Can I just say this snark and just plain rude comments are the reason why I rarely make comments or post. There are times when something bothers me and I just can't talk to a live person and the anonymous nature of these boards could be helpful if not for the fear of being cut down for only being visibily on here once in a while. Some people, particularly those with anxiety disorders, won't post regularly because of the fear that they will hear back from you "snarky" people. Lay off! I had the same thought as OP and never posted a thread because of you people. We need to be supportive of each other not tear each other down. Pregnancy is an emotional time for all of us so be kind and considerate. If you don't like the "drive by" nature, don't post because your post keeps it at the top of the board.
Can I just say this snark and just plain rude comments are the reason why I rarely make comments or post. There are times when something bothers me and I just can't talk to a live person and the anonymous nature of these boards could be helpful if not for the fear of being cut down for only being visibily on here once in a while. Some people, particularly those with anxiety disorders, won't post regularly because of the fear that they will hear back from you "snarky" people. Lay off! I had the same thought as OP and never posted a thread because of you people. We need to be supportive of each other not tear each other down. Pregnancy is an emotional time for all of us so be kind and considerate. If you don't like the "drive by" nature, don't post because your post keeps it at the top of the board.
I'm sorry you have felt hesitant to post, but if you've lurked around here at all (which I know you have, because I recognize you), you would know that we're a very supportive, considerate group of people. We also have regular posts where a question like this would fit in just fine. What doesn't fit in so well is a random thread that is completely self-centered from someone who doesn't bother to ever post anywhere else. In real life, would you ever go up to a group of women you've never met and start asking for advice and talking about yourself? No. That would be rude.Then why would you expect that to work online? It doesn't. It's rude.
No one was rude to this poster. Any snark was incredibly mild.
Honestly if someone feels our board is snarky, I worry about you dealing with interactions everyday on the internet in general. This is such a supportive board, and I don't think I've seen a true flaming (warranted or unwarranted) my whole time on D16. Now back in D14, the snark was strong. It was a completely different culture, and I can get why some would be put off by it. But TB has changed a lot in the last few years.
My impression, when we talk about wanting more snark on the board, is that we want to be able to make light of drive by AW posts that contribute nothing to the board and that we want to be able to be honest with our frustrations when those situations arise. I don't think anyone is wanting to bash OPs, but directing them to rules, appropriate threads, and the board culture without being perceived as a b!tch would be nice. And it really speaks to the sweet nature of the board that a poster broached the subject by actually ASKING if more snark could be permitted. No one is trying to discourage people from posting at all, but we also want support to be a two way street in D16.
Can I just say this snark and just plain rude comments are the reason why I rarely make comments or post. There are times when something bothers me and I just can't talk to a live person and the anonymous nature of these boards could be helpful if not for the fear of being cut down for only being visibily on here once in a while. Some people, particularly those with anxiety disorders, won't post regularly because of the fear that they will hear back from you "snarky" people. Lay off! I had the same thought as OP and never posted a thread because of you people. We need to be supportive of each other not tear each other down. Pregnancy is an emotional time for all of us so be kind and considerate. If you don't like the "drive by" nature, don't post because your post keeps it at the top of the board.
Just kidding. But in all honesty I don't remember ever once reading a truly mean spirited post on here and I'm on this board everyday, even if I'm not always posting.
Can I just say this snark and just plain rude comments are the reason why I rarely make comments or post. There are times when something bothers me and I just can't talk to a live person and the anonymous nature of these boards could be helpful if not for the fear of being cut down for only being visibily on here once in a while. Some people, particularly those with anxiety disorders, won't post regularly because of the fear that they will hear back from you "snarky" people. Lay off! I had the same thought as OP and never posted a thread because of you people. We need to be supportive of each other not tear each other down. Pregnancy is an emotional time for all of us so be kind and considerate. If you don't like the "drive by" nature, don't post because your post keeps it at the top of the board.
This board has yet to be rude or snarky... So if the 'snark' is why you keep from posting I honestly feel that's a reflection of you, not of us. You posted here like 4 times and each time it was well received. We've had like three incidents in general that were responded to without kittens and rainbows.
You say you've read the threads... You mean the ones where we offer support and guidance 98% of the time? I don't feel like that's true. Open up the gross majority of threads and find me 'snark'. You won't be able to. You'll find genuine support. You wouldn't know that though, because you don't participate, because 'us people' as you call us are just too damn mean, right?
There hasn't been mean spiritedness on this board. I don't post a lot and don't like to be snarked either, but seriously? No one is truly concerned about being too small. We all know everyone is different and some people don't show as much. We all have Drs to talk to about this. If you're complaining about being too small you're bragging. Go find another pond to fish in.
Yeah, I have to agree this board is probably the least snarky board I've been a part of on the internet. I'm a total lurker (so I hope no one thinks I'm a drive by) that rarely posts, so I do get the shyness factor. I'm also a woman who feels like a beached whale at 19 weeks so I can see how this post comes across as bragging to some. Its one of the hazards of posting on the internet, not everyone is going to agree with you all the time, and that is okay!
I just want to jump in and say that the tone of any internet forum is going to be dictated by the regular members of the forum. If you (any of you) want this to be a supportive place, then you need to post and give support. If you want this to be a snarky place, then post and snark. Yes, the tone of a board may be a turn off for some, and people may choose to not contribute because of it, but that's how it goes in internet land.
I have nothing against people who lurk and post occasionally. I totally understand that posting regularly may not be possible for some, and other people just may not want to. And I think all contributions are helpful (barring the people who ignore the way that the board is set up and start their own threads when the same thread is 2 threads down). However, you can't dictate the tone of a board if you never or rarely post here.
@Fauxpa - did you participate in TTGP? Your username seems super familiar to me. If we've crossed paths before.... HAAAAYYYY!! If not, stick around and contribute!
@Fauxpa - did you participate in TTGP? Your username seems super familiar to me. If we've crossed paths before.... HAAAAYYYY!! If not, stick around and contribute!
Similar here - @Fauxpa, did you contribute on this board earlier on or on March 14? Your username sounds So familiar!! Welcome :-D
This board is my first time on the bump, but I have been participating (pretty sporadically) on this month's board since the beginning. I mostly tend to just "love" a bunch of comments because I feel bad just echoing what others have already said . Ive been trying to contribute more since you guys are so nice/hilarious, and so no one is like "who the hell is this rando" anytime I actually post.
@Fauxpa I recognize your name from your occasional posts. This is bad but I never realized you were only posting occasionally...gosh I don't notice when people go "missing".
No offense to anyone here, I didn't even realize my previously super active on Facebook dad went silent...until 4 months later when a friend asked if he died cuz he stopped posting. nope, he was live and kicking, I just suck at paying attention to "missing" things.
No offense to anyone here, I didn't even realize my previously super active on Facebook dad went silent...until 4 months later when a friend asked if he died cuz he stopped posting. nope, he was live and kicking, I just suck at paying attention to "missing" things.
Presumably you also knew he wasn't dead, since he was your dad and all. I don't even notice when people unfriend me on FB.
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Re: I feel so small!
I had the same thought as OP and never posted a thread because of you people. We need to be supportive of each other not tear each other down. Pregnancy is an emotional time for all of us so be kind and considerate. If you don't like the "drive by" nature, don't post because your post keeps it at the top of the board.
No one was rude to this poster. Any snark was incredibly mild.
Me: 33 H: 36
Married: 12/14/13 DS: 1/29/09
BFP2: 10/9/15 MMC: 11/12/15
BFP3: 4/6/16 DD: 12/12/16
My impression, when we talk about wanting more snark on the board, is that we want to be able to make light of drive by AW posts that contribute nothing to the board and that we want to be able to be honest with our frustrations when those situations arise. I don't think anyone is wanting to bash OPs, but directing them to rules, appropriate threads, and the board culture without being perceived as a b!tch would be nice. And it really speaks to the sweet nature of the board that a poster broached the subject by actually ASKING if more snark could be permitted. No one is trying to discourage people from posting at all, but we also want support to be a two way street in D16.
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Just kidding. But in all honesty I don't remember ever once reading a truly mean spirited post on here and I'm on this board everyday, even if I'm not always posting.
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You say you've read the threads... You mean the ones where we offer support and guidance 98% of the time? I don't feel like that's true. Open up the gross majority of threads and find me 'snark'. You won't be able to. You'll find genuine support. You wouldn't know that though, because you don't participate, because 'us people' as you call us are just too damn mean, right?
I have nothing against people who lurk and post occasionally. I totally understand that posting regularly may not be possible for some, and other people just may not want to. And I think all contributions are helpful (barring the people who ignore the way that the board is set up and start their own threads when the same thread is 2 threads down). However, you can't dictate the tone of a board if you never or rarely post here.
No offense to anyone here, I didn't even realize my previously super active on Facebook dad went silent...until 4 months later when a friend asked if he died cuz he stopped posting.