Monday BF 8-1 Edition

princesslockness

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princesslockness

My 2 pomchis. We have an appointment on the 15th to get them both fixed. That way we don't have 2 post-op check ups.
Well Dally cycled faster than we expected and they were tied this morning. So now I have to call the vet and try to figure out if they can move her up, will do the spay while she is in heat, or even do it now that she has been tied.
Great way to start my Monday.

Christinaruth74

Whoremones. Raging whoremones. I was a tearful mess yesterday about EVERYTHING. 

slartybartfast

I'm exhausted from doing everything half of last week and all weekend while my husband was sick and recovering. I feel like a wreck and I want to cry and curl up in a nest of pillows. But instead I'm at work.

ErikandAfton

Christinaruth74 said:

Whoremones. Raging whoremones. I was a tearful mess yesterday about EVERYTHING. 

Oh this was me all weekend. Dh even said to me yesterday, "I feel bad for Leif, you are going to be a helicopter mom if you keep micro managing me like you are." He seems to be underestimating the power of these hormones and telling me I should be able to control my feelings caused by them better. Seriously you give it a try Dh!

LinziLoo09

RLP...stupid pain in my vag. I really don't like pains that get worse the more I move because I'm also concerned that if I really stop moving this pregnancy, I'll never start up again. And I feel like I'm waddling WAY early just trying to walk with the discomfort. I forced myself into a dress and heels today to I have extra incentive to walk like a normal human being. It's quite comical. But not.
 

Mamax2

Cramps... since Friday night. They hurt so bad, and I can't find a position to get comfortable. They're the worst when I'm sitting down, so I stand up, which makes my back hurt. I lay down, and toss and turn. Just call me whiney butt today. Seriously though, these cramps need to chill. 

Toller

@LinziLoo09 Heels?! Very impressive. I bought my first pair of comfy-and-supportive-but-grandma-looking shoes over the weekend...

karmba

My BF is gas.  I feel bloated and gross today and the baby keeps moving around which doesn't really make it any better lol.  I need a nice bath! I wish hot tubs were ok, I'd go to the gym and do that.

LinziLoo09

@Toller02 I'm almost exclusively in cushy sandals or tennis shoes. But, yes I forced myself into my most non-threatening pair of heels today. It was an irrational move. The baby makes bad decisions.

phoenix870509

System is down, again. Joy of joys. Why does nothing work right with this company?????

Second, and the biggest which will turn into a rant so apologies in advance. My parents are on vacation for a week so we are watching their almost 14 year old keeshond/chow/lab mix. I hate watching this dog! She is so spoiled and is such a spiteful bitch! She won't go to the bathroom unless she is in HER yard, so every few days I have to drive 30 minutes to my parents house just so she'll at least poop. She also won't eat her food and we have to keep our bottomless pig lab from eating it. If he does, she just gives us this look like "How could you let him do that!?" Bitch, you sniffed at it and turned away, so shut the front door! Last night I took her out to walk and it's pouring rain, thunder and lightning. But dogs gotta walk and she drank a ton of water today. We stood out, in the rain, for at least 5 minutes and all she did was sniff. I got cold and it became too dangerous to stay outside, so we went back inside. It was late so I told DH to walk her before he went to bed. He hates walking this dog and refuses to do it (so I'm always stuck with her) but he agreed because I had work in the morning and he has the day off. So he walks her close to midnight, and he's out there with her 10 minutes and she only marks a little bit. He brings her in, she runs upstairs into the second bedroom and proceeds to PISS ALL OVER MY CARPET!!! DH wakes me up (it's after midnight at this point) and he cleans it up, yelling at me as to why I didn't close the door so this didn't happen. I wasn't having any of it (I was half asleep) and proceeded to tell him the established rule of last person up to bed makes sure all doors are shut, and since I was first it was on him, and since he wasn't ready to go to bed the door was open. I then went back to bed because I was just over him and the damn dog. He came in and apologized for yelling not too much longer after that.

We're supposed to watch her again when they go on vacation in September and October. I'm so over this dog and don't want to, but my parents watch our dog for us when we go away so it doesn't seem fair for them to watch ours and us refuse to watch theirs. I just don't know what to do at this point. Oh, and she has already been banned from a friend's house because she peed not once, but TWICE on the carpet on 2 different occasions. She doesn't do this at my parents house, only other peoples houses when we watch her because she won't go anywhere but her yard.

jenlynne0624

@LinziLoo09 thank you for posting the vintage leo gif. It made my day as that's one of my favorite movies, and I have been leo obsessed for years.

My BF- My hips need to stop rotating too far. One leg is constantly longer than the other and it's causing me an ungodly amount of pain. A big FU to lack of sleep, both dh and I tossed and turned from around 4 am on, and of course ds woke up screaming from a nightmare around 4 so that was fun. Body acne can shove it, this nausea can too. MIL is being passive aggressive and I don't want to deal with it. DH can't find a new job and it's getting really freaking annoying. The automatic toilet flushed six times at work while I was trying to use it earlier. I wasn't even on it that long. I hate when that happens. The weather can suck it too- it's either ungodly hot or raining. I want to take my kid outside, so stop it with the gross weather mother nature.

I am in a mood and I apologize in advance.

princesslockness

@phoenix870509 Can you get a blanket or cushion of some sort, that she can have in her yard to mark by, then bring to your yard? Like in Bruce Almighty(I think, it was some Jim Carrey movie) with the dog and the chair.

phoenix870509

Kate08Young said:

@phoenix870509 Can you get a blanket or cushion of some sort, that she can have in her yard to mark by, then bring to your yard? Like in Bruce Almighty(I think, it was some Jim Carrey movie) with the dog and the chair.

@Kate08Young we live in a townhouse complex so there are designated dog walk areas, so can't do that. We have a "backyard" but it's completely bricked so can't let her out there to do her business, either.

R0824H

Just got done working 18 days straight and today is my day off and what do I have? a lousy headache...I\ll be out of commission today

SmashJam

@Kate08Young I feel your pain on the spaying/ tied dogs sitch. I have three corgis, two of which are female ( they are all fixed now) but the heat sitch was such a bitch to time! Hope it all works out!

mimi603107

My mil.  I normally love my mil but I am so upset with her right now. My in laws took my 7 year old up to their cottage for a mini vacation and I told my mil that he had to poop while he was up there (he has history of poop problems where he'll hold it and it would get to the point of drastic measures). Well he comes home last night and he hasn't popped the entire time he was up there. So today I'm with him in the bathroom for 45 minutes trying to get him to poop and at this point since it's been 5 days since he's last pooped, it probably hurts to try to poop. Needless to say I'm super frustrated that my mil let him get away with not going to the bathroom when he could have easily gone the first fews days he was with them. I think I'm so upset with her because she knows what I've had to go through to get him to poop before when it's gotten to this point. I'm just praying for poop today...wish me luck . 

jenlynne0624

mimi603107 said:

My mil.  I normally love my mil but I am so upset with her right now. My in laws took my 7 year old up to their cottage for a mini vacation and I told my mil that he had to poop while he was up there (he has history of poop problems where he'll hold it and it would get to the point of drastic measures). Well he comes home last night and he hasn't popped the entire time he was up there. So today I'm with him in the bathroom for 45 minutes trying to get him to poop and at this point since it's been 5 days since he's last pooped, it probably hurts to try to poop. Needless to say I'm super frustrated that my mil let him get away with not going to the bathroom when he could have easily gone the first fews days he was with them. I think I'm so upset with her because she knows what I've had to go through to get him to poop before when it's gotten to this point. I'm just praying for poop today...wish me luck . 

Prayers for poop!

allicat89

@phoenix870509 Ugh! You have my complete sympathy. There is nothing worse than having to petsit a dog you hate. We had close friends whose dogs are poorly trained and insanely strong. Taking care of them was a nightmare, but just like you, our friends would watch our dog so we felt like we had to return the favor. The way we fixed the situation was we finally sucked it up and started paying for a kennel when we went on vacation. Once the chain of obligation was broken, they stopped asking us to look after their dogs. That kennel is worth every penny if it means that those dogs never come to our house again. 

My BF is a little long, but it's been on my mind for a while:

I am the first to admit that I won the MIL lottery. She has always treated me like her own daughter, and I love her like a second mother. But recently, she has been driving me crazy. MIL is an old school Southern lady who has fourteen pairs of china and loves nothing more than getting dressed up and hosting beautifully decorated parties. But with two sons, five nephews, and one tomboy niece, she hasn't had anyone to share that part of her life with. Now that she's found out that we're having a girl, she keeps talking about how she's going to make sure that our daughter is a "girly girl." She keeps asking if we're buying dresses for our daughter, and she's worried that there isn't enough pink in our nursery. She also says how disappointed she'll be if our little girl turns out to be a tomboy. Usually I laugh it off, but recently it's made me uncomfortable. I want MIL and DD to have a wonderful relationship, and I want MIL to show our daughter about setting a table and picking out a dress and having tea. But I also don't want to precondition our daughter to be something she is not.  Are moms of boys dealing with this sort of pressure too? Or is it unique to girls? I am also perfectly willing to accept that I'm the one being unreasonable in this situation. 

ashleaf2018

@allicat89 My grandmother really harps on about how I'm going to make sure our son is "all boy." My little brother grew up with 3 sisters, he loved cars and balls like most little boys but he carried them around with him in a purse. So I think that's what she's referring to, even though my brother grew out of that, not from being forced, but just because he lost interest. I think it is something you just have to laugh off but know that when baby gets here, they might have unexpected interests as they get older and as long as they're not getting hurt or anything, you just have to encourage them to be who they are and do what they love

tinattt23

@allicat89 My two cents, your MIL is going to do what she's going to do. Considering all else if happy/healthy in your relationship, I personally wouldn't pick a fight over it. You don't need to fill your nursery with pink or only dress your daughter in dresses, but if MIL wants to dress her up for a tea party so be it. I'm a fan of what happens at grandmas stays at grandmas. I know my mom will spoil this baby rotten. I think it's my job to teach our kids that different places have different rules (excluding major infractions of course). As long as your daughter doesn't feel like she has to be a girly girl and you give her the opportunity to get a little dirty, I don't think you MIL will really have too much influence either way. As they grow up, they'll decide what they want to do. 

SarahF8611

@allicat89 - I think people say things like this all the time when the baby is abstract but completely change their tunes when they're staring at their human granddaughter. Surely, your MIL would love your daughter no matter what and would just want her to be happy. Right now she has a "granddaughter" but soon she will have "Sally" and that's a completely different thing. So, I'd try to just brush it off for now!

Austenista

@ashleaf2018 Ugh! What are all these rules? My mom gave me a lecture about if I have a boy I can love him but to make sure I don't make him a "mama's boy." I don't even know what that means/how one prevents that/if that's even appropriate to still be considered a thing, a. and b. I just find advice like that offensive. How about I just love and parent my child the way I see fit and do what comes naturally without putting parameters around how I can be a good mom to him(or her)? 

slartybartfast

mimi603107 - poo poo prayers to you!

@caseyewhitaker and @ashleaf2018 - that's freaking awful. Forcing restrictive and totally random gender identity rules on little lovey ones is just deranged. My parents and in-laws have very old fashioned views of gender roles. I'm thinking of just being super annoying about it. Like throwing away all the frills that MIL is sure to purchase for the little girl we're having. Not that I have anything against frills... I love dresses and stuff... but she's a baby, not a doll. And maybe doing a sex reveal cake that has blue inside so they think it's a boy but then just be like... what... girls like blue too. I love blue! Sorry. Just not gonna fly with me. No toy vacuums for DD and toy mowers for DS. They both get both. Oh man I can't wait til they are old enough for actual chores!

kbduke

My BF is entitled millennial employees. We have several that work for us and it takes everything in me not to punch them in the face daily.

BabyRobbinsAdventure

@allicat89 @slartybartfast I feel your pain! Especially since the in-laws are already talking about how much pink in going to be in our house. Ummm. Actually the nursery is aqua blue. I also looked over our registry, we have one fitted sheet that is white with pink zebras and a pink teether toy.. Everything else is blues, greys, and "gender neutral" (like a farm themed baby walker thing rather than a purple and pink one). I can already see a few people buying "girly" items anyways. It's not that I'm against pink and sparkles for a little girl, that's just not my style anyways and I'm not drawn to it. I feel like I shouldn't have to register for items that I don't like just because they are pink.

On the somewhat same topic...My BF is that I can't stand all (not just a few things, I'm talking a large amount) the baby clothes that reference girls as a princess. I'm sorry, but I'm not part of a monarch and my daughter is not a princess. I feel like that just sets up a expectation/mindset that I don't necessarily approve of. So browsing through the newborn clothes at the store just irritates me..

cgss11

My BF is my indecisiveness. We close on our house tomorrow (!!), so I'm supposed to pick a paint color for the nursery so DH can paint it this weekend, while I clean there, and then we'll move the next. But what color!? They're all so similar....but so different. I thought I wanted a light gray, but also walked out with a pale pink chip. Will gray look too dirty? Is the pink too pale? 

DH is color blind, so no help haha, and he will kill me if I don't get this decided and purchased by the weekend. 

tinattt23

@cgss11 I don't think grey will look dirty at all. Seems like grey is actually becoming the new beige. Seems like ton of people are doing their whole house grey. I like it. Plus it's neutral as they grow up. 

LinziLoo09

@BabyRobbinsAdventure I feel the same way about girls princess marketing and just all of the other sexist crap they put on the market for girls. Ao in general, I really don't care much about the gendering thing. DD wore and still wears her boy cousins' hand-me-downs, and she gets girly clothes from us and relatives as well. I figure I'll dress her in everything and let her decide what direction she wants to sway in one day.

But I really hate a lot of the sexist crap they market to girls, particularly as it relates to body image. I think I mentioned this on a previous post, but my mom bought DD a shirt that said, "Does this diaper make my butt look big?" And I immediately told her she could take it back or we would throw it away. Even if it's more subliminal than that, I hate the idea that this size-ist and sexist crap is getting ingrained in her every day. I will do my damnedest to limit it in any way I can.

ashleaf2018

Brand new BF- FI was laid off from his job. He is our only source of income and we hadn't planned for this so we can't really afford not to have the income. Please keep all your FX that he finds something else soon, this is so stressful!

Lisa3379

cgss11 said:

My BF is my indecisiveness. We close on our house tomorrow (!!), so I'm supposed to pick a paint color for the nursery so DH can paint it this weekend, while I clean there, and then we'll move the next. But what color!? They're all so similar....but so different. I thought I wanted a light gray, but also walked out with a pale pink chip. Will gray look too dirty? Is the pink too pale? 

DH is color blind, so no help haha, and he will kill me if I don't get this decided and purchased by the weekend. 

Good luck! It took me weeks to pick out my bathroom color last year. I also am doing the baby's room in grey, but haven't ventured out to the paint store yet - it's such a hard decision, I'm not looking forward to it! 

Lisa3379

ashleaf2018 said:

Brand new BF- FI was laid off from his job. He is our only source of income and we hadn't planned for this so we can't really afford not to have the income. Please keep all your FX that he finds something else soon, this is so stressful!

I'm so so sorry. Talk about having the rug ripped out from under you. I hope his job search is super brief and you guys can continue with little stress. Hugs. 

slartybartfast

oh no @ashleaf2018 - I'm so so sorry.

allicat89

@ashleaf2018  I'm so sorry! I'll be thinking about you and your family. I hope your fiance finds something soon!

SarahF8611

I confused my non-maternity black Old Navy leggings for my maternity black Old Navy leggings today and I feel like a sausage. First World BF. 

bookworm8622

allicat89 said:

I am the first to admit that I won the MIL lottery. She has always treated me like her own daughter, and I love her like a second mother. But recently, she has been driving me crazy. MIL is an old school Southern lady who has fourteen pairs of china and loves nothing more than getting dressed up and hosting beautifully decorated parties. But with two sons, five nephews, and one tomboy niece, she hasn't had anyone to share that part of her life with. Now that she's found out that we're having a girl, she keeps talking about how she's going to make sure that our daughter is a "girly girl." She keeps asking if we're buying dresses for our daughter, and she's worried that there isn't enough pink in our nursery. She also says how disappointed she'll be if our little girl turns out to be a tomboy. Usually I laugh it off, but recently it's made me uncomfortable. I want MIL and DD to have a wonderful relationship, and I want MIL to show our daughter about setting a table and picking out a dress and having tea. But I also don't want to precondition our daughter to be something she is not.  Are moms of boys dealing with this sort of pressure too? Or is it unique to girls? I am also perfectly willing to accept that I'm the one being unreasonable in this situation. 

Definitely not unique to girls! I bought a bunch of clothes on Target clearance the other week before finding out we were having a boy this past Friday, and I told my husband I was so happy for a boy but I was looking forward to using some of the adorable "girl" clothes we had bought. He said go ahead and use them, he doesn't care. I mentioned it to my mom (jokingly, but not that its a joke), and she was like no way, girls wear girly clothes and boys wear boy clothes. But you've got to do what you want. I'm also still opting for a gender neutral baby shower because that's what we want. I'm sure we'll get pushback from both sides, but you do what you have to do.

Right now I'm more afraid/annoyed by how my MIL might react. My DH's brother is gay, and MIL thinks its because of how they raised him. So I'm sure we're going to hear it if we do anything too "girly" with this first born male grandchild...

cgss11

@Lisa3379@tinattt23  I like gray, it's just finding the right one! So many pull blue hues, or purple, or more beige. I had no idea. I've narrowed it down to two though, or the pink. We've never been able to paint before so this is all new. I almost wish we were having a boy. The room which will be the nursery is their little boys room and they have a cute blue scheme that I would totally just go with. 

@ashleaf2018  How stressful! Hopefully he finds something quick.

tinattt23

@ashleaf2018 Oh no, I'm so sorry you have to go through this right now! I hope he can find something else soon. I wish him luck on his search. 

Austenista

@cgss11 I painted my whole house gray recently. My suggestion is to bring swatches in and hold them up in different lights. Grays look really different in a lot of lights. Some looked brown, some looked green, some looked pink, etc. 

@ashleaf2018 That is awful. Just awful. I know this is easier said than done, but try to not get too stressed. Hopefully he will find something soon! 

ashleaf2018

Thanks everybody. I wish it had been more of a heads up, like if they gave him til the end of the week, but they called him in on his lunch break to tell him they are downsizing and that he needed to go clear out his stuff. He does factory work and has a lot of retail experience, so I know he'll be able to find something, but he's also going back to college this fall so I'm worried about him being able to find a job with flexible hours. Plus the fact that baby and pregnancy are expensive. This whole situation is just nauseating.

Kacie209

I grew up wearing the hand me downs of my boy cousins... hence me wearing LOTS of boy clothes - think Mr. T, Gremlins, and professional sports teams, ha. I mean, I also had some girly stuff too, but this was what I saw myself dressed in when I look back at pics. I also played with boy toys due to those cousins and neighbors who were boys. I also had a HUGE collection of Barbies, so I was a mix. I'll admit that I was a tomboy as a child.

I think girls can get away with dressing in more boy oriented clothes whereas you usually can't with boys. I know you can, you just don't see it often or may not realize that they're clothes meant for the other. I have also noticed, while shopping for my nephews, that the options in the boys section is not as big as what is available for girls. That bums me out.

@ashleaf2018 So Sorry! *hugs to you* and FX!!

I am just in a bad mood this Monday and not sure why. I think it revolves around my hair not cooperating this morning and feeling gross... and a zip showing up on my chin that I can feel and think it's enormous and everyone else can see. We went to a musical last night and didn't get home until around 11, so it could be lack of sleep too. I work at 7am.