to know and walk through the last stages of pregnancy/labor with directly instead of the whole community, if it is something you'd like to have!
I didn't make the labor buddy list, and apparently I'm being denied for the FB group. Ive posted on TB since I got my BFP back in February. I've really enjoyed interacting with other expecting mamas on here but I can't help but feel upset and exiled.
I can't speak for the labor buddy list because that was not my baby. The FB group, as I stated in my PM, was nothing personal. There are many people who have been around since the beginning. Unfortunately, anyone who is more of a lurker or an infrequent poster is not going to be as recognizable. And, therefore, people will feel less comfortable sharing personal information, like names, locations, and personal photos, all things that can be seen on FB even if you have fairly high privacy settings.
Infrequent user? Lurker? I can't help but take these terms personal and feel upset by them. What method do you utilize to determine the activity level of TB users? I've shared my experiences and talked to other mamas on TB about many topics over the past 7 months. I wouldn't consider myself an extremely active member but I wouldn't at all consider myself a "lurker". I've talked about my baby's dilated kidney and how he's measuring ahead. I remember being so excited to find out that my first baby is a boy and then announcing his sex on one of our sex announcement boards. I've shared several different crafting projects. I've shared several bump and ultrasound photos. I could go on and on about the conversations and advice I've recieved over the last 7 months. Anyways, I'm not going to let this "rejection" keep me from interacting with the sweet expecting mamas that I've been interacting with over the past 7 months. But I just wanted to let my feelings be known.
@kamroberts It's not personal and I can't help it if you take it that way. These are terms that are used all the time around here, they're not insults. I don't know what else to say other than I'm not the person to ask about the labor buddy list. That may have been nothing more than an oversight.
Infrequent user? Lurker? I can't help but take these terms personal and feel upset by them. What method do you utilize to determine the activity level of TB users? I've shared my experiences and talked to other mamas on TB about many topics over the past 7 months. I wouldn't consider myself an extremely active member but I wouldn't at all consider myself a "lurker". I've talked about my baby's dilated kidney and how he's measuring ahead. I remember being so excited to find out that my first baby is a boy and then announcing his sex on one of our sex announcement boards. I've shared several different crafting projects. I've shared several bump and ultrasound photos. I could go on and on about the conversations and advice I've recieved over the last 7 months. Anyways, I'm not going to let this "rejection" keep me from interacting with the sweet expecting mamas that I've been interacting with over the past 7 months. But I just wanted to let my feelings be known.
So that @krzyriver isn't standing here alone in this... This wasn't a decision she made on her own and I think that your response here shows why you may be viewed by some as more of a lurker/infrequent poster. You're interactions consist mostly (though I'm sure not solely) on sharing your own experience through pictures and such and interjecting in conversation threads, typically, when you need something vs providing a good mix of sharing and supporting others. I don't mean that to be harsh but someone's perception is their reality and I think that may be what some are perceiving. We all are about to have a LO or two that are going to be expecting a lot from us soon and we need a community of people we can lean on. I encourage you to continue posting. I truly love seeing your HDBD and craft projects and don't want you to feel like the last couple of events were meant as personal attacks. Regarding the labor buddy list, I'm certain that was an error and can easily be rectified. We already have a group of 4 together and I'm sure We have folks who wouldn't mind a group of 3. If there is another momma you feel you've gotten close with that's on the list, maybe try reaching out to see about joining her group. If there isn't anyone you can think of, let the group know and we can certainly pair you with a group we definitely don't want you to be alone in this!
@bnsmith85 thanks for your clarification! I guess I didn't notice that my interactions were mostly composed upon personal experiences, thanks for pointing it out! I'm really going to try and interact with all the sweet mamas on here more and not be such a lurker/infrequent poster. I honestly thought I interacted more than I did but if people don't recognize my username & are commenting that I only post when I need something then I guess I'm not interacting and supporting other mamas enough. These third trimester pregnancy hormones are crazy & I've been taking things super personally during situations that normally wouldn't bother me.
Thanks, I'll post onto the labor buddy list & see if anyone wouldn't mind a third member.
Awe... Hugs...I feel ya on taking things to heart lately! I'm definitely doing the same. Hang in there... And I'm excited to see more of you around and get to know you better!!!
Thank you @bnsmith85 for the clarification. It's been a long day and my brain is fried, so it was difficult for me to find the words I was trying to say.
@kamroberts I am sorry if I hurt your feelings. I am a very sensitive person and tend to take things personally, so I understand that feeling all to well. I do hope we see you around more often.
@krzyriver Awe thank you! I completely understand where you were coming from with the whole FB privacy thing and what not. I am just a sensitive Sally and immediately reverted to feeling left out and unaccepted. I tried to explain this whole situation to the hubby and he thinks I'm a nut and that I was tottally overreacting. Again, I'm blaming these crazy third trimester horemones (:
@kamroberts I definitely did not keep you off of the labor buddy list on purpose or to be malicious. I finished it on my lunch break and there were quite a few names to go through and make sure I didn't forget and match correctly. It was an oversight, so feel free to get with anyone you've connected with or post on the labor buddy thread to see if anyone else wants to pair up into a group of 3 or more.
@sjo_thetwins I posted to the labor buddy pair thread and I now have a labor buddy! ❤️ Thanks for organizing the whole thing, you had a ton of names to go through and I'm sure I would have unintentionally missed someone as well. Like I said before, these pregnancy hormones are crazy and for some reason I just saw that I wasn't on the list and immediately thought that I wasn't chosen for whatever reason. My apologies❤️ Thanks again for organizing the whole thing! So happy that I am connecting with my labor buddy mama and that I get to participate in the whole process.
Re: Labor Buddy Sign Up
Married to DH for 6 years (together for 16)
DS born 12.13.14
DD born 10.15.16
BFP 1.24.18, MC 3.13.18
Me: 28 DH: 27
In my first BMB my labor buddy missed my texts and forgot to post, so I feel I got ripped off. Would love a good one this time! ; p
Regarding the labor buddy list, I'm certain that was an error and can easily be rectified. We already have a group of 4 together and I'm sure We have folks who wouldn't mind a group of 3. If there is another momma you feel you've gotten close with that's on the list, maybe try reaching out to see about joining her group. If there isn't anyone you can think of, let the group know and we can certainly pair you with a group
Thanks, I'll post onto the labor buddy list & see if anyone wouldn't mind a third member.
@kamroberts I am sorry if I hurt your feelings. I am a very sensitive person and tend to take things personally, so I understand that feeling all to well. I do hope we see you around more often.